Thank you for sharing this. I had these thoughts when I was 8 and I could never speak on it and i didn't know what to do and having it without healing up to adult hood is a terrifying shift into adulthood. Its like slipping and watching yourself fall off of a cliff for 11 years and not knowing how to help yourself. It has heightened other mental health issues and now I isolate and avoid potential friendships, relationships and i isolate from family. Self harm schizoaffective germophobia depression and anxiety and borderline personality disorder have developed. The worst first time i remember my dad forcing me as a child to sleep in the room upstairs with my sisters when I was little and it was the most terrible night. He yelled at me to go upstairs after i kept saying no so it was a lose lose and i wanted to take my life that was when i was 8. Thats around the time I started selfharming and i was molested repeatedly when i was 6. God is the only reason im still alive. But some religious ocd is an issue as well which im almost ashamed of. But I know Jesus is King and the only reason im still alive is because of all of the failed attempts to take my life which left me scarred badly all over. I pray anyone dealing with this is granted strength peace and understanding and the discovery of this before they hurt themselves under the lie of thinking they are a bad person. In Jesus's Name Amen.
@KairosOCD3 күн бұрын
Thank you so much for sharing this! It can be absolutely terrifying to have these intrusive thoughts. The OCD will lie to us and make us think that isolating will help.
@Padraigp4 күн бұрын
God what a mess.
@KairosOCD3 күн бұрын
its tricky!
@emmafoley89874 күн бұрын
We humans have such complex and unique brains!
@KairosOCD3 күн бұрын
Very much so!!
@smizmar84 күн бұрын
For me (diagnosed almost the same age), it was very similar, but for myself autism. I really like regularity, but I'd never been able to have it, and now I understand I've needed a lot more regularity this whole time.
@KairosOCD3 күн бұрын
Yes, absolutely, concurrent with other forms of neurodiversity. Thank you for sharing!
@Lunanewmew5 күн бұрын
I just get inside other people throw up or if I know people that do that constantly
@KairosOCD3 күн бұрын
Emetephobia is really difficult. Thank you for sharing.
@Olivia-od4nx6 күн бұрын
Thank you for posting this cause I didn’t know what Arfid was and now I know
@KairosOCD3 күн бұрын
Thank you for your comment!
@Chloe_Landillon7 күн бұрын
I have been throwing up yesterday and now I feel like it again and i am so scared
@KairosOCD3 күн бұрын
Allow yourself to sit with the distress. I know it is difficult, but the more exposure to vomit, the better the emetephobia will get
@daisyviluck79327 күн бұрын
So would you say the ADHD meds made life better or worse? It seems like a trade off?
@KairosOCD3 күн бұрын
In my case, I am VERY grateful that I took ADHD meds. It needs to be balanced with OCD treatment as well, in my case.
@daisyviluck79323 күн бұрын
@@KairosOCD thanks for reply. It’s interesting to hear peoples own testimonies 🙂
@nycjanedoe12 күн бұрын
It depends on whether I am researching because of interest in personal health and self care or whether I was just abused by a health clinician again and I'm researching my rights. Though the latter is not enjoyable, it is still not OCD.
@KairosOCD3 күн бұрын
Thank you for sharing. The difference is whether you are researching in response to an obsession, and if you feel the need to do it repeatedly.
@Iheartwcue17 күн бұрын
THANK YOU FOR SPREADING THIS!! I am almost 13 years old and i have POCD, ZOCD, and OCD. It honestly ruined my year.
@Unbeat-br8qz15 күн бұрын
I am 14 and have it, i saw in another vids comment too, i sometimes hot my head and legs hard if i get such thoughts and i avoid kids now It got a little better over the last month but oh my god Do i wanna disappear? Yes
@Iheartwcue15 күн бұрын
@@Unbeat-br8qz That's terrible, I'm glad your getting better and don't forget your not alone. A butterfly can't see it's own wings..
@Unbeat-br8qz15 күн бұрын
@@Iheartwcue thanks man, it makes life so much tougher
@Iheartwcue15 күн бұрын
@@Unbeat-br8qz Real
@KairosOCD3 күн бұрын
Thank you so much for sharing this!!! So brave of you to talk about this . You WILL get through this. I am so grateful for your comment..
@kimsmith174623 күн бұрын
I flipped past this and came back, as the description fits me to a T. However, you need to reflect on your need to use the word "quote". It was unnecessary and distracting.
@KairosOCD17 күн бұрын
Thank you for your comment! Good feedback :)
@StumbleGurl23 күн бұрын
Hi there! This was super helpful because i have ocd and i experience intense hyper fixations on certain hobbies, it's all i can think and talk about, and the thing is, it brings me so much joy to do, it's not uncomfortable or distressing. I push all of my needs to the side when I'm doing my interest, like not eating or using the bathroom, when u do eventually eat, i eat my favorite food, crackers with butter 😅 do you have any advice on if this could be something more than ocd, as i have been speculating for months and researching autism, and it definitely all makes sense for me.
