Welcome back! You were missed. Welcome to the forties club, its a beautiful time.
@lifeinmy40s803 жыл бұрын
Thank you for the warm Welcome! It really is fabulous. I swear you learn more an more about yourself and this thing call life as you age.
@deelong36874 жыл бұрын
You’re sooo pretty
@josefgunter42385 жыл бұрын
Concerning the traditional gender roles, I (german male) have made quite the opposite experience. While women who are now in their forties and fifties were basically obligated to have a job and be strong and independent, the younger generation really values having a choice most. I know a lot of young women (and some young men), who have at least favoured staying at home in the future for some time in their lives. They're often so proud in having a say in what to do with their own lives, that they don't really want anyone to tell them how to live it - be it a misogynist or be it a feminist. Some women really want to have a child and be there for it the first years (as more and more men do). Well and some (both, male and female) just like the idea of not having to work. This depends of course massively on the social group you're in. In general, households with lower education tend to prefer traditional roles, despite not always being able to go with them (for financial reasons mostly), whereas very educated ones take pride in going for modern ideas, despite not always living them themselves. It's a lot like other topics. That we don't talk that much about it as a public anymore, doesn't mean that we don't still care about it. It's more that it has become more of an issue of the individuum - not general debate.
@lifeinmy40s803 жыл бұрын
Thank you Josef. I have definitely notice a lot of changes as friends circle changed and I moved around. Thank you for sharing this to give some of us more incite.
@SedleighAdams5 жыл бұрын
Be an "au pair"?? Crumbs! Compare this with the African attitude, they re-locate to Germany through education and graduate programs - starting with learning the local language. (Similar stories in China, Japan, Korea etc). If black Americans as a community were more accustomed to travelling, there would be a completely different black consciousness in the USA.
@lifeinmy40s803 жыл бұрын
I totally respect your point but everyone has their own path. There are many Africans in many countries that are thriving. There are also many who are not. I've seen it in the U.K. America, Spain, Italy and such places. I wish there would not be a constant divide when it comes of Black people. It honestly is sad the elitism we have in our own race.
@sbuckle11715 жыл бұрын
I love that you said "When in Rome, do as the Romans." There are a lot of immigrant groups in Germany who don't respect this idea. I believe in a happy balance between preserving cultural traditions (and language skills) in your country of origin but for God's sake respect the culture you have come into.
@lifeinmy40s803 жыл бұрын
Amen, I was out of German for a few years and felt like I lost command of German. Not the basic stuff but more conversational. I am going to get myself enrolled in an online class because I definitely do not want to be looked as another sterotype.
@theblackschwab35615 жыл бұрын
The Dating Market is different overseas. Men are the prizes over there. They are the ones that are in higher demand. As a woman, you have to really work to get them to notice you. The Dating Market is the complete reverse in the US. Men have to do all the work to get the attention and approval of women. American women don't know how good they have it over here.
@lifeinmy40s803 жыл бұрын
I think it definitely is a geographical thing for sure. Where I live now in Germany I would struggle trying to find a man. I just like to remind people there is a difference between being fetishized and desired as a mate.
@Baebae9335 жыл бұрын
Are you still in germany?
@lifeinmy40s805 жыл бұрын
Shamay Setal actually just got back in Country. Living in Bavaria ( Southern Germany) now.
@Baebae9335 жыл бұрын
@@lifeinmy40s80 oh lol that's far from where I live 🙁
@jameskajak33045 жыл бұрын
@@Baebae933 where do you live Shaman?
@Baebae9335 жыл бұрын
@@jameskajak3304 Close to ramstein.
@jameskajak33045 жыл бұрын
That is alittle out of the way from Essen...but would haved loved to meet you.
@deelong36875 жыл бұрын
Hi I hope you’re well. Your videos were great.
@feliciadlabongo95175 жыл бұрын
Dating at 36, very challenging....a lot of homework to do, most people at this age are committed somewhere. People take advantage,
@feliciadlabongo95175 жыл бұрын
Thank you, very useful
@TravelingDiva-vp1gt5 жыл бұрын
So awesome!! Thanks for sharing!
