The CURVE BALL we did not see coming
8:12
14 сағат бұрын
I'm still in SHOCK - What just happened?
8:22
I NEVER wanted this day to be over
7:48
This has been DEEPLY challenging
15:26
I CANNOT believe I did this
10:00
My heart is BREAKING
4:39
Ай бұрын
We DID NOT see this coming
7:57
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@ulyanalitovchenko100
@ulyanalitovchenko100 Сағат бұрын
Thank you for saying that at the end of the video, not many people do it! Have a good day because you deserve it.
@louise8752
@louise8752 4 сағат бұрын
Sweet Rachel, you know you need and deserve self-care for your body and mind. You will work it in and please give yourself grace when you make mistakes with scheduling. Are there others who can help you with appointments for Kyle-friends, family or volunteer group? I truly hope you’re on anxiety and/or depression medication and in therapy or seeking it. Your brain, heart and nervous system need breaks, distractions and rest.
@user-tu4sd4kp8o
@user-tu4sd4kp8o Күн бұрын
Oh Rachael I wish I could give you a big big hug and say everything will be ok Thinking of you beautiful girl and sending my love ❤❤ Michelle Australia
@thewomaninthewoods
@thewomaninthewoods Күн бұрын
I live down in park county and I completely understand the wildfire anxiety. I've been losing sleep over it this week. sending you a hug, girl. this week has been tough for colorado <3
@janetwilder6145
@janetwilder6145 Күн бұрын
Can't you take a respite, have a care aid come in to give you time to enjoy yourself for a day.
@rrichardson53
@rrichardson53 Күн бұрын
Wildfires have been brutal in my area and nearby communities in Oregon. Summer heat and fires seem to be intensifying greatly over the years. I wilt this time of year and feel so unproductive. You and Kyle are going thru so much. Sorry you missed out on some “girl time” this time.
@RocRocket-cl3vc
@RocRocket-cl3vc 2 күн бұрын
Hi Rachel. Oh no, carers back home syndrome. I get it too. Its bad. You go out all excited and get to come home, then you get pulled over for speeding…lost in your troubled mind or something like that. Boom home and depressed. The real issue is also still at home. You need real living friends to visit, but I understand you have the attention thing. That makes it almost impossible for you. That airport issue pushed you over the edge. This world is so raw now and it only hits you when you travel. I would rest it out a few weeks, then be motivated to snap out of it. Though it may be a process for your mind to recover. Regards to you and Kyle God bless. ❤
@williamoconnell4306
@williamoconnell4306 2 күн бұрын
Do not beat yourself up. Your plate is full, and you do such a wonderful job taking care of our son. Bless you!❤
@ilonaniinemae4735
@ilonaniinemae4735 2 күн бұрын
"Inside every one of us is a garden, and every practitioner has to go back to their garden and take care of it. Maybe in the past, you left in untended for a long time. You should know exactly what is going on in your own garden, and try to put everything in order. Restore the beauty; restore the harmony in your garden. If it is well tended, many people will enjoy your garden." Thich Nhat Hanh
@TheQueensWish
@TheQueensWish 2 күн бұрын
You’re not a failure. You’re a hero.
@ninaanetteassarsson4328
@ninaanetteassarsson4328 2 күн бұрын
You are pushing your self way yo hard ! 10000 step per day is not nessesary ! Slow down pls ! Take a short walk..just sit down outside, do nothing, just smell the nature and be ! Live in the moment not in the future ! You are not a robot ! Be nice to you ! ❤️❤️❤️❤️
@lindc1070
@lindc1070 2 күн бұрын
Dont expect too much from yourself. You arent living a normsl life with normal demands. You have an ongoing crisis.
@InsertAUserNameHere
@InsertAUserNameHere 2 күн бұрын
Are you sure he isn't disappointed for you instead of in you?
@stephaniegraham9155
@stephaniegraham9155 2 күн бұрын
🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻❤️❤️a day in the mountains does not sound silly! It sounds wonderful and healing and peaceful and helpful ! Nothing wrong with wanting that. ☹️❤️ sorry you missed out this time.
@2069Cal
@2069Cal 2 күн бұрын
Sending hugs to you……
@createwithlinda5181
@createwithlinda5181 2 күн бұрын
You’re not a failure… and you’re doing amazing sweety….take some time for yourself….🙏😘
@angeladenmark3164
@angeladenmark3164 2 күн бұрын
Rachel!!!! Caregiver's Burnout is Real!!!! Do not blame yourself!!!! You have a routine of three people!!!! Please contiue to share your feelings!!! They are valid!!!! Write a list of the things you can control!!!! Then write a list of the things you can't control!!!! Then you can set a "realistic" time schedule for yourself!!!! You are doing great!!!! I'm praying concerning the wild fires in your state!!!!! God Bless!!!!
