Husband gaslit into believing everything is his fault? women have a circle of friends telling them nothing is their fault..... So in a situation of dead bedroom he tries to be loyal but she doesn't feel she has to be, because everyone has tole her she can do what she likes. Applies to a lot of situations too.

been there, true

Looking forward to multiple relationships. Do not want to be with just one woman the rest of my life. Did that for 23 years, I dont need a replay.

AND...he put more into the new girl than he did for his wife. Blah.

I know I'm the odd duck here, never having been divorced. But I've been the rebound guy for a divorced woman a few times. I don't recommend it, obviously.

I am not surprised (now), yet I take it with a grain of salt because 1. This is self-reported amongst couples that are willing to tell the public 2. My anecdotal evidence isn't very strong So I was surprised, years ago. Only heard about it online and only from the guy's perspective. Thought it was all his idea until he linked to a newspaper article of them both talking about it and where she stated it was her idea. That said, any other scenarios I know about tend to have this in common: 1. No kids, sometimes due to infertility 2. One or both sides of the couple is gay or bi Again, my observations are extremely limited, but if at least #1 was not true (there was one or more children), then the arrangement fell apart at some point.

More benefits without responsibilities to the spouse ? Say it aint so. 😏

Gentlemen...she's not yours, it's just your turn.

LMAO. 25000 generations of Homo Sapiens living in abject poverty, depravation and hardship now 5 generations where we have it the easiest we ever had and now it's too hard to have a family and bear a little responsibility. Luxury beliefs are killing humanity.

No responsibility. No purpose. What a life.

The honeymoon phase isn’t real… because it’s not a phase. It’s the entirety of the relationship. We keep trying to force the relationship past its expiration date. It’s like being in a hot dog eating contest. At first you were ravenous because u hadn’t eaten all day but now you’re trying to stuff more food in without puking. Your body is saying no no no. We are done. But you keep going trying to trick your stomach into taking more.

That damsel in distress act gets old fast. The women who chose to carry themselves this way always overplay it.

I have caught numerous girlfriends cheating, I can’t think of a single one who admitted it when they were confronted (even with a plethora of evidence). One came clean two years later in an email, another one admitted it years later, but couldn’t remember the details or who it was. I think it’s a combination of factors, one is reputation management, they want to be seen as a good person, worried how this could affect future relationships. Two is they think there is always doubt, if they don’t confess then it may not be true. Third, most women are not held to the same level of accountability as men, not that big a deal, they will get a pass, just like they have in the past.

Interesting

The brutal fact that she would gladly start over and come back to life with someone else is especially hard to swallow. Why bother at all then? All relationships are doomed to the same outcome.

How masculine is this man when he describes his wife as the boss? That’s very telling. Sounds to me like she’s married to a subordinate. Women don’t want to F their sons, stop making your wife, your mommy boss

A feminine woman is someone who is soft, supportive, nurturing, and comforting. This is as opposed to abrasive, dismissive, impatient, and argumentative.

Just release anything to the friend circle after the divorce. Done.

Do women actually feel bad about cheating while married thou ?

I was obese and lost 30 lbs with a strict diet and a physical job, no gym. I hoped my ex-wife would join me in losing weight or at least support me and make me feel good about the change. Instead she constantly criticized the very effective methods I used, talked about how weight has nothing to do with health, and how great she felt being her current obese weight. I never got the "hubba-hubba" I hoped for and got even less physical intimacy. Over time, I got demoralized and discouraged, leading to a complete rebound. When I finally saw the writing on the wall that we were splitting, I started to hit the gym. Last ditch, I tried to get her to come with me. The few times she did go with me, she didn't work out with me much preferring to do her own thing, and whenever I joined her, she claimed I was belittling, criticizing, or rushing her when I was instead doing my best to be as supportive, patient, and positive as possible. To be real, though, everything I did at this point was spun in the most negative possible light. We split very shortly after that failed attempt, and I've been hitting the gym, eating much cleaner, and am sprinting towards my bodyweight and lifting goals. Dumping the stress of an awful marriage to a disrespectful wife has done wonders for me. Friends who I didn't tell we split until very recently have told me I've seemed more upbeat and outgoing lately. People are noticing my weight dropping and are complementing my looks again. I'm easy-going and confident around women like I've never been, even when I was younger before I met my ex. My relationships with family and friends are better, as are my finances, shockingly, since she made more than I did and I've had to buy a bunch of stuff to replace the things she took in the separation. Even the slings and arrows life has thrown at me are like water off a duck's back. Life is beautiful. 🤙

There is no fish in the pond worth catching, its mostly catfish. The women in the dating pool are of two categories Single moms that divorced a similar man as myself. How can you have a meningsfull relationship with anyone who will drop you when she gets bored? The other category is the woman without children that "lived her life and want to settle down"...basically ran through by bad boys and lost her pull... Date them for fun, get the post nut clarity (happens to me all the time, all that work for this...) and focus on yourself

Don't chase women, chase success, and women will follow.

Men that care of yourself. Women have other women and vibrátor. They don't need us

What if I'm in a small town but can't move out (taking care of elderly family in the area). I live alone, 36 year old guy with no lady, no kids, clean cut. No luck on dating apps. Please help.

Didn't you learn the error of your ways the first time around! Rent don't buy! Enjoy the peace in your life!

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She's getting it on the side from Chad and Tyrone.

You don’t look for salmon in Lake Tahoe. Fish in the right spot

He needs to move

U can’t survey someone’s who’s point of view is in co start flux

She’s lying. She will still do that with certain guys

That's not going 2 get better

This is just wrong. You gunna over work yourself to not still get sex 😂😂

It's not easier in non monogamous relationships either. I'm in one with a dead bedroom that has lasted for years. There have been excuses and promises and everything else, over and over again, until finally she recently admitted a couple of weeks ago that she doesn't have any interest in sex at all and hasn't for a really long time. (Of course she insisted that all the times she said she did want sex only to bail on it at the last minute, weren't her lying, but it just didn't work out somehow. Bullshit, that's a lie) I can get my physical needs met elsewhere and that's not an issue, but the issue is that I desperately want and need intimacy with my partner. She's said that she's going to start getting help in any way she can, but has not actually done anything as of yet. Otherwise, it's a fantastic relationship, but the dead bedroom is a gigantic issue for me. It's not even about sex, it's about sex and intimacy and bonding with her in particular, and that's not happening. I don't know when or if it will be happening in the future either. So it's not that simple, even in nonmonogamous relationships.

Does this include those men whose behavior endangers the other men around them? Do we coddle those guys? You can’t always discuss the simping out of them (ie. Destiny or other leftists)