You're doing a fantastic job! A bit off-topic, but I wanted to ask: My OKX wallet holds some USDT, and I have the seed phrase. (alarm fetch churn bridge exercise tape speak race clerk couch crater letter). Could you explain how to move them to Binance?

Yo I’ve literally been saying this for years. Like “ugly” is an insult bc??? What your self-worth lies in beauty? I’ve always felt like ugly should be a neutral subjective term like the word fat. Just a description. Insults are being considered dishonest, hateful, boring etc. The fact that “nooo ur so pretty” is the first thing people say to women as a pick me up is so sad. Maybe instead of trying to reassure burn victims and people with neurofibromatosis that they’re the baddest b on earth we can lend them actual compliments: “you’re so curious, I love how you think” etc

At this point , I don’t even want to care about looks anymore. It’s exhausting to always feels like I’m never enough. Life is so much more than just looks. My personality and kindness is gorgeous, idc if people think I’m attractive or not. I just want to love me for me. That’s it.

The Jada situation is whacky. Tell me you have no originality without telling me

hi i have a perspective to share. i personally think beauty is afforded to those through of their humanity (and that's in the profound sense of the word). the idea that beauty/humanity *shouldn't* be afforded to someone, especially women, for their character flaws and moral failings has the potential to go wrong in many ways. because kindness and compassion are subjective, a woman of any appearance and any character has the potential to be harassed regardless of the severity of her wrongdoing. a woman could simply do something that is perceived as rude without intending to and be absolutely dogpiled with attacks on her appearance and this is justified because she has an "ugly personality." my main point here is that women are socialized to be polite in a way that men aren't. so when we uphold a standard for character it should be expected for men as well. *this isn't about jada in specific. i don't even know the girl/the drama. this is just for women in general: 15:20 the implication that "rude/mean girls = waste of face" really rubs me the wrong way because it directly reinforces the idea that a beautiful woman MUST ALSO be a sweet woman, a helpful and pliable woman. it can so easily be flipped around to push hate because as we know the patriarchal standards for a "sweet" women are inherently oppressive (submission). the pedestal itself is harmful, absolving her of responsibility, and possibly, redemption. attributing someone to the highest level of status and perceived perfection does not grant them the ability to make mistakes. when she does have a character flaw it's because "she's just like the rest". it's at it's core, anti-woman. it can be used to pit women against each other. being pretty doesn't make you more likely to be a mean girl, the patriarchy does, internalized misogyny does. like let's be real, attributing character to beauty shifts blame (beauty in the idealistic sense of the word). it is a power trip. if it was really about their character their actions would be critiqued first. that's why i like your point about integrity and honesty not being a prerequisite for support. that's an issue we all need to work out. i don't think you're opinion is wrong but i do think it'd be interesting to think about how it can get misconstrued. i agree in some ways. everyone understands the feeling of not physically wanting to be around or look at a person that's wronged them but where the idea gets lost is thinking that their looks ARE the issue. attacking those looks only creates shame.

This was a wonderful watch

i'm a male i just want to say that what may be true fact to some may not be false to someone else what may be good to some may not be bad to someone else, what may be attractive to some may be unattractive to someone else and what may be unattractive to some may be attractive to someone else and i also wanna say that looks matter to some and looks don't matter to some i respect open minded to everyone's difference opinions preference and point of view believes as well even if it's popular or unpopular i think nobody is wrong us having our own opinions and believes

I think also a problem is how society mistreats “ugly” people. If people didn’t treat “ugly” people like they were less then, like they aren’t worthy of respect, then being “ugly” wouldn’t be a problem

1:16 or it helps people develop self love.

my favorite thing about myself is that i remember details about other people really well. for example, one of my best friends is an artist, and she hates when people say she's talented. to her, it's a discredit of her hard work, so when i learned this, i changed my compliments. i now tell her that she's so hardworking whenever she shows me a new drawing or painting, and it means the world to her. i compliment people's personalities before i talk about their looks as well. i get so irritated when people act differently towards people they perceive as attractive vs people they don't. especially men. i grew up "ugly" until high school when i learned to do my makeup, and the way people treated me (on top of losing weight) made me so angry that the world seemed to open up to me when i was perceived as pretty.

Yeah pretty privilege is real, i get skinny and men start to notice me, but not the type of man that i wanna, I'm happy to get skinny cause i have some healthy problem, now my mom don't call me fat

I'm ugly and i not proud 😢

i love you

Statistics shown 84% had used photoshop it’s unbelievable when you get the same result without it

No matter how unattractive your face is, a fit body will pose you as gorgeous and physically elite.

Sometimes it's lowkey annoying, because I'm, maybe not straight up ugly, but definitely not beautiful, but if I just acknowledge that truth to people, I get gaslighting by people trying to make me feel better, I guess!? Like, no y'all, I have a very normal and plain face. It's been that way since puberty. I can use makeup, fashion, and hair styling to draw attention away from my face, and take pics at flattering angles, but at the end of the day, I'm not conventionally attractive and will never be and that's okay. (I do try to be a kind, generous person as much as I can.) I'm good at my job and hobbies, and I'm happy in that. :) IDK I've seen some african and hispanic girlies with the big lips, smaller nose and flawless skin IRL. Did you miss the BLACK IS BEAUTIFUL era? Si de note, love your locs BTW She's getting mad over someone doing Dragonball Z hair? Oh now that I see her page, she's CLEARLY an anime fan, so she's KNOWS she didn't invent that hairstyle smh. That's why good/ugly men have so many hobbies. They have worth in society that's not dependent on their face.

