You need to research the term punishment as part of the mechanics of operant learning. I think the term you are describing and objecting to is "revenge". Punishment is any stimulus that, when added or removed causes a decrease in behavior.

Thank you so much for these videos. I like to listen to them every once in awhile as a refresher. I also forward them to parents at my school. On a humourous note, my 12 year old is listening along with me this morning. He pointed out okay? at 11:18. I'm sure I'll be realizing just how much I say it in the foreseeable future :)

As far as picking up the toys goes it’s pretty simple. You say do you want to pick up the toys or should I? If they don’t respond or if they don’t pick them up you pick them up and put them somewhere where they can’t get them you don’t tell them you’re going to do it you just do it.

Gracias director Donna! It’s simple to understand when you explain it.

Absolutely awesome! You’re a natural teacher. Gracias Ms. Donna. I can’t wait to put both my sons there in Aldea!

Now that I have a child and in a Montessori school... im more interested than ever

I'm the student in Montessori method. Your video on disciplining a child makes lots of sense. Both videos thoroughly explains exactly as I learned 'Disciplining a Child' in my lecture room.Thank you very much

For me, when I’m tempted to ask my child “put your shoes on OK?” The “OK” at the is not so much out of politeness, It‘s me wanting to know if he heard me and me wanting a response from him. But I realized I can just say “do you understand?” at the end of my requests and it accomplishes the same thing.

wow, amazing video, Donna! Thank you so much!

great info, thank you, Donna!

Really helpful

WoW 😮 I learned something myself.

Thank you for this video, very interesting speech

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Great videos! I really like when you’re giving some examples on what to say to your child because that can be really difficult sometimes.

Miss Donna, excellent & very useful video! wish I could have seen this 25 years ago! but I do agree, when kids are little, you have to be their Mum, not their friend. Even if sometimes they hate you for it.... Do you have any advice for teaching little kids 3 - 6 years of age, in relatively large groups, gaining and holding their attention?

I ABSOLUTELY LOVE THIS VIDEO (and part 1) very enlightening, encouraging, and inspiring. I wish I could see you speak in person!

Really helpful

thank you this helps with being a parent and teacher!

Love these please make more!!!!!

The line between discipline and punishment can be very very very thin.

my son is 18 months old and he's already realised that he can say NO

Your video was helpful, interesting, and easy to watch. The way you explain these concepts is concrete and likely easy to implement. Thanks. Please, make more.

If one really knows Montessori, one will know this kind of discipline is not right. Dr. Montessori said every child is good, and he has the inner drive to be so. He doesn't learn to be good from outside. Give the the chance to work, to satisfy their need for knowledge, independence, they will be good. Also, when always Invite them, never force them to do anything. If they don't accept it, its your fault for not finding the right point of interest yet. You are the one who guide them, not to show your authority over them. If you child shouted at you that you were the worst mom, then you did something seriouly wrong. Experienced Montessori teachers are calm, firm, but always friendly. On guiding your child during the year 2-3, redirecting to objects, down to small details is what really work, because kids at this age really interested in learning name and colors, structure, etc about objects. If he doesn't want to go pee, attract him by saying what is the fun thing in there: flushing, washing hands with bubbles, drying hands, etc, lots of fun things for him to enjoy. When I stop my son from doing something, I always tell him in advance, how much time he has left, what we are going to do next, what the fun side of the coming activity. If he exists on doing the current activity, I explain to him its time to stop, and we will do it Again, yes that is the key word that he is not losing it, its just time to do other things for now. Overall, the video is good for non-Montessorian only. Those who knows more about Montessori will not rate this high.

I'm preparing for a talk on discipline in the Montessori classroom, and came across your video. You mentioned at the beginning how we could talk for hours about this subject, and you are so correct. Everything you said is on target with what I believe, but I have an entirely different hour talk about different points about discipline. It's a never-ending discussion, isn't it? :) Thanks for giving me more to think about.

Wonderful and so helpful. Thank you. More videos please!

Awesome video. My friend has made app "Montessori Early Childhood Activities Train 2" for montessori kids. Please review the app.

This ladey is off bete and steppe

nice one.

Good stuff

Hi, Friends! I've been asked for years to make more videos for parents. I'm finally getting there! Before I make dozens or hundreds of videos, I'd like to know if the new videos are 1) helpful, 2)easy and fun to watch and 3)engaging enough to watch another one? Thanks so much for your comments. I look forward to reading each and every one! I can't figure out how to connect them to the Aldea channel, so please go to my personal channel: Donna D'Hoostelaere.

you're wonderful! more please!

this stuff is basically the same as 'growing kids gods way'

Okay, this is incredibly smart and sweet talk, and very culture specific. This is how it happened in my house: my mom would look at us and go (with no uncertainty in her voice): "Everybody to bed. I have to work tomorrow.", and we just went to bed. Control at 3 years of age? I was sixteen years old and about to get my driver's license and I knew that it could all go down the toilet if I upset my mom, because the car was hers. Nope, I had no control until I was twenty two and moved out. hahahaha. And even so, I didn't want to disappoint her.

Finally some sense. It's a shame too many parents don't even bother to learn this stuff until they have already had children.

Great advices

Donna... great topic. Thank you for sharing :)

This has always been my way of teaching my children. Just never knew there Is a name for it. However I want to learn more and improve on my giving my children choices.

Thanks for the great upload. If only every situation were so easy!

Excellent talks! My son is 6 and I found a lot of this helpful :)

Thank you!

What do u think if a teacher tells you that she punished your child ??

I agree with you. At home when my child would hit us (all experience that and it can be scary haha) then we would say "instead hit lets hug" and if she bit, cause she was in that stage also where she thought it was funny but not us, we would say "instead bite lets kiss!". It worked for us.

Its not about learning to be a parent, its about being a better parent or improving your parenting ways. You can take tips on parenting through the experience of others. Its up to you if you can apply it or not to your child, as each child is a different world and every parent knows how they work. That doesnt mean you cannot do better. NO parent is perfect silly goose.

I first experienced Montessori as a child and later as a teacher and paren!!! :) My mother was a Primary Montessori teacher. The Montessori Method is a way about thinking about who children are. It is a philosophy that respects the unique individuality of each child. I only wish they had a Montessori high school around here in Canada. Montessori teaching different from traditional teaching.

I say anyone that needs to watch shit like this should not have kids you can't learn to be a parent from some one else

Also check out Love & Logic videos on KZbin. Very helpful parenting techniques.

This video is really effective and very helpful. Thank you so much for sharing this.It helps in understanding parent child relations very well.

Very much like Love and Logic.