such an amazing man

Happy New Year, Edwin ! Its great to hear this video memory today. I wonder how this method is continuing in school cultures now. Are there follow ups? Peace circles,and your work, Edwin. It was new then. So much has happened since.I like hearing this now!

Fantastic talk, even all these years later. Thank you!

Thank you 😊

The unexpected outcome of the school experiment in Northern Ireland is consistent with research on the hormone oxytocin which stimulates empathy and in - group favoritism or "empathy for the ingroup."

I just re-watched this video and found it a reminder of how active listening and empathic listening is more important than ever to practice and learn.

What a fascinating conversation! Absolutely brilliant! Thank you for sharing..

Having encountered Terrence Real and Thomas Hubl's work before seeing this, I have to disagree with Noll who says there are no therapeutic skills that can translate to a relational context (about minute 37.00). Maybe these two practitioners came after Noll's work. But I also feel that Noll's work is best for practical applic ation, such as mediation, with strangers and distant relationships. To really move into intimacy will require a deeper, and more extended practice of togetherness - not just deescalating conflict. Noll's method is a great first step, even in intimate relationship, but you have to keep going to develop intimacy. Real's work is called Relational Life therapy. See his book, Us. Thomas Hubl is working toward emotional awareness, making space for other's emotions within us, and collective healing. See his book, Attunement. I would say that all three of these specialists are getting to our brain's hardwiring for co-regulation, each in their own way and their own words. Thank goodness we have this capability built in and that we are beginning to understand how necessary and powerful it actually it. I'm not sure that Rutsch picked up on Noll's central argument about the ineffectiveness of political leader empathy circles. Noll was trying to state that the leaders will of course behave empathically in a container, but as an individual who thrives on empathy like any other. This will not translate directly to all the people they represent afterwards. Change moves in the other direction, from the bottom up. The political leader is just riding the wave, not making the wave. They opportunistically step in front of the movement after it is already in motion. They do not generate the movement. If a leader were to go back to their constituents/followers and present a contrasting or alternate idea from their followers, they would be removed from their position rather than move the positions of their followers. It's an individual shift that can only happen on an individual level. More people making this shift to empathy, attunement, and emotional intelligence/awareness - or consciousness, will create the collective shift Rutsch is seeking and working for. See Eckhart Tolle's work on collective consciousness, A New Earth.

