My wife is always "too tired" even though I'm doing way more than my share of the housework and childcare. But she's never too tired to play with her phone. We barely have sex once a month, and only if I push for it. She hasn't initiated in years. We have no conection and no companionship. Some days she barely even speaks to me. I've asked her what she needs me to do make things better. She just shuts down and avoids me. It doesn't seem like she cares at all. I' feel like I've alreasdy wasted 10 of what should have been the best years of my life in this unhappy relationship. I can't go on like this much longer.

Happy Spouse, Happy House is a better saying. As always pandering to your wife doesn't make a happy marriage

So thankful for the 2 of you and all that God has shown me through y’all in the past few years. Random side note: Selena, your cheekbones/contour is beautiful

Thank you two, this was really insightful 👏🏾

This episode is rather boring as "better than ever" meaning is elusive. Ive been sex starved so much that technique is lost and i feel like i dont know what im doing. Also untreated vaginisimus means more sex starvation, not less.

But what if his provision isn’t enough. I would be lying to him. I’m finding it extremely annoying that I have to work to pay rent. And still homeschool and still do housework. The burden to provide is on me. And so why would I be thankful to him?

This is one of the saddest and most depressing videos I've ever seen.

I agree. Menopause changes much. Also parenting teen adults in a blended family.

Happy Spouse , Happy House is better. 🙏🏼

Evil doesn't want US to have the knowledge of the power of Prayers especially how to prayer correctly LORD JESUS'S CHRIST YEHOSHUA Continually prayer if its was needed and good enough for OUR LORD OF LORDS KING OFF KING'S OUR MIGHTY SAVIOUR HIGH PRIEST MEDIATOR INTERCEDES To do it its THE WAY We should be doing it He also Taught Us how to prayer yet another way he SHOW US THE WAY FIR HE IS THE WAY AND THE ONLY WAY and EVIL doesn't want You to have that person Relationship Followership friendship communication Walking WITH LORD GOD ALMIGHTY HEAVENLY ABBA FATHER JESUS'S CHRIST HOLY SPIRIT As Your started getting answers and okace them where they've belong under Our feet And LORD JESUS'S Still intercedes for Us So does THE PRECIOUS GIFT OF THE HOLY SPIRIT DWELLING IN YOU oh and when You learned how to be in Your Spirit (( not your flesh ) and Praying to The limits of Your understanding then lift thecrest up un tounges been HOLY SPIRIT LEAD oh How invisible evil spirit's principalities henchmen satan hate that HALLELUJAH GLORY TO LIVING LORD GOD ALMIGHTY HEAVENLY ABBA FATHER JESUS'S CHRIST HOLY SPIRIT HALLELUJAH Ps Everyone has the gift of THE HOLY SPIRIT and the gift of speaking in tounges ALL thoese that are HALLELUJAH BORN AGAIN BELIEVERS HALLELUJAH FAITH has to be Exercised Believe You can then ACT IN FAITHFULNESS and just Started speaking

Couples should make it a habit to pray together ❤

How is kissing or a kiss for 5-10-15 secs between spouses gross with all due respect that should be celebrated, a married couple happy and loving and showing it that should be celebrated, I know sometimes people be like ick or joking around like eww, it's special sure joke around and kid around, take I take this seriously it's precious and special, and to a point to take your dumbass comments and attitude somewhere else. It is precious and special and should be celebrated.

Just talk to God. No magic formula, no special words. No “agonizing in prayer.” Just talk to Him. It’s very simple and unambiguous.

That intro was great, you two make me laugh 😂

Havent even watched, already liked just because it's a great title! Excited to listen!

Hebrews 10:24-25 basically tells us "not to forsake the assembling of ourselves together" We as the church need the church we need each other we need to come together as the body of Christ and pray together worship together and here the word of God taught and preached to us

You could do weekends because on school nights you’d have to do homework unfortunately and you didn’t even have to read the word of God, but you could do that outside. Being separated right now that’s kind of hard to do!

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Is Selena doing Invisalign?

