When your family is excelling that is your win. You have a super power, no do not compare yourself to your partner. They do the best they can and you also do your best. Repeat in your head.

In relation to the conversation about the wing 1 conversation feeling like a brick…I think maybe it’s because that’s how it feels to receive that type of correction to me, so I assume that’s how it would feel for me to correct/confront others…hence the overuse of the metaphorical bubble wrap. 😊

I’m so glad I found your channel! I’m also a type 9 and could totally relate to everything you said, Beth. It is so exhausting having to always worry about others feelings and trying to monitor group get-togethers so that no one’s feelings get hurt (or so my family won’t embarrass me!). But I have to tell you my childhood story - so similar to yours. The summer I was six years old (1972), my friend and I were wishing we had some candy, but with no hope in sight of obtaining any, I had the most BRILLIANT idea. We found two grocery bags and started going door-to-door in our neighborhood. Although everyone was very surprised and confused when we yelled TRICK-OR-TREAT!, the sweet elderly folks all looked on top of their fridges and in all of their little candy dishes around the house to find us a treat. We went home with heavy bags, SO pleased with ourselves, only to have my Mom march us back around the neighborhood to return every last piece! It was so humiliating and I remember seething for hours in my bedroom (where I was banished) over not getting to eat any of that candy! 😂

I remember one of Richard Rohr's books the first I had read on Enneagram, he related an anecdote of when he said "shit" on a radio program and how he as a type 4 immediately worried what his mother would think if she heard it, whereas type 8s would said shit because it will offend people Being the type of person that responds to objections to profanity with "it's just F******** words get over it", that part resonated with me. Obviously there was more to it but I think being outraged that people are preoccupied with rude words more then how their words in general impact others is a typical trait of the type

Hi! I love the journals you've made but can't find the "buy" button 🤷‍♀️

I love the Christian perspective. Thank you Jeff. ❤ 😊 I also love the multiple parts in our psyche, and Beth you always soothingly explain it well 😊❤. I am excited to hear more about 2's.

Many 5w4s can be intensely emotional in their inner hearts, but they just don't openly show their emotions. 5w4s prefer to deal with emotions by themselves, so they don't feel the need to make other people know their emotions. When we talk about emotion, it's often about emotions between people and emtions based on interpersonal relationships. But the emotions of 5w4s are very private and very personal. Vincent Willem van Gogh is a 5w4, and he is quite like a 4w5. 5w4s can be good at facing their emotions naturally. 5w4s are usually not afraid of emotions. 5w6s are usually really emotionless in their inner heart. 5w4s are more interested in things like philosophy, art, linguistics and typology. 5w6s are more interested in hard sciences like math, physics, engineering and computer science, which requires precise calculations, quantification and analytical thinking. 5w4s are more curious and creative, while 5w6s are more rational and analytical. 5w4s can be interested in natural sciences like physics just because of curiosity, and they are usually not interested in highly analytical activities such as solving physics problems via precise calculations. 5w6s are interested in solving problems via analytical thinking. 5w6s are really problems solvers. 5w6s focus more on whether the knowledge they have is useful and lucrative. 5w6s are more practical, pragmatical and utilitarian than 5w4s.

I’m probably a 5w4. There are stereotypes that 5s are emotionless like robots. Many 5w4s can be intensely emotional in their inner hearts, but they just don't openly show their emotions. 5w4s prefer to deal with emotions by themselves, so they don't feel the need to make other people know their emotions, which is a little bit like Fi in Objective Personality System. I think 5w4s are more Fi like and 5w6s are more Ti like. When I was a little child, my emotions could be very strong. I cried whenever I felt upset.

This is such a fantastic outlet , may it find great success. ❤

As an astrologer I can see the enneagram is 💯 a mirror reflection of one’s natal chart. My personal belief is that my creator created this life for me and the higher powers are fully responsible for every positive and negative thing that happened during my childhood to shape me and the basic traits I was born with. So when feeling low, It’s so easy for me to remember, it’s not my fault, this is all a set up, this isn’t truly me, this is gods game and I can say no to the parts I don’t want to play. It’s like the matrix is for real.

I can’t even imagine having healthy 3 energy in my life only because God has yet to bring people into my life that would help me have that experience, you don’t know what you don’t know…but it sure does sounds amazing! Like a dream come true.

“Why can’t I just” , I get it, but for me it is more lIke I know the why or can figure it out fast but then I immediately rationalize it away as a means to accept it and find peace within the acceptance. Talking it out with the higher powers or my higher self always helps me release self criticism or feeling less then.

I’ve never had a desires to “shine” and for those who need to it’s kind of overbearing in a subtle way, so I’m like, dude I have no desire to compete with that energy, please let me step aside so you could just do your thing”

Here's my take on this as a 4w5 and a Type 4... I agree that our highest goal is to be our authentic self... unless we get there, and unless we're working towards it then things are okay... but most times, the authentic self is elusive because at some point, especially when we're younger, we don't exactly know what we want to be. Still, we know we're special... that endless search for authenticity is the reason why we like to detach and do a deep dive into different personality types and different self-help books... in the end, after a bunch of experimentation, we move closer and closer to the goal... the reason why we go deep in our emotions and why we feel depressed is that the search is most times futile... we get moody, frustrated, and even suicidal ... we understand emotions to the degree that we have found comfort in the arts as a catharsis for our pain and suffering.. we don't want to settle, so while the rest of the world have built their empire, we are on a standstill until we have found it... that's where the envy stems... our aversion to relationships is because we know that sticking by us requires a lot of patience... coz of the fact that we don't fully commit until we feel that it's authentically true to us, and that search for our purpose is challenging... this is our greatest flaw and defect... but once we find it.. then I believe we'll be healthy type 4 in relationships and life in general

Thank you for creating this wonderful guide 😊

They're 6 9 6w7 and 9w8

8’s are angry when rules are ignored??? As an 8, fuck that! Praise Jesus! 😂😂😂🎉

Oh my goodness! When you just said six’s are the most courageous I absolutely bust into tears! Thank you

OMG! How can you guys be so onest about your anxieties!? As a sx6 I would never speak about it.

