I don’t understand. You don’t have to go through the pain of leaving the affair partner. Just leave your spouse and go with the AP. Spare everyone the drama.

Just a quick suggestion, spend the $25 on a microphone that clips to your shirt. Super easy to use and will boost the quality of your videos by 1000%.

Truth. We all think this is special, this person is so special/perfect/different, etc. Ugh. It's great until it's not great; they're not so great, and I'm not so great---we be humans. The bits and pieces of time together really are only the tip of the iceberg of that person (and me.) They don't see me in my torn sweat pants, old t-shirt, socks with holes in the big toe that I refuse to throw out. If they saw the real me . . . . .

U r brave to do this. I struggle to forgive cheaters.

Your always on point!

Affair partners are fantasy!!

How do you differentiate “being in love” with loving someone from a Christian perspective. I personally think the Bible has the best definition of love and it seems to me that every aspect of an affair directly opposes what love is. Isn’t loving someone simply willing the best for someone? I get the various greek words to describe how love is shown, but eros isn’t strictly romantic….it’s desire so I have an issue with people misunderstanding and misquoting the various “forms” of love. IDK, it just seems like two people in an affair are operating mainly selfishly and I didn’t think actual love could act selfishly. I’m coming at this from the perspective of a betrayed spouse and someone who has only ever committed myself to one woman (been together since we were 16). I just can’t imagine saying you love someone but not acting in their best interest.

Actions have consequences.

Stay single Kings. Women aren't worth it

Sorta been there, I still regret it😢

Translation: The Grass ISN'T....Always Greener....on the OTHER Side !

Karma.

If you are the betrayed spouse you should be able to ask anything about the others affair partner. That includes how was the sex and was the affair partner better than what you provide!

So, she would actually marry a man that cheated on his wife? That's what she wants in a husband? He has serious moral issues and would have done the same thing to her.

I hope he's doing better.

Why is it heartbreaking that a woman who cheats has to take accountability? Good for the guy for moving on from that train wreck. MGTOW

Heal from what? Sin your spouse need to heal not the cheater do what's right

Excellent content. Very real. There are many facets to this. Our world likes to simplify it to villain/victim. It's not simple, people are complicated. Not starting is wise, but we humans are flawed, we make mistakes.

What I find even more awful to think about is what happens when an affair leads to a pregnancy. Its like whether the baby is aborted or grows up in terrible circumstances, its paying the price.

I'm bipolar and still have never cheated in 25 years of marriage. I'm not sure how people can.

Yes, men with whom I've talked who have been the affair partner of more than one woman, have said that women have affairs out of boredom, and that they still love their husbands. Their affair partners were just for fun, and that they ended the affairs out of fear of being caught, hurting their husbands, and losing their husbands.

“ a troubled marriage” describes every marriage in existence at some point

They do all this things and take front row seats in church god will deal with them take my work

Morning my wife is in a relationship with someone and she says that she is a child of god im going thru a lot of stress and she just don't care

I never see u even wearing a ring. It’s a matter of time til you cheat again

This all makes it seem like an affair is justifiable.

Many reasons for those things to happen in reality .No matter the reason if you do not like to share and this is happening to you then break free quick and don't ask why this happened . Chase the future not the past .

Your videos are helpful for people not yet in affairs. I'm being tempted right now (the past few months), and it is good to see "the rest of the story," before it happens. Your topic is rare and valuable, and can help people avoid problems before they start. BTW, 63-yr-old male, married. In my experience, I'd say that almost everybody who is married gets tempted at some point in life, maybe several points. That's normal. How we deal with that is a choice. The allure up front can hide the chaos that comes later. Thanks for your work ; )

I thought the root cause was simple biology. Like physical attraction mixed with a genetic advantage to reproducing with a broader amount of partners. Thus the animal urge is always going to be there

Glad you brought up situations where the relationship has self destructed already.

The only victim is the third person who is alone. When you say when they discover it you lose you marriage and your life you say that your marriage is more important and that the whole time you take andvantage and use the third person.

I HOPE MY HUSBAND'S ADULTERESS FINDS THIS VIDEO. I am currently in a divorce because of this, and she's been harassing me non-stop!

After watching most of yiur videos how the heck can u deflect blame you cheated multiple times married your affair partner cheated on him like i hope you get help your insane no matter your redemption i hope you suffer guilt u ruined so many lifes

Im the AP in this case and it sucks!!!

Everyone of these are the reasons women use to justify the affair to themselves to make them feel like it's ok to do it ..

I am the betrayed wife. My husband had a baby outside of our marriage. I appreciate you for making these videos. They really help me understand him. 😢😮😢

What qualifications hsve you got, apart from having an affair to give others advice?

Women in their prime cheat their husbands before marriage while in college. Men cheat their wives I. Their middle aged prime during marriage.

Does this go for long term relationship that aren’t marriage?

Every affair is unique, every persons in it are unique. One size does not fit all. There are many reasons why people have affairs. There are no facts because they are all different.

Limerence doesn't last for years. Short term affairs or s one night stand can be gotten over wuth time and effort on both sides, but a long term affair is totally different. You've been living a parallel life. To me, if the spouse stays the marriage will never be the same again anyway. Nothing is Black and White, there are more Grey areas, and every affair is different. They don't follow a script!

SIGN #6. Your husband just put your lover boy into the hospital.

I dont know where people find the time. My wife and I are so busy with work and kids and entangled in the daybto day tasks that either of us would know right away if there was an unexplained absence or unexplained expense. Plus we work from home.

Woman cheat much more often than men.

I just don’t see myself staying in this marriage

I'd love to be your next affair partner. You look like tons of fun.

I am a betrayed partner. Just asking. How will i know if my husband completely ended his affair? What would be the appropriate thing for me to do in this situation?

What a courageous lady to accept your mistake in front of whole world, knowing the fact that this world is full of scumbags who will judge you,love you❤❤

There is no reason for an affair. End the marriage if necessary. If you are going through difficult times with your spouse and run to your affair partner. You are weak and belong to the streets.

what if he works with her?