@TravelingDiva-vp1gt5 жыл бұрын
You're brave and it sounds like a great experience. I am 33 years old and I've been thinking about moving out of the Country for a while.
@di-xz9bh6 жыл бұрын
What dating app did you use?
@asiatyreeshow66436 жыл бұрын
Facks
@michelroerig78256 жыл бұрын
Why should I buy women a drink ??? Women always want to be independent. So pay for your own drink.
@msfashionmyworld6 жыл бұрын
Michel Roerig You should definitely not buy a woman a drink if you feel that way.
@sueiranka93366 жыл бұрын
Your make up is beautiful. U look great
@misslinda66886 жыл бұрын
I'm glad you and your boyfriend made it :) I'm in a long distance relationship myself.
@thefirefox-bx3mx6 жыл бұрын
Do you have any experience with AfroGermans
@reneemichellecurlin91816 жыл бұрын
I really enjoy this informative. I've been divorced for little over 2 years now. Decided to look on KZbin to find if there was any people that have gone through things as myself. I think that you broke this down quite nicely. I would like to say thank you. Wondering which online dating sites.
@Pixelynx6 жыл бұрын
I think the question about whether there are black people in another country isn't so weird. It's weird to ask about a country like Germany, being one of the superpowers and all, and just one of the places that many people visit commonly. But I spent about 4 months in Slovenia, and out of those four months I saw one -- ONE -- other black person. And that was when I was on a campus, so they were likely a transfer student. LoL
@Sommer-Rivera7 жыл бұрын
There you are giving really good advice that i should pay attention to,but i cant stop staring at your face,you're absolutely gorgeous
@aishasimmons17 жыл бұрын
What are some dating sites to go to? Thank you.
@thatdutchguy28827 жыл бұрын
The dating and reserved stance is common in all Germanic cultures so what you experience in Germany (including other cultural stuff) you'll find in the Kingdom of the Netherlands, the Kingdom of Belgium, the Grant-Duchy of Luxembourg and the Austrian Republic too,...it's 99% the same.
@angelabrown-bessau41277 жыл бұрын
Great video! Would you give suggestions on the best online dating site you'e used? Thanks much!
@lifeinmy40s806 жыл бұрын
Honestly I think they are hit or miss but Plenty of fish and swirlers( or is it swirlr-HMM) It easy to chat if the are interesting talk on the phone if its not the same move on-lol
@angelabrown-bessau41277 жыл бұрын
Great video, very informative! I'm in the K-town area. We should hang out! :)
@lifeinmy40s806 жыл бұрын
I'm actually in California now ;)
@AiOYOiA7 жыл бұрын
You are a very reflecting person. And beautiful too... :-)
@lifeinmy40s806 жыл бұрын
Thank you!
@Carmel9917 жыл бұрын
Which sites do you recommend?
@missleo20037 жыл бұрын
dating life is different in your 30s verses in your 20s..I met my husband when I was 29 and 30 we gotten married..we separated when I was 31..but we are still legally married.
@jameelahedwards85507 жыл бұрын
Looks like you had a blast! I'll have to add this to my bucket list :)
@Jbelovedson7 жыл бұрын
Why was I jamming to the music though?! Lol
@ashliirvin9657 жыл бұрын
New subbie! Thinking about dating a guy from Germany and this is very helpful! Would love to see the long distance video! Thanks for sharing!✌
@flaviagro82407 жыл бұрын
I enjoyed your video thumbs up great video cool
@lifeinmy40s807 жыл бұрын
Thank you for watching!!!
@laurensteele61577 жыл бұрын
Love learning about your experiences in Germany and excited to keep following you! My husband and I just moved from the USA to London as expats so you might be interested in following our journey as well! :)
@Sakaran20107 жыл бұрын
Being English and living in Karlsruhe for the last 23 years I agree you need to at least try to speak the language...it just opens so many more doors that otherwise would be shut. Just a warning to new comers to the German language the vocabulary is relatively small compared to English but the Grammatic is a killer.