How does it bother someone if another person is ugly? Ppl just always wanna be in some drama

11/10 for mentioning Renjun. So on Sunday when we were all together for our early Christmas family gathering and my mom was reading out loud her click bait while doing food prep as she as wont to do, she read a headline about Lara Trump (but called her "Laura Trump" because I guarantee she has no idea who she actually is) and then interjected and said, "she's so pretty!" I was facing the opposite direction, thankfully, so she couldn't see my face, but I corrected her by stating that she is revolting with no musical talent. I keep thinking about this. Who cares about what that woman looks like when she and the entire family to whom she married into are a bunch of grifters who are some of the worst people on the planet? Bleh. But ultimately, what is more upsetting to me is that I’m thinking the depth of my mom’s understanding of this lady is that pretty = good, so that means that Trump lady must not be a horrible human being because she’s pretty. Throw enough syringes of filler and Botox in a persons face and most people could be pretty, so this lady doesn’t even actually look like that because she’s SO OBVIOUSLY full of fillers and shit (and no shade to people who get work done but like I’m trying to make my point) like so many of those republican tradwives are and I just can’t stop thinking about this horrible Christmas moment I shared with my mom. Basically all the things media was try

this video perfectly put into words how I've been feeling about beauty lately. It's so confusing because there should be nothing wrong with being ugly but yet I find so much comfort in the fact that each part of me is beautiful because it's a part of me, viewing yourself as beautiful is so tied to our self-love when it really shouldn't be, it's so crazy just how deeply intertwined the worship of beauty is in everything we do and the way that we think and the feelings that we feel. being ugly should just be a fact but at the same time beauty is so objective so is anyone really ugly to begin with???

I love this video sm

omg ive been thinking this for so long and I'm so glad someone finally made a video ab this

I think for me, ex-guy friends and my ex would call me a 4 or a 6 at most, knowing that I didn’t fit the beauty standard of a straight woman. But ever since I came out as a lesbian and I’m now decentering men permanently, I had multiple women flirt with me, compliment me, call me gorgeous and beautiful, and now I have a loving girlfriend of 2 years. Basically I’m a 4 in a man’s eye but a 10 in a woman’s eye. I know beauty is subjective, but removing myself from male opinions and finally giving the validation I craved from others to myself, I can create my own beauty standard, especially as a Black American woman who’s gay. My life is much happier also when I fill my social media feed with things I like such as happy black women, cooking recipes, painting, college inspiration, spirituality, etc.

I think this is an interesting conversation. Not finished with the vid yet but i want to add that i think the beauty standard is a very big deal for women especially, because beauty is the form of status for us as money is for men. Typically in early societies and civilizations women who were seen as beautiful had more privileges, usually were able to reach higher status through hypergamy, and were respected more which as a whole was very important because women weren’t always inherently respected and in some cultures they were seen as property more so. Beauty from culture to culture always changes, what doesn’t is the fact that it gives benefits. I think also as a whole, this is why today a lot of girls are conditioned to be consumed in their appearance. We are told our worth basically lies on it. Almost like for men they are conditioned to believe the man with money is the man with value.

I’m going to be watching this wonderful essay from time to time to remind myself of this important message. Much love 🤍

I don't think people have problem with those women getting pregnant. It's more who they got pregnant by. People hate more the father of the child than the mother. They even infantilise them by saying that they got trapped and stuff like that

I love the Amy Winehouse poster ❤

In my opinion, being in either way of the spectrum is really bad. This being "extremely conventionally attractive" or "extremely conventionally unnatractive" im thinking even about people who have been disfigured or born with a rare genetic disorder that makes them have a different appearance. What is the real blessing is to be average, really. Some studies have formed the "average looking" person woman/man in every country or etnithity, and the majority of people agree that that person is attractive. So like being average is seen as the most attractive face. I think in either way of the beauty spectrum, the people who are in the polar extremes are dehumanized in some way or another. Someone being so beautiful that they can be totally objectified, or someone being so ugly that they are demed as monstruous. My fave movies talking about this message are Shrek and Shrek 2 (they talk about a lot of things but this is one of their major topics of discussion). Beauty can be somehow seen as objective, but attractiveness is totally subjective. Just because someone is conventionally pretty doesnt mean that everybody will feel attracted to them and viceversa. Attractiveness goes way beyond what we can percieve with our eyes.

