My beloved husband died 6 months ago. He was my soul mate who fell in love with me on first sight. A lovely,kind, decent , loving and lovable man. Good company and always caring and protective of me. He was in my life for 60 years. There are no words to describe my loss. I can’t stop crying. No one can replace him. I can’t imagine ever feeling happy and content again without him . I will miss him forever.

❤ ADHD has a hold of me and today is the first day that I have chosen to realize that I will to have no friends ❤

I lost my 40 yo son in late 2020, COVID. Fit and healthy, then gone, in another country when I couldn’t get to him for confirmation. September 2021 ashes flown back, no proper burial. No family, his colleagues only and his wife and my granddaughter. My children, adults with their own children, never mention him. I am not the same anymore. I’m the life and soul of the party, the comforter. I laugh, I play with my grandchildren, and 2 new babies, i child mind. I’m retired, 47 years as a nurse, never seen colleagues since. But I’m not the same person any more. I don’t think my husband , not his father, has any idea what’s going on in my head and my body. His actual father died a few years before, my 2nd husband died 6 months before my son, in may 2020.

nicely stated

I am so darn angry,,,,,,true.

I have all these....6 months in to this awful reality. I scream for him.. I don't care or feel anything.Numb.

My Aunt was not fooled. She saw how, from day 1, how my mother treated me, and was not impressed. In little ways she showed her caring. I was often ill, and one day she came, with a book of cutout dolls and clothes. I could hardly believe it. To this day, my beloved Aunty Anne lives in my prayers of gratitude.

Why is she so chirpy and upbeat about grief? One of my grief symptoms is feeling really annoyed by videos like this. Ugh!

I said No and was manipulated and guilted into my mothers care by other family members who said they would do it and dumped her on me, years of verbal and mental abuse and I'm stuck with her. And everything you said just made me mad, i have no life and I am flipping miserable. I cant watch this like im supposed to be having a great time when shes 24/7 get me xyz fix xyz.

Its a joke.. to tell people we, the BB elderly, are still waiting for inclusion, i for one, have my thee or thou pronouns prepared... but i sit here, totally alone. . I make a joke here, you understand? True, noone really cares. But hold the faith... When God noticed my people did not support me, he sent me strangers.. when they flung dirt at me, God built a garden. I now save my generosity for those worthy. I now have a soul tribe of caring people.. they do what they can, its more than enough to be included.

Mother Angelica wrote a book called " On Suffering and Burnout" it has helped me understand suffering, how we can't dictate to God what suffering He allows in us. There are different kinds of suffering in learning a lesson, or even redemptive suffering where we offer our suffering up to Christ. I started having surgery after surgery on my left foot starting at age 43, right after my second and last child. I now have neuropathy and my foot is so short and swollen that I have to buy two pairs of expensive orthopedic shoes just so I have something to wear. I'm 50 and my children are 7.5 and almost nine. I feel bad about not being as physically able as their friends parents. And I'm asked if I'm their grandmother. This all has made me unable to work.. and many friends couldn't deal with MY suffering!( obviously they were weeded out of my life!) but the couple friends I do have support me and I have a wonderful husband. I have started to look at my age as a blessing, a privilege that many friends from high school didn't get to! I try to be grateful more than angry. And try to offer up my sufferings to Christ on the cross! It's still very painful, but I have perspective. I personally have a family history of Alzheimer's ( early onset) so I have a five wishes advance directive so that I'm cared for how I want to be cared for. I'm thankful for " dying with dignity "!

It’s to late💔

Woul😮love to have a deeper conversation on this.

Thank you.xoxo Now i understand why i feel the way i do.👩‍🦰🙏

Pride is when we view ourselves as God. Humility is when we see ourselves as God’s creation. Huge.

Yep. Sadly, very familiar with this experience. Thank you for the video.

Can't wait to hear your next topic

I needed to hear this. Thank you!

Wow, this was a wonderful articulation of a real issue that is happening to all of us with more frequency. Your articulation of the dilemma we face was impressive.

Great information. Thank you!

I have never been the same since my mum and dad died, I think of them eveyday ,

A resounding YES to this question 😭

"Do you think that WW3 will be a danger?" That sentence doesn't make sense to me. Did you mean, "Do you think there is a danger of a WW3?"

This just answered many questions for me. Thank you.

Wanted to add I really love your realistic, grounded approach. Very very helpful.

Hi! Just a reminder that Jesus loves you

Thank you for the insight .💜

I have anticipatory grief about my very disabled spouse. Practicing stoicism along with religious faith. Helps a bit. Loss of mother, who I also cared for, was very hard. Both my soul mates.

This is a very high quality series. Thank you.

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Amen 🙏🙂❤️☘️🔥

I have every single thing that was mentioned for years now. It's basically my new normal, with no obvious reason to think it will change. I interact ok socially, hiding it well, all the while just missing what I lost, and there's no replacing it.

I have all thrse systoms. My husband passed away almost a year. I just wish people would leave me alone. My grief is my own

1) Complaining 2) Physical symptoms, aches and pains, fatigue 3) Anxiety, fretting 4) Anger / irritability 5) Pushing people away

wow, amazing woman

she really resonates with me, thanks

thanks, I'm glad I found Margaret

Thank you Ms McGahon for this excellent analysis of what really happens to person presented with a serious loss. Many of us had no idea what was to come before the loss occured. Your video is a great help in taking the mystery out of this terrible process of grief.

This is the best description of what it actually is like I’ve ever heard. Thank you.

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Excellent

Ok. Would have appreciated a comment about dying with that dignity

Super. So refreshing to hear someone talk about the dignity of us all, regardless of how we look on a given day. so many of our elderly feel unloved.

I've been grieving for 11 years.. I'm 72 and have lost hope for any real happiness ever again.. nothing to look forward to. Just way too many losses, 2 of the losses were suicides.. just waiting for this life to finally be done with.

Yes this is me xx

I just lost my grandma and feel so much guilt for not bein by her side bc I live in another country just to think I wont hear her voice again is so painful I cant sleep I cry all the time 😔

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I lost my husband in January and my emotions are all over the place. I avoid places that remind me of my husband. I can’t go in the backyard for more than a minute or two. We used to spend quite a bit outside and he would water the plants. My life has drastically changed and I am trying to accept the loss and emptiness I feel.

U hav talk about all the symptoms I hav.

Hi, Jim. I remember you from Kaye O'Bara's home as she cared for Edwarda. I wish you well and now that I live in Colorado, I am updating my Five Wishes Living Well. God bless and Mary Keep. Joi