On the bikini coffee shop; if its such a real temptation, have yer wife serve you coffee in "whatever outfit" and lets get real. Dont stare, drive by dont be so dramatic. Sexuality sells. Just, dont go there. Realize the idolotry of it all. IF you wife is available to you in a big way, that coffee shop will not be a problem. If she is sexualy starving you, take specific steps to avoid those places in a starved, weakened condition.

So yeah on yer book...my wife got me your book because her lack of "availability " is my fault and I need to better communicate with her, right?

Thank you for sharing 🙏

Wrong scripture reference John 14:6 “I Am the way the truth and the life…”

Very good and much-needed teaching, but your editor was careless. "John 5:40" and "John 5:1-17"?

Sorry. I love pedicures. To relax, have them massage my feed and calves is awsome

Soooo true! Abram (AKA Abraham) was family-centered for decades. Over and over again, putting family above God got him into trouble. Finally, in Genesis 22, he overcame that and passed his hardest test. He put God over his family. He became the hero of faith that God intended him to be all along.

My wife hates me and yet tries to show her love by giving me my plate of dinner before the kids. Really though she hates me. 3 career failure on welfare and 35yr marriage. She hates me. Tries to point out "wrongs" constantly. Sex starves me 2wks and limits to one sex act and its not coital. (Untreated vaginisimus) she simply hates me, cringes when i try to initiate. She hates me.

I cant relate to the so called abundance of flirtation. I am a supposed good looking guy and i had a sales rep job years ago and saw and worked with numerous attractive women around LA. But i had no time to stop and go beyond flirtation. I cant see how guys do it.

This podcast sucked

I appreciate that you aren't afraid to be your real selves with us. Seeing you interact at the start of this video is encouraging! You demonstrated the surrender of your own wills to Christ that is necessary to prioritize the mission He gave you. You practice what you preach, & it is good. Praise God!

I don’t think you’re gonna get away from the cookie jar thing. And in that analogy don’t you think it’s nice for the person who owns the cookie jar to offer the cookies?

Love from Ethiopia 🇪🇹 ❤️ 😊

Loved this episode. Thank you for sharing.

My husband and I are newly-weds. We are both 43, and neither of us were ever married before. My husband prayed the best prayer on our wedding night. He prayed something like this, "God, thank you for letting us get married. Other people have wanted to get married and haven't had the opportunity to do so, but in your grace and mercy you let us get married." Wow... I feel so loved when my husband prays with me and for me.

I have never heard prayer is a response to God. I always thought it is a request, and God responds to our prayer with answers, fullfillment or miracles. How is prayer our response? Im thrown off, and I have been a Christian for 50 years.

Thank you. I'm keeping this video as something to show once Sarah and I are reconciled. Amen.

Great video. Lori and I have been striving to end the night in prayer. Love you two!

Good to see you two, again. And such a great topic!

after all these years my wife still thinks I'm hot - just the other day she was talking on the phone with her sister and when I happened to walk past her I heard her say - "what an ass"....LOL!

The wife did very well in this situation. However, she mis-stepped when she effectively told him it was his decision to make as she didn’t want him resenting her. He's already repeatedly giving her reason to resent him. His behavior leading up to that point indicated the choice he would make: status quo. The steps he took before have proven inadequate; some form of escalation on her part is required. Now she has the added struggle of going back on her previous decision to give him leeway.

I have heard some push back from women, in general, and my ex wife that the protection from temptation is not for both of us, it's just for the men. Because of our higher sex drive and physiological need for sex much more than women. Honestly, this excuse just feels like one from a selfish wife who has come to see sex as a chore rather than something that should be celebrated and enjoyed often - which means something else is going on, or not going on, in the marriage to lead to this attitude. So how does the protection of sex with your wife protect her from temptation too? Or is this just something the wife should be doing to protect her husband?

