roses in december
9:18
21 күн бұрын
a mutual enemy | keep it simple
9:52
21 күн бұрын
people need people | keep it simple
17:41
the groundless jump
9:34
Ай бұрын
i did not get sober for this
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@DavidG-y1y
@DavidG-y1y 2 сағат бұрын
I have just gotten my second in November. I didn’t take the breathe test so I will see how this goes. I was surprised the toe company let you take the car home, I had to prove I had a licensed driver with me
@THE-RED-LETTER-PROJECT
@THE-RED-LETTER-PROJECT 4 күн бұрын
I just had my 5th arrest for D.U.I. Didn't do FST or PBT, My attorney got it dismissed. I'm 42 years old, didn't give the state enough for it to stick. Say nothing pretty much. Good luck
@anikaelizabeth
@anikaelizabeth 10 күн бұрын
Hey Vanessa you are looking good.!!
@phoenixdavida8987
@phoenixdavida8987 16 күн бұрын
Hey. Also a Vanessa. Love to you.
@risk603
@risk603 17 күн бұрын
Happy Late Birthday.....!!!!
@estebanyepeztv4104
@estebanyepeztv4104 4 күн бұрын
God protect her.
@C-c-c34
@C-c-c34 18 күн бұрын
Very timely! Lately I’ve been feeling like light, lightness too but mixed with inner darkness/chaos. I know it will pass but I have to go through it. Part of this weekend was mind mapping my notes. A subsection became meetup style so I get it. Another section was from an advisor I follow, Ramit: 1. Start small 2. **Focus** on all of the things that could go RIGHT 3. Get honest about what's stopping you 4. If you want to start a business, put time **and** money behind it. 5. Embrace constraints. No expensive rent, no expensive inventory, low overhead! Full circle, meetup costs money but small groups sounds awesome and manageable and meaningfully led. This weekend showed multiple areas of my notes where it stops at purpose and higher aspirations… I can’t tell if it’s all connected yet but it feels right for the journey.
@ytaccount9859
@ytaccount9859 18 күн бұрын
Happy birthday! Love the idea of connecting with God, travel, and reflection. The persona fatigue can be real and nice to drop the mask
@ytaccount9859
@ytaccount9859 18 күн бұрын
Also oddly enough - I am 32, not sure what it is about this age that feels like I have to take it seriously. Very true that you have to do it for you, no other motivation or coercion or external pressure ever sticks
@ytaccount9859
@ytaccount9859 18 күн бұрын
Also re: social media - I also get the fatigue/anxiety/annoyed from some things coming at me on IG. However someone recently put me on to the Restrict and Mute features on IG and they have brought me so much peace haha. That and using Opal to keep it away when I don’t want it distracting me. Thanks for being of service with this channel and message 🙏🙏
@GregMacDougall-m3n
@GregMacDougall-m3n 18 күн бұрын
F.Y.I. Michelle Lee Neives has a KZbin channel and a private paid podcast for ''members'' where her guest discuses narcissist abuse recovery. If you develop a channel like hers, you can find what you're looking for.
@GregMacDougall-m3n
@GregMacDougall-m3n 18 күн бұрын
Many people are offered help, yet they don't take it or refuse to appreciate it. The people you've talked about helped you to help yourself, but in the long run-You Helped Yourself. You have a lot to be proud of. ''What's in peoples future and what's in peoples past is nowhere as important as what's inside of them''. Said by Ricardo Montalban.💯
@gisellekorsich3634
@gisellekorsich3634 20 күн бұрын
Happy Birthday! ❤️🎉🎂
@C-c-c34
@C-c-c34 21 күн бұрын
OK this one was really interesting. Three times this week. I’ve had conversations about authenticity and I felt like I had to defend myself. It’s interesting because I feel like part of it is masking. It also feels like it’s masking because if I was totally honest, it would hurt people‘s feelings.
@C-c-c34
@C-c-c34 22 күн бұрын
I followed all of it ❤
@awesome_john_dipiero
@awesome_john_dipiero 22 күн бұрын
Neat post . Neat book … Thank you
@awesome_john_dipiero
@awesome_john_dipiero 22 күн бұрын
Hi friend 😊
@GregMacDougall-m3n
@GregMacDougall-m3n 22 күн бұрын
To understand alcoholism better, on The Joe Rogan Show a guest explained that some people have a unique digestive enzyme that helps digest alcohol. As a result, they drink a lot and frequently. This often leads to them becoming Alcoholics.
@risk603
@risk603 22 күн бұрын
😊
@VanessaWhatever_
@VanessaWhatever_ 22 күн бұрын
Hi!