Dude. Your vid caption. 9w1 here, and that 1w is 😳 😎

Enneagram is anti scriptural. Any Christian teaching it is deceiving their audience, or maybe they haven’t read the Bible.

Great discussion! Looking forward to the upcoming series

I don’t know my motivations yet, but through analyzing my past behaviors and thoughts I believe they relate to the core fear of 7s. Although, funny enough in childhood I used to want to grow up fast and get out of my home. I also felt resentment towards my parents. On other videos they describe 7s as wanting to be a child forever and not grow up like Peter Pan. In my case that was different. So I am in between 4 and 7. But I definitely also deal with fear and reframing.

I'm getting to book today. I appreciate this honest conversation. It's the first time I've heard a really honest conversation about this from Christians in a long time.

Thanks for this ... just ordered his book. Will there be a video series to learn with a group?

Hi everyone, we hope you enjoy the episode! We realized that Adam accidentally says the stress path of the type 8 is the type 2, but it is actually the type 5. The type 2 is the type 8's blind spot and growth path, while the type 5 is the type 8's stress and convergence path.

If I start being more opinionated and diligent can I become a different number ? Can we change numbers

Maybe nines are more tapped into their true self which is the soul and not the human experience. I much rather be meditating and connecting to god all day long. Why? Because it feels soooo damn good.

I'm a disaster worker and plan for future crises in our country. Type 6 working to make our world a better safer place!

is it possible to be type 4w5 and INTJ?

I am an 8 wing 7. This is the best description of the connecting lines that I’ve heard because it includes the positive and negative aspects of both associated types! Thanks. Spot on!!

Damn my w1 is so resentful, and also mixed with guilt. Guilt for doing wrong and rssentful for thinking my family had "abandoned" me and didn't understand how I felt while I understood all of them. Reciprocity is something so big for me, wow

I'm an ENFP and 32yo I can organize and find resolutions for others so fast, but I'm still lost on what to do in my life, cuz wverything I like, is artsy and still not financial stable and I fear being a burden to my family :(

Love this episode! I love the Inside Out movies and the picture they give us of the different paths. But I especially love how the Enneagram gives us such wonderful words to describe our different parts. Thank you both!

I love the energy of the six with the seven. I found myself laughing,, with you guys. 😂

Very informative. I wish though that the lady would pronounce words in full. It was distracting when the “g” left out practically every time it came up - imagining was, for example, imaginin

Wowwww great explanation 😊

Great episode guys! As an enneagram 9 my lines go to type 3 and type 6 so this was very helpful :) I've also named my parts and it is beneficial to name them and honour their contribution to my life - They are their own entities after all :) Thanks, Adam & Jeff!

How does knowing that you a low battery translate as "avarice"?

Thanks for lovely guidance ❤

Absolutely love your podcast and wisdom, Jeff!! Thank you for all do! Question, what is the blind spot of the Type 7?

This sounds exactly like 4. This is a big scam.

Hi! Thank you so much for this very informative video, it definitely helped me and I love the pacing of the video. There's just one thing I didn't understand, the term "gospel". I think you've used it a couple of times in the video, but I didn't quite catch what it meant or what it was relating to. If you could please enlighten me, thank you!!

Thank you for the video and carrying enough to post this. My wife, a type 8 with ADHD, asked me to take the Enneagram test, and I came out as a type 5. My issue is that whenever I express skepticism about the accuracy of the Enneagram, I’m told that’s exactly what a 5 would say! I can’t help but see this as circular reasoning, which contradicts my logical thinking. But I trust my wife, so I’m inclined to accept that I might be a type 5 based on her observations. Interestingly, she also encouraged me to get tested for ADHD within the last year or two. I approached the test thinking it might be a crutch for people to lean on when they fail. To my surprise, I scored an 80 on one of many tests, where anything over 60 indicates ADHD. The doctor asked how I manage daily tasks like not losing my keys or finishing laundry, and I explained my strategies-using AirTags for my keys and leaving laundry baskets in obvious places as reminders. Despite being prescribed medication for severe ADHD, I remain skeptical about how much it truly helps. As an INTJ-A and a type 5, I suppose it makes sense that I’d be analytical and skeptical about these kinds of assessments. Long story long, I suppose there is something to all of this.

Trouble identifying differences between Counter Phobic 6 vs. Enneagram 8. Would love to hear your insights on that problem, Jeff!!

I loved the banter about the self-pres 5. As one, I know I could live on a deserted planet as long as I had enough books!

This was so fun to listen to. Thank you both!

AC Slater grew up and became Jeff McCord.

Great video as always Jeff & Adam! Loved the insight about the head type :)

Hi, I’m Christian, and I’m an Enneagram 7…