@KairosOCD17 күн бұрын
Hyper fixation of hobbies that brings you joy and isn't distressing is most like neurodiversity and not OCD :)
@StumbleGurl17 күн бұрын
@@KairosOCD thanks for your help :))))
@hylandfoto24 күн бұрын
I like this format where you not only describe a situation BUT ALSO provide a helpful solution!! 💪💪
@KairosOCD24 күн бұрын
thank you for the feedback!
@theotherway163924 күн бұрын
Shame and guilt can be sooooo deep rooted because of childhood experiences. I remember a mindfulness book called 30 Days to Stop Obsessing by Harper Daniels that helped me let go a bit.
@KairosOCD24 күн бұрын
Thank you for sharing! Absolutely agree with you...shame cycles often originate in childhood trauma.
@Jakub55226 күн бұрын
It’s called “preserving media because nothing on the internet is safe” . Hope that helps.
@KairosOCD24 күн бұрын
Yes. So I think the extra piece that makes it hoarding is the anxiety around the media. And the fear of losing it.
@bruhbruk456826 күн бұрын
school refusal is a right, there is no reason why anyone should be forced to do anything against their will, its not a disease to refuse to be incarcerated by state sponsored education, its an act that everyone has the right to the same as the act the breathe, its a right, not a disease to be treated
@KairosOCD24 күн бұрын
I understand your point of view, and I definitely do not consider school refusal a "disease" but rather a symptom of many different potential societal and individual issues. In my work, I view school refusal through the lens of anxiety. Many of my clients wish they could go to school, they just can't make themselves do it because of negative triggers.
@Stasya-lol28 күн бұрын
Very helpful
@KairosOCD24 күн бұрын
Glad you think so!
@idcwtfitis29 күн бұрын
No.
@KairosOCD24 күн бұрын
tell me more?
@idcwtfitis24 күн бұрын
@KairosOCD generally i wont elaborate, but here i will. It took me about a month to find my tv, about 6 weeks before I found my laptop. I got lucky on my desktop monitor, main contender last in stock and on sale, week after research. It starts 'no budget heres what I want', narrow down to budget, narrow down to min req, review everything (XvsYvsZ, lifetime, random oneoffs,etc) This is mainly for major purchases, but occasionally I'll do the same with stuff like whiskey. I've had very few things I've wanted to return. My wife just buys things, usually with little to no research. I've lost count of things she said were a waste of money, or replaced in a few months. She did great with the automatic litter box, but most major buys she has me do research. Identify all expected flaws to prevent buyers remorse.
@KairosOCD17 күн бұрын
@@idcwtfitis Thank you for sharing more! So there is a difference between a very careful shopper and compulsive research of a product (and the need to buy the "perfect" product) and an anxiety around being the "wrong" product. When we are overly careful in this way, we are actually reinforcing our fear of making a mistake with our money.
@hals99929 күн бұрын
Thank you glad i subbed to you
@KairosOCD24 күн бұрын
thank you!
@Stasya-lolАй бұрын
Timers are superpower 💪 very helpful with procrastination and fear and everything, just learning integrating them in my life
@KairosOCD24 күн бұрын
Yes they are! so true
@FelfziАй бұрын
At that point the therapist really needs to find the root of those thoughts and beliefs. I don’t think any therapist worth their hide would just automatically jump in and say you’re fine. But at the same time, if the patient just says “I think I’m a bad GF and doesn’t offer additional context then the therapist is only working off of the information they are given. But still good points. It’s a cycle if you don’t stop it.
@KairosOCDАй бұрын
Yes, I think a lot of therapists are intending not to amplify or validate thoughts, but they might be hearing a narrative coming straight from the OCD :), and therefore, they are not really getting the reality version
@Stasya-lolАй бұрын
I feel like you really know what you're talking about. Good luck in your channel!!
@KairosOCDАй бұрын
thank you so much for this!
@OrionFilmsАй бұрын
I have compulsions that make me re-download, re-organize and sort all digital life: playlists, videos, photos, documents. But the rules are that they all need to be from the original source, with same file names, not too much files otherwise I couldn’t keep track of them. But the problem is that the ocd is what creates this mess because trying to re-download and organize and keep jumping from file to file creates incomplete tasks that then causes mess but the hoarding of them just can’t make let go of them from the first place. It’s very weird variation and I can’t find a solution to it anywhere
@KairosOCDАй бұрын
Yes, this sounds VERY familiar. Thank you so much for sharing this. The key, like all other compulsions, is to urge surf and resist the behavior, and to understand what is the underlying obsession that fuels it.
