Hi George! Merry Christmas to you as well, and I hope you’re having fun wherever in the world you are😎❤️

@@susanhull thank you, just chillin here in Georgetown

Great to hear from you, too! Life gets so much more interesting after retirement lol 😂

@@susanhull Retirement is wonderful!

Thank you, Maria! It’s now many years later and I fear losing Rosy as well…not really fear, but knowing that the depth of my love for her will leave me with an intense loss, but accepting that you can’t have one without the other. And you’re right, it can be hard to let go of a wish for something that we really can’t have.

I’m learning a lot about horse nutrition and now must avoid too many carrots due to high sugar! But they still are the ultimate treat for my horses!

I think they find this more interesting than just munching on it on the ground! Sometimes he’ll choose the ball over the stuff just lying there lol 😆

@@susanhull Many owners here do the same.

This is considered an enrichment activity, I think because it’s a bit more challenging

Yes she’s just four years old. I’ve got eight beautiful Arabians ❤️ Hope you’re well!

@@susanhull We are! Thank you! So happy you finally have your horses. My mare is 25 now but has an arthritic knee so can’t be ridden but otherwise going strong.

Hi Susan, Great Video. I love that you make the viewer feel like you are engaging thought with them and not just talk to them. I love step three. I believe that just like in the movies "how to train your dragon " specifically the first one, dragons were hated and seen as horrible creatures that destroy lives. Its true dragons can destroy us, but they can also aide us when properly trained. I believe another huge factor to training our dragon is determining for ourselves what that dragon is. I think training our dragon is harder when we let others define what kind of dragon it is. I was once told I was cold, this plagued me for days because I never seen myself as cold.... but once I realized that what the person meant was direct, which is a dragon I have continued training with, I understood and recognized this as I needed too and not for how someone else takes it. This makes a huge difference in my opinion because how I would approach handling one of those is far different than how I would handle the other. Again, great video, thank you.

@@dominiquewoods7835 Wonderful comment and great point about whose dragon is it anyway?

Thanks for sharing! Isn’t it interesting how we decide what’s really “important”? Often it is based on other people’s expectations, rather than our own, so pleasing others is more “important” than pleasing ourselves. Why should it always be that way??!

I’m not saying we can eliminate guilt and shame, or stop them from happening. The idea is to see, and feel, just for a moment, how they influence you and your choices.

.....just for a moment how they influence you and your choices.... I like that....one “ shame” at a time one “guilt” at a time... thanks! 😊

Hi Susan, Thank you for the thought! A friend sent me the video, glad they did. I feel guilty these days for the same reason as you, in a sort of way.... like I should be doing more and that I am not giving enough. I've always been neck high in things I need to do, but now I am only waste high (haha). I feel like I am not giving enough of myself to the world. Without the guilt, I would still have the same obligations, so your post makes me question what exactly is the purpose of my guilt in this way and how will it influence me ? Thank you.

@@dominiquewoods7835 Thanks for sharing your experience. Guilt is a fascinating emotion, and it’s not always “bad”. Sometimes it really is telling us we messed up, but healthy guilt is only a signal and goes away once you get the message. Guilt that sticks around no matter what, and always tells you you should have done more (for “the world” or whomever), may be serving the purpose of getting you to ignore your own needs and keeping you in a little box that is defined only by what others need. Why does it do this? To keep you safe from the risks involved in becoming your own person, motivated by what you truly want, not what others need. It actually doesn’t care if you’re stressed and unhappy, as long as you’re safe(?) in the box. It sounds like you’re starting to work your way out of the box so it will try harder to keep you in. How we meet obligations might look very different without the guilt filter!

So glad it resonated with you! And thanks for your comment, and for seeking out a video even though it’s old! You prompted me to go back and watch it again...and I think it’s pretty cool 😎

Thank you for your support! I hope you’re doing well.

Hi Nick and Happy New Year to you too! Hope to see you this summer😊

Thank you, my loyal first responder 😊. I’m so glad that you got something useful from the post! And I truly appreciate your taking the time to say so.

I so appreciate your willingness to share your feelings, Susan! And I feel glad that you are now emerging into the light! The moment of now truly is the one thing we actually have, and how wonderful to find that in a reminder from the sun and a fresh piece of fruit! I am happy to hear from you again.

Jock Bethune Thanks Jock! As I prepare for a week-long retreat into the wilderness (both inner and outer) I feel certain that I will encounter and face these parts of me that keep trying (less and less successfully) to hold me back. Thanks for your comment, it is very much appreciated. And now to post again tonight...

Jock Bethune Now that you mention it, I might have to see if anyone still has a copy of it. I now have a totally different view of karaoke and those who partake in it! If I can't frind this one, I guess I'll have to make a new one. Wanna join me?

***** Would love to join you! I'm basically a "ham" when it comes to that type of fun and I'm not shy about it!!!

Jock Bethune Maybe we can sing "Runaround Sue"! I remember playing charades at LV Reformed Church youth group in the fall of 1961 and running around you as my clue!!!

Jock Bethune I have a related photo to share but can't share it here. Please send me your email to [email protected]. Thanks Sue!

Thanks, Susan, as always I appreciate your comments and also the fact that you hang in through the whole video! I wonder if there are any topics you'd like me to address in the future; if I don't know about it I'll look it up! :-)

I'm happy to hear it helped you! A support system helps with so many of the difficult changes we all face in our lives. I'd love to be part of a community that shares feelings and ideas; maybe even comments here can serve that purpose in some small way.

I feel happy that you receive courage from my experience. I would perhaps not call holding back "silly", but really urge you to see it as a choice based on imagining an outcome. If you imagine an outcome of feeling embarrassed, you may decide to hold back. If you imagine an outcome of feeling regret, you may decide to take the risk. Best news: you get to decide!

Kim, you're right about the pressures and there's no need to do anything in particular about it...just be mindful and open about what you really feel. Back at you with the hug!