@risk603
@risk603 22 күн бұрын
@@VanessaWhatever_ Hello, I always smile when I see ya pop up
@ytaccount9859
@ytaccount9859 23 күн бұрын
I was having dinner with a friend the other night (who still drinks and I do not now obv) and she was debating cocktails or wine. She said “I’m going to go wine because I’m not really a big cocktail person.” I was so shocked because I thought about all the times her and I had downed cocktails all night and she was very plainly like “Yeah…that’s because YOU like cocktails.” It was purely my delusion that surely everyone wants to have 4-5 cocktails on any given evening, not realizing that I was the one actually instigating and sweeping them up into my chaos 😂 oh how different the world looks from this vantage. It was the same with drug benders or whatever the hell else kind of reckless behaviors I was projecting onto people subconsciously distributing the blame
@VanessaWhatever_
@VanessaWhatever_ 22 күн бұрын
haha that is exactly it, lol - its so wild how people get caught up in our madness, really! and we just keep roaring along, totally unaware of it until we sober up. that's a good story, thanks for sharing that!
@ytaccount9859
@ytaccount9859 23 күн бұрын
You are great at this! I am also a recovering people pleaser and hold resentment for people taking my “nice” actions at face value but then not reciprocating in the way I feel they should. Very much related to that.
@ytaccount9859
@ytaccount9859 23 күн бұрын
PS The world is so much better with you in it
@VanessaWhatever_
@VanessaWhatever_ 22 күн бұрын
It is SO hard to get over that! I totally relate. Haha thanks for sharing 🙌
@VanessaWhatever_
@VanessaWhatever_ 22 күн бұрын
*sobs* THANK YOU! and you, too! appreciate the comment :)
@Thesarahreneeshow
@Thesarahreneeshow 23 күн бұрын
Going to quote you on Sober living is exhilarating in the most anxiety ridden way 😂 so spot on
@VanessaWhatever_
@VanessaWhatever_ 22 күн бұрын
Hahaha, it is truly THRILLING in a terrifying way, ya know? LOL
@Thesarahreneeshow
@Thesarahreneeshow 23 күн бұрын
Haha I was going to say as a Sagittarius you probably love new things- then you said it! 😂 As a Gemini, I’m the same! I feel like it helps keep us present and moving forward rather than obsessing on the past or anxieties.
@VanessaWhatever_
@VanessaWhatever_ 22 күн бұрын
Hahaha totally! Oh wow, I didn't realize how much that is true, that it keeps us present and moving forward. Good insight!
@GregMacDougall-m3n
@GregMacDougall-m3n 23 күн бұрын
Where we are going in life is more important than where we have been.
@VanessaWhatever_
@VanessaWhatever_ 22 күн бұрын
So truuuue! Definitely agree
@GregMacDougall-m3n
@GregMacDougall-m3n 24 күн бұрын
''Love is the creative energy of the universe. When the whole world truly learns to love the Devil will finally be destroyed.'' Said by Ricardo Montalban.
@VanessaWhatever_
@VanessaWhatever_ 22 күн бұрын
beautiful, YUP!!
@EricWiseman-op9hm
@EricWiseman-op9hm 24 күн бұрын
Today is 56 days complete at midnight and it's been fairly easy not to drink until the last few days when he relapsed it has me very frustrated. And just quite upset because it's frustrating living with active alcoholism while I'm trying to avoid drinking. I don't know about him but I can't afford to drink anymore, whether he can drink successfully or not is up to him to know, or find out. But it's pretty darn irritating because he got drunk, plays negative music I can't stand, starts dancing and grabbing me. I was actually considering a drink but thankfully I can come in my room and listen to your KZbin lessons so thank God for that way to share recovery. It sure helped me a lot tonight
@VanessaWhatever_
@VanessaWhatever_ 22 күн бұрын
56 days is great! definitely sounds like drunk behavior, lol, which i have been guilty of myself. what a gift that you find it so repulsive to be able to walk away from a drink. thats amazing. hang in there, keep going! we are in this together
@EricWiseman-op9hm
@EricWiseman-op9hm 24 күн бұрын
Wow this share helped me a lot..my sober roommate has relapsed and is being really annoying drunk..I am extremely frustrated and there are no meetings this late. And because he says he relapsed because everyone at our meeting "knows his business, I don't want to call anyone in "our group"..thank you for reminding me alcohol is the enemy not this man who has this disease. I'm also planning to attend the 6:30 meeting in the morning. I was actually frustrated beyond words I'm glad your teachings are online to share recovery and a lot of your insights help me a lot
@VanessaWhatever_
@VanessaWhatever_ 22 күн бұрын
oh, that's a beautiful insight. i'm sorry you're going through that, it is still difficult, for sure. you can get through it though, i definitely believe in you and i hope he gets through it, too. hope the meeting was helpful! thanks for your comment
@guillermoaguirre7243
@guillermoaguirre7243 24 күн бұрын
Yes we have gain that fellowship from this experience in life, that reflection we get back from them is wonderful . Side by Side 🙌 . Yeah I have to start giving aswell . Thanks for showing up 😊 and your hair is okay. I have this awesome friend from recovery that always checks up on me and always says kind words.