Maryam Sakeenah's Us versus Them and Beyond is an insightful and thought-provoking exploration of contemporary social divides, particularly those rooted in cultural, religious, and ideological differences. Through her nuanced approach, Sakeenah examines the complex dynamics that drive people towards an "us versus them" mentality and seeks pathways toward bridging these divides. Her work challenges readers to question the biases, historical wounds, and collective insecurities that fuel polarization and offers a hopeful, humanistic vision for fostering greater understanding. 1. Themes and Analysis a. Identity and Polarization Central to Us versus Them and Beyond is the theme of identity and how it shapes the boundaries we draw between ourselves and others. Sakeenah argues that much of the polarization in the world today stems from an entrenched desire for self-definition, often achieved by distinguishing oneself against an "other." This othering process fosters exclusion and hostility, breeding cycles of alienation and misunderstanding. Sakeenah’s exploration of identity demonstrates how it can be simultaneously empowering and limiting, as it provides a sense of belonging yet also risks restricting our perception of others. Her critique extends to how identity is politicized in both local and global contexts, examining how religious, national, and cultural identities are often weaponized in political discourse to manipulate public opinion. The notion of identity in her work is presented not as a static or intrinsic marker, but as a fluid construct that can evolve beyond rigid boundaries. Sakeenah challenges readers to rethink identity as something that connects, rather than divides, people-a potential path toward unity rather than division. b. The Role of Media and Narratives One of the most insightful parts of Sakeenah’s critique lies in her examination of media’s role in perpetuating the "us versus them" mindset. She contends that the media, through selective storytelling and sensationalism, reinforces divisive narratives that pit groups against each other, often exacerbating fear and misunderstanding. This aspect of the book is particularly relevant in an age dominated by 24/7 news cycles and social media platforms, which can amplify divisive content and create echo chambers. Sakeenah calls for a more responsible media approach, one that promotes balanced narratives and encourages audiences to consider multiple perspectives. She emphasizes that narratives should be tools for empathy, rather than instruments of division. By addressing the media’s power to influence public perception, she offers a critique that is both timely and necessary, urging individuals to be more critical consumers of information. c. Religion and Misinterpretations In her exploration of religious divides, Sakeenah addresses common misconceptions about Islam and Muslims, aiming to dispel stereotypes and foster a more nuanced understanding of the religion. She discusses the impact of Islamophobia on Muslim communities and highlights how fear and misunderstanding lead to generalized and often harmful assumptions. Sakeenah's perspective as a Muslim herself lends authenticity and depth to her analysis, providing readers with an insider's view on the challenges Muslims face in contemporary society. Beyond defending Islam, however, Sakeenah’s critique extends to the broader tendency within societies to misunderstand or oversimplify complex religious identities. She argues that religious differences, rather than being obstacles, can be sites of shared values and mutual enrichment. Her approach to religious diversity is one of respect and openness, advocating for interfaith dialogue as a means to bridge cultural and religious divides. d. The Psychology of Conflict and Fear Sakeenah’s work delves into the psychology that underpins divisive attitudes, exploring how fear, insecurity, and collective trauma contribute to the construction of “enemy” groups. She posits that fear often drives societies to seek security through division, creating scapegoats out of those who seem different. Her exploration of psychological dynamics adds a layer of empathy to her critique, helping readers understand the root causes of conflict rather than merely condemning it. By framing these tendencies as human, if flawed, responses to uncertainty, Sakeenah invites readers to confront their own biases with honesty and self-awareness. 2. Philosophical Underpinnings Sakeenah’s critique is grounded in a humanistic philosophy, emphasizing the shared humanity that transcends religious, cultural, and ideological boundaries. She advocates for what could be described as a “global citizenship” mindset, one that prioritizes common values and mutual respect over divisive labels. Her work resonates with universalist ideals, arguing that despite superficial differences, people are united by fundamental human experiences-love, fear, hope, and the desire for dignity and belonging. Sakeenah draws on thinkers like Edward Said and Karen Armstrong, who have argued for the importance of understanding others on their own terms rather than through preconceptions. Her approach reflects a compassionate ethos that challenges readers to engage with diversity not as a threat, but as an opportunity for growth and learning. This perspective is particularly impactful in a time when polarized thinking often reduces complex human experiences to simplistic binaries. 3. Strengths of the Book a. Empathy and Inclusivity One of the most commendable aspects of Us versus Them and Beyond is its empathetic tone. Sakeenah’s writing exudes a sense of compassion for all sides of the divide, refusing to demonize any group and instead focusing on the structural, psychological, and historical factors that foster division. Her emphasis on empathy makes the book a powerful call for understanding and reconciliation, challenging readers to question their assumptions about others. b. Accessibility and Relevance The book is written in an accessible style, making it suitable for a broad audience, including those without an academic background in sociology or political science. Sakeenah’s approach is conversational yet substantive, drawing readers into complex topics without overwhelming them. This accessibility enhances the book's impact, making its message relevant and digestible for people from various walks of life. c. Practical Solutions Rather than simply diagnosing problems, Sakeenah offers practical solutions for moving beyond the “us versus them” mentality. She suggests educational reforms, media responsibility, and increased interfaith and intercultural dialogues as ways to foster understanding. Her solutions are realistic and grounded, emphasizing small but significant steps that individuals and communities can take to bridge divides. 4. Criticisms and Limitations a. Idealism vs. Pragmatism While Sakeenah’s message is undeniably hopeful, some critics might argue that her vision is overly idealistic. Bridging deep-seated divides, especially those with historical and geopolitical roots, is an immensely challenging task. Sakeenah’s reliance on humanistic values and interfaith dialogue may seem insufficient for addressing the structural forces-such as economic inequality, political manipulation, and systemic oppression-that often perpetuate division. While her suggestions for increased empathy and understanding are valuable, some readers might find them lacking in the face of entrenched, complex issues. b. Limited Exploration of Power Structures Sakeenah’s focus on individual attitudes and social psychology is insightful, but it may overlook the role of power structures that often drive division. Political leaders, corporate interests, and institutional systems can create or exacerbate "us versus them" dynamics, and these structural forces often require more than empathy and understanding to dismantle. A deeper critique of how power operates in maintaining divisions-such as through policies, propaganda, or economic control-could have strengthened her analysis. Conclusion Us versus Them and Beyond is a profound and timely critique of contemporary polarization and the enduring relevance of empathy, understanding, and human connection. Maryam Sakeenah’s insightful examination of identity, religion, and the role of media offers readers a compassionate lens through which to view human differences, challenging the reader to move beyond simplistic labels and engage with the shared humanity that underlies them. While the book’s idealism may be viewed as a limitation by some, its emphasis on practical, empathetic solutions makes it a valuable resource for those seeking to understand and combat division. Sakeenah’s message-that dialogue, understanding, and mutual respect can break down the walls of an "us versus them" mentality-resonates as a call for a more humane and inclusive world. For readers navigating a polarized world, Us versus Them and Beyond is a powerful reminder that empathy remains a potent tool for transformation, one that can help transcend even the deepest divides.