@sharonantonio9122
@sharonantonio9122 2 күн бұрын
I’m so sorry girl. You are such a great person ❤️😘
@michellehollensteiner4643
@michellehollensteiner4643 2 күн бұрын
Do you have a pastor you can talk to or a church friend you can talk to? Please don’t beat yourself up for this. I love you and I’m sending you a big hug
@SimplyRachelOBare
@SimplyRachelOBare 2 күн бұрын
Thank you for the kind words and support. Kyle and I are not religious but we have support in other ways.
@michellehollensteiner4643
@michellehollensteiner4643 2 күн бұрын
@@SimplyRachelOBare Ok that is good to know and you’re welcome
@susanforget8133
@susanforget8133 2 күн бұрын
Blessings to you both
@SimplyRachelOBare
@SimplyRachelOBare 2 күн бұрын
Thank you 🥰🥰
@gvb1212
@gvb1212 2 күн бұрын
You have caregiver burnout. You can’t pour from an empty cup. Schedule time for yourself.
@SimplyRachelOBare
@SimplyRachelOBare 2 күн бұрын
Yes I very much do along with grief burnout of all the things happening in this world. I am trying to find those times for me but they are difficult to do
@theresapossert9781
@theresapossert9781 2 күн бұрын
You're a good person thinking of Kyle. The fire. Thinking of everything and not thinking of you. God only gives you what you can handle. You will get everything accomplished by the end of day. Remember God is right there with you. All day every day. Have faith ....
@SimplyRachelOBare
@SimplyRachelOBare 2 күн бұрын
Thank you for your kindness the rest of the day ended up being wildly insane and stressful and I’ll share more than soon. Taking a deep breath and hopefully sleeping deeply tonight
@Riptide1976
@Riptide1976 2 күн бұрын
I can relate. Ok. First of all stop saying you are failing. YOU ARE NOT!!!!! Any spare moment take for yourself. Kyle understands. You are going to get through this!!! You are stronger than you think!!!! Maybe set an hour aside everyday. Same time. Go for an early walk at sunrise and come back and do your tea and meditation. Meditation is key. I did not start mine yet. Keep thinking good thoughts. ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
@SimplyRachelOBare
@SimplyRachelOBare 2 күн бұрын
Your are so right I am not a failure! It’s hard when your deep in those emotions your blinded by it but that may have to be my new mantra!
@Riptide1976
@Riptide1976 2 күн бұрын
@@SimplyRachelOBare there you go!!!
@MaureenLumb
@MaureenLumb 2 күн бұрын
Try hard to not be so hard on yourself. You are allowed to feel all that you are feeling. Don’t hold on to disappointment in yourself and start the next moment fresh. You may already behave these in your toolbox…. Develop self care tools that take minimal time such as 5 or 10 minutes. This way you can be sure to do something that nourishes you when you feel you have no time. Also, do not let “self care” become a task and when not achieved you feel like a failure. ❤
@SimplyRachelOBare
@SimplyRachelOBare 2 күн бұрын
Yes yes yes to all of this I love it! I am absolutely no a disappointment nor will I care that into August! Fresh new month and carving out healing moments for me even if they are small!
@lorettamaddaloni7925
@lorettamaddaloni7925 2 күн бұрын
Hang in there u will get your spunk back
@SimplyRachelOBare
@SimplyRachelOBare 2 күн бұрын
Thank you thank you ☺️
@ruthsebastian4760
@ruthsebastian4760 2 күн бұрын
Take care Rachael. Praying for Kyle's healing and restoration. Praying for you too. Love you. 😘🤗♥️
@SimplyRachelOBare
@SimplyRachelOBare 2 күн бұрын
Thank you so much big love to you 🥰
@ruthsebastian4760
@ruthsebastian4760 2 күн бұрын
@@SimplyRachelOBare 🥰
@karendougherty1050
@karendougherty1050 2 күн бұрын
Please seek some counseling - a compassionate, competent woman who will help you work through all your feelings and issues. Please, please - you need it, you deserve it.
@SimplyRachelOBare
@SimplyRachelOBare 2 күн бұрын
Yes this is something I want to return to but trying to figure it out financially!
@frictionlessme
@frictionlessme 2 күн бұрын
❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
@SimplyRachelOBare
@SimplyRachelOBare 2 күн бұрын
🤍🥰🤍🥰
@Schleg969
@Schleg969 2 күн бұрын
Accept that times are quite extraordinary right now and NOTHING matches up to what it "used" to be..... Accept it and don't fight it and make time for what you can and say NO to what you can't. But ACCEPT... when you accept you don't beat yourself up.... "it is what it is!" .....for now. xoxo
@SimplyRachelOBare
@SimplyRachelOBare 2 күн бұрын
That’s a great perspective. I do think it’s ok to accept it as it as and feel the deep emotions that come with that. The grief that we experience and that it’s all in flow together coexisting.
