Thank you! Especially for your honesty about yourself - lived experience counts for much more than 'good ideas' :-)

Thanks. I've taking prescribed psychiatric meds for 45 years off and on .mirtazapine took in1997,made me so tired ,sleepy, almost couldn't get up for work. Legs were sore. Appetite greatly increased, Felt out of control. 2 yrs. ago tried 10mg to help sleep and depression. It helped and then developed a side effect. I hate go off of it.

Advice that I’m sure comes naturally to most parents yet makes absolutely no difference to a lot of teenagers struggling with mental health issues. Sorry, we have not found this approach very useful at all.

A fantastic insight into co-regulation! Glad to have found your channel

I found your ideas for stimulating when we are at the bottom of the window (smell, taste, sound) to be very useful! thank you

The tragedy is that some parents don't want their children to feel empowered, Because they've grown very comfortable in an authoritarian & domineering role in the lives of their children. Neuro diverse people should not have to adapt to the abnormal neuro typical world, Honestly we have so many other things to try to keep track of & remember just to get through our day. It's such maladaptive thinking, that neuro typical people judge us based on our inability to adapt to them when they should be the ones adapting to us. Neurodiverse people can't help the brains we were born with, We can't just change our brain chemistry for the comfort & convenience of the "normals"🙄

It's also worth exploring the possibility of Emetophobia, (an extreme fear of vomiting that is very common but seldom considered by doctors or family members) Some signs are 1. Having a very restricted list of safe foods 2. limiting or eliminating social eating 3. overcooking things to make certain they are cooked all the way through 4. Obsessive cleaning & disinfecting 5. Over-washing their hands or avoiding plains, trains, boats or amusement park rides. 6. Avoiding being a passanger in a car if motion sickness is a possibility. It can lead to social isolation & really compromise the quality or integrity of relationships due to fear or shame) 7. Fear or morning sickness in pregnancy or avoiding pregnancy altogether. It could also be Sensory processing disorder, where certain textures or smells are absolutley revolting to the the individual. A person may also have an extremely controlling or mean spirited mother who insists that her daughter live up to her impossible standards, that could also contribute towards an unhealthy relationship between her daughter & food or her son & food, Doctors typically don't consider things like that, they foolishly assume, that all parents have their children's best interest at heart, but sadly that simply is not true, Especially if the Doctor finding out the truth, could potentially paint the mother in a bad or negative light.

Thank you for the valuable information this will help me a lot. 😊❤️

PS - as a knitter, I couldn't stop staring at your cape the whole time. The cables and color are so lovely and it has a wonderful drape! Just looking at it I can feel that warm wool hug feeling, and I bet it has a soothing weight to it too ❤

I am scheduled for two EMDR sessions at the end of the month. I was well and my therapist had talked about graduating me, and then I made a heavy backslide recently. I am hopeful but nervous that maybe I will be too numb or fearful, or if maybe the treatment plan is too brief or not robust enough. I had no idea what to plan for for follow up, and would love some advice (regarding sessions especially), but I'm also scared to look up too much and over-intellectualize the process and go through the motions but remain disconnected. 😅

The hair color was the biggest hint.

I would add that it would be better to record verbal instructions on a mobile phone for example so it can be replayed back as many times as I wish. Alternatively, or in addition to, writing notes on hearing (if you can do so)

Just can't get my poor old self together I'm weary all the time

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Because there’s always the other side with all the tens of thousands of people that took it and it destroy their lives and left them with CNS damage that is severely protracted. These drugs can cause demonic withdrawal symptoms for alot of people. Benzos and AD are poison for many. I still have akathisia nearly 10 years after stopping Mirtazapine. It’s a suffering you can’t conceive of. Be very careful with these drugs.

This was great! Thanks Pooky. I think these things help even now where my family is all much older, and more recently reunionizing, in new changes all getting closer in proximity to our extended family on all sides. I think all of us for the most part are neuro divergent, in various ways. This is some stuff it's taken us all many years to catch on to, in family meeting type situations the most. Having some good one on ones through these last few weeks. ❤

Cheers , I felt very sympathetic with my own process

Realistic. Only people with anxiety and depression know how exhausting it can be. It sucks all your energy. ❤

I suffer schizoeffective ptsd severe anxiety panic attacks insomnia mood dosorder my physctrist prescribee mirtazapine 15 mg i have a history of seizures mania and dizzy and fainting and gaining weight

I did not realize the thumb was a finger?

i'm 23 years old and have suffered from awful anxiety, heavy depression and cptsd for quite some time. it all came to a head a few months ago when i was very suicidal and i finally had to go to the doctor. he prescribed me 7.5mg of mirtazapine back in february and i've tried to take it as consistently as possible. well, i just passed the two month mark (when you're supposed to feel the full effects) and i realized the other day that i just felt...better. it was like the volume of the frantic, frenzied energy in my brain was lowered. i've been cooking in the kitchen again, making art pages again, reading again. i just did some yoga outside and the trees look greener. i feel happy and when you mentioned how you felt a similar feeling while walking your dog, i felt that at my core. i used to be very anti-meds but my brain was just so tired of fighting all alone. i'm glad i got some help.i don't know how it'll be coming off of it, but i know that for now, i'm feeling better than i have in a long time.

