I'm emotionally unsafe as well. A hard pill to swallow

Thanks, I needed to hear that.

Social media h0r3s will always be same too 🙄

This helped me a lot with a situation with a friend I’m having right now to be honest we both have things that we need to work on but I have chosen to distance myself from it for a bit until I can get into a more stable emotional state

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Dammmm just hit me where I live telling it like it is. You speak truth and I needed the reminder. Well done. Thank you.

nobody is emotionally safe when you get close enough to them you pick someone who can deal with your shit

Exactly what I’m going theough

Doing things in good faith is the most important step in communication fr

Thank you! I really appreciate your words of wisdom.🤍🙏

Thank you 🙏

You are really right though. Those are dysfunctional strange people. Treat them like a disease & stay away.

Well, damn. I needed to hear that. 😮‍💨

Wow wow wow! I needed this phrased exactly as you just did! Thank you for such wisdom and truth!

You can’t just lie and be a piece of shit! The. Hey your emotionally provocatively!

What foundation is that?

I’ve experienced this from others but mainly from myself towards others. I have really bad avoidance and somewhat disorganized with relationships. Due to my upbringing. I’ll go months without contacting people I use to talk to often. It’s terrible and I prayed about my behaviors recently and to be shown what I need to improve on. Thank you for this much needed video. We really need to do better collectively with how we go about one another.

The worst thing is gossip. When I hang out with someone who actively talks badly about other people behind their back it already makes me uncomfortable, but then I remember they are just as capable of doing the same thing to *me* as well. The worst thing is leaving doesn’t make you safer, if anything just makes that person more likely to speak badly about you and you have no control over it. I guess just one of those consequences we have to live with 😮‍💨

I've developed some of these behaviors in response to them some pretty heavy invalidation/gaslighting. I've gotten very reactive lately and to afraid/embarrassed to even try to come back. But this was also years of being told my feelings don't matter as much as everyone elses. I don't want to be this way 😭 😊

i do act like that, but idk not in a mean way, i wouldnt call myself emotionally unsafe nor a narcissist, i dont feel like i try to protect “my victimhood”, when im tired of people i just ghost them and thats it

I tried to address issues with this girl before, she dismissed me hard. Then she picked a fight with me in the group chat and I refused to play with her, it was like 2am. She cut me off and told everyone how cold and avoidant I am. The worst part is that she doesn't know what she did and only sees what others did wrong. The way I minded my business and refused to be dragged into her nonsense.. y'all... I definitely have a lot to work on but refusing to be vulnerable to the emotionally unsafe is something I will continue doing

You articulated this so well. It's exactly the words I've been struggling to find the past few months after a big blow-up between a friend and I. We had an argument which led to me expressing that I didn't know if we should be friends anymore because he was projecting a lot of his past trauma onto me. Mind you, I was also coming out of another unstable situation and really have been in an emotionally vulnerable place all year. Rather than take any accountability for his part, he told me I went "overboard" and basically told me to f*ck off. After several days of silence, I tried to reconnect and apologize and while it seemed like we'd both cooled down some, I was still the only one taking any accountability and trying to mend the friendship. In his words, trying to mend us was "beating a dead horse". I was crushed - just like you said, I had to face the fact that what he'd told me previously about just cutting people off when things went south was now happening to me...despite that I acknowledged my part, my mistake, and wanted to do better, I still got lumped into the same category as the people from his past that he called abusive. 😢

Was a victim of this myself. I didnt see the signs even when i was feeling nervous to be my true self towards the end around them. She had a pattern of just dropping people and talking shit. Not proud of it but i would also partake in it too with them because of the mindset that you support your friends even in a little delusion [like when they break up with a shitty man and we embellish it further]. But then she started doing it to me too and making me feel like shit no matter what even though she was barely giving me the bare minimum. Ultimately ghosted me entirely and so did her other friends she would talk shit about me to. Honestly for the better cuz i was engaging in a toxic cycle unable to leave and desperately clinging to the friendship. She was my longest and closest friend and i didnt know life without her. Losing her felt like the end of the world but she really just did me a favor because now im spending more time with other friends who are better. And despite it all and how i would totally be petty if i had to interact with her again [smtg i need to work through], i do hope that shes doing better for herself too.

