Hi. I know your post is quite old so I’m not expecting a reply. My situation is I’m 54 years old. Been with my gf for 5 years now & she still won’t add me to any social media platform. No pics nothing. She has her entire life before meeting me on FB. All her friends, family, children & even lower down some pics of her ex husband. She says she now only uses it for “work purposes “. In our first year I had her proudly on my FB with many happy pics. She said she didn’t like that so for the last 4 years I have removed her. I do believe she loves me I just can’t understand why I’m the only person excluded from her FB & Ins. 🥹

Women didn't have rights in the 1950s. So men who should never have partners had access to women. Now we don't want men who are children. There are plenty of kind, caring and gentle men who are masculine. Not knowing how to do basic live skills is not fun.

49:21 Yes. I had a guy who I had a crush on once tell me that he would never even consider going out with a woman who liked him.

hey i tried asking a question through instagram, but im unable to contact you as your account is private

Omg!! Lol!!! Cleavage is swelled butt!! This made me literally laugh for 2 minutes with laughing tears omg lol 😅😂😂😂😂

I'm 42 very good looking woman. I think this guy is actually really hot 🥰

I'm a man and I disagree.

I loved the advice about recording on your phone to get it off your chest 👍🏼

Mine cant help but comment 'oh shes fit' anywhere, tv out and about...ogling.

I hear you. I get it. He told me to stop by his work before 3pm. I got there at 2 and he wasn’t there. He had to ‘leave early’, yet didn’t bother to give me a heads up.

7 dates the past 2 weeks with 7 different women. All of the first dates I found acceptable. All of them have refused my proposal for a second date. It's not men who are preventing the 2nd date.

Starts w a stare

I’m not going to remind my man to stop. RUN

hello do you have the full interview?

Plenty of valuable information here. Thank you. Must admit though that it reaffirms my decision to remain single. Is there really no such thing as a man with integrity and values? You’re telling us that every man would have sex with any willing woman? Because quite honestly, I don’t want sex with a man like that. It feels very unsafe. A man who’d have sex with any willing woman is bound to be carrying a boatload of viruses, bacteria, funguses, and other pathogens. My health is excellent and I value it tremendously. Plus I don’t admire a lack of discretion in a person. My late husband, a heavy smoker from the age of 15, died of lung cancer with extensive metastases in 2015. I’ve been widowed for almost 9 years now. It was brutal during his treatment and for a few years after his death. But I’m doing very well now. My life is pretty great. Would a relationship with a man who’s a good match make life even greater for us both? Possibly. But not if it ruins my health. And this conversation makes me think a new man presents too much of a risk that’s not worth taking…😅

I’m a bit puzzled. At. 29:31 John said “ I have sex every day at 70 years old.” On another video I heard John say that he has sex once a week. And that the choice to do so was based on his knowledge of hormonal response to ejaculation. I believe his point was that it takes a week to get a woman’s estrogen and a man’s testosterone up to the levels required for strong attraction and great sex. Does that mean he and his wife have sex every day but without coming to orgasm, except for once a week? Does anyone know the answer to this question?

Plan and simple, he wasn’t attracted!!! Stop with the testosterone nonsense

I love John, now I don't think you should have sex with a guy without him explicitly committing to monogamous long term relationship with you only. You have sex with him, he got what he wanted, he leaves onto the next new woman and you end up heart broken. You have sex with him without commitment them you got to pretend you don't feel hurt when he doesn't call you. in his mind, you're the woman who gave him sex easily and he'll see you as a booty call/friend with benefits IF he calls you back. Extremely difficult to flip him into committing to you at this point. Check out Pat Allen.

I love John Gray and love listening. However, I’m starting to wonder will any relationship TRULY work?🤦‍♀️. Especially when many haven’t heard of John Gray.

We met on a dating site and met during the daytime. We spent an hour, then I left because I had to go to work. It wasn't bad, but it was nice. He seemed to like me too, I don't know. I didn't send any message that day. He didn't send either. The next day he texted me asking how i am. I said, "I'm fine, how are you?" in short, he said, "I'm fine too, let's talk if you're available in the evening," he said. I said okay. When he called in the evening, I was not available and could not answer. When I called him when I was available, he could not answer or did not answer, it was postponed until the next day. He called the next day. When I opened it, he directly said, "Yes, what do you think about our meeting, what do you think about me?" said. And I said, "You're sweet and nice, but I'm a little confused," and it was true, it wasn't a lie. He said, "Let's go on a 2-3 day trip and get to know each other better." But I said, "We've only met for an hour, should we go on a trip together right away?" He said yes, I can't decide on a long-term relationship otherwise," meaning I need to try it first. "Are you expecting sex on that trip?" I asked. He said yes. I said I can't, I can't get physically close in the second meeting before we get to know each other better, I'm sorry. “Then I wish you happiness,” he said. "Thank you, I wish you happiness too," I said. "We had a nice hour, it was nice to meet you." He said, "I was glad too, good evening," and we hung up the phone. My opinion is that he didn't actually like me at all, didn't find me beautiful. But he wanted to say goodbye with a conversation and a reason, thinking it would be rude not to call at all. He knew I wouldn't accept what he offered. He used her as an excuse and gently and indirectly told me that he actually didn't like me and didn't find me worth seeing again. I feel very damaged in my self-confidence. If he really liked me and attracted to me, he could have been more patient. His disrespect hurt my dignity. Help me 😔

I disagree this is about integrity, this is not about being needy

These are such great points!!!

