Girl you have me wheezing at the Karen and Aylor! It's Aaron and Kaylor lmaoooooo
@ekenejae27 күн бұрын
I was trying my best at the beginning, but I lost it at some point 😔🤣
@mattmccullough1093Ай бұрын
Cultures are meant to be shared, not owned. Claiming cultures based on races is racist because it's segregation. Our history has shown that time and time again. Jackie Robertson and Eminem can both speak for that. Culture appropriation is just a fancy word for segregation.
@nicolovespandaАй бұрын
"culture appropriation is just a fancy word for segregation". Congratulations. That sentence that you wrote successfully made me lose a brain cell
@fauxhoodsАй бұрын
this is rly good how do u only have 82 subs
@ekenejaeАй бұрын
Thanks, I'm hoping to grow this year🤣
@ameretpritchett46594 ай бұрын
You make some pretty great points! Thank you for sharing your thoughts!💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖
@ekenejae4 ай бұрын
Thank you, I've felt frustrated with the state of it for a while.
@alt43744 ай бұрын
Working on this myself
@ekenejae4 ай бұрын
Take your time and be kind to yourself. Is a journey!
@Hehh-fu5lf5 ай бұрын
N. Also not attractive.
@CBusCP5 ай бұрын
Great perspective. It's important to learn this early.
@ekenejae5 ай бұрын
It is important and a big effort!
@EezhamDemon5 ай бұрын
Great video. I have had to work on this in my relationship. Why I developed this is very illuminating! Cheers for your insight.
@Tsuenciaga5 ай бұрын
are we blaming stupid ppl for being stupid or smart people for playing stupid?
@ekenejae5 ай бұрын
It has nothing to do with intelligence, in my opinion. The behavior is abusive, and there should be some accountability.
@Tsuenciaga5 ай бұрын
@ekenejae ok I'm understanding your POV, but can I ask what "accountability" looks like in your ideal world? All men as a whole change one accord? The good men learn from the bad ones? Or Fixing the bad ones?
@ekenejae5 ай бұрын
For any partner, not just men. I don't want people to be abused.
@Tsuenciaga5 ай бұрын
@ekenejae ok yeah that's great but what does it look like?
@ekenejae5 ай бұрын
If people are abusive, then obviously, they should not be in a relationship. If they continue the behavior after the first instance, there should be social penalties. First, an intervention. Second, bring in therapy and social work. Third, we should have an institution dedicated to behavioral reform. Not incarnation but a halfway house focusing on integration and social skills/emotional regulation. There can be more serious consequences depending on the severity of the offense. This is pretty bare bones but acceptable. This should be the model for consequences in general
@2123bella321228 ай бұрын
This was super helpful thank you!! You described so many of my life experiences it's like you were inside my head. I'm in need of more structure and patterns in my life, I'm definitely going to try some of these. Btw side note I love how your shirt, hair, and tapestry all are colour coordinated.
@ekenejae8 ай бұрын
Just having grace towards yourself gets you super far! Hopefully, some of these can work for you. I have an (un)healthy obsession with purple 🫣
@cene7i8 ай бұрын
Ur name sounds Nigerian. Are you Igbo by any chance?
@cene7i8 ай бұрын
Also, great video btw. Really love how you emphasized a lot of parent's ability to code switch ❤❤❤
@ekenejae8 ай бұрын
Thank you. I did a heritage test a few years ago and made Ekene my chosen name since coming out. It just said Nigerian, but not the tribe. I might be? I'll have to do an African Ancestry test to find out.
@ekenejae8 ай бұрын
It's the biggest pain in the head, have you doubting the whole person lol
@777moon49 ай бұрын
This is such a great nuanced take! i definitely do think parents can be codependent, in fact i feel MOST parents are codependent just because of the nature of parenting and their own upbringing. i think it can be really tempting for an adult (of ANY kind, not just parents) to try and micromanage every facet of a child’s life, because we think we only want what’s best for the kid (but more realistically we probably just want the control we can have over another human). It’s tempting to see children about to make a mistake and correct them before it happens, but really the kid learns more through doing than listening. I also think it’s pretty socially acceptable for parents to essentially infantilize their kid forever, which, like you said, accidentally makes their children internalize these feelings and, by the time they get to adulthood, makes them feel totally inferior. Parenting is in my opinion one of the hardest things to do and I totally understand the commitment it takes to parent a child, but some people mistake keeping their kid in line with good parenting.
@ekenejae9 ай бұрын
I completely agree! It's for sure a process that most people don't realize the amount of emotional, financial, and social input. Many parents project your standard onto their children without even realizing it. So as every day calm from the child grows and changes its scares them because it's not the person that they planned the child to be. Honestly, it's really sad because this behavior keeps pushing the kid away, but they don't realize it. Children aren't robots nor dress up dolls they're tiny people. Parents need to recognize that!
