Of course! There are definitely some responsibilities that I’d only expect a man to take on as my husband, rather than a man that I’m just dating. Similarly, there are some responsibilities I’m not going to take on, without being married.

Thank you 🙏🏾 ☺️ We MUST have these honest conversations with each other!

So if you’ve done all of that, have ensured he’s a good man, and he still doesn’t want to commit, then what? Because that’s actually what this video is addressing. This is a 4 minute clip of a longer video. This video isn’t about vetting a man, there are other videos on my channel about that. The question is: How can women encourage a good man (that they’ve been seeing for a prolonged period of time) to commit?

​​​@@KianaWilliamsTVIf he still doesn't commit then it's not up to the woman to do anything BUT it's up to the men in her family who vetted him (uncle, father, brother, etc). In reality, those men are usually more effective than the women, because there's another level of respect and unwritten contract among men due to the already known logical standards that do not need to be explained. If there's really a valid reason for him not to commit, he'll discuss it with those men, not with her. I got my sister married in this way and that man won't dare try to run away because he has a special understanding with me

@KianaWilliamsTV The comment above has a lot of truth in that comment. There are unspoken rules when it's a man to man conversation and an understanding that is not verbally communicated often. To answer your question directly, here it is. "How can women encourage a good man (that they've been seeing for a prolonged period of time) to commit?" By "Commit," I assume you mean marriage? The truth is I can tell you the answer, but you may not like it. 1. Timing is EVERYTHING You will have to change your dating strategy A man will only commit to marriage with proper timing Trust me. Men DO NOT marry the BEST option available....They marry the best option available at the perfect time. Date men who are older than you even 10+ years older. Playing commitment games is not the answer. The truth is....a man marries when he wants to and marries his best option that is available to him at that time. Here is how you encourage a good man to commit: Become the WIFE that he wants. Unfortunately, not everyone is a wife, and not everyone is a husband. Marriage is not for everyone. That's the truth. Here's a better solution something that is an actionable step in the right direction. Some of the best pieces of advice I've ever heard is a great offense is a great defense. It's a sports analogy. Play soo damn great offense that he won't want to go anywhere else. Be the WIFE he wants and be his everything and then some. Tell him you'll sign a pre-nup and be a stay at home wife or go to work if that's what he wants. Show him how your preparing for his future children and what kind of mother you would be. You want a man to commit. Play offense and not defense. However, none of this guarantees commitment. Not every man is a husband, and that's the truth. This is why you need to go to your father and have him VET that man for you. It's not your job to vet a man. Allow a man to do it for you. Only men know men. You're job is to play offense.... Not defense and not manipulation.

I don’t disagree with you. I think all of that is important. However, I don’t think that negates what I said in this video. Based on what you’ve written, your advice to a woman, your daughter, sister, etc. would be to just wait until a man is ready. That’s the opposite of what my father has taught me. While I think it benefits a man for a woman to embody a wife, meet his needs, and wait until he’s “ready” to commit (assuming that desire for commitment will happen in a timely fashion), it benefits women to go towards men that are already ready for marriage. Even as you said, it’s not about what women do, it’s about if a man is ready. He marries the woman that’s around when he is ready. You can call it manipulation, games, etc. but my advice is always for both men and women is to go where they are valued. It’s not a game, it’s a decision. If y’all aren’t on the same page, cease contact. Neither person should waste their time in a situation that’s not giving them what they want. If a woman is embodying all of the things that you’ve mentioned, then there is in fact another man, praying and hoping to come across a woman like that. A man that is ready to be her husband. She should gravitate towards that man, rather than staying around to try and force him to “change”.

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Thank you! I'm glad you enjoyed it ☺️

Hey! I updated the link in the description for the Deal Breaker Guide! Go ahead and download it and let me know what you think after you answer the questions for yourself.

Absolutely! Thank you 🙏🏾 I’m just taking it day by day, but cherishing the process along the way.

Those conversations can be really tought to navigate, just because it's pretty easy for the other person to feel like they're being attacked, or that they aren't "good enough".

Thank you!! Oh yea! It's TOUGH. Somehow your body just adjusts, but its quite an experience. It definitely helps to have someone else there to share the responsibility with.

@@KianaWilliamsTV we have to talk about it on our recording

Thank you so much!!

