Very helpful tips for each of us. Definitely as a seven can get scattered very easily. Want to give myself permission to just work on one thing at a time.

This one really hit home, especially about the sleep

Love the vulnerability of a 9 male discussing authenticity and intimacy.

This was one of my fave pod conversations ever! We didn’t get video here! ❤

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As a 9-4 pairing, I found the results of the research so interesting! And Danielle (a fellow 9) is so relatable! Such a great episode 💗

Danielle, love what you are embarking on! And, we hope to school up empirically validated research in service of the Enneagram- Great episode, and thank you for the resources! Thank you Christa as well!

I AVOID RELATIONSHIPS WITH WOMEN BECAUSE THEY ARE SERIOUSLY FUCKED UP IN THE HEAD THESE DAYS! WOW! I AVOID STRESS FOR HEALTH REASONS WHICH MEANS WOMEN. WHEN YOU'RE AROUND WOMEN, YOU LIVE THEIR FEARS AND EMOTIONAL STATES. I CAN'T DEAL WITH IT ANYMORE. THE GOODNESS IS FAR OUTWEIGHED BY THE NEGATIVITY AND THEN THERE'S USERY AND INFIDELITY...... EVERY PARTNER THAT I EVER HAD WANTED TO COME BACK AFTER THEY FUCKED UP AND I HAVE NEVER CHEATED ON ANY OF MY PARTNERS NOR EVER LIED TO THEM.... I DON'T LIKE BEING LONELY EITHER BUT IT'S BETTER THAN THE ALTERNATIVE.... SADLY....

Thank you so much for having me! Enjoyed talking with you (and learning about myself :) )

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Later 40’s are not as simple,

Thanks for the reminders

Watching original All Creatures Great and Small season 2 and 3! 😊

Lady Passion is a supplement that helps me. But my 30-40 was much better. My children being older , better rest , better health also help. I am sp, do feeling rested, not aggravated, such a big deal too!!

This is amazing and so eye opening!!! Please do a part 2!!! There is not enough information out there on this awful personality disorder. 😢

Thank you for this invaluable insight!

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Great tips here. I thought it interesting to hear the language Holly used, and wondered if she has a super-hard three wing. I'm a self-preservation three with a hard two wing married to a two, and hearing Holly talk about "rest" and "worth" and "worthiness" spoke to my three heart. My two hubby doesn't worry about feeling worthy of rest, but I certainly do, lol. We're both helpers, but our motivations and triggers are completely different. Anyway, I appreciate the perspective here. Such good stuff!

I'm an avid Dear Shandy fan so stumbled upon this when trying to find more of their content. Related so much to Sharleen's needing to know 3 months in advance about a double date :P Also wondered if this may be related to perfectionism -- in addition to being introverted, I often feel like I can't/shouldn't attend a social event if I'm not going to be at my "best." I've worked on accepting myself even when I'm not feeling 100% and to just show up anyways, especially if I already committed.

So good! 😂

Your headline could use a coma after upset. When I read it, I was trying to figure out who this person was and why I would be upset with them.

Fascinating insights from Scott Kedersha!

I’m an ennagram 9W1 I’m not compatible at all with my ex husband. And my little sister calls me miss Peaceful introverted huge visionary/ justice warrior :) And my spiritual gifting is a feeler :) And I’m not into comprising just to keep the peace I’m not doing that at all. And I absolutely appreciate my Singleness:)@ennagram and marriage

I’m a type 9w1 my little sister told me that it totally makes perfect sense :)@ennagramandmarrisge

My wife a 3w2 just left our 20 yr marriage. No warning, no "hey, things are really bad and we need to talk"... just one day making love, two days later, I'm leaving. I have been a fiercely loyal 8w7 and have been an emotional punching bag for her for 20 years, but as Christians, I figured I could count on her commitment to God even if not to me (as I leaned on that many times during our marriage). All I ever wanted to was to connect with her. She gave me stuff, time, talent... never herself. I told her and showed her I loved her almost daily. She came from serious trauma and just cannot take it in. I'm her third husband and she put on me every single crappy thing they and her dad did to her, even though I did none of those things. I literally let her accuse me of stuff I never even thought of (she mostly attacked my character and attributed bad motives to make a statement seem condescending or talking down to her). I could never win, so I eventually just gave up. I think that's what started her "planning" who knows how long she planned it. She even asked me to go to our favorite date night place the day after she told me she doesn't love me anymore? I was like, who are you? Now you want to torture more like a cat playing with a bug... it doesn't kill it, it just maims in and then toys with it for fun?

I’m Meg she was an isfj:) and she is also a ennagram 9W1 And she is just like me:)and she ends up marrying Mr.John Brooks. And he was very handsome :) And he has money. And I absolutely absolutely love this book :) And I have a hard copy of the book. And It was given to me by my gramma when I was little:) And I also have the movie :)@Ennagram and Marriage

Such a fun podcast and so fun to see you 2 together!

Bruce Banner character in the avengers movie he is a type 9 peacemaker:) and the other character that Is an isfj is Captain America The Hero:). And another avenger that is an isfj character is Winter Soldier. And Wolverine is one of my ultimate favorite characters. And He is super super handsome :) And he is also a type isfj @Ennagram And Marriage

I appreciate permanent divorce/no reconciliation ever and I appreciate my singleness:)@Ennagram and Marriage

I’m a type 9W1 and I’m a evaluator careful spouse :)@ennagram and marriage

I’m a type 9W1 secure attachment girl :) and I don’t like conflict at all. And I appreciate God making boundaries :)@ennagram and marriage

I’m a ennagram type 9w1 and I’m a Doer Godly evaluator ex spouse :)@ennagram and marriage

Men need to listen to their enneagram 9 spouse for sure!!!:)@enneagram and marriage

Great discussion!

I scored a four and two nearly equally on the Enneagram Institute test. This combination means I experience sex as something you do with a soulmate as an act of love, care, affection, and bonding. Sex for me is experienced as intimate, mystical, spiritual, magical, and sacred. Hooking up, sex for fun, sex for performance, sex for pure lust or dominance, asexuality, etc. does not compute.

I’d read that fives would rather go to a lecture on sex and observe others rather than have actual sex themselves because it’s too overwhelming and engulfing for them. Some fives I know find it impossible to link love, intimacy, and affection with sex. The more emotionally disconnected the better to preserve their space.

Congratulations on your book release! I've got my copy and it's been a great read! This story is great from your 2 perspectives, beautiful and epic adventure!

I’m really enjoying listening. It has some really beautiful lyrical or verse - like language here and there. You’re shining beautifully and with vulnerably ❤

Hi Aunt Christa - Bella

Soooo, where would a santanist be on the enneagram??? 🤣😆👁 JK, great video guys! It's fun to see your perspectives collide and mesh together on this topic. You guys are beautiful! You need to make this a monthly video, you two.

As a parent, this pod was so reassuring to listen to. It comforted me knowing that we can find places of rest and peace amidst the busy days.

LOVE THIS! So cute 🥹

I LOVE LOVE LOVE the leader's guide and can't wait to use it for my small group study in the fall!

As a Mom, this pod was so on point and I loved her reminders of how we need to take care of ourselves without the Mom guilt so we can parent better!

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Great topic that needs to be talked about more!

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This is such a practical episode for everyone! It's a great reminder to pause and let our nervous systems regulate to bring in more self-awareness and compassion. This then leads to better communication and interactions with our partners. Great listen!

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