I understand people have the right to choose their partner. This also has to be said. It just doesn’t make sense for people to destroy their heritage and have kids that look nothing like them that will have lifelong identity problems. Nobody in their right mind all over the world accepts this IR stuff. Good luck with things.

We made our twin boys, a little book of pictures of them when they were born, pictures of their birth parents, and then told their story. We adopted them through foster care, but we got them when they were four weeks old. Honestly, when we first told them, they were very upset. They were about four years old. They threw the book across the room and started crying. But I still think it’s really important to tell them, even if it’s hard. That way, you can talk through their feelings as they come up as they continue growing. And also being OK with the fact that they’re going to be sad about certain things. We help hold their little hearts and cups of feelings, whatever those may be, and allow them to express those feelings. They are almost 6 now, and are often pretending like they grew in my belly. It does make my heart sad, because I know that there’s a part of them that is aching that they can’t really express. I’m hoping that as they get older, we can talk about these things more in depth. I also wonder how often these things should be talked about. I don’t want to consistently rip open the wound to remind them that they didn’t come from us. If that’s something that’s hurting their minds and hearts, I don’t wanna keep ripping it open and reminding them. So we don’t talk about it a lot, But as it comes up, I’m always open to it.

I’m biracial (black and white) and my husband is Hispanic, we’re expecting our first baby girl in November and my white mom didn’t know what to do with my hair & I honestly don’t even know how to do my own hair either (I’ll just straighten it or put it in Afro puffs). My appreciate this, I don’t want to damage her hair and want it to grow nice and long. I still don’t know what hair texture she’ll have but I’m getting ready early.

Love it....thanks for the encouragement! So relieved to hear your advice!! Thank you!

There is soo much content now online for all types of hair care as well as salons that specialise in natural Afro hair so I dont see how any mum can play the ' i don't know what to do'. Curly and afro hair definitely needs more time and care but its doable and any little girl loves their hair cared for and done.

Hey Dane it is your friend Nash I just subscribed to you.

My wife wants to know if Bethany has her own channel?

This is so helpful! Thank you❤

I’m adopted, and I do love how you’ve been open with them. However, therapy should be a requirement as well. Adoptees grow up. They realize they were relinquished. Birthdays are hard, family tree assignments are hard, and no matter how much you love them, they will grieve. When old enough, the book the Primal Wound is an excellent resource ❤️

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I love the fact that you care enough to learn abuout black hair care and not try to cut it off for convience. I have 3 biracial grandchildren and there mothers were so quick to cut their hair short to not bother with it or no moisture at all. I had to teach them as a black woman.❤

You mean how to buy a trafficked child

No it wont feel the same. Adoptive parents you arent our parents your like a gaurdian. No amount of binding with your adopted child can match to a bio mother and her child

I loved this 🥰

I really appreciate this video and proud how much research and care you put in for your baby's hair. You did a good job and she is beautiful.

Thank you so much

Now to justfigure out how to keep the bonnet or cap on my toddler 😭😭🥴😭😭😭

Racist. Change the damn title lady

Love the honesty and details. Very informative. Subscribed :)

Thank you this made me more comfortable

Good job Mom!!

It’s absolutely ridiculous to ask “white people to listen to black people.” We should listen to one another on an individual basis regardless of race. and teach our kids to judge by the content of character, not the color of skin. Police brutality affects all of us, because if they have the power to abuse people, all are in danger. I understand this was done in good intention but believe this is further aiding in the polarization of white people and black people in America. If you want to fight against police brutality, let’s talk about the loopholes of the police union, because that’s the real problem. On top of the CIA funneling drugs and guns in the black community, keeping black and poor people in jail. <<< on purpose. <<<< THIS is the conversation we need to have. But no I will not be teaching my children to “listen to black people” tf? Weird.

I’m terrified. The honest truth. I’m scared.

Im black mom and here to take notes. We need to stop acting like being black means we know everything about haircare.

Tami, you are doing an amazing job with your daughter! I am biracial and I wish videos like these were more popular when I was her age, it would have been so helpful for me and my mom trying to understand/figure things out! Great Job!!!

my friends are adopted

Thank you for this, it was so informative!

Awesome!!! This video needs to be shown to all interracial families!

Can I get the name of the products please, my daughter is white but her hair is naturally curly, wat can I use in it❤❤

Hello mam im new to your channel

❤thank you

What the brush

Sweet woman

My son is mix I need help

You need to fix your tile. Your daughter doesn’t have black hair she has mixed textured hair. This is a new day and the one drop rule is dead. Saying your daughter is black is a falsification of her full identity. Her daughter is a Mulatta. Thanks and have a nice day.

How often do you shampoo and condition her hair in the bath?

I'm ready for adopted kids

I cry if my kid did not no they were adopted😭😭😭😭 😭😭😭😭

❤thanks for sharing, she is so cute❤❤

I'm subscribed

Tami!!! 💕 You are the perfect mom to be doing this, you have no idea how many couples you are helping. Bless you, love seeing you and hearing your voice again. Big hugs, Patty

My husband is black, I know we’re planning on having kids. I’ve always wondered how I’m going to take care of our kids hair. I’m so glad I found this video! Thank you !! 😍😍😍

OK I have to go cry you said heartbeats together. My adoptive mom didn't want me and didn't like me, and I'm 63 and I think the only bonds I know are trauma bonds. I'm happy to know that some people want to love the children they adopt. Sometimes she tried to pretend to like or love me, but that just made it harder and more confusing.

You can tell you using the girl for views. Where is she now? Wouldn't let her talk😢

My grand daughter has Korean, White and Black hair. Are there any products other than the ones mentioned in this video, that I can use to aide in braiding her hair I just used the products in this video.....AWESOME!!!!! Ny grand daughter is 9 years old. Would you recommend silk press/iron press/ hear treatment at this age?

Please not black curly hair that’s the first thing let’s just say curly textured hajr

I have a Jewish mother and a black father and you are RIGHT about the hair care 🙌🏽💪🏽 my mom asked her black friends 😂

Thank you for the video, it really helps. Im a single father and i had no idea how to styled my daughters hair

This Mom has done her homework !!

man I wish my mom was like this with my hair my grandma on my dad's side or my dad always had to do my hair still love her though lol