As a wife 29 yrs with this very same issue and as a first responder chaplain, biblical coach specializing within marriages and trauma recovery, I believe you were both SPOT ON in your advice, however… This is definitely a heart problem and the wife is staying at the end of her statements that she feels clearly dismissed after the fact that he has worked upon things, changes some things and sought ‘help’ due to his choices of remaining not just in the job but placing himself with the possibility of a female partner. He can obviously choose to be moved from that position/situation. I feel this is where she (wife) is expecting him to do that very thing. Why would he NOT. After all the said history of his transgressions. Ask for the transfer, position change, or be truly transparent to his bosses and state his case as to why he does not want to work alongside a female partner. Period. This would be my advice to said (wife). My husband chose to leave the dept. after volunteering as a ff since 18 yrs old, professionally paid FD for another 13 yrs and then back to captain of a volunteer FD for past 12 yrs. The temptations were always apparent and not only on his part but from female advances as well. This is a problem in highly traumatic circumstances where FD are prone to deal with trauma often and repeatedly. Now mind you I am in NO WAY justifying the wrongs due to ptsd etc… but it plays a role in said sin. The root issue is indeed the heart not the dept.

Thank you members of the Body. First time listener... I don't believe in respect... Love and Charity solely for respect has this awful "earning it" concept. Looking forward to other videos.

I got bait n switch on physical intimacy and many more than things. Sexual and non sexual intimacy is big for me It turns out to be he was hooked on porn n was spending money we didnt have at that time on it. I wish i could have divorced at that time but I was too young n naive no guindace. Would have saved me decades of pain n suffering

Adultery refers to sexual intercourse between a married person and someone other than their spouse. Fornication is defined as sexual intercourse between individuals who are not married to each other. Greek Terms: • Adultery: μοιχεία (moicheia) • Fornication: πορνεία (porneia) Here's Matthew 19:9 in Greek, along with a word-for-word English translation: Greek: Λέγω δὲ ὑμῖν ὅτι ὃς ἂν ἀπολύσῃ τὴν γυναῖκα αὐτοῦ μὴ ἐπὶ πορνείᾳ καὶ γαμήσῃ ἄλλην, μοιχᾶται· καὶ ὁ ἀπολελυμένην γαμήσας μοιχᾶται. English: And I say to you that whoever divorces his wife, not over fornication, and marries another, commits adultery; and he who marries a divorced woman commits adultery. The Greek text clearly states, "μὴ ἐπὶ πορνείᾳ'' (not over fornication). The term "except" does not appear in the original Greek text, indicating that it may have been added accidentally or intentionally later to alter the original meaning. This addition raises questions about the ongoing debates among Christians regarding the exception clause in Matthew 19:9, frequently interpreted as permitting divorce. If we consider the most literal translation, another meaning emerges. The translation states: "Now I say to you that who, for example, may have divorced his wife-not over fornication, which was punished by death-and may have married another woman, he becomes adulterous by marrying her. And the man, having married a divorced wife, he becomes adulterous by marrying her." So, the Bible version that includes the "except" clause limits divorce to cases of infidelity. If the wording is altered to say, "not even for fornication," it completely prohibits divorce, regardless of the circumstances. This would imply that even if your spouse is unfaithful, you would not be permitted to divorce them.

Listened on the podcast, but saving here so I can go back to it. Such a needed message!

what a backward way of thinking. all marriages in USA have state's default prenup automatically attached to it. your prenup simply overwrites said state's default prenup with your own. nothing unbiblical about prenup. there's nowhere in the bible telling you to have full trust in any human, including your spouse, in fact, to the contrary, total faith only to God.

Needs to move assignments. If he can not control himself in respect to respecting his marriage covenant, looking at porn, deleting texts, etc. He shouldn't be putting himself in the position with spending the might with a female other than his wife. Absolute same would go for the wife. Another thing would be in these types of roles, they need to stop treating members of opposite sex as pals or bros, just because they're on the same crew. I've worked in roles like this, I've worked with guys who've done this, as a married person you set boundaries. However, i believe overstepping like the guy did in this example is way too common in roles like healthcare, LE, FD, some corporate roles etc. It all boils down to this: you choose your spouse, you bound in covenant to them, you do not behave otherwise, ever. Full stop.

Hey y'all! Is there any hope of How a Husband Speaks/How a Wife Speaks being in Kindle format? We live out of the country, so shipping is difficult!

Hello, I have a question regarding this. Can one spouse take this cohort? Even though it says couples cohort. Thank you.