I wish I had seen this a few months ago

I needed to hear all of this today. I definitely have some of these toxic traits myself, but it’s been abusive both ways in my five year and 7 month relationship. When I told him last night (after suffering a miscarriage in July) that I felt emotionally unsafe because he kicked me out of his home & then proceeded to rage text me while I was actively miscarrying- he told me it “no longer mattered” and all we could do was “move forward or not.” He even laughed at me. And no matter how I’ve reasoned through some of what he said, I know deep down I’m not the entire problem. I’ve lost so many people and so much of myself the last 5.5 years, and I’m scared to start over. But I have to sit down with him & say goodbye, and start the process of healing my own wounds and acknowledging where I went wrong as well. Thank you for posting this. I really, really needed to hear this. I can change, but I can’t force him to change.

lmao this woman thinks we care, thanks for showcasing your big ego and masculine personality

Sure, but not all people are like that. So discernment is 🗝️

"Some people are too dumb to argue with" - that sums up my thoughts entirely! I once heard it explained as "Arguing with an idiot is like playing a game of chess with a pigeon. The pigeon will shit on the board and strut around like it won anyway!" Btw I love your no nonsense approach to various topics. I'm quite a passionate and intelligent person as well and it really rubs people the wrong way. And I'm not perfect - I lose my shit sometimes and rip people a new one. But your videos are giving me some points to consider so that I can deal with conflicts in a productive way without getting sucked into the bullshit mind games that others try to play with us. It's a minefield out there and I'm still learning what to stay clear of in order to keep my sanity. Thanks for bringing my attention to certain areas I can improve. I've been learning some tips and tricks on my own but it's always nice to hear when someone just lays it out for us - no sugar coating!

I’m conflicted about this video because I used to be the friend that would ghost, and that was shitty of me. I decided to change this and when I would run into issues with friends and communicate, and say I needed space or an acknowledgment of some wrongs including my part that I played, EVERY single time I have received the gaslighting and verbal abuse. While I think my approach to my relationships is healthier, the responses I have gotten have absolutely not been fun, and resulted in the friendship blowing up anyway. My issue with using communication is that people have trouble owning their stuff and sometimes it doesn’t feel worth it. I’d love some clarification or feedback on this because I think this video bothered me for a reason and I wanna dig into that

So you have any videos on Blindsided dumping?

Doesn't matter if it's "personal" or not, it still makes life meaningless. And it's EVERYWHERE. Where's the place outside of this crap?? I haven't found it.

Well said. These are wise words and I hope you all listen to this woman. I knew a woman for almost 9 years, and was in a relationship with her for nearly 5 years. “Get ready to be treated worse than a stranger they just meet on the street” is wisdom. I’ve seen how nasty my ex could be to her loved ones, and it is borderline stupid of me to think our connection was exempt from that. Now I’ve been discarded and treated the same. And I won’t take it personally any longer because as you said it’s a pattern. Stay wise, it’s helpful.

Thank you for your content, I'm atill adjusting to a situation of mine that mirrors this exact thing and its almost to the letter how painfully accurate shr is in how these people tend to operate.

Thank you

I need this to garner all the possible views that can be garnered from the internet. I’m so exhausted with having to communicate this to people so they’ll understand

Thank you ❤

Love how strong your Winter Arc is doll

While its mostly men, women who are codependent on their men do this. Cuz lord forbid they live out an independent thought.

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lol, sounds like you've been internalizing your insecurities!😂

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this was really helpful to watch. i was friends with someone who could never see i was trying, and projected so much of what he doing onto me. eventually the double standard just really got to me and i left.

The fastest way to tell me you are a 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩

How many takes to get that right? Good job

Which one are you?

Feel like i literally just saw this video and it wasnt good the first time

Obviously... lol

😂 You have the floor

How old are your? Answer for the algo

Nah she was justified in that video