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@tallysblood 4 күн бұрын
I would love to hear you discuss racketeering and how to avoid getting drawn into game playing. Great podcast BTW. Mark Coleman
@drumbun6622 7 күн бұрын
audhd she sounds like me...
@bobcooke5230 8 күн бұрын
thank you we will do this
@1thebem Күн бұрын
@@bobcooke5230 thank you. I really appreciate that. I am interested in hearing about,(and obviously I am seeking reassurance and this is just my personal experience as a client and you will probably need to address this more generally) I have these questions: Should councellors in training make the client aware they are in training? Can you break boundaries as a client if you are not given any and just being yourself in a respectful way? If a councellor is obviously distressed after 6 months and the client suggests they see their supervisor, is it ok for them to dump you in one session with no referall or support except to remind the client they can call the Samaritans? Is it OK that it was the supervisor who ended it as ‘the councellor was too distressed and unequipped to deal with my boundary breaking behaviours’. All I did was sit on the floor and draw a picture of him. If you are able to express to learning therapists the damage that is done by these types of actions - especially to someone with cptsd/attachment issues I will feel that the intense distress caused to me will have been worth something. I have now found a councellor who suits me better but to be frank if I was a young person going through this I probably wouldn’t be here to tell the tale. Thanks. Sorry. Long x
@1thebem 8 күн бұрын
Here’s a new title: bad endings in therapy
@omarthearab81 19 күн бұрын
I have an eco-walking article out on Researchgate 💚
@1thebem 23 күн бұрын
Give us one on your relationship. Narcissist and pleaser? Destroy that intelligently please. This is not an assault but a genuine question.
@1thebem 23 күн бұрын
Narcissists are the most creative and inventive people- they discover something and think they then know better. Please don’t fall into that trap bob
@jennifercoleman1437 23 күн бұрын
I had stumbled upon the term “Alexathymia“, which is the inability for a person to articulate their feelings. They have feelings within, but struggle to articulate emotions outwardly to others. Would you mind commenting on your thoughts about how Alexiathymia plays into avoidant attachment, and whether you think its definition is relevant in treating avoidant attached clients? Thank you
@theorchestrasystem3792 28 күн бұрын
NO! Please stop. The end goal of all systems is NOT integration or fusion. Please look up the work of Dr. Jamie Marich or Joanne Twombly. The fact you even brough up "Split" or "Sybil" is absolutely ridiculous because both are fiction and not DID at all. This is dangerous and exactly why (we) as a system have to teach functional multiplicity to the clinicians we work with. Your singlet bias needs to stop. There is no "Capital S" self in our system. We are all equal and integration = murder. Who are you going to integrate or fuse to? Our youngest and possibly the largest trauma holder? Yes we need help. Yes we hallucinate. Yes we "wake up" in weird places; sometimes in the middle of eating a meal and that's a whole level of what the heck is going on. We do NOT need to work with people who refuse to learn the newest ideas and understand the suicide rate is higher when you try to force integration on systems. So please.... please ... please sign up for the next DID conference and learn the trauma informed way. #psychosisisnotacrime #ffusiontherapy #diddeservesbetter
@adamclayton1736 29 күн бұрын
I generally love your shows and have a low bar for pedantry but Dr Spock was an American paediatrician, Mr Spock is the Vulcan. Also Data is in Star Trek the Next Generation, not Voyager. I’m wondering if these were deliberate mistakes in order to help disembodied Schizoids like me get in touch with their emotions. If so, it was a masterstroke!
@bobcooke5230 Ай бұрын
Thank you for sharing and so glad you are in the TA community Also for your kind words about the podcast
@robbriggs8016 Ай бұрын
Every time vulnerability is shown, it has been used against them and to hurt at a later date, it leads to shutting that side down and turning that emotional side off. being asked "how does that make you feel / how you feeling?" By a non ta therapist within a couple of sessions and was unable to even process the question as nobody had ever asked me that before, so just stared blankly "confused? im not sure what to say?" I had no idea what they were on about... and the therapist got belligerent with a lot of eye rolling and face pulling "this could take you years to get" with no explaination... did 4 sessions and they left me feeling that there was something clinically wrong with me... training in ta myself now, love the podcast xx
@bobcooke5230 Ай бұрын
dr spock was one of my favourite characters on the orginal series i also think he had ocd traits however this was not mentioned really multi diagnosis??
