The short answer is NO. Don’t go there. Repeat: DO NOT GO THERE! Respect yourself. Jack, thank you for your kind, compassionate discussion of what amounts to a Dead End situation that only leads to heartache.
@brendamackenzie7719Күн бұрын
No response- is a response!
@thejackbutlerКүн бұрын
@@brendamackenzie7719 There you go
@MissPrissy6688Күн бұрын
Ok I'm into this video 7 min. Bye
@thejackbutlerКүн бұрын
@@MissPrissy6688 Thanks for checking it out
@deloreslantrip8471Күн бұрын
I think alot of conservatives beliefs are based on biblical principles. It grounds you. Some things are non negotiable. Like how you want to raise children etc....the laws are for our protection.
@letsseepaulallenscard72 күн бұрын
Where were you 2 months ago
@thejackbutler2 күн бұрын
Hope this was still helpful if not exact right timing for you
@letsseepaulallenscard72 күн бұрын
@@thejackbutler yeah am actually really grateful this was recommended to me, I kinda needed to stop being delusional and see the reality of things better, thank u^^
@lauragiesbrecht79132 күн бұрын
Thank you, I really needed this
@thejackbutler2 күн бұрын
Awesome, happy for that
@jodiewassell85112 күн бұрын
Wow! I love this ❤
@thejackbutler2 күн бұрын
Yay!
@pinkbot2 күн бұрын
this is SO GOOD
@thejackbutler2 күн бұрын
Aw yay!
@Melody-iy9bw3 күн бұрын
As a cat lady live a lone, every time I see these videos maker would make me so surprised that actually there are people have much interesting consuming dating life ??? That need this much videos to tell if someone is liking them. 🫨
@deloreslantrip84713 күн бұрын
Man you are a great counselor!
@thejackbutler2 күн бұрын
Appreciate that!
@deloreslantrip84712 күн бұрын
@@thejackbutler I just think a lot of women have become independent because they have had to. But I think there is a difference between being independent and feminism.
@thejackbutlerКүн бұрын
@@deloreslantrip8471 I'm sure. What do you see as the main differences?
@angeliqueholder97313 күн бұрын
Very thorough piece; sensible. Grateful I am to have e come upon your page.
@thejackbutler2 күн бұрын
Welcome!
@braaron77ify3 күн бұрын
I just love it when men disqualify themselves.. if you step on my boundaries, if you are not treating me with respect, if you dissappear, I will treat you as if you never existed. Come correct, or stay away.
@deloreslantrip84714 күн бұрын
It's beautiful there. OMG! Something woke up in me and now I find myself watching all these videos.
@thejackbutler2 күн бұрын
Great spot for sure. Thanks for tuning in
@deloreslantrip84714 күн бұрын
Maybe it's my age or something but this all just sounds like a lot of work for me.
@thejackbutler2 күн бұрын
I hear you. At its heart, I guess I am saying - make as few stories as possible (coz that creates work for you) and be with reality, as it is. It should save work!
@deloreslantrip84712 күн бұрын
@@thejackbutler yeah....
@deloreslantrip84714 күн бұрын
Why would you want someone to leave his wife for you. This is why I try to put God first place in my life. He never leads us a stray. I've had to quit my job
@Lissakunst174 күн бұрын
Awesome !!
@NicoleElizabeth-xm3rr5 күн бұрын
Hi Jack, thanks for the great information! I definitely gave my power away. Am 4 months pregnant with my second child with a man who admitted he was actually trying to get me pregnant this second time to amend the mistakes he made during the first pregnancy. He said he wanted to be part of the experience but was very in and out and now has stopped talking to me completely. He was a new girlfriend with a son the same age as ours and they look really happy together. I’ve been wondering if he thinks about me at all but honestly he never looked that happy with me and in turn I was very stressed with his inconsistent behavior. Good information. I wish you made this 4 months ago.
@thejackbutler2 күн бұрын
Thanks for tuning in. That situation sounds hard. Glad you feel you're reclaiming your power. Maybe this is right timing for you in some bigger arc that's not fully obvious right now.
@deloreslantrip84712 күн бұрын
I suggest you move on and become the best mother you can be providing for your kid's and when he comes back in four or five years ( which he probably will) tell him to kiss your a__.
@Nicole-ik6ku5 күн бұрын
Very helpful Jack thank you!!!
@thejackbutler2 күн бұрын
Yay!
@caterinamoongirl5 күн бұрын
This video was so much better and ended up being something different than I expected. Great conversation
@thejackbutler2 күн бұрын
Happy for this feedback - and thanks for staying through the end
@memmem00115 күн бұрын
Love your videos and love your backdrops, makes me feel so peaceful 🥰
@thejackbutler2 күн бұрын
Yay for more peacefulness!
@cherimccue51985 күн бұрын
Best pod cast ever to help women.
@thejackbutler2 күн бұрын
Well that's pretty cool - thanks :)
@tonyalcandida5 күн бұрын
Hi Jack, your videos are great, they resonate with me & my situation perfectly. Thanks for helping me obtain my sobriety 😊
@thejackbutler2 күн бұрын
Thank you :) Thanks for being open to it!
@user-vg6zm2jo8i5 күн бұрын
Yes. But let’s be real. Some guys really do love you or have deep feelings but too shy to admit it. Or they have desires to be with you. But not ready
@thejackbutler2 күн бұрын
Yep I think that can happen. And in both instances you would likely want to have a clarifying convo or downshift?