@VanessaWhatever_
@VanessaWhatever_ 22 күн бұрын
I love that you have someone who checks in on you - what a gift! 🤍😊 haha my hair was pretty bad but thanks for the kind words lol appreciate your comment! thanks for watching
@ytaccount9859
@ytaccount9859 25 күн бұрын
RIP Sam Kinison what a legend
@ytaccount9859
@ytaccount9859 25 күн бұрын
That’s a very inspiring story about that woman who kept showing up. I’m going to hit a meeting this week. The last one I did I led even though I didn’t want to even share initially and it ended up giving me such a boost of motivation. A woman there told me my sharing helped her feel able to open up, she had a week sober (as I also did at the time) and she lit up after my share. It is so easy for me to get lost in the me me me my problems. Good reminder that giving to others is the path of healing
@VanessaWhatever_
@VanessaWhatever_ 22 күн бұрын
YESSS, Sam Kinison! So good. RIP. Aw, that is an amazing story! Yeah, others are definitely part of the healing. Very cool, thanks for sharing that :)
@Thesarahreneeshow
@Thesarahreneeshow 25 күн бұрын
This is a good one! I agree completely on the importance of being able to share everything we face when fighting against alcoholism and see that these people have also experienced those things. And I feel like in the beginning having people cheer me on really helped me heal the shame too. It was like wow, everyone here wants everyone to be victorious against this thing! So cool. Thank you for this!!!! Love you!!!!!!! ❤
@VanessaWhatever_
@VanessaWhatever_ 22 күн бұрын
Yess, exactly! Same here, definitely. Thanks for your comment and for watching, love you!!
@guillermoaguirre7243
@guillermoaguirre7243 27 күн бұрын
Thank you. 🙏 Yes people being there for people genuinely to building that trust bond is so healing. That desperation part is very true so relatable. Thank you for making me think better.
@VanessaWhatever_
@VanessaWhatever_ 25 күн бұрын
So glad it resonated with you, thank you for your comment! 🤍✨😊
@Justin_Gandy
@Justin_Gandy 27 күн бұрын
That was amazing! Thanks for sharing!
@VanessaWhatever_
@VanessaWhatever_ 25 күн бұрын
Aw yay, thank you!! 😊✨🤍
@ytaccount9859
@ytaccount9859 27 күн бұрын
lol “If more than 5 people piss you off in a day, it’s not them: it’s you”is so good. My first impulse when I get the big sad is to withdraw but I love idea of just telling people you’re thinking of them. It’s obvious when you hear someone else say it! Thanks for this.
@VanessaWhatever_
@VanessaWhatever_ 25 күн бұрын
It’s soooo easy to withdraw!! I totally get that. Glad that was helpful, thank you for your comment! ✨🤍😊
@GregMacDougall-m3n
@GregMacDougall-m3n 27 күн бұрын
@VanessaWhatever_
@VanessaWhatever_ 25 күн бұрын
😊✨
@GregMacDougall-m3n
@GregMacDougall-m3n 29 күн бұрын
''Good things come to those who wait, but not to those who wait too late''. Said by musician Bill Withers-1976.
@VanessaWhatever_
@VanessaWhatever_ 25 күн бұрын
Truuuue! 💯👏
@GregMacDougall-m3n
@GregMacDougall-m3n 29 күн бұрын
My story, over 15 years ago I did not want to use Marijuana, because I was afraid it might have a poisonous narcotic-hard drug on it. I used anti-depressants instead. After several years I was about 100 lbs. overweight, my A1C was +8.5, had Type two diabetes, my I.Q. was very low. Now I use high quality vitamin supplements, exercise every day, and I am physically stronger and healthier than I have ever been. Most people think I'm about 15 years younger than I am. I'm not an alcoholic but I give sympathetic to those who are and I hope to inspire them to become athletes. Also, animals don't use drugs, so why should I? P.S. How can a drug deal ''go bad'', when it was bad to begin with? Why do they say drugs get people ''high'' when all they do is bring people down?
@ytaccount9859
@ytaccount9859 29 күн бұрын
Lmao the cringe shares. It’s always funny to me how many similarities there are among alcoholics - I’m a huge self help junkie (no pun intended) as well. But opening my heart to God has been very very recent and it is still mind blowing to me how well it actually works. Where so many other strategies have failed. And it’s also true that I feel like the work is just beginning. Now that I’m sober enough to realize when I’m trying to control the entire world, I can take a beat before I impulsively act. Thanks for doing this series, it is reaching those who need it. 2 weeks sober (again) tomorrow!
