Just over a month for me and I seem to be going through a constant loop in my head about everything. I hope things get better soon.

What I hate about parents controlling adult children and letting his family make decisions for me and the way his family treat me like I'm a brainless human being, a fool, like I'm a child, I have reached a place where I have had enough and I'm not going to allow that to happen again.

Thank you!

Thank you for this!

You rule!! ❤

I've gone to witchcraft... he is an avoidant...it's a brother romance...& the 2nd time in my life that I fell in love with a straight young male reserved, aloof Virgo.. I incarnated on Samhain so I'm good at being a witch, warlock and wizard.. Nobody fks with a Scorpio and gets away with it!! There is no fury than that of a Scorpio scorned!!

Two days ago I broke up with my ex, after 5 years or a perfect relationship, that was the end. It hurts so much, I feel physically sick, and feels like nothing is making it better, feeling so lonely. Literally planned our future together. I hope I can feel better soon because I can’t go on like this.

Dr. Maika you are so gorgeous :(

I hurt my ex a lot. He’s a very good guy. Essentially he walked away because I couldn’t answer if I still wanted to be with him. I love him so much and I’m scared he may never return but I just have to move on and focus on myself. I pray for him everyday.

Wish my ex could understand this. wouldnt allow even 5 seconds of silence for me to think and would shout at me to talk. fun times.

This made me cry happy tears 🥲

I have ended it 18 months ago and still miss her 😢

Thank you Dr. Steinborn. I spent a day watching your videos (I plan to watch more) and they helped me immensely when I was at my lowest. I learned a lot about myself and my past relationships and have a much better outlook thanks to you. The content as well as your delivery was very comforting. I hope you realize how much good you are doing 💜

Hi, Maika, I love you ♥. I love you more than my life. I can give you my heart, if you want.

For me, it was too late. Too many repeats of the same things. Things I said I was going to work on but just...didn't. Words are no good without actions and commitment. I have a very low sense of self worth/self value and have an anxious attachment style. Realised after it all happened that I was very insecure and to dependent on others for happiness and validation. I have a journey ahead and it's a struggle some days but I will get there. Hard to try and unlove someone, hard on both ends. Especially when you wanted it so bad. I know that moving forward this will be very beneficial for me but it can be quite hard.

I just want the pain to stop. Moving on after 3 years of being together is hard. We broke up the same month he was suppose to propose. I’m devastated.

Pretty Woman, pretty flowers, pretty sweater. Just like that.

Hope is the worse. Receiving mixed signals doesnt help. Letting go is so hard. I know I have to but Its like cutting a piece off myself off. Even though he has his problems I still love him …. Commitment issues girl I know. Being dumped twice by him because he wants a reset ( midlifecrisis). Pffff. I am chosing joy. I want to hug everybody here ❤ becaus the end off the year. Letting go off a lot of crap we can do this …

Thank you for your channel and the topics of moving on. Thank you. They are helping me through my own journey now. They bring me peace and give me hope.

Hi Maika. Your videos have truly helped me. Thank you! Can you please consider making one about the effects of bullying on kids but especially adults? This is a major piece of the puzzle for me and I'd love to have your analysis to help guide me. Thanks again.

I've read about the toxic effects of chronic stress leading to cancer and many other illness through Dr Gabor Mate's interviews as you mentioned. Your work continues to inspire me. Thank you for another good video. My biggest takeaway which you mentioned here is to learn to be patient and not want to solve things immediately. This has been a pattern for me which probably has affected my relationships a lot too. Will you please dissect it sometime in a video. Why do men do it more often. Even after knowing that sometimes patient listening is all that's required of them from their partners. Where do you draw the line between patience and lethargy to not work on improving yourself.

I'm hanging on every word. Well said, Dr. Maika. I thank God for you.

Please make a separate video on how to change the negative core beliefs

My girlfriend broke up with me 3 days ago. It was sudden and unexpected and hence leaving me devastated. This grief is unbearable. We were supposed to get married next year. Even she's not happy with the decision... but she had put the emotions away since she sensed that we are incompatible in the long run. I'm a person with anxiety issues and hence somewhere along the journey, I have might have overwhelmed her with my issues. I have no clue how I'm going to recover from this. I feel a huge void and crave for her presence. It's killing me...I have never ever felt this hopeless and helpless in my life.

