Thank you so much for this aweaome podcast - so much gold in this! Really reassuring- thank you :)

I also knit and crochet a tiny bit and yarn and needles can actually get pretty pricey! Some hand dyed wool can sometimes go up to $40 for one skein/ball/thing of yarn! Patterns can also vary in prices. But its definitely a calming hobby!

You can not live by a script alone. After years of relationships it shows… the 5 signs of love I find helpful tools as well: words, action, gifts, sharing quality time and touch.

I knit and crochet, and they are so helpful with keeping my hands busy while listening to others! (I was knitting my advent striped socks [a new color stripe every day for 24 days] while watching this.) Hearing you guys talk about knitting/crocheting was quite comical 😆 People do in fact buy directions on Etsy and they are called "patterns"! Thanks for this episode. Needed it!

Sex is not healthy for everyone. I'm tired of always hearing "well when you can have sex again and experience pleasure you'll know you're healed". Those of us sexually abuse survivors that stand in our power and say I'm healed and healthy and thriving and I don't have sex and don't want to have sex." We are looked at as "being in denial" or "oh I feel sorry for you" or " well let's look at your hormones" and more. We are not looked at as HEALTHY. We must create space that accepts all of the survivors that don't want anything to do with sex (or men in my case) and that's OK. We don't need to be fixed. I spent years feeling bad because I could never get to the point where I wanted anything to do with any kind of sex or kissing. Always was broken still according to the "experts". I decided 7 years ago i am healthy. Given what happened to me, they broke parts permanently. Period. When I accepted that I healed almost instantly on many levels. Lots of trauma work mostly on my own because i could never find a therapist that truly saw me as healthy in the sex department. Others need to hear the message from experts like yourself they are OK if they never want anything to do with sex. That may be the healthiest choice for them.

Thank you ❤

This was a super helpful reminder that we have to work more mindfully to curate what we give our attention to these days. Thank you

I LOVED this! Thank you both for bringing in so many different cultures, ideas, and views. It feels good to have someone that looks like me come through and join the convo. Also, she’s hilarious lol. I’ve been listening to you guys for years and will always continue! 👋🏾👋🏾

OMG such a great video. A LOT of what you described is exactly my situation. Including the letter. We moved in with father's parents with 8 month old baby and my child is almost 2yrs now, and yes I'm still having these issues. Mother in law still (but less often now) tries to tell me what I should do with my child, and specifically does things knowing I'm not ok with it when I'm not around. Father is an enabler so he won't stand up to his mother, and did(does) the same shooing thing trying to help but he wasn't parenting(he's very recently gotten much better at actually being a parent rather than bystander). Also everything about families joining- gold! The christmas chaos vs one at a time thing. For me, its stressful that his family does all the presents at once, no one can appreciate each others gifts because they're so focused on their own and its over in 5 minutes. I prefer the conversation that happens around someones gift and usually theres some joking around, or yes clapping and cheering when the baby learns how to unwrap a present. If its clothes, "go try it on!" is always fun in my family, but I can definitely see how playing dress-up is not for everyone, and "not now" is an acceptable answer. Also family rules "don't upset mom" is a thing and the consequences are way beyond what you'd think. Its caused father to be deceiving to me about my child in an effort not to upset me, because thats the norm in his family. As you might imagine, I am EXTREMELY upset by this, especially because honesty and trust is the #1 biggest rule in my family. Thank you so much, I feel way less alone just from watching this. And the perspective and tips were very helpful also.

I love hearing you guys so much and podcast is so slept on. Perfect mixture of the stuff we don't want to hear but need too if we really want to work through issues, but also relatabibility with genuine human emotions and reactions to the things that come up! Thank you!

What if you can’t fully remember what happened? I seem to have blocked out so much 😩

“Pleasure is our birthright” well damn when you put it that way

Really appreciate this episode 💜😭

Since you like listening to story podcasts, I recommend S-Town if you haven’t already!! It’s 8 episodes 😘

I think the word you’re going for is actually “onus.” As in “the onus is on you.” PS I think you and your podcast are both wonderful. I’m most definitely not here to judge, but I enjoy learning new words and I hope you do also.

that was sooo good! thank you very much. <3

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I've read that book Quiet, it honestly made me so much more comfortable being introverted. ❤

I have no idea how old this girl is, but she could definitely pass for 28

I'd love it if you guys did a video about cutting contact with damaging relationships or family. And mainly how to cope with their constant attempts to upset you. From a struggling person ❤

Thankyou super helpful ❤

Good Morning 🌞🌅 Ladies And How Are You 🌻🌞 Doing 👋🏽 This Morning ☀️ And How Was Your Night 🌃🌉 And i'm Trying To Find A Hobby For Myself And Because i Used To Play With Drums When i Was Just A Little Kid

Love you both so, so much!! Emily's personality made me feel more confident about pursuing an MFT 💛

at least patriarchy held families together. The so praised feminists did the exact opposite, breaking families and condemning the majority of the population to psycofarmaceutical abuses, anxiety and depressions, which contrary to even just 30 years ago, became the norm.

I still blame myself for the s. assault that happened to me 6 years ago. I was very drunk and kept falling asleep and did not fight back at all. I blamed myself for being so intoxicated.

Hi there! Could you let me know the best way to get in touch for business inquiries?

I enjoyed this. Wish the negative speak on men hadn’t popped in. But overall, excellent message. Thank you.

AM Concert💃!! Saw it here in Nashville. SO GOOD!

This was such a good episode. I learned so much. Please have Dannica on again.

I sooooo agree ladies💜💜💜

I’ve listened to every episode. I’ve been in therapy for 2 years now and even got my therapist to listen to you! Thank you for always putting out real life content. I have learned so much about myself through your podcast. ❤

Congratulations on ten years. This podcast has helped me so much. ❤

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Great stuff!

This was an amazing show! So important. Definitely needed all of this 🙏🏾🫶🏽

This was very helpful! Im going through a big change and I have such a big fear of change, always. I didnt realize it's just a perceived sense of control, which isn't even real. Thank you for this! ❤

These ideas can be applied in so many ways! Excellent ideas and techniques, thank you for sharing.

Y’all are nauseating.

Also hate getting ready. Maybe we should just stop! Lol

I love the podcast but is there anything that could be done with the audio? Its so low i have to have my volume on max and then when an ad comes on it scares the crap out of me lol

Hi Jen & Em, great seeing you and hearing your content on here. Do you cover the specific birth order of siblings (e.g. I'm the oldest of 4) in a different ShrinkChicks episode and how that fits into above family dynamics and adult phase issues? Thankful for all you ladies do on here.

Thank you so much for this conversation as the friend that got married and had a baby in her mid 20s I had to let go of a childfree friend because she felt like I had nothing to talk about outside of my marriage and baby

These sessions are simply amazing and so comforting to watch whenever I'm feeling sad or not safe. Keep up the brilliant work.

28:20 deadass why do we do this? 🪦 As an entrepreneur, I needed this episode so badly today. Most authentic laughs I’ve had in a few weeks. More episodes like this! Or less, throw the whole thing away if you want we’ll still be supporters.

I thought it was not bad but it's affected me all my life. I'm 50. Abused at 4.

16:55 devouring mother

Wow

This is an amazing interview! All hail India Oxenberg, and all hail the Shrink Chicks!

Thanks for sharing this thoughtful conversation - it is healing and affirming just to see how well the two of you get on in a meaningful dialog