@VanessaWhatever_
@VanessaWhatever_ 25 күн бұрын
Amazing! Congrats on 2 weeks 👏 and yesss, what you said is so true. Especially how well it actually works when opening up to God! It’s legit mind blowing 🤯 haha thanks for sharing!
@kathrynstiegler3362
@kathrynstiegler3362 Ай бұрын
Loved this reading ❤
@VanessaWhatever_
@VanessaWhatever_ 25 күн бұрын
Yay, glad it resonated. 😊✨🤍 thanks for the comment
@guillermoaguirre7243
@guillermoaguirre7243 Ай бұрын
😊
@VanessaWhatever_
@VanessaWhatever_ 25 күн бұрын
😊✨
@GregMacDougall-m3n
@GregMacDougall-m3n Ай бұрын
To compliment your self-respect and integrity: ''Shame is a terrible weight to carry through life''. Said by Senior Ricardo Montalban. He would know because he had none. 🌹
@VanessaWhatever_
@VanessaWhatever_ Ай бұрын
Yesss so very true thanks for sharing!
@guillermoaguirre7243
@guillermoaguirre7243 Ай бұрын
I appreciate you ❤
@VanessaWhatever_
@VanessaWhatever_ Ай бұрын
I appreciate YOU! Thank you so much for being here and for your comment 😃
@GregMacDougall-m3n
@GregMacDougall-m3n Ай бұрын
We live by the words we speak and here.
@VanessaWhatever_
@VanessaWhatever_ Ай бұрын
Yepppp so true! ❤
@EricWiseman-op9hm
@EricWiseman-op9hm Ай бұрын
Your amazing. I'm like so guilty of "shoving the program down peoples throat," which turned out disasterous for me so now I see I was playing God. You make so much sense
@VanessaWhatever_
@VanessaWhatever_ Ай бұрын
Yay, glad that made sense 😃
@EricWiseman-op9hm
@EricWiseman-op9hm Ай бұрын
Yes I'm very stubborn lol
@VanessaWhatever_
@VanessaWhatever_ Ай бұрын
😂 same!
@GregMacDougall-m3n
@GregMacDougall-m3n Ай бұрын
If you go as a guest speaker to some of the classes you've been to and are talking about in order to inspire others conquering alcoholism, what will happen?
@VanessaWhatever_
@VanessaWhatever_ Ай бұрын
Good question! 🙃 haha
@Thesarahreneeshow
@Thesarahreneeshow Ай бұрын
Happy birthday month!!!!! ❤❤❤ I love this topic- so good!
@VanessaWhatever_
@VanessaWhatever_ Ай бұрын
Thank you so much! 🙏🤍✨ I’m gonna see how long I can do this series lol
@Thesarahreneeshow
@Thesarahreneeshow Ай бұрын
@ haha I like it!
@baerster
@baerster Ай бұрын
“Sometimes being of service is just not being an ass.” I agree! Well said! Sometimes it’s OK to give ourselves credit for simple things.
@VanessaWhatever_
@VanessaWhatever_ Ай бұрын
Hahaha exactly! Sometimes it’s all we can do and honestly, that’s a lot lol 😂
@baerster
@baerster Ай бұрын
I’m very sorry for the loss of Tony Campolo. 😢 By making this video, you introduced his spirit and Red Letter Christians to me. I might not have heard of either of them without this video, and I needed to hear about them. My biggest difficulty with believing in a loving god is wondering “ why are so many religious people so judgmental and cold and cruel?” But whenever I hear about someone like you, it makes me wonder if maybe there is a loving God.
@VanessaWhatever_
@VanessaWhatever_ Ай бұрын
I appreciate your comment, I’ve had the same thought about religion and the way some people behave. 🤍thank you for your comment!
@baerster
@baerster Ай бұрын
I’m back in 12 step rooms after many years away. Addiction kicked my a## again, I am at the bottom again, and my home meeting is my lifeline. I struggle with God in the same way you describe your struggle many years ago. I hope I can find it as you did. Thank you for this video!
@VanessaWhatever_
@VanessaWhatever_ Ай бұрын
It is so amazing that you're back in the rooms again, you are stronger than you think, and you have the strength within you to find your connection to God! 🙏🤍
@EricWiseman-op9hm
@EricWiseman-op9hm Ай бұрын
10-16-24 is my sobriety day
@VanessaWhatever_
@VanessaWhatever_ Ай бұрын
That’s amazing!! Congrats 👏🎉
@EricWiseman-op9hm
@EricWiseman-op9hm Ай бұрын
But I've just recently begun to go back thru my 12 step process
@EricWiseman-op9hm
@EricWiseman-op9hm Ай бұрын
I did go thru the 12 steps from Wally p back to basics book in late March 2013. I did a 5th step with my sponsor at the time who told me not to reconnect with my GF because she was still using so of course I fired him and went back to her. Abd of course just like he said in 2016 I did relapse