@stevenhowe6677 Ай бұрын
I would personally like to open 'Pandoras Box' with my studies into Narcissism and the alarming number of Narcissists and Narcissistic people who set themselves up as therapists, councillors and psychologists etc. It's all about keeping up the 'facade' for the Narcissist isn't it but unfortunately for them, ultimately it doesn't end well.
@grahamallen9393 Ай бұрын
Great episode and would suggest that clients are expecting to be fixed more and more in modern culture . They may have experienced apps which make great claims and even short CBT ‘ interventions’
@bobcooke5230 Ай бұрын
yes one of my favourite podcasts
@StephanieP-lj1ui Ай бұрын
😍
@mdshakibmarketer Ай бұрын
Absolutely enlightening! This episode of 'The Therapy Show' provides such a nuanced understanding of power dynamics within the therapy process.
@SortYourShizzleOut Ай бұрын
Thanks that's so kind of you
@SortYourShizzleOut Ай бұрын
Thank you for taking the time to comment
@SortYourShizzleOut Ай бұрын
Thank you so much
@bobcooke5230 Ай бұрын
thank you for your kind words
@garymcnie801 Ай бұрын
Really informative. As a teacher and trainer psychotherapist this is really helpful. Thank you
@bobcooke5230 Ай бұрын
thank you. glad you are enjoying it
@mdshakibmarketer Ай бұрын
Nice Podcast
@MelodicDinosaur Ай бұрын
Heya :). I'm a trainee counsellor with DID. It's such a normal thing to happen to the mind under circumstances where you have disorganised attachment and trauma that has no way of being processed at the time. I think a lot of it is treated as freaky or mystical - people, including professionals, dissociate from DID - it's a diagnosis that names an elephant in the room. So in a sense, I think it's up to clinicians to work on 'integrating' with the knowledge that unthinkable abuse happens that doesn't seem to make sense - because society covers up a lot and we all turn a blind eye sometimes - and also the brilliant and often unseen defences the mind has for surviving, just as much as it's the clients' task to slowly and gently get to understand and accept the reality of our lives. There are so few people who will sit with us as we are, in our full humanness. Just doing that is a real gift.
@YuryDmytrunets9 Ай бұрын
Thanks. Interesting discussion
@mdbruhn Ай бұрын
Really enjoyed this podcast. Very down to earth explanation of how people who have become fragmented by dissassociation in childhood can heal as adults. I think the honeycomb metaphor is very helpful too. Beautifully and gently explained, bravo.
@rjaber9489 2 ай бұрын
thank you for this! i have just started tehrapy for the first time at 32 years old and have very little reference to what is actually happening, what we are doing, how complex it actually is!! it is totally a matrux. well said. thank you for these insights they are very helpful and i feel like im not alone and as confused
@bobcooke5230 2 ай бұрын
hi everyone any suggestions for topics you wish us to discuss
@grahamallen9393 Ай бұрын
Yes please , would really like an update on the medication topic , ever growing in my therapy room ! An EAP I work for is increasingly being directive and prescriptive about notes which I am not comfortable with . Love that you have this focus on intuition and maybe even Susie Orbach’s ‘ wild cat countertransference’
@MrsSoulRaspberryMate 2 ай бұрын
Girl (33) who fell in love together with their (group)therapist (37) last year! Now, 1Y later we would have gotten married probably if we would't have been found out. Find it very unethical that I am not allowed to be in a relationship with whom I am in love with. Find it so sad for him that hé not only lost the love of his life, but also lost a part of his professional opportunities such a lading a group. Simply because we knew we loved each other, came as a surprise halfway through, no physical contact or speaking to each other for more than neccesary. I have always felt completely safe with him, and I am harsh on men that are nasty in any way. I was able to make him feel safe too❤️ Well, if anyone's curious, please hit me up because I'd love to proces this, since it feels terribly unjust as I am independent and feel as his equal.
@bobcooke5230 2 ай бұрын
thank you for your kind words
@Jonathan-hn8bg 2 ай бұрын
Thanks for this chat Bob and Jackie - it’s inspirational and clarifying.
@BreeeYT 2 ай бұрын
Can y’all do an episode on body dysmorphic disorder? Thanks!