The whole "They already grieved for many months while still being with you" doesn't sit well with me at all... In my personal story, I think my Ex is leaning more towards the avoidant type and didn't process the end of our relationship properly. HOWEVER, just to think that maybe she was faking it for months before hand is so disgusting. How could they use my love and comfort to feel better while they were trying to get over me at the same time... People throw this "already moved on" thing around like it's something more noble but I find it just as cowardly and frankly exploitative.

What were the prompts?

The reason being is that we realize as adults that our parents were sick, not good parents, and narcissists. It will just get worse as an adult because they no longer see you as their child. When you are 16 to 18, this is when your parents do not really see you as their child. If your parents are narcissists, the abuse is just going to get worse. It is always better to quietly become independent from them before they make you sick and stunt your development as an adult. If you were able to estrange earlier to save your health and sanity, you made a good decision for yourself. Narcissistic parents will never regret or realize their wrongdoing.

Thank you 🙏

We have a son together, how am I supposed to accept that she doesn't want anything when she begged for us to be together before I got arrested and I promised and committed to be better but now shes moved on and gotten with someone else and I still can't be with my son😢😢

My boyfriend broke up with me 💔😭

Parts work is helping me better then anything I’ve tried

With regards to the title's question, its very likely because their parents did something bad. Unfortunately, even human rights violations against children are extremely common in even the safest of countries! Shit like that is why I barely trust parents compared to children.

i just keep wishing this is all a long bad dream and i’ll wake up to him telling me he loves me…

We’ve been together for almost five years. He just broke up with me yesterday over the phone, because we did long distance. We had so many problems and I worked so hard on myself and I thought everything was getting better until he told me he totally lost himself and he can’t do it anymore. My heart is in shatters and I’m screaming and crying and nothing makes sense anymore. I know that he’s gone but I don’t understand why and I just don’t know how to move on. This is the worst Christmas I had.

We’ve been together for almost five years. He just broke up with me yesterday over the phone, because we did long distance. We had so many problems and I worked so hard on myself and I thought everything was getting better until he told me he totally lost himself and he can’t do it anymore. My heart is in shatters and I’m screaming and crying and nothing makes sense anymore. I know that he’s gone but I don’t understand why and I just don’t know how to move on. This is the worst Christmas I had.

5 years and he just walked away….no explanation, no respect for my feelings. It makes you feel worthless. It is hard to move on when you don’t understand why?

i dont know what to do i feel sb

Nicely communicated Maika. I was sending you an email, check it whenever you're available and keep positing amazing stuff. Thanks.

Every video you put out is so helpful, clear and full of warmth. Your channel will explode at a certain point. I appreciate your work beyond words.

So the inner child, I finally conclude is what is known as conditioning in Rosenberg's NVC, it certainly sounds like it. Funny how I only make this connection today. I am still learning and still trying. Thanks again for a great video.

I have a pin/brooch: Don't believe everything you think.

Cannot express how much your videos have helped me lately. I've been sailing through rough waters. Thank you for your compassion and your work.

Thank you sm 💓 this really helped for right now. My heart is in alot of pain and this acted as pain relief .

This was a phenomenal video. Thank you.

Really great video, thank you

I agree with the need to accept and heal. But I think you are being a bit pessimistic about the likelihood for restoration of a relationship. The stats confirm that quite a lot of relationships get back together eventually. 30% or higher I think, depending on the conditions of the relationship. But, no time guarantee on that. So, holding out hope for a long time will be very emotionally draining.

It took me two full years.

Thank you for your advice.

This is so clearly communicated, and I very much appreciate the, shall we say, scientific rigour. You know how on KZbin the inner child is sometimes discussed with so much pseudoscience fluff that it's no longer helpful... but you have a really cool clarity about it! 👍✨

Maika, I have suspected all my life that Women drive on intuition. Not on signs, not on mirrors. On intuition. Today I got proof. Apparently old Pilots who can no longer see, fly on smell. Regards, Maciej.