I feel and im not safe in this Deep discusting studio

Pooky, thank you for sharing your experience, it has touched me deeply. How are you doing now? I'd love to hear. I'm in my 50s and just now realizing that all the failures (career-wise) have been affected by my childhood trauma,. I made it through my 30s and 40s, but my drinking increased heavily, I didn't know I was drowning my feelings. I knew I had a rough childhood, but I didn't think it had affected me in any way at all, until a lot of feelings and flashbacks started surfacing at work, especially during meetings with my boss or conflicts (especially conflicts) with other women. I walked out of jobs, (literally walked out, and just said, fuck it, I'm outta here). I couldn't handle it emotionally. I have felt like a failure in my career, especially in my 50s. Through my therapist and talking, I have been able to get to the root of the trauma, abandonment, and rejection from the time I was born, The situation was worsened when my mother had to leave me (8) and my sister (9) who was disabled, behind to go another country to get a job so we could eat. we were left with people unknown to us, that were horrible to me and my sister. I had no voice. nothing. 5 years later, Mother came for us, but apparently, the damage in me was already done. I really thought I was fine, and I never held it against her, I never hated her for leaving us behind, I am grateful. But now, all this crap is surfacing and impacting my work life. I will be starting EMDR this month, I'm excited about addressing this and putting it behind me, but also super scared. I just hope to live the rest of my life in peace. I've heard people say, just move on, is in the past, just stop drinking!! but those wounds are so deep, and now I have a deep understanding of what childhood trauma is. 😞

Has anyone experienced mitraxapine affecting periods ?

Thank you! A friend of mine did EMDR in another city over a year ago but never said much about it other than it helped her. How do you take care of yourself before and after EMDR? How do you explain a month of being unavailable while going through EMDR (or is it a month after EMDR?) My childhood trauma didn’t involve sexual abuse, and when I think about it, it’s hard to find the right words to explain it. I think it would be hard to think of one childhood memory in particular to focus on for EMDR. (Wow-just thought of one). Im not currently working with a therapist but I’ve tried many types of therapy & counseling over the past 40+ years (since my early 20’s). My own childhood trauma never came up much due to other issues I was trying to cope with at the time. But lately I’ve been feeling quite lost, vulnerable, and wanting to withdraw from life more & more. What steps do you suggest I take to find a therapist whose main interest and expertise is working with adults dealing with childhood trauma issues? What questions do you suggest I ask? Again, THANK YOU so much for this video!

ive been drinking a lot lately. i dont eat food. my husband gets mad a i dont eat he also calls me every name you can think of. and i dont deserve it. . but i also have a roll on my belly from drinking and he calls me fat. ive lost 30 pounds in the last few months. i dont think he likes me any more. he makes fun of my blue eyes and blonde hair. ive had 4 kids. im trying. he wont let me join the gym. i really dont eat. i feel like crap. weak.

If you do any more videos about autism, please bear in mind that autistic people become adults that might try to learn about themselves through videos like these (like I am right now). Autistic adults may be severely underrepresented in the medical literature, but we absolutely exist. It's not just parents and friends of autistic people who have use for these channels, and to speak only to people that interact with us instead of the people you're talking about is to infantilize us and to practically exclude us from the conversation. I believe that you do care, which is why I write this comment as constructive criticism. Having said that, thanks for making this informative video, it's served as the first stepping stone for my understanding of my own shutdowns.

How do you get into a habit and routine of saying them to yourself? I really struggle at times to develop new routines.

Thank you so much!!

I l0ve classical music b/c my favorite place in the world- a resort in VT my family goes to every year- always played classical music. So when I hear classical music I feel like I'm on vacation in Vermont. ❤

I am also legally blind so when I wear my hat and sunglasses in Walmart I don't feel so self conscious abt it. So if you're feeling self conscious abt wearing sunglasses indoors just think that if legally blind ppl can do it then you can too! :)

I am fully convinced EMDR saved my life and I highly recommend The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel Van der Kolk. You are absolutly delightful to listen to, so thank you for the not just the subject matter but for the wonderful presentation.

Ooh you forgot one marbles and mash

I’m autistic too and I need to get me hands on a fidget toy for university

Holy speed talking, Batman! Slow down and breathe!

Thank you! 🤗

All this is good stuff. These are the things I think that got me through, all the other tedious stuff at school. I don't know if I would've gotten to experience as many of these things or as many different public schools if I we didn't just live along the road in a caravan type situation. I'm feeling so lucky to have gotten to do so many of these things. So many wonderful trees. 💕

When you even say hello bilateral-way ;).

Any thoughts on addiction and EMDR? Thank you!

It doesn't work for me. I did all 3 and I find relaxed for a few minutes and then my mind drifts back into what was actually troubling me. Can you give any advice?

The hair thing! BEWARE During intense intrusive thoughts, Plucking your hair can be a thing and it does become addicting and manifest in disorders like Trichotillomania. Suit yourself !

brilliant thank you :)

Wonderful presentation!

Funny and IMO accurate. Subscribed.

Extremely helpful information for the child as well as adults.

The good thing is, that your therapist suggested yhat You were ON the train, not near it. Just a question how to get on and off safety. 😅 Thank You for sharing this

Whats an example of how the PTSD effected you on the day to day.

How accurately explained ! Well done you 🕊️🕊️🕊️

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