NTA but the wife is, if the shoe was on the other foot this wouldn't even be a question. Marriage over

Nope.

Marriage is over, and she's the a**hole. Same thing applies to him if he had pulled the same crap.

I have OCD 💀💀

Interesting...

Woow so funny how to learn inglish ❤

Just came to your site. Excellent information, well expressed, you lived it. When it comes from the heart and the mind, it’s well received .

When someone in your life starts changing and starts going a different way. Step up to the plate! And grow with them. Not against them! If you go against the person, then you might grow in different ways. So hold each other's hands and love. Instead of apart. Happiness , peace, love, spirituality , and togetherness

Very great and informative video! New sub

That’s my parents ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

Nonsense 😂😂😂😂 walk no one should live this crap.

I think this is great advice and I wish my parents had done the same. I feel like I missed out on implementing this with my children through teachable moments. I will definitely guide them towards handling conflicts in their future families

Blah blah, "in an entirely appropriate way", "all emotions are OK and we work through them". So many red flags😂 what triggered the lose of control? Just responded to the level of yelling wo considering #1 possibilitie?? Miscommunication? When you argue at home you upset the entire household, scaring the kids. It changes everything. How they view you, trust. But yet you want a podcast on how to parent? If I apologize it's like a reset and everything is OK? No damage is done. Distrust has been established. Don't try to teach parenting you have such to learn. Just the way you excuse yourself, attempting to bs the listener like you did the kids.. no go

Thank you for this reminder.. we are quick to criticise our partners and resentment starts to show up when we feel unappreciated. The little acts of kindness and gratitude change the relationship dynamic completely ❤

....Yep, on the surface it could be said people often want different things but in reality it is a shared depth of vision. If there is vision there is inspiration followed by love and intimacy. It really doesn't matter if you want different things if the substratum of the vision is fully intact.

Actions speak louder than words,jesus said dont just say you love me obey my father in heaven.

Once trust is broken, it can never,NEVER be made right. Trust is earned and a privilege. Personally l would "Never Ever" trust anyone that broke it. Now Loyalty, Respect, TRUST is always Questionable. Its just worth being around "one" like that.

It can never be regained once broken. It doesn’t matter how strong and resilient or forgiving the other person is, that little nagging doubt will always be in the back of their mind.

They didn’t just “break “ trust they actively chose to disrespect you and treat you like an option they could discard … they not only disrespected you they disrespected the entire family and betrayed it with their actions … as a son its wild to me to see people not understand that.

This is an extremely naturalistic take on a metaphysical reality that probably comes from the denial of spiritual or supernatural phenomena.

She is right. There is no fixing it. I have had it for 20 years. And it never gets better. And it is pointless to tell us to stay positive, hang in there, you can beat this and there's always hope. You cannot beat depression and there's no hope. If you reach your hand out for help how many people would actually grab it? Answer is none. Or how about when someone offers "help" but just ends up letting you down. Nobody wants my burdens. So i keep them locked up. Why bother right?

I think it's important to add that sometimes a partner must get away from a partner who does not handle their depression appropriately, as the irritability can lead to abuse. The other partner can think "oh how can I support and understand you," all the time which might enable them, if they are not willing to take accountability and talk about their problem, then that partner is in for a miserable life, and I don't want to normalise staying when it slowly kills the other partner.

Wishful thinking. Almost 30 years of my life & my siblings being kind & attentive & its met with hatred. Some people just have too much hatred in their hearts. They dont want to be calm. They want toxicity

Ive had major issues with depression since i was around 7 im 36 now. A lot of it is childhood trauma as well as a of violence pretty consistently throughout my life. Its so bad i dont remember my childhood, my teen years or even a few days ago. My brain deletes my memories to keep me safe. I also have major issues with feeling and processing emotions. I have little to no empathy making any kind of relationship difficukt at times. Ive had to learn how to mimic emotion and the correct responses in social settings to try and come across as normal. I feel empty and emotionally unavailable leaving me finding it almost impossible to find joy, happiness and contentment within things people and life. Though im still trying and getting help i dont want to give up i want to live and feel alive. I want to feel what others feel and experience things with the emotions and feelings that are supoosed to acompany them and hopefully ill achieve that one day. Please never give up on yourself keep fighting and things will get better and easier i promise you.

You just have to let it pass, sadly. I'm on two different depression medications and anxiety medicine that I am very happy for, and depression still comes, it's just a couple days vs a couple months or years now.