@creatingalifeworthliving2727
@creatingalifeworthliving2727 2 күн бұрын
Did u mean that Kyle is disappointed for you or that he is upset with you for not prioritising yourself? I can understand if he is disappointed for you but I wasn’t sure if that’s what you meant. You are an awesome carer and all your focus is on him at the moment, meaning that you are spinning so many plates that you will forget things and get mixed up. Be kind to yourself xxx
@SimplyRachelOBare
@SimplyRachelOBare 2 күн бұрын
It was honestly a mix he was disappointed at the overall situation and in turn I took the brunt of that emotion. He is sad that every time I try to plan something, something comes up so it cannot happen. Sometimes we get frustrated and when we spend all our time together those emotions can be unintentionally put on each other. But I’m glad to have a partner that I can communicate with. Thank you for the reminder to be kind I feel much better in this moment but it’s helpful to process and let those feelings, thoughts and emotions out of me.
@creatingalifeworthliving2727
@creatingalifeworthliving2727 2 күн бұрын
@@SimplyRachelOBare yes, frustration can cause misplaced anger, especially in fraught situations. You are not failing my darling, you are doing awesome under difficult circumstances, yes it is disappointing but I think you are amazing. I am a single mum to two teenage daughters and I had major surgery nine weeks ago to remove half my liver, my gallbladder and reroute my biliary ducts as the doctors think it is cancer. Then I got double pneumonia 😆 My mental health has taken a dip as I was told I would get the results 2-3 weeks after. It’s nearly 10 weeks and I have just submitted a complaint (NHS waiting times). I can relate to the feeling of climbing a mountain xx
@Gigithehippie
@Gigithehippie 2 күн бұрын
​@SimplyRachelOBare Rachel, I'm 58 I'm a caregiver to my Momma, I have no life. I'm being very serious. I try to make plans, and some bump in the road pops up. Do I get bitter, I do I'm an only child no help, do I question why me? I do Kyle can move around and is somewhat independent. My Mom is not. You need to get out and get fresh air, you have too. I know you feel drained and no desire to want too. But you do not want to become bitter of your life. You can do this, you deserve the me time and quiet time to recharge. I wish you both love and peace. Sending healing vibes and light ✨️ 💛
@Mandaleighloni
@Mandaleighloni 2 күн бұрын
I’m so sorry you had to experience this alone.❤ so scary but so glad it turned around to be a great trip
@SimplyRachelOBare
@SimplyRachelOBare 2 күн бұрын
Thank you so much 🥹
@southerncaladygolfer8651
@southerncaladygolfer8651 3 күн бұрын
I had mentioned before that a family member was starting the Car T cell therapy at City of Hope. Tomorrow he will be having the infusion of his treated blood. I know this can be a difficult time so we are praying it goes well.
@SimplyRachelOBare
@SimplyRachelOBare 2 күн бұрын
This is amazing sending all the good healing vibes your way!!! 🤍🥰
@kimberlybentel7279
@kimberlybentel7279 3 күн бұрын
Sending good vibes that Kyle gets chosen for the Hope for Cancer trip. Great news too that Kyle remains stable and the surgery is not needed right now.
@SimplyRachelOBare
@SimplyRachelOBare 2 күн бұрын
Thank you we are staying hopeful on all fronts! Keeping the good vibes flowing 🥰
@jennymostert4030
@jennymostert4030 4 күн бұрын
Everything crossed for you to be chosen!!! 🤞🤞
@SimplyRachelOBare
@SimplyRachelOBare 2 күн бұрын
Thank you thank you we appreciate it 🥰
@annfredriksson4890
@annfredriksson4890 5 күн бұрын
Good luck..❤
@SimplyRachelOBare
@SimplyRachelOBare 2 күн бұрын
Thank you so much!
@mariannaplummer534
@mariannaplummer534 5 күн бұрын
Have you contacted Sloan Kettering in NY? You should.
@SimplyRachelOBare
@SimplyRachelOBare 2 күн бұрын
We haven’t but have it in our back pocket for the future!
@kathyhelmold7358
@kathyhelmold7358 5 күн бұрын
You two are the definition of hope and perseverance❤❤ how to keep pushing. Prayers🙏🏼🙏🏼
@SimplyRachelOBare
@SimplyRachelOBare 2 күн бұрын
🥹🥹 this is so kind! Kyle truly is the guiding light and the reminder that good is everywhere!
@Gigithehippie
@Gigithehippie 5 күн бұрын
Good vibes and sending healing prayees always good news in my opinion ❤
@SimplyRachelOBare
@SimplyRachelOBare 2 күн бұрын
Yess very good news and we appreciate your love and healing 🤍🥰
@lindc1070
@lindc1070 5 күн бұрын
Sounds like a good plan to wait and see.
