I’m at a loss why couldn’t you save your marriage. I’m sorry as someone who has been married 25 years together with the same person 28 years your generation is much too soft.

After trust was broken i turned her into a FWB.

No, not a "mistake" a decision.

You are beautiful. He must be crazy...

Thank you for this video. I went through something similar this past year and my healing started when I forgave my ex. I surrounded myself with good people who provided support and that helped immensely. You’re a kind and beautiful person and I know you the best years are ahead of you. Take care.

Beautiful

Thanks for your honesty and sharing your story. Particularly the different emotions towards your son. Listening to this at 2am in the morning. Finding much comfort and healing. Peace and blessings to everyone. Stay strong❤️

If you got cheated on.. I'm fucked

Kayla - it’s wrong period for a man to cheat!!! Period. He can be forgiven if course but men are bound to live their wives

Thank you for sharing your story, I feel like i am going crazy for feeling the way I did. I'm having such a hard time dealing with all the flashbacks, i resonated so much with all the unimaginable hurt and anger resulted from it. And he blamed me for feeling angry at him, asking me to get over it that the fact i'm angry I have yet to forgive him.

I’ve lost a child and went through this and I never would have thought the feelings were so familiar- the trauma. I never knew. Women going through it, I remember just thinking, “gosh, that’s gotta be hard”. I had no idea the word trauma applied. I really fought suicide for the second time. I’m so glad you are doing better! Good for you for recognizing your need for healing and forgiveness. I admire it

Being the cheater and living with the shame and having to look your healed EX in the eyes is unbearable.

I think you're wrong. cheaters are bad people. It takes a lot of time to get to that point.

Where is the dog?

Not many peoples reach the point of acceptance, congrats on your healing. It is going to help the children having you in a better state. 5:24 the need for isolation is not always signs of depression because that's what is needed to effectively process and reflect on the experience, note exactly where you are and need to heal. As long as it is a temporary state it's fine but many get stuck there because no introspection and self-healing is done.

Encourage anyone enduring divorce to read “THE SUN ALWAYS PIERCES THROUGH” 🥹

Jordan is in my school and I'm aisha

This came up in my feed again and I was reminded how amazing your singing voice is!

The education system needs to explain to boys, when they are 13 and becoming interested in girls, the art of being a man. Men are daddies. Women are better at being mummies but it still needs explained to many girls. Daddy's job is to protect mummy and baby. Mummy's job is to keep mummy and baby safe. That's it.

I personally don’t understand how people can say “he’s an incredible father / she’s an incredible mother” when that person cheats!! You’ve both cheated, so I guess that explains your weird logic!

I want to see what the dude looks like shes cute

I wont listen to anyone saying there ex is now their best friend. Nonsense.if you coparent well, good for you but tgats it

Wow. This is great!

This was beautiful I pray for God to use this to work together for you good!

Beautiful voice!

Watching 1:28 thru 1:32 on repeat 😍 She's a beauty.

Proof that even the prettiest can be betrayed.

What a beautiful, healthy perspective to have. You did the toughest thing you could do- you took probably one of the worst things that happened in your life and processed it to a point of healing, compassion, understanding, and growth. You did it. ❤️

women are always the victims & men are the monsters. thats the common thread in all these women's stories. they never say they did anything wrong & portray themselves to be the angels. total BS. Women are the problem (if you just scratch the surface and dig deeper)

I don’t agree with the part that you defended him fuck him. You telling cheaters to forgive themselves is a trauma response he had you in a state of shock and depression for a whole year just so he can get his dick wet. You can forgive him but don’t excuse his behavior ware grown

If the woman takes good care of her husband in bed he would never betray his woman. Men need sex more than women.

Let's hear his side of the story otherwise its very sided....

He’s not an incredible guy. No matter what people shouldn’t cheat. Your co dependency is not the reason he cheated it’s his shelflshness and regardlessness for you and his son. He didn’t love you or his son. You shouldn’t have forgave him. He should live with that forever that’s the price you pay for cheating. No that you forgave him he got away with it. He doesn’t deserve it no matter what. Cheaters are ugly ruthless and shellfish. Only forgive if he wanted to cheat but didn’t. If he actually cheated he needs to suffer just like you and your son did. If he didn’t want to be with you, he should’ve just left not cheat on you. That’s the right thing to do.

