1.Guilt tripping by another. 2. Gaslighting - you start doubting the facts. 3. Playing the victim- making you feel guilty for things they had done to you. 4. Withholding approval or affection. Withdrawing approval to control you. Disarm this tactic with self awareness. 5. Overwhelming and creating confusion. Bombard you with affection one day then denial the next day. Gaslighting by distraction. Emotional overload- creating crisis out of nowhere. Clarify is the antidote to the confusion. 6. Isolation. This happens gradually even trying to mask it as concern for you. Cutting you off from others who are close to you- leaving you to be depend count on them. 7. Emotional isolation. Isolation if it is created it can be used to manipulate. But it can be reversed. Reach out to others. Set boundaries.

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What if you love that woman?

God doesn't have any difficulty dealing with who you are, but asking another human being to do it is...stupid - you don't know what a person can handle and what they can't, so you need to follow the guidance of God when you tell your partner things about yourself - maybe it will be good, maybe it won't - surrender it to God, and He will guide you in a way that is positive for your soul and positive for hers :)

The two things I noticed that have been universal. Frequently touching you for unnecessary reasons. Especially when it intensifies around other females. The other is remembering all the likes, dislikes and personal stories you have. She shares positive stories about you in front of others. Not always in your presence. It took me a long time to stop second guessing my instincts. I’d often think in High School “There is no way a girl that beautiful, intelligent and kind could be interested in me”.

Wow … painfully true advice… And, it explains how to be … how to behave, because you are the rock.

WoW. I thought they were just being nice. I think I missed out.

You will have a better women!!Hahaha

100% spot on What's good for the goose, is good for the gander!!!❤😂😂😂😂😂❤

I'll give them my wrath verbally

God, if I only had this video months ago… Now it is too late. All I can do is let her go, and hope she will come back one day.

Based on a previous long term failure and being screwed I will never tell the extend of my financial situation, give space for myself independently for many days in a week despite demands and some honest mystery kept back which gives intrigue for women for sure. 😂

<-- happy to hear that Farts was not on the list of things that should be held back

What interested me in my wife was that she was attracted to me. I found that amazing and was interested in the feeling of being wanted. Something I rarely felt before. After more than 20 years, I am still wanted. A man can go a year on one simple complement.

This helps humanize men.. most people don't want to be in a relationship, purely based on looks alone. Most people want a genuine connection, where we feel loved, supported, cared for, seen and unserstood.

This is 100% Spot ON

If you want a genuine companion, get a dog. If you want a troublesome showpiece, get a woman.

great video needed this

This is a great video.

Well there's nothing you can do with thousands of years of cultural conditioning is there?

This talk falls into the "70% of what JP says is super useful" bucket.

Thank you everyone for your love and support. If this video helped you or gave you a new perspective, please share it with someone who might need it. You never know-this might be the message they’ve been waiting to hear.

Thanks, I needed to hear this. Face the reality is hard but necessary!

Inspiring.

Jordan Peterson, the knowitall king of the knowitalls. Its all bollocks, but that never stopped a narcissist, did it?

Any advice for someone who is in the opposite position? Who lost his patner because of issues that weren´t clear at first and now has to face the consequences of being alone.

Hello to everyone reading this. Right now, I'm inconsolable. My ex-partner left a few weeks ago, and I am heartbroken and saddened since this relationship is the best thing that has ever happened to me. Although I tried, I was unable to win him back. I don't know what to do, but I shouldn't be posting this here.

Been married 41 years. No. You do not tell them everything. They’re way too emotional. Many times this causes them to think irrationally. You handle stuff and move on.

My wife has no interest in hearing my weaknesses. It doesn't make her bad. Your wife wants to feel you have everything under control. Only then can they feel safe and be in their feminine.

When we got married I was 60 and my wife was 40. What has worked for us is don’t ask, don’t tell. The past is gone and tomorrow is not here yet. Rarely have we ever shared our personal history of past intimate partners.We live in the present and focus on our partnership in the here and now. We communicate in present time attempting to be positive and optimistic. It has worked for us in our 15 year marriage.

