I'm so glad you found it useful. Thank you for letting me know.

Our pleasure.

I wonder what makes you say so 🙄

I have moved in life twice and both times It was hard experience

@@irinah206 Yes, I get that. I also moved countries twice and I agree that it's difficult. It was your sentence about it creating scars for life that got me wondering. You see, I believe we can heal.

Such a worthwhile endeavour. I bet your mom is thrilled to have such caring daughters. I like how aware you are of what you're modelling to your child because children learn from what we do rather than from what we tell them to do, right? 😆

Thank you for your kind words. I'm so glad you found this useful. Looking forward to meeting up. 🥰

And getting ready to receive one much more to your liking, right? Take care; I hope your move goes smoothly.

You're most welcome, Aleksandra. I love your thought that 2023 is simply the first amazing year in a long line of amazing years. What could be better? My expression "best year ever" is to say that life can get better and better, meaning 2023 is even better than than 2022. It is not better in the sense that it'll never get as good as this again. Does this make sense?

You're so welcome

Thank you for telling me 😘

That's exactly it, Patricia. We have to choose somewhere to start. If we don't, we keep telling ourselves that it's overwhelming and that we don't know what to do to move towards our ideal life. If we start by feeling good then more will come.

Thank you Elizabeth!

My pleasure 😘

I can see that going after happiness & cherries is a little bit of a vague goal to be able to work towards and it may not help you discover who you really are. My idea is that we avoid admitting what it is that we really want for fear of what we would make it mean. In my case, I took the longest of times to admit to myself that I wanted to live in a château because I thought it would make me a spoiled, rich, superficial person. Crazy, right?

It's all my pleasure.

Wow, I'm thrilled, Elizabeth. I hope this means that you feel EVEN better, meaning that there was nothing wrong to start with.

@@katrinehorn-coaching1900 Everything is good - you are just soothing!

@@elizabethlanger553 Thank you for letting me know.

How kind of you to share that with me. New Zealand, how exotic!

I hear you. We somehow have to get used to and accept living with fear. Once we stop fearing feeling the fear, we can develop a whole new relationship with fear. I use fear s inspiration. When I feel fear, I know I'm onto something. I know that if I can allow myself to see past the fear, there is something great waiting for me on the other side. So when I feel fear, I get quite excited, knowing I'm being asked to grow! I wrote a blog post about it which you can read here: katrinehorn.com/self-lovers-way-of-keeping-fear-at-bay/ Let me know, Jade, if this was useful.

Thank you.

I'm glad it resonated with you :)

Hi Jagdish, I believe the outer is a reflection of the inner ;) and I would hate to think that society as a whole is corrupt, immoral (whatever that means) and destructive!

You can see WHO and all countries talking about peace and the other side modern weapons are developing and selling other countries. The power and money corrupt it is a law. And any type of division inevitable brings conflicts and in vast sense ends in wars.

@@yeshajariwala I think that is how you choose to see it. I choose to see it as some people are perhaps corrupt, but others are honest, some use their power to corrupt, other use it to do good and money in and of itself is neither good nor bad.

I'm thrilled that this allowed you some insights and I hope it helps you find a way of allowing yourself to just BE with other people. Happy sweetheart choosing, Sarah!

Thank you! <3

I think you're totally right when you say that our emotions and feelings are a window into ourselves. In fact research tends to show that emotions are there to alert us to change. When we were walking around on the steppes or sitting in our caves in pre-historic times, change meant danger! So some emotions trigger an unconscious response, such as the famous flight, freeze or fight responses. In modern times, we rarely have to respond unconsciously, meaning we're rarely threatened. We can become conscious, or we can become aware of our emotions and take the time to process them. Otherwise, as you say, they'll come back to haunt us in one form or another. I also like the way you describe how you used to escape off into your head. Actually, our emotions arise in our body and are signaled to our brain via electricity and chemistry! It's the body communicating with the brain so it's very impolite not to listen! You could read Descartes' Error by Antonio Damasio about the "raison d'être" of emotions or maybe you'd like to read my article on Fear: katrinehorn-coaching.com/en/fear-7-steps-overcome/ and let me know what you thought.

There's so much truth in what you say, Linda! What it boils down to, I think, is that we can't avoid pain, that is, we can't avoid feeling painful emotions such as anger, rage, hate etc but i think we can avoid suffering. If we don't attach or identify with our emotions, there can be no suffering. We talked about this with Eliana Gilad on the Heal Your Heart Summit (www.thehealyourheartsummit.com/purchase/) and came up with the title for her interview: Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional! I really like this perspective because it stresses the fact that we've got the choice: either we buy into the painful emotion and feed it OR we just acknowledge it and move on, thus avoiding unnecessary suffering. I don't, however, want this to sound as if you have to blame yourself if you can't manage to do this. Starting the blame and shame machine is just more suffering. Phew!