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Jack shephard♥️ God I love him, Fav character of all time. Awesome video🤗

saw you post about this in a thread on twitter so here i am! very excited to see you continue to talk about these characters!

What a lovely video and an important thing to discuss. ❤ X

Great character and great video but he's certainly no Locke 👴 or Sawyer 👱‍♂️. All 3 need the therapy though

Let me guess - you're a psy... Oh, never mind, you already advertised yourself.

Loved this!! Your session room/office looks really cosy 💜

I think a 4 out of 5 rating for Longlegs is reasonable. Well acted, great atmosphere but nothing special

good video

Such a good and helpful video. Thank you so much!

aint that supposed to be a regular therapist?

1v1 ing the step that is half an inch taller than others therefore i stub my two and ask it politely to duel me at fortnite the little cubic bastard.

For me, it's more of the problem with the system of locking up people, especially mentally unwell to the point that acted out against the law. I think this outdated system should be reformed in a way that its actual rehabilitation and not just "time out for adults". Especially stalking and harassment and other crimes that should be handled in a way that assumes that the offender is mentally unwell and given treatment in addition to the punishment. As for the events of the series, i can relate to some extent with behaviors and situations experienced by Donny, i have experienced shame and not believing in myself after repeated traumatic experiences from an intolerant educational system and from family enmeshment, so it felt so realistic about the concept that people who have gone through trauma, especially repeated trauma could exhibit a persistent inertia to taking action against abusive behavior.

For me this show highlighted the ambiguity in these relationships. There are no monsters and no neat and tidy (happy) ending. It really was a challenging watch because it was the closest thing I've ever seen in depicting the lived experience of being abused. Abuse t's such an incredibly isolating experience. The shame, the self-loathing, the self-doubt, the difficulty of leaving these relationships.Its so misunderstood and you are victum blamed and invalidated so often if you get the courage to speak out. I'm glad I didn't know the actor was actually the writer and abuse victim as I probably couldn't have watched it. Often, when I got dustressed Id say he's acting, it's not real, chill. To watch someone basically retraumatise themselves...nah.

maybe a short introduction to the charakters in the beginning, would be helpful... who are they, what do they represent in the series, who are they to you and how do you understand them... especially since you are a therapist, that would be a useful take for all of us. Since many of us have no plans on watching the series, a plot breakdown--what is happening and why? where does it lead=? could be helpful. Also there is some words you are not allowed to say on this platform, or bad things happen to your video for some reason-- RAPE is definetly one of them!!!you have to avoid that at all cost---!!! After watching the full lenght, i have to retract my critizism above...apparently those questions about who they are and what they want are the very theme of the series and quite possibly get never answerd. Considering this , you did a great video.

She was a law student - she didn't 'used to be a lawyer'. There's no evidence she was ever a lawyer, that I am aware of. She graduated, with an Ordinary degree, nor an Honours degree, so basically scraped through.

You know what helps with hayfever/allergies? FFP2/FFP3 respirators. You know what they also shield you from...?

What do you mean by "qualified therapist"? What are your qualifications?

Carrie was an annoying character for me, cause she was so non-discerning about men. Yeah eventually she wound up with Big, but geeze - the crap she put up with. No discernment!

The audio though 🤦‍♀️. I can’t. Please buy a $50 mic 🎤

Genuinely took a media break a few days after finishing the show. It was beyond emotionally taxing to imbibe such an seemingly adjacent experience to my own. My mom found me in the kitchen bawling in front of our Alexa during THAT scene - half-washed dish still in hand. It was even more crushing than something like I Spit On Your Grave (either version). It brought up so many latent traumas I have survived, but I was also crying over the sheer catharsis of something I had swallowed in the dark for most of my life having a bright light shined on it. Edit: Terri is such a wonderful character. It's nice to have a trans character who's identity isn't their defining characteristic. Terri is kind, intelligent, empathetic, perceptive, and a generally beautiful human being. I was shattered when he fucked that up, but was not at all surprised.

When I saw the GHB I knew what would happen. I do have mixed feelings about Netflix not doing enough to have protected the stalkers identity, which leaves a bit of a sour taste in my mouth

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Great video!

Okay, but it's an hour-long TV show, of course they can't go into a real therapy session LOL

His responses were so realistic and triggering 😅 I've never felt like i was really watching myself on a show before. Between sexual abuse, grooming, and physical abuse, all of his responses made complete sense to me. Ive also had that urge to approach my abuser. Idk why or what im trying to get out of it, but it's definitely there. I've gone through hypersexual stages and self-destructive behaviors and questioned my own sexual identity. I think its very hard for people who havent been through traumatic experiences to understand how hard Donny, as a character, really hits the nail on the head. Ive noticed alot of people i know come out of it frustrated and annoyed with Donny because they dont understand why he keeps doing these things....its one of those things thats just iykyk.