@bobcooke5230 2 ай бұрын
will do
@BreeeYT 2 ай бұрын
@@bobcooke5230 ooo thank you!
@BreeeYT 2 ай бұрын
This was the most accurate video of HPD I’ve seen
@Lailahiipek 2 ай бұрын
My therapist (M50) just hit on me (F30) . I'm so shaken because he was the only one I opened up in years. Now I regret that, I don't think that I can have therapy again. I'm feeling abused and manipulated. He's very well aware that I'm not able to set boundaries. I'm feeling betrayed. Did it happen because I have BPD and looked helpless to him? My friend is blaming me for not setting boundaries with him before. I bought a little pot of flowers for his birthday, also to thank him for delaying my payments (which I didn't ask for, he wanted to continue when I lost my job). it's so stupid that I got traumatized by my therapist 😢
@springwood1331 2 ай бұрын
Sorry to hear that, he's out of order and shouldn't have done that. It's not your fault- buying a gift is not an excuse for him to hit on you! Hope you get the help you need x
@benoody6766 16 күн бұрын
I'm so sorry to hear about what happened. This is absolutely not your fault. Therapists are very strongly trained to never cross these boundaries, and what he did is entirely unprofessional and unethical. Please don't blame yourself. Having BPD or any other condition does not make this your fault in any way. You go to therapy to find support, and you deserve to feel safe and respected there. I strongly urge you to report this therapist to the appropriate licensing board or regulatory body. It’s possible that he could be a repeat offender, and reporting him could protect others from experiencing the same harm, especially younger, more vulnerable clients. Your bravery in speaking out is so important. I hope you find the support you need and deserve.
@Jakob19thmmm 2 ай бұрын
Hi Bob and Jackie, I enjoyed this podcast, thank you! I am wondering why the video has a hashtag of BPD. Can you possibly give an idea? I can theorize but would love your professional insight. Thanks again.
@bobcooke5230 2 ай бұрын
i am glad you enjoyed the podcast i will ask jaqui about hashtag question for you
@Jakob19thmmm 2 ай бұрын
@bobcooke5230 thank you 🙏
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@bobcooke5230 2 ай бұрын
thank you glad you find it useful
@Jonathan-hn8bg 2 ай бұрын
Thanks for this helpful conversation Bob & Jackie.
@SortYourShizzleOut Ай бұрын
Thank you
@nathanrichardson8402 3 ай бұрын
Where can I buy the book? Amazon does not have any for sale?
@bobcooke5230 3 ай бұрын
thank you i am glad you enjoyed the podcast
@omarthearab81 3 ай бұрын
What an insightful podcast. it took me back to my own inner critic from my care givers
@jonathanpdbuckley3680 3 ай бұрын
Makes me feel a bit emotional. Such a lovely conversation and everything so simply explained. I feel that that the great contribution that Eric Berne gave to the world and one which given his theory is so important ... was that model which everyone can understand which then means that we can communicate with each other on adult basis. Thanks
@ylana4444 3 ай бұрын
Thank you! For including same sex transference! Everything is heteronormative by default. Ugh!
@omarthearab81 3 ай бұрын
I got compassion fatigue last year and became cynical towards myself. my own abilities at Uni and work. As someone with BPD. I can be very demanding sometimes and I'm aware that therapists need to know their limitations when working with individuals with personality disorders. I appreciate your honesty on this subject. 💜
@iWaveKatie 3 ай бұрын
I'm a therapist in California (but born in UK) and I am sitting here preparing for a session with a passive-aggressive client in a few minutes. I googled my way to this episode and really enjoyed it. Thank you!
@The_Mindful_Mototorcyclist 3 ай бұрын
Does anyone have the slides from Mick's presentation that they could share?
@talibaron5715 4 ай бұрын
Great episode. Will you consider during the same kind of episode this time what 5 things you thought about clents. Many thanks
@omarthearab81 4 ай бұрын
What an essential video on 5 things to help the trainee psychotherapist
@Jonathan-hn8bg 4 ай бұрын
Thanks Bib and Jackie. Best episode so for ;)
@lordfarquaad7896 4 ай бұрын
Okay, I’m gonna name the elephant in the room; if I went to see either of these two guys for therapy, I can safely say, from a deep knowing, that I will not experience any sexual feelings towards either of them… 😂