@silviahorn1474Ай бұрын
Very helpful, thanks! I'll try that.
@KairosOCDАй бұрын
thank you so much for your comment!
@jimr5703Ай бұрын
Instead of asking a cryptic question and explaining what it means, why not ask the question you mean to ask? Pfft. Girls... ;-)
@jefesalseroАй бұрын
What happens when one of the ways you end up dealing with the pain of the L.O.'s rejection is to seek out women who remind you of her and pursue them? And what if you are sometimes successful? Now you were able to (at least temporarily) distract yourself with another person or persons, but could you be at risk of fitting the label of "womanizer" or worse a sex addict? This could be confusing and destructive for a man and probably not good for the women he encounters.
@KairosOCDАй бұрын
Thank you for your comment and question! It is tricky negotiating the behavior that comes from limerence. Remember, like all anxiety and OCD cycles, limerence is an antecedent that can lead to a behavior that can lead to a consequence. It is painful for ourselves and others, but ultimately, we learn to break the cycle to avoid the negative consequences.
@meadow_roseeeАй бұрын
As someone who suffers with this extremely this really helps
@KairosOCDАй бұрын
I am really grateful for your share and so glad my video can be of some help. I will create more BFRB content!
@BonJoviBeatlesLedZepАй бұрын
I'm lucky i can manage my OCD symptoms by simple exercises and psychological tricks. I WISH i could do the same for my ADHD!
@KairosOCDАй бұрын
Yes it depends on which presentation is more severe! Sounds like your OCD is mild, and that is really great :). For me both OCD and ADHD are in the severe range, so I have to be constantly on my toes as to who is going to run the show.
@feelsrestricted8322Ай бұрын
This is my life lmao. Every year I buy at least one planner, i make schedules, to do lists, etc, nothing sticks.
@KairosOCDАй бұрын
Yup!
@KairosOCD2 ай бұрын
Raising a Kid Who Can: Simple Strategies to Build a Lifetime of Adaptability and Emotional Strength a.co/d/3YfqOM8
@Batman_09292 ай бұрын
So cool
@Valerie-fy3od2 ай бұрын
You're very well read extremely informative thank you❤
@KairosOCDАй бұрын
Thank you so much for your kind comment!
@andremiranda56872 ай бұрын
elo😊
@KairosOCD2 ай бұрын
I wish more mental health content was accurate!
@emilytallent96772 ай бұрын
for me, I would love to eat veggies and be healthy and normal but most vegetables genuinely taste like vomit/stomach acid/regurgitation to me. that gross wet taste in the back of ur throat after u had a nasty burp? that’s EXACTLY what 99% of vegetables taste like to me. recently, I tried venison (deer meat, bc I love meats) stew. Well, the venison was great except for the fact that it tasted like it was bathed in watery vomit. I almost gagged but suppressed it and held my breath and swallowed and told my friends who made it for me that it was great. I’ve never encountered another human being who thought almost all things made with vegetables had a vomit taste to them, and I’d love to find out why I’m this way. I just want to eat like every other person I know, but I can’t because I simply refuse to put food in my mouth that is going to literally taste like puke and make me gag.
@KairosOCDАй бұрын
Thank you for sharing your ARFID experience! It takes a lot of systematic desensitization, which can be excruciating if this is a sensory disgust trigger.
@Anna-sb2ff2 ай бұрын
I've been suffering from it for a long time😢
@KairosOCDАй бұрын
thank you for sharing. Try finding help locally in the directory on the IOCDF website, and also feel free to email me [email protected], for some further suggestions. I do ARFID and emetophobia coaching.
@KairosOCD2 ай бұрын
My OCD show was Gilmore Girls With many of my clients it is Friends and New Girl.
@ruthray64492 ай бұрын
So. I’ll keep watching little house on the prairie until I die. And Roseanne
@bumblebea17732 ай бұрын
“Friends”
@KairosOCD2 ай бұрын
www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4086156/
@KairosOCD2 ай бұрын
Interesting article on the subject here: www.newharbinger.com/blog/self-help/obsessing-about-choices-maximizing-and-fomo/
@MatthewDavis-p2p2 ай бұрын
If youre tracking your loved one its too far youre fucking creepy
@KairosOCD2 ай бұрын
Some people track loved ones out of concern, care, and love. However, it is easy to get obsessed with this and invent stories about what could have happened to them when you don't recognize a location, or their location gets turned off.
@KairosOCD2 ай бұрын
Moral Scrupulosity does not necessarily equal being more moral. Treating moral scrupulosity does not lead to unmoral behavior. Mostly moral scrupulosity causes discomfort and indecision for the person who experiences it.