Thank you John I want to get your book

The Australian accent is so hard to decipher. Oh Lord.

@1:01:17

Profound 🙏 Thank you

Im married what my husband dont post me on his account and if i posted about us he tell me to delete that what should i do what if he is cheating on me

Women need to learn how not yo be desperate for men. But John’s teaching is priceless

Damn, Dr. John Gray BASED af in this one.

Yes be you

We can have girlfriends. Most women over 55 do not bother with men as just someone to mother as often they have to work full-time anyway plus they will be bossed around or game playing. May as well stay alone rather than arguments or male mood swings or affairs.

Turning off. He always talks re sex and how fab he is in bed 😅

If someone won’t be ur friend on social media 🚩🚩🚩 my now fiancée did this before he wanted to settle down. But as soon as we made it official it was not a issue. He is fine introducing me now and we are together everyday there is no cheating but he won’t post me. Well he will but not because he wants to. Makes me feel like he does not want to show me off. I wonder if he will be the same with our baby if I get pregnant or is it just me why they won’t post me?

Super insightful! Grateful for John Gray’s communication on this topic!

he left me. abandoned me. discarded me: like last week's garbage. we were so close. he was my best friend. we went from texting all throughout the day and night, to now being complete strangers... the abandonment and the betrayal leaves me breathless. leaves me panicked, hyperventilating, suicidal. he left me with nothing but a 999-trillion pound weight atop my chest: suffocating and strangling me, and an ache inside my heart that just won't cease...

😂if you want to piss off an upset Woman.....tell her to "Calm Down".....lol

What if your official but they only ever post things on your page not theirs?

I agree with that "sour grapes" story. My example - when we got physically hurt our body shoots some chemicals very similar to opioids to kill that pain. When we got hurt in previous relationships, our brain also bocking that pain, turning us into - "I don't want that relationships anymore" . So true!

The altered version of that is - let’s see how it goes” …🤡 The minute a man says it …leave ! Especially when he says it before sex

Want and need are two completely two different things. We may need food but we don't need romantic relationships. Someone might want cheesecake but it doesn't mean they need it. Women don't need men and vice versa. They might want. Wanting is not a need.

Thank you for sharing 👏👏👏🙏♥️

I love John, he’s full of such amazing “inside” knowledge! From a female point of view....What I find difficult is to know HOW to open up emotionally. How to be more emotionally vulnerable? How does one do that in when dating?

I need advice please before i go crazy i was able to concetrate Hi there I do really need help before I go to counselling or move on . my bf and i been together for 3 years best chemistry physically mentally .. Within after 2 years the relationship become up and down I became needy and he don’t want to spend time with me - because of work work - work - so the relationship begun to fall apart and told me to move on and of course It is so Hurtful. however the communication still there and we FaceTime for time to time - one day he went on a trip to see his kid 🤷‍♀ and I send him a Share my location . He didn’t accept and he told me to I will call you .. he didn’t return call or at least FaceTime me I assumed he’s seeing someone or whatever.. lots of questions on my head . I did the NO Contact strategy rule for 5 days and after 5 days he sent me a message about how I’m doing and he read my last text the last time ; however he didn’t tell where he was etc . I didn’t bother to return his messages. The question is - Is He’s Seeing Someone else , do I have to see and validate so I can move on ? I just don’t want to ask because he will probably making excuses again and make me needy desperate and pleading etc .. what shall I do , shall I let him be , shall pretend nothing happen ? Or shall check and spy on him ?Or wait until he call me . ? i felt hes seeing someone and he wont of course tell me so i woant get hurt or whatever . do i have to ask ? or let it be and enjoy his new girl .

Dr Gray is chock Full of amazing information! He is a Master! May we all take to heart what he says at @26:23

Thanks sis, I'm having a doubt I'm in a relationship and my parents came to know about that and trying to stop me but my partner is so so loveable and caring and a perfect man changing everything for me and accepting me for being myself but after my parents advise my overthinking is becoming bigger and doubting my love as I'm just 22 so they are saying this is just a normal feeling and not love could you please help me know how to solve this. What to do for this please I'm in. a huge comfusion

How can I know if its ok to sleep wt a guy

He is correct. We have to be careful to not project unhealed trauma on others. Also, I noticed a lot of coaches for women(male or female) are unmarried and few have had real relationship experience. I appreciate what he says so much more for that reason.

My girlfriend hasnt posted me on social media yet but she introduced me to her best friends , her sister and her mom plus she isnt afraid to be seen in public with me . Is it still sus that she dont post me ?

Men want respect in relationships, but they can't even do the bare minimum by watering the grass their in. It is best to leave situations like this and lose your peace.

They I tried to be added to their group they never added me in years on Facebook last time I was added was 2016 around 2018 or 2019 someone kicked me out or something I am in their Instagram been years since they ever add me back it’s been years they never added me back in their group