I understand what you’re saying. If we’re being honest though, a lot of people (both men and women) don’t know what they want. If people truly knew what they wanted and knew how to find it, people wouldn’t have such negative experiences when dating. That’s why I’ve been intentional about doing livestreams and creating content that better defines what some of these popular phrases like “a feminine woman” or “a desirable man” really means, and more importantly…how to identify them in a potential partner. For a lot of us, when asked to describe these things, we can come up with 1 or 2 words or descriptors, but our description falls short. The terms sound good-yes, but without context, they mean nothing. It’s very very difficult to require something that you haven’t fully identified. This isn’t an attack, just something to acknowledge if we’re serious about getting better outcomes.

Look I feel you but She is trying, be patient and watch the channel grow. Have faith in our sista. If she doesn’t comprehend men’s voices well after a while the audience will show it and the channel will take a dive but I do think this process in understanding the average man that have been virtually invisible and treated as such takes longer for women especially her because they have more attention which is not a bad thing but it takes some actual listening to empathize. For a small example I’m tall have above average status and can still feel for my short brothers who are making average money on a different humble level without being tone deaf but I’m a guy. But we can’t expect this pretty girl to be in touch with us and get it all in one day.

Absolutely! It’s difficult for a lot of us to do. It’s a focus on who you are as a person…so: I’m a creative, I enjoy ____. I’m a vessel for God’s word; I work to allow people to see God through me. My hobbies include _____. I’m a visionary; I’m someone that can easily see a vision, and understands the steps necessary to bring it into fruition. Those are just some examples…but it requires us to have a solid understanding of who we are at our core.

Thank you so much!! ☺️ I appreciate you!

Thank you! ☺️ Oh yes! The multiplication power of a good woman is wild! When that type of woman pairs with a man of character, on his mission…the possibilities are literally endless.

I agree 1000%! And I think that’s the problem. So many people end up hurt because they “settled” for the person that they were attracted to, knowing that person was lacking in other more important areas. Also, to your point, it’s so sad that peace and collaboration really do tend to be viewed as boring. A lot of people (men and women) go towards dysfunctional/chaotic relationships because they feel more exciting.

This conversation wasn’t centered around whether or not a woman should be feminine; rather, are men prepared to support a truly feminine woman in the ways that she needs to be supported within a relationship.

Hi Kiana, thanks for the response back. My comment was based on what your guest stated at about 10:49. That a man needed to treat her a certain way for her to "Tap into her Femininity." I think femininity should always be there ( The Essence of who she is). I watched your interviews on Allens podcast and I believe he addressed this, that feminity shouldn't be conditional. Believe it or not Allen has given you real information on how men think. No woman can ever complain about his TONE.

Thank you for watching and engaging! I respect your opinion. To your point though, I respectfully don’t believe that the type of woman that chooses to reproduce with a “bad boy” even takes the time to consider the fact that she’s risking her life in making the decision to have his child. For a lot of women, the thought process isn’t that deep, which is a shame, since it’s definitely a big (potentially life altering) decision and shouldn’t be taken lightly. Also, my content focuses on the type of women that men actually say that they want. To that point, Kevin Samuels also advocated for men to consider a woman’s history (her children’s father, her exes, etc.) prior to choosing her. So by that metric, the women that y’all actually want probably hasn’t reproduced with “bad boys”, so my discussion isn’t pertaining to them.

@@KianaWilliamsTV I respect that response and agree that the women we describe that we want probably won’t make those decisions. I will say that the ratio of men with good character who can lead to women that are in the category that we speak of is not as abundant as we like to act. So it leaves men in the manosphere who did their growth process to acknowledge what’s there in contrast to what we wish was there respectfully. There’s a reason Kevin stopping speaking to men and it’s not cause we are all done with doing self work and there are no more bad men left. It’s just the ratio of qualifying men to women wasn’t near the same.

@@jameskent8165 I can agree with you, for sure! I think that this caliber of woman can be hard to find, particularly when it can be easy to put up a facade in the beginning, and a lot of men don’t necessarily know what to look out for. That’s why I love these conversations. I’m hopeful that over time, we’ll see some movement in the right direction. I appreciate you, James! You always support ☺️

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I believe the term is Ef-feminated lol

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