5 kids, all two years apart except last one. 8 years difference between 4th and 5th child. Just celebrated my 25 year wedding anniversary. Reboot? Babysitter? Try and afford a babysitter 4-5 kids! Try and stay married for 25 years with no reboot, I laugh because its sad. Its not about a reboot. Divorced people trying to figure how marriage with kids works.

He was at her apartment? You have to pick up your stuff and go!! He’s definitely being unfaithful. Why didn’t you guys address this? That’s crazy! A huge and important boundary is that you are not alone with the opposite sex for any reason, and this guy is already lying and admitting that there is an emotional affair? This advice just missed the whole point of her question!! 😓 Whoever wrote in, I hope you read this and have self love and value to yourself and pick up and go! He does not deserve you nor want you if another woman is fulfilling his needs, emotionally and or physically. Sorry but that just the honest truth.

18 months? Just say year and a half

Starts with WHERE your CENTER IS. You base your center on the world or your feeling or past experiences then you are NOT at the CENTER. Yahweh and Torah is that Center or as Yeshua called it the ROCK upon which you walk in. Once you have established your CENTER upon that which is TRUE AND GOOD then NO MATTER WHAT YOUR PAST has been you walk in a RENEWED LIFE.

Or your partner actually sucks and your mental health is tanking bc you’re blaming yourself. I love therapy but it took a good therapist to simply ask me why I was blaming myself when I was in a shitty relationship.

We are all fucked up some more than others from our parents, Care giver, etc Everything you’re saying everyone has that. 😅

Now do anxious attachment vs borderline

You don't 'deserve' it, you earn it through patience and hard work with your partner.

Man this sounds like me all day

For a man it helps you to know how and when to serve your wife. She will notice your perceptiveness and should naturally reciprocate. It helps to discuss your styles before hand as well. This works because females tend to push away when over stressed by their man or life in general. They need to be relaxed, feel loved and feel safe to be intimate and attracted to their man. The man needs to create an environment conducive to these female needs. Then she can bring him peace and affection in return. It works in my experience. It took me a long time to figure it out.

This has been very insightful breakdown of attachment styles. Thank you for having these videos

The poblem is that women never learn what men need want and appreciate. Whenever something goes wrong in the relationship, regardless if it's his fault or not, she will still blame him even she fucks up. She will continuously do things that damages the man, and when the man finally loses his s*** kicks her out, calls her a mean name, or gets angry and yells, the woman just gets to blame him. Women do not understand that what men need is respect. They keep trying to give you love when what men want is not. Love. Men want respect. Men are not women. We don't give a damn about love. There are no videos on the internet explaining how women should treat men. There are thousands of videos on the internet of how men should treat women. This is simply terrible. Women expect everything, and give almost nothing. If you ever ask a woman what she provides for the relationship or what she brings to the table, she has no answer.

Functional does NOT equate with healthy functioning. Human traffickers function. Psychopaths function. Sociopaths function. Narcissists function and can be very high achievers all the way down to homeless alcohlics or pedophiles. Plenty of people work full time, have children, send them to school, pay most/all their bills, and are f'ed up beyond all reason

Good thing to work on. My husband comes home in the phone with his parents he tells them about his work shift talks to them before me and talks to them daily I hate it he tells them stuff and doesn’t tell me and doesn’t know he doesn’t. I always tell him don’t coke in the house until you’re off the phone. Well he still comes in and I totally ignore him when he does this. 21 years of this. Ugh it’s great not feeling like he cares

I've been doing this for the almost 3 years of this relationship! He works ling, hard, dirty hours. I miss him and am so genuinely glad when he returns. I am grateful for this man🧡🏡

Yes!!!! Thais is great!!!! I always great my man!!!! Hugs and kisses!

I’m going to try this! ❤️❤️❤️

My wife and I do this. It’s not stupid, it’s healthy and an easy way to continuously build our relationship.

This is stupid

No...arguments happen when your husband innocently asks you a question and you answer him in a disrespectful manner. Stop making excuses for your bad behavior and treat your husband with the same respect that he shows you. She is completely responsible but wants to make excuses and not take responsibility for her actions.

Life hack: none of those 90 things are important and neither is calling the plumber. You and your family are important.

women are destroying relationships then it is the man's fault, gee i wonder why men are stopping dating let alone marrying

Sorry lady, you're a jerk. You never learned what my daughter learned at 12 years old. You feeling poorly does not give you the right to treat others poorly. Years later in basic training, she told other airmen, "Cry in the bathroom like everybody else." Translation, "Deal what you need to deal with, and deal with your emotions at an appropriate place and time".

And the 90 things he did and was just trying to renind you of something you said you would do maybe dont take on responsibilities you cant handle just say im not you its to much can you do it and he will

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