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Thank you Edwin! 😇

What a difference a day makes

truth, impecability, transparency for the people No to corrupción No heart, deceived the people, protect to the youth Good food, water, enviroment to our community Misuse of tax money

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Maraming salamat po.

Was able to add a small 1x1 piece to my collection 🥰

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Ya Edwin keep it up

Thanks to all who bring together all 8 billion of us in unity.

Amazing conversation about listening and it's technicalities. The part about "empathic listening" between hate groups and "left" is completely naive. The tolerance of intolerance is what fuled the rise of facism in the present. It's not a consrvative and a liberal talking, you're talking about a hateful group that literally hates people and kill people on their hate parades.

Very helpful. Thank you, Edwin.

Beautiful Ruth!

This helped me rerealize the importance of both meditation for knowing oneself but also seeing others as systems, like our astrology for a day or a birthday.

This is a wonderful gem. I think if empathy is limited to one place, there really does develop limitations.

Well. Obama was right, Roberts lacks empathy.

Like being a channel for healing.

I’d love to see the neuropathways of people who are emotionally matching or ‘resonating’ with someone’s joy or happy states - I guess you could call it happy empathy - without identifying it as your own and without moving into motivation and intention (compassion) - without assigning meaning to the emotions - just feeling them - the interview seems to be saying that there is optimistic empathy that exists independently of motivation - I’d like to see if there is a distinction between the neuropathways of happy empathy and those that have been identified as associated with feelings of compassion The question being - does intention and motivation change the neuropathways or is it being in an intentionally optimistic or optimistically motivated state that shifts the brain pathways In other words - are these brain pathways purely emotional - is it really intention and motivates states that change them?

25:16 could be revolutionary in detention centers and for delinquent youth

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Aah good ol daysssss anyone in July 2024?

Great! Thank you!❤❤❤❤🎉🎉🎉

Hello! Thanks for being here!!🎉🎉🎉

Hi Edwin,do you know when and where did she gave this beatifull speech? Greetings for Argentina

Just thinking he finally said something good and showed understanding for empathy, some comments below remind us what actually happened. Sigh… 😢

I wonder if the war on woke, is really a war on empathy and compassion.

Bill walks the talk throughout, making this chat worthy of multiple listening.

Rest in power David

Is it just me or is he describing the Holy Spirit?

That's really cool footage! I don't see Mel meets Jane at the same time. Did you use photoshop to get the picture of both of them in the same picture? I think you have two lions captured here. One is older, bigger and has a significant limp. The other one is sleeker and walks smoothly. I think the old lion would not catch the deer because of a hip or foot problem while the sleek one might.

Obama bows down to muslim leaders 👺💩

This guys name should be right next to traitor in the dictionary.

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This is great!

All that mindless dribble coming out of that girl's mouth proves that college is utterly worthless.

How embarrassing.

Lifetime academic: "... and there's relief knowing that you're going to draw a huge salary, and never have to live in, nor contribute to, the real world."

Great discussion. Edwin you got to try getting Chris Voss the author of Never Split the difference. His techniques are base on tactical empathy interesting guy. would love to see you interview him

She is Beautiful

*Promosm* 🏃

We raised our kids with Love and Logic. Empathy should be one of the 9 fruits of the Holy Spirit. Empathetic people are the best!!✌️❤️