@TheViburn7 жыл бұрын
lol. You call the german vocabulry (with about 5.3 MILLION words) small? That's five times the english language has (slightly above one million words in total). In average conversation there are about 700 to 850 words (AKA small talk) used in german, in written conversation around 4k, but that's still more than the english language uses.
@pleissbach4 жыл бұрын
@@TheViburn Well, its a bit late... biut I thought the same. How can someone say the german vocabulary is small compared to english?! Its not without reasons the language of the philosophers and writers.
@otty41667 жыл бұрын
you are vibrant, very inspiring.
@AngelRichardsonlifecoach7 жыл бұрын
Loved this video!!
@lifeinmy40s807 жыл бұрын
Thank you for watching.
@FlabbyDouglas7 жыл бұрын
Great video!
@RachelSemeson7 жыл бұрын
I'm trying to live in Germany. Gosh I hope I find a woman as beautiful as you there.
@seite137 жыл бұрын
Aber nicht dein Deutsch verlernen, gell?^^
@lifeinmy40s807 жыл бұрын
Es ist schwer for mich veil ich spreche English die ganzen tag;)
@simonmichaelglover65467 жыл бұрын
Hello. Are you currently in Germany? What is the job market there for expat with experience in force protection?
@lifeinmy40s807 жыл бұрын
I am not currently in Germany but as far as force protection and the military bases, I believe Ponds has the contracts. I would contact them if you are interested in a position.
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@poobado8 жыл бұрын
She is black but I think she has a Eurocentric mindset....hey...it's her life.
@lifeinmy40s807 жыл бұрын
I am a black American with Caribbean roots. I lived in Europe for 15 years so it may seem as though I have a Eurocentric mindset but I really, I embrace all cultures. Honestly I really wish people would not judge base off of a video.
@poobado7 жыл бұрын
Life in my 30's .....having travelled to a few different continents I have observed by Black and Brown people of the world tend to view the world with a Eurocentric lens....this can also be found in Africa(how ironic is that?) I didn't mean it as an insult but more as an observation . Perhaps it is a result of mental colonization. I think that Black and Brown people of the world tend to have a "love" of all cultures, but the European is less inclined (outside of fetishization) the proudly state claim to living profound those cultures outside of his own...
@MrOu837 жыл бұрын
ty cromwell - What exactly is a European mindset??
@poobado7 жыл бұрын
MrOu83 ....good morning. When a person has a "European mindset it is a mindset that values, praises, extols..puts on a pedestal all things European, Caucasian and white... But please let me give factual information because I don't want my comments to be seen as race baiting.... If one was to research the Clarke doll test of 1942 conducted on black, Asian and Latin children(at separate times) the results were profound. A quick explanation is young 5 and 6 year old black children were shown two dolls. One doll being black and the other being white. They were asked various questions as to which doll is prettier..smarter..etc. The vast majority of black children answered that the white doll was in fact smarter...prettier...kinder etc. That is an example of the European mindset. It is a believe that most of the worlds people of color have in which subconsciously all things European are more sophisticated etc.....I have many many historical Examples of you would like More. Hopefully this answered your question.
@MrOu837 жыл бұрын
ty cromwell - Thanks for your reply. I am very familiar with the Clark Doll test. This type of test has been replicated, yielding the same results. I did my own personal test with my goddaughter, who is black like me, on Christmas Day. She actually thought the black doll was the pretty doll. What's sad is that she even had a white doll to begin with. I shared my concern about this with her parents. I'm not going to say much about whether I believe she (expat) has an identity problem, or has an inferiority complex because of her race (you kind of insinuated that in your posts).
@simonmichaelglover65468 жыл бұрын
Extremely helpful!!!!
@lifeinmy40s807 жыл бұрын
Thank You
@inder198520008 жыл бұрын
Germans are very reserved. Its very hard to make good friendship with them
@kuscheldrache7 жыл бұрын
Nah we just take our time to get to know somebody ,however if we have established a friendship it usualy lasts for years etc.