@SimplyRachelOBare
@SimplyRachelOBare 2 күн бұрын
Yes the waiting is a bit scary I won’t lie but trusting this journey and Kyle’s ability to heal
@lindc1070
@lindc1070 2 күн бұрын
@@SimplyRachelOBare I get what you mean. Life with cancer is living from scan to scan
@ruthsebastian4760
@ruthsebastian4760 5 күн бұрын
You both are so positive and resilient inspite of all that life throws your way. Truly inspiring. Praying for Kyle's healing and restoration. Both of you take care. Love you both 😘🤗🙏
@SimplyRachelOBare
@SimplyRachelOBare 2 күн бұрын
🥹🥹🤍 thank you so much that means truly so much we can feel the love and send you our love
@Moon52171
@Moon52171 5 күн бұрын
Could you do a 'go fund me' so we could help fund treatment?
@SimplyRachelOBare
@SimplyRachelOBare 5 күн бұрын
Thank you so much this means more than you know! Our GoFundMe in linked in the description of this video and all previous video 🥹🥰
@lizlogsdon6441
@lizlogsdon6441 4 күн бұрын
@@SimplyRachelOBarethanks for link! I’ll give a small amount in August, hopefully everyone will give! Love, Liz❤❤❤
@SimplyRachelOBare
@SimplyRachelOBare 2 күн бұрын
Thank you so so much this means more than you know 🥹🥹🥰
@frictionlessme
@frictionlessme 5 күн бұрын
I feel like this is all great news. I'm thinking you both look so healthy. Kyle seems to look much better. His color is good! I'm going to be praying this way. Thx for the video!!
@SimplyRachelOBare
@SimplyRachelOBare 2 күн бұрын
Thank you I agree he is looking wonderful these days and hoping all that goodness and hope 🥰
@conniec5257
@conniec5257 5 күн бұрын
I am so sorry for your loss. My husband and I lost 2 dogs 1 week apart in 2021. I cried for 5 solid weeks. We got another fur baby to love but your heart never forgets.
@SimplyRachelOBare
@SimplyRachelOBare 2 күн бұрын
I am so so deeply sorry for your loss my heart breaks for you! I understand getting another fur baby and we are thinking we ready for one ourselves!
@gailobrycki2978
@gailobrycki2978 5 күн бұрын
Anecdotal reports of Ivermectin having affect on cancer cells. Have you explored this option?
@ayasha89games66
@ayasha89games66 5 күн бұрын
How does one get ivermectin? My mother in law is supposedly cancer free now but I'm wondering about it in case it returns.
@gailobrycki2978
@gailobrycki2978 5 күн бұрын
@@ayasha89games66 thats a good question. Do your research, may be some docs who are prescribing it off label.
@AussieTracy
@AussieTracy 3 күн бұрын
I am sure if the Oncologists thought Ivermectin would kill cancer they would be using it. Ivermectin is an antiparasitic drug used to treat several neglected tropical diseases, including onchocerciasis, helminthiases, and scabies. Some topical forms of ivermectin are approved to treat external parasites like head lice and for skin conditions such as rosacea. Stop recommending things to people when you are not a doctor.
@kyleoconnell1
@kyleoconnell1 5 күн бұрын
I love you! You are sure getting your bases covered! And yes, I didn't re-evaluate, but after I did, I agreed! Did I mention I love you!
@SimplyRachelOBare
@SimplyRachelOBare 2 күн бұрын
Yes we are getting our bases covered and healing is happening 🥰 love you big my love
@MFF901
@MFF901 5 күн бұрын
Prayers for you both 🙏 I do pray you get selected for the Hope for Cancer trip 🙏 😊 Your Chinese herbs are the best medicine stick with them ❤ Tfs blessings from Florida 🙌🌴🌴
@SimplyRachelOBare
@SimplyRachelOBare 2 күн бұрын
Thank you so so much we are keeping that hope and optimism alive!! We will know tomorrow 😬
@lorettamaddaloni7925
@lorettamaddaloni7925 5 күн бұрын
U guys are so great u have a plan and an awesome outlook u will beat this Chinese herbs do wonders for healing keep it up❤
@SimplyRachelOBare
@SimplyRachelOBare 2 күн бұрын
Thank you so so much healing is happening in every moment!!
@sparklecatcher1772
@sparklecatcher1772 6 күн бұрын
You are both beautiful and wise. You restore my faith in human nature and I am delighted to have 'met' you. Sending all the love and healing I can muster from London, England xx ❤xx
@rhondahelfrich2563
@rhondahelfrich2563 6 күн бұрын
Hi you sweetie pies 💕
@Schleg969
@Schleg969 6 күн бұрын
prayers!