I'm curious.... from your perspective should Carrie and Big ended up together? It STILL burns my toast that the show did that. Her best FRIENDS were her soul mates. (At least that my humble opinion. 😊)

6 seasons not 7

Please fix the sound quality.

I also thought there was going to be a MAJOR confrontation when Donny went back to the abuser. It was shockingly mundane, which I think was the point.

31:39 This is such a tricky topic to discuss. I understand how people can question if trauma is the reason for their sexual identity. It's important to note I've heard of some women experiencing assault then going on to identify as lesbian which on the front looks like a rejection of men. This is markedly different than the experience Donny has with his assaulter and following sexual expression. I like the way you redirect the focus on acceptance of where you are currently instead of focusing on the why. Really interesting.

What a great breakdown! Will be sharing this with my audience!

I'm glad this show touched on subjects (relating to SA aftermath, and especially SA by someone falling outside of your perceived inclination) that I haven't seen anywhere else, and glad you touched on that more through your professional knowledge. I had/still have a similar experience, and I feel even in the LGBT+ community it's not really accepted very much, especially in the younger generations and/or once the questioning individual is past their teens. There's always this pressure to commit to a "label" which I know is very identity-affirming for many, but when it's not because identity is kind of a mess, there's not much slack given unless you disclose why. And I never do, because when someone starts to get frustrated when I can't give a clear-cut answer it's not really reassuring me into a confiding mood. So I end up being an episode 1-3 Donny in the sense that I know that if I disclosed why I'm having the difficulties I'm having, probably most of the people who ever gave me a hard time on this would understand and stop and likely even feel bad and a little silly for having pushed on it. But even the potential satisfaction of feeling like "see, you were the unreasonable one all along, how dumb do you feel right now?" can't offset being pressured into giving information I didn't want to give so I take the flippant commitment-avoiding two-faced still-semi-closeted asshole reputation instead, and it doesn't really matter if only I know that this is a very unfair representation. I hope this show and/or discussion of it and its themes could make some people learn about different experiences of self-discovery, but I've heard of some in the LGBT community calling the depiction of Donny's SA aftermath "problematic" (which is odd to say about a real lived experience) so I'm not sure we're quite there yet.

I really enjoyed your thoughts. The second half of the video in particular was so insightful for me. I’ve been looking for a video like this! Thank you!

Well this was nicely done. Thank you for the perspective

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Fellow therapist who grew up watching SATC. Rewatching that scene now as a therapist made my jaw drop! Why, just why, would you phrase that the thing all the jerks Carrie dated have Carrie in common, especially if she just shared that she is uncomfortable with therapy?! That is an example of how NOT to build rapport, which is what you should be doing the first 2-3 sessions. How in the world is that therapist so highly regarded?

Why does everyone hate the second movie so much 🤣🤭

Yes she is

Loved this and would like to hear more analysis on these characters. Personally I like the “tell it like it is” style and confront all the uncomfortable self introspection head on but can also see how someone who is in denial about everything like Carrie would not respond well.

Well well, chemsex, it has a name, unfortunately its practically the only kind I've experienced, and I'm 65 lol! Well thats a slight exaggeration, maybe long long ago, in a distant galaxy, in the early 70s....lmao! Love this programme, its opened a right can of worms! I sympathise about the hayfever, mine starts with the tree pollen in about March then comes back in the late summer when, apparently some trees start with the pollen again! I worked with kids for a while and grooming and SA are really damaging, it seems worse when it's male on male as the victim feels responsible in some way, is made to feel responsible, is more accurate. Sorry I can be flippant about Chemsex, but am totally aware that it's used by people to undermine the victims natural defences. This, Chemsex, and the whole male on male grooming and SA can leave the victim emasculated and feeling like he asked for it. Its a terrible thing and was at the root of some awful, self destructive behaviours in boys and young men. As a woman, I know how appallingly R affects women and girls but for boys and young men, who often are straight, the undermining of their natural sexual inclination, through grooming and drugs, can be devastating and leave them questioning themselves and feeling they are to blame. Its horrific. You dealt with this really well in the video, it's the feeling they've done something wrong, that ends up playing right into the abuser's hands. What people don't seem to understand is that grooming is done so subtly and makes the victim feel that they are being understood so well that its hard for the victim to see the agenda.

Please show more of the episode and less comments ❤

Yes she is.

This was fun! Subbed :)

This was such a beautiful scene! Glad I was able to watch it again with you!

Love this scene and your breakdown of it! Made me want to rewatch the show again. 💙

With 1 i realized after starting i wasnt... after every session i had an unbearable pain in my chest for days after speakng about my problems.

You got recommended for me, subbed. I like your perspective. I honestly thought the show was gonna go in the direction that she had commitment issues and that Mr Big (was the romantic) needed some time (recovering from the divorce and enjoying his time with her).

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So helpful! Love how you broke it down. 💜