I💗Rachel💋

I💗Rachael💋

The problem comes up in relationships because the vast majority of humans want to feel they have an essential role in the partnership and thus have a biological need to feel “needed” because it makes them feel more secure knowing that their partner is less likely to get rid of them because they’re an integral part of their lives. Most women don’t want a hyper-independent man and most men don’t either. Hyper-independence stems from a lack of trust. When you don’t trust someone to perform certain roles for you in the relationship or you make it clear again and again how much you don’t need them, things quickly fall apart. Imagine working at a job where they constantly tell you how much they don’t need you as an employee. Yeah, you’d be looking to transfer jobs quick! And that’s just a job - marriages are meant to last a lifetime. When you’re hearing that kind of talk only a few years in, it’s time to tell them that either they can learn to trust and depend on you as a healthy partnership requires or you’re leaving. No one wants to be somewhere with someone who is always telling them how replaceable they are and how they don’t need them and can do it all on their own.

I’m an overweight Olympic weightlifter and I am one of the fastest sprinters at my CrossFit gym. Not the fastest long distance runner, the pace I ran my last marathon at was actually really slow, like 12 minute miles, but my SPRINT pace is so insanely fast because of my explosiveness I built through weightlifting. And I’m 5’2, 195 lbs 😉

@@jennaalden3658 Cool story bro.

I like your explanation. You're right, simply being fat isn't always the reason, but is often absolutely a factor. I also hate that many people think fat automatically means ugly. It doesn't. This woman, who admitted to us all that she is fat, is very pretty.

indeed, it does not help when you are fat.