Children should always come first. Not meaning to stay in a relationship for your kids but the co-parenting is absolutely important

maybe being single is like being free

Ugh I always try finding a place for me to get advice and or help with this topic as I am 15 years into my relationship 5 kids and I am dealing with it all. Still together but absolutely shattered and broken 💔

It is very matured of you to take accountability on your end for a marriage breakdown. Not everyone takes accountability, and you have chosen to not blame others entirely. However, cheating is not a mistake. It is a conscious choice, not forced. A person's private part does not fall into another woman's private part and had a great party time by "accident". It is a deliberate, conscious choice to strip oneself and another woman naked and breach the most sacred contract of a marriage. It doesn't matter how nice and sweet someone is, they made a deliberate conscious choice to betray you. I hope you are not gaslighted, unknowingly by anyone or yourself, to even call this person a "friend". Self respect is not only about forgiving others who have wronged us, but also to beware of who has a special title in our lives. Being respectful towards your ex-husband is a way to teach your son to be a good human being, but drawing boundaries is also important. A woman who knows her own worth, forgives others, but also set boundaries for those around her.

Just wanted to say if a man cheats and cause the break up for his family he's not a good person or nowhere near you still thinking that is you still holding him in a good light that he isn't in

He is BAD GUY!!!!! Narcissist and hey can explain themselves very well… he destroyed your life ….. he have again spell on you!!!!! You just explained him !!! I didn’t here about your worth!!! Like you deserve better!!!! Looks like you didn’t move at all… I’m going through this now….

This is exactly how I will feel soon ❤❤❤

❤ty for sharing. Going through this now❤

Team cumeer iyo maclimow ❤

I'm nearly 40 & I don't know if I even understand this forgiveness thing. I'm not someone who hold grudges or act like I'm okay when I'm not, most of the time I address issues there & then and after that I'm okay with that person. But things that happened recently left me wondering if I am really a forgiving person. A lot happened but one significant issue with someone of the opposite sex that should have been easily resolved if it were handled maturely dragged me to the darkest pit, damaged my reputation & left me depressed, anxious with PTSD & I now have trust issues, I feel like hiding myself from anyone showing interest. I can't visit visit a group of people just incase that might expose me to a man who could be romantically interested in me, just a man showing an interest is enough to give me sleepless nights & bring back all my trauma. I have had therapy & am on medication, I pray etc & I know these are helping, but it's been a few years, & a part of me feels helpless and doubts I'll ever be okay. What hurts me the most was that I tried 2 times to talk to the person in order to get some understanding instead of judging each other, but I got hurt that he does n't even see how he was wrong & even denies some of the things that happened. I apologized for my perceived contribution to the misunderstanding & he only seemed to apologise because I was doing so. The most hurtful part for me is that he did not even see the need to clarify things, though he was busy judging me ( realized after having talked to him). I'm hurt that I try to explain to an adult how he hurt me hoping that at least he will try to see things from my side and show empathy but realise that the person is not even interested in resolving the issue though we are brother & sister in faith. I feel so embarrassed when the dark cloud of depression engulfes me & I end up having to talk about something that happened long ago to my friends, who I think believe I should be over it by now. I feel guilty that I still talk about it when I no longer want to talk about it cause I feel like I'm bad mouthing him. I hope someday even if after 50 years I'll be at peace about it.

My marriage of seven years came crashing down in my very own eyes and i was ready to give up on it before coming across Eliana Zaituna Hernandez who helped in restoring and strengthening back my marriage.

I just had to make an effort to thank you for this video. It helped me so much. I’m going through a similar experience with kids, and have begun my path toward healing. This messaged just got me even closer to a better state of being. And I appreciate your telling, in such an honest and simple way. It helped cut directly to each moment of your story. Thank you again for doing this,

No marriage for me, you quickly go from happy single no crap to family court and child support and miserable. People get married for wrong reasons they don’t understand beauty age, habits can change, money can end and love too sometimes people fell out of it.

So much of what you said resonated with me and what I m going through. Thank you for sharing your story, it makes me feel like I'm not so alone ❤️

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How are you kayla, how are your days. Long time since you posted anything, is everything fine with you? And how is your son Jordan, is he doing well and growing up fine? I hope you read this comment.

Well there is always a reason why people cheat and do the things they do. There are two sides to every story, but thanks for sharing yours.