@ClarkHilll9 ай бұрын
"Promo sm"
@ekenejae9 ай бұрын
Huh? 😅
@STINKYcreaturesss9 ай бұрын
Omg i feel too seen rn 😭 im a queer white woman and you are 100% correct on that read. Also from a self-hating baptist household! I struggle with a lot of internalized sexism, homophobia, racism as that was embedded in the family culture... not to mention the generational trauma lol. I have said some S T U P I D shit in my life trying to prove that i wasnt like my family lol... or to make myself feel more at ease when i didnt understand that it came at cost to others. I didnt realize that things like respectability politics, denegrating other queer or marginalized experiences to make my own feel more legitimate, didnt accomplish that goal and only isolated me from diversity and love that i actually needed! Not only that, but i was isolating others from the love i could give if only i could set aside my own bullshit long enough lol. The reality i came to realize in early adulthood is that being white at least provided some layer between me and the meat grinder that is Other People At Scale, but being neurodivergent and queer and poor made me more exposed. And it would be disingenuous of me to assign pride on myself for the privileges afforded to me by whiteness. I dont know how to be a good person or an ally or anything else really but at least i know better than to stop analyzing at the first "satisfactory" answer, to be comfortable with challenging myself and being challenged. Thanks for ur video ❤
@ekenejae9 ай бұрын
It can be difficult to get out of that mentality, but everything is up from there. Growth is a journey, I'm happy you're in a better place!
@soup26679 ай бұрын
Thank you for this breakdown - watched the whole video. Great tips!!
@CyberMachine10 ай бұрын
If being a feminine woman wasn't for you, why did you think hypergamy is something you should look to? No shade but I'm genuinely curious. Also I think women need to return to focusing on females again. This inclusivity stuff is setting women's rights back. We can't even fight for abortion rights because we cannot say it's a woman's issue. Males are taking scholarships and prize money(which females only get 1% of anyway) from women and girls. Finally many of those types of women are not interested in helping them out in making more men bisexual but call themselves straight. I think you may be too young to remember how the DL epidemic made BW STD rates double. It's just not as simple as you say. Anyway I really like your hair style.
@miltain10 ай бұрын
It's literally just telling women to be scammers. It's the redpill for glorified hookers lmao
@CherryBlossomStorm10 ай бұрын
which channels? should have listed them ahha. but wow its so weird of these channels to be a minority, talking to a presumed audience of minorities, then to put down and exclude... other minorities.
@lenolam625210 ай бұрын
I was scrolling past a popular black instagram account and they posted a video of someone interacting with an indigenous person- meant to be a post about black + indigenous solidarity in Canada (im canadian myself so it was easy for me to digest), but so many of the comments acted like Indigenous people don't have their own histories and oppression, and were saying things like "black people are the real/only Indigenous ones" and using outdated/racist terminology like :/ It sucks that some people can't understand that other groups face oppression
@ekenejae10 ай бұрын
It's a totally lack of empathy on that end. Oppression is not a competition. That's why solidarity and intersectionality are important. We should support not tear each other down and create echo chambers of hate. Sadly, that's not what's popular nor what wins out.
@snailart921410 ай бұрын
I don't know how i got here because uh, I'm Caucasian, but you're super cute and I LOVE the figures you have!
@PolarTurtle640110 ай бұрын
some of them where straight up scammers w. mugshots
@ekenejae10 ай бұрын
Oop, I dipped out before knowing that. That's insane and very telling 😳
@MiguelDLewis10 ай бұрын
“Naegaboo” lolz. Nah seriously though, it seems to me that we black people appropriated the n-word from red necks. I don’t say it but it’s ok if others say it; it’s not our word. But that’s also why it benefits us most to get our identity from our ancient Hebrew ancestors. Modern culture is ephemeral and useless. But our identity in the Messiah, as proven by leaders like Harriet Tubman, Ella Baker, etc is our only true source of power. “I am black and beautiful.” - Song of Solomon 1:5 🙏🏾✝️🕎
@MiguelDLewis10 ай бұрын
“I am black and beautiful.” - Song of Solomon 1:5 🙏🏾✝️📖
@MadArtLang10 ай бұрын
I really like your hair. I just stumbled upon your channel. I will be subscribing! Fellow Queer Nuerodivergent Naturalista and anime lover! 🥰💁🏿♀️🪮🌈🤓🇯🇵 I cannot wait to see more of your content!!!
@ekenejae10 ай бұрын
Very kind of you, I'll definitely keep uploading 🤗
@ImJoni.5 жыл бұрын
Hey. Haven’t talked in a while. But I see you moved out. A good video idea could be a house tour. Wish you best of luck in life. Peace
@ekenejae5 жыл бұрын
Much appreciated, I like the idea. I'll definitely need to clean up a bit😁
@NikkiM5 жыл бұрын
New subbie❤️ loved video I joined the big chop as well and never felt so free
@ekenejae5 жыл бұрын
Greatest decision ever! I got talked out of it a ton but I'm so happy with the results😁💜