@mariancrole6 күн бұрын
This applies to everything in life, and it would be so nice that everyone learns it, discerning just discerning.
@thejackbutler2 күн бұрын
Yep, deffo wider application on this and valuable in and of it itself
@lotus_sub6 күн бұрын
Listen to me, this problem can be easily solved by dating multiple men at the same time, if you guys arent in a commitment dont be overly invested in one person just go out and enjoy the abundance in this world.
@gyorgyjakabjulia7 күн бұрын
Wonderful, whish I could have heard this few decades earlier and not learn the hard way. Our time is our biggest treasure and somehow nobody thought us, especially ladies - but it's equally true for men as well. The problem is that for ladies biological clock is a reality and we can run out of time.
@delphinepujol79888 күн бұрын
Interesting, thanks!
@roosterleo89579 күн бұрын
Thank you Jack, it’s so helpful to hear that I’m not completely and utterly stupid, but just learning to deal with some unconscious issues here. Right now I’m in the middle of walking away from an unavailable guy and at least I have enough self respect to stop him trying to breadcrumb me. This will not happen. Yesterday he texted again after 10 days of silence and I didn’t respond at all. At least this is somehow giving me some malicious pleasure. I very much appreciate your work and your channel. Thank you so much.
@sterlingwoodruff35629 күн бұрын
Well done
@basilrulezzzz10 күн бұрын
ok but what if I’m super sober when I’m on my own and then I forget all of my reasons as soon as I see him? how do I fix this? How do I find the strength? 🥺
@thejackbutler10 күн бұрын
@@basilrulezzzz If you can’t be sober around him, you own that & resolve to stop seeing him. Alcoholics early in sobriety need to not go to the bar rather than say how can I be in the bar & stay sober
@houndmother239810 күн бұрын
What this guy said!
@thejackbutler2 күн бұрын
Thank you!
@TraceyRay-jq6lj12 күн бұрын
Thank you Jack, after weeks of watching videos about being involved in this situation, this is the one that finally snapped me out of fantasy land! I can see what lesson it has taught me and I’m going to move on from it as a person with so much more awareness of my own role in this and how I can change my future, thank you so much xx
@thejackbutler11 күн бұрын
@@TraceyRay-jq6lj Happy for this 🙏😊
@Flyfreenow12 күн бұрын
And what if it’s your adult children who breadcrumb you…. What do you say?
@thejackbutler11 күн бұрын
@@Flyfreenow You could state your authentic desire for how you would like contact to be. Get curious about what they want. And then see if there’s any way to get more of what you both want. If they really don’t want to be responsive to you, you may have to make decisions about what you are available for.
@calmysohento71212 күн бұрын
Truth
@Fitlover612 күн бұрын
Im bit confused...He was in my country,showed lot of interest,wae were planning to meet,but he suddenly had to leave to his country as his Granny was very serious.... He messages me details of his Granny recovring , sending pics but nothing about how we should go ahead? Should i leave or how should i deal with this??
@thejackbutler11 күн бұрын
@@Fitlover6 If you have never met, I would dial back contact until he’s making a plan to (which usually doesn’t happen in these instances)
@katwoman859512 күн бұрын
Maybe condense your messages. Too much time busy talking on apologies and metaphors.
@thejackbutler11 күн бұрын
@@katwoman8595 Maybe
@katwoman859512 күн бұрын
You can’t be a Liberal and grown up
@persephonewatts226212 күн бұрын
a seriously warm hearted perceptive analysis of rhis topic..really articulate..many truths are revealed and i recognised much of what you say, happening or has happened to me
@thejackbutler11 күн бұрын
@@persephonewatts2262 Glad it was making sense to you
@beautifulsoul836513 күн бұрын
Did I miss it? How do we know if a guy is thinking about us???
@thejackbutler11 күн бұрын
@@beautifulsoul8365 You’ll know by his actions. Or if you don’t know by his actions, it doesn’t matter if he’s thinking of you
@agirlfromnewyork207413 күн бұрын
He's not thinking about me . I wish ....but I'm blocked 💔
@renataedan452913 күн бұрын
Thank you I have been bread crumbed for almost 4 years ans yes it made me feel useless
@thejackbutler13 күн бұрын
@@renataedan4529 Time to claim your sovereignty?
@karenmeacham79814 күн бұрын
My husband went looking for a person to have an affair with
@thejackbutler13 күн бұрын
@@karenmeacham798 I am sorry
@SFLChrissy14 күн бұрын
bro this video popped up in my feed 6 times 😭🖐️
@thejackbutler13 күн бұрын
@@SFLChrissy Ha! Algorithm is doing its thing
@audra1976oliver15 күн бұрын
That's so true.
@thejackbutler2 күн бұрын
Right?
@Ahbhswrzq922115 күн бұрын
He came after me and pursued me multiple time before I gave in knowing that it is a risk. He showed me clear signs that he wants to marry me. But what I’m not sure is will he leave his wife or not. He Ahmet made that clear.
@user-gw3ip8fq3y15 күн бұрын
Scorpio was very damaged by toxic ex could not cope with his emotions with me was in out ghosting so I am now friendly with cancer.😂😂