@inder198520007 жыл бұрын
kuscheldrache True, if a foreigner is shy too, he is totally lost. How much time you need is a question. I have been living since 13 years. I went to the university in Germany. There, it was always a german and foreigner group, which hardly intermingled. In work place, its easier to get to know eachother as everyone needs the other. I hardly find Germans curious to know other cultures or to eat their food etc etc or to invite foreigners to their homes or festivals
@kuscheldrache7 жыл бұрын
That really depends how much effort is made, many foreigners prefer to stick to their own hence the seperation into the groups you've mentioned. As far as getting to know other cultures or food goes I'd generaly disagree and would say it depends on the cutlure and food. Most people I know have a diet which consists of many different dishes from many different countries. As for festivals it depends which festivals you're talking about it doesn't help that with the exception of New Years most holidays are family oriented holidays.
@inder198520007 жыл бұрын
kuscheldrache Foreign students are guest in your country. According to most cultures, normally host people take iniative to invite guest into their homes or festivals. I had a feeling that Germans dont like cooking that much. Foreign students may not feel that confident in a new country with a new language. You will only understand if you have lived abroad for sometime. In Germany, it was mostly like, if you want you can come, otherwise we dont bother. Is it because of superiority complex that rich Germans are letting students from third world for studies or may be Germans lack the courtesy and social skills? I find it sometimes difficult to convey to Germans on face, as I dont want to hurt them. Many foreigners feel the same, they are afraid to discuss with Germans. With the influx of refugees, if there are less intermingling it will lead to more and more ghettos.
@kuscheldrache7 жыл бұрын
tony thomas Yes foreign students are guests indeed that's why any university I know, surely the one I attended, has extensive programms to help them integrate, make contacts etc. Mine had a mentor program which paired a foreign student with a german one who showed the foreigner the ropes, the city, where to hang out how to do stuff etc. It's not as if foreign students are left hanging in Germany you have to make an effort not to get help, at least that's my experience from Uni. However besides Oktober Fest and Carnival,which is also only celebrated in certain areas of the country, there are no huge festivals, there might be the local beer/wine whatever festival . We don't celebrate Halloween so no party invites there and Christmas is a family affair in most households so not even good friends get invited for that most of the time. For the record if you want you can come is an invitation the same way we issue invites to our fellow germans by the way. However yes we are a very reserved country but not just foreigners,in my area you can into a bar and if there are 10 people who don't know each other I can guarantee you they'll sit at 10 different tables and the only thing you'll hear are the orders for drinks. If you have an issue make yourself known otherwise nobody will know and do something about it. If you're invited to get together, have a drink or go see a movie that's us being good hosts. I've was abroad for a while and had to adjust my expecations *shrug* that's the way it is it has nothing to do with any sort of superiority complex or some bollocks like that. My best mates whom I've known for over 30 years still don't call my parents by their first name for example again we are very reserved people.
@trinicarib40218 жыл бұрын
is there a way I can ask you via email about some concerns Im having please?
@trinicarib40218 жыл бұрын
Thank you will contact you soon have a blessed and enjoyable Sunday/week.
@OmeeceCulmer8 жыл бұрын
Which part of Germany do you live darling, i will be visiting Germany in a few weeks, I'm from the Bahamas and also thinking about moving there some day soon depending on how my trip goes.
@lifeinmy40s808 жыл бұрын
Hi Omeece! I lived in Wiesbaden, Germany but I am actually now living in Atlanta, GA. I am hoping to relocate back to Germany in about 2 years.
@teamr0ckit8 жыл бұрын
Really enjoying the videos you have posted. Hope to see more soon. :-)
@travelingman97638 жыл бұрын
Lived there 3 x..2x working in the military! Black women are in high demand by educated and well off Germen men. Black men are valued by many German women that are simply knockouts ! There is an enclave of racist ones of course that will burn down Turkish homes. It's a much cleaner country compared to say Baltimore. I had a ball! Things have changed since 2009 the last time I visited there. The vibe there is different probably due to global awareness and fear! The winter's are long and cold which didn't appeal to me as a driver and a runner. Nothing is perfect and I'm now an expat in S.E Asia.
@voguehaven51548 жыл бұрын
are they really high in demand by well off german men?
@travelingman97638 жыл бұрын
VogueHaven They were in the 80's could be more or less now.