Before I was in social media, I didn't care much about my appearance, also I was younger too but I was happier. Most of the female bullies I see online are good looking which gives them the power to be disrespectful to other people because they have the privilege. Yet those people seem the ugliest by their behaviour. There's so much more to you than how you look. If your favorite thing to be is skinny what will you do when you age, maybe have health issues or decide to have kids? I got curious about the film A Different Man and will watch it. I can never tell celebrities apart these days, they all look the same. I didn't know about body neutrality which asks us to value our bodies for what they do, self-acceptance, existing without judgement in beauty. What if beauty doesn't matter as much as we think it does? Men have no idea how lucky they are when they're not forced upon beauty standarts by the society. My favorite thing about myself is I am empathetic, creative and supportive. Loved the video, I was surprised you have few videos! <3

a bunch of mids congregating 😂

I love this! I believe that true beauty lies in authenticity and individuality.

The spikes have been around since the Ancient Britons, but most of us recognize it from punk and goth subculture. This is just like when black people were going nuts about non-black people braiding their hair, when, again, people have been doing that for centuries.

"IM UGLY AND IM PROUD!!!" -Spongebob Squarepants

Hi Lani, Another well done video👏. My favourite thing about myself is I truly give my all to my endeavours. I value doing things well and giving it my best shot. It is funny though that I can think very highly about myself in terms of my internal qualities but struggling to do the same about my physical. Each day comes with its challenges but I think the root of my issues is as a black woman , i still didn’t escape the cruelty of racism and colorism even as a slightly light skin person (yes I say slightly because according to some people I’m not light enough to fit under the category 😂) and increasingly the beauty standard as an African and a black woman is to be racially ambiguous or at least have “Eurocentric” features. Anyways life goes on and no much one can do without venturing into dangerous territories.

This was so refreshing to hear, and honestly made me emotional - I realised how many things I've been influenced to do/buy under the guise of 'self care' or 'looking after yourself', but really just put importance on how I look (skincare/haircare/makeup etc). I think I'm going to approach these things differently now. There's nothing wrong with taking care of yourself obviously, but the end goal should not be to look nicer, it should be to rest/spend time with yourself. Perhaps I'll start spending less money on these particular products, and spend more time doing what actually relaxes me. I don't want to look back when I'm older and realise I spend far too much time/effort worrying about the wrong things. Amazing and really insightful video, I hope many more people see it! <3

Hmmm this is interesting. I think social media has created this system of trying to be exceptional or accepted and a part of the crowd and group think but my counter to this is just because you're not "pretty" doesn't inherently make you ugly it could just mean you are regular. I say regular cause I noticed a lot of people are triggered by the word 'average' which just literally means typical. This was an interesting video though lots to chew on edit: I like my curiosity

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Can’t believe you don’t have more subscribers and likes, I love your videos!! Ty for this one, all of them go on my movie night list

Being vulnerable never works for a public figure. The world is so brutal to every little mistake you make.

Tbh as someone who is pregnant right now. It is crazy how many people suddenly feel entitled to comment on every part of your life, body, & relationship in public alone. I hate the idea of being famous & doing this. Let alone a POC on top of it. I got lucky to have a supportive fiance, & the fact that I don't have to deal with any racial stereotypes being white. Instead of being so mean to the future mothers, lets make the men who are impregnating woman & then leaving held accountable. If a woman is a single mom she's seen as less than, picked the wrong guy they say. Then if they keep these toxic men around then it's that couldn't be me & telling her to leave. Woman will somehow always be at fault. But then when any of us point out the mans fault in this we are men haters. We point out the unfairness we are radical femmist leftist suddenly. I am conservative myself, a SAHM. It only takes hearing my best friends take (a black woman, my friend since childhood. She has had her mental health not taken serious, her schooling not taken serious. She cams out on top though) for me to realize that on top of our shared issues. She is less listened to than I am. My problems are taken more seriously. She found an amazing guy who loves her yet everyone keeps telling her to avoid pregnancy bcuz he'll leave or he'll cheat. That her life is over. The world will continue to make me appalled. It is why I barely stay on my phone long. It makes me just so angry tbh

This was an outstanding video 😊

This!!

Somebody has to continue the human race,🤷🏽‍♀️... better them than me! 😂

I disagree, black women should strive for marriage before a baby. I'm tired of us getting with disrespectful men who will dump a baby on us and leave. It's not respectability politics. Blk women have the highest single motherhood rates and Blk men are more likely to be absent fathers. We all know how harmful it is for the children involved. Marriage while it has its faults, it helps vet the men who are in it for the long hall and who are committed from the men who are absentees and have commitment issues.

This was such an interesting video, i think what makes us so invested sometimes is that we see ourselves in these women, there are already so little black female celebrities i would consider 'mainstream' and when fans see these women get pregnant - by men that are openly abusive or dont care about them -i feel like it scares us. Its almost like its inevitable to end up in that exact situation, when you see not just the women around you, but also women you look up all make eerily similar choices. I feel like it really is THAT deep to many people. But i agree, that we need to start supporting these black mothers. Make them feel safe and also validate their right to choose. We need to stick together and have open discussion around this topic!!

Thank you for making this video & doing the labor to educate us! - non-Black subscriber

Are black girls invisible?

Fantastic video. And great editing and story telling. New sub. 🙂

Chappell Roan seems like an incredibly pretentious person.

"Great filmmaking isn't about control. It's about connection" gave me actual chills. It's absolutely so so so important that people have stories they can relate to and feel represented in