And how do you separate male from female searches?

Women use men, and then on to the next. Sure men do it too, but women end up with the house, the kids, with child support, and your best friend! They tell you let's raise a family, that you will never be a weekend dad, and then that's exactly what happens!

Women are too much work now. Bring back the one night stand. What, Bam, no thank you Lady. There's no payoff any more.

Jordan, thank you for putting it so tight, you covered all 4 squares from every angle. I may not be wise beyond my years though I have quite a few, however I do believe I am wise between my ears and out. You asked for us to see if I agree with your proposition. I not only appreciate your clear and succinct points and agree with all of your analysis by example and your very fair, caring and kind representation of all people involved. I continue to sit before my various teachers. Thank you Jordan, may You continue to be blessed by your vision of the highest One. And to NextStepMentor for your content creation. ~peace my friends.

Don't tell em' nothing.

Having just went through 20 years of marriage to be tour to pieces by my wife, who left me for another man and took everything because I loved her so much. I gave it all to her including the house. I went through months over the last 18 months thinking about what I had told her during the relationship that could’ve caused her to want to be with someone else. I thought of many things like how many women I have been with she asked me directly. I should’ve said three. I’ve been married three times but that includes her. She had been married three times including me. So think about what you’re going to tell her and think about how it could affect her down the road and her feelings towards herself and what she’s done in her life and not done in her life that you have done. Because that will be rolling around in that pretty little head for the rest of her life. Possibly to the end of your relationship because she hasn’t done everything you’ve done.

Still, this is the kind of thing you would expect a Father to pass on to a son. As a old man who grew up with out a Dad, My Mother went to great length's to make sure I never heard any thing on this subject. This is exactly the kind of guidance I expected, even needed, from my Mother and Her Church. Finley understanding that this was used on me to control and subject me. Now I am hearing Women say "We can't find a man." or "There are no good Men out there." This kind of treatment of Your Boy's is part of the reason the Female gender is having the "No Men" problem. Got to Forgive and get along...

A man can never tell a woman his sexual, financial,or legal history , never,not all of it anyways

Plus we must hold back our bladders.

And along with that comes all the broken families, beatings, restraining orders, murders, child trauma, etc. I remember when normal men and women used to get married and stay happy, how undramatic.

I don’t agree with everything Mr. Peterson lays forth. Hell, I don’t think, I do with anyone. We take bits of wisdom from places that resonate with us. I’ll say this, he often nails it. In this case, deeply. Well said Jordan Peterson. Well said. I’m 2 months away from an Anniversary with my girlfriend. She’s 15 years younger. She’s told me repeatedly I’m the first “Man” she’s been with. The rest were little boys. I credit this to the fact that this is the approach I’ve taken with her. One of strength, leadership and direction. If I have an insecurity or I’m feeling one way or another about something I reach out to my buddy. We lay that stuff out, kick it around and come up with sensible ways to move forward. Losing no respect for one another nor making judgement beyond the obvious “Why the hell are you thinking that way?” kind of stuff. Anyway, this is gold. I do NOT lay my fears at her feet because that’s not the place they should be laid. The result is, she faces strength and that strengthens her.

I think it's important to rework the statement that the female sexual vulnerability is greater than mens due to the court system and suicide rate in men for various threats all having to do with pregnancy, rape accusations, etc. At least suggest that the risk or vulnerability is different.

The group of women studied here are already a subset of women. They are the ones seeking, not the ones waiting wisely.

Why is the audio sped up?

Our culture has a slew of women who’ve moved their maternal drive into public policy. We’re too tolerant and feminized. That instinct belongs in the nursery and hospital/sick wards. All these women who did not have children now have nowhere to channel their maternal Drive Just like men need to learn to channel their masculine drive into productive outlets, women have to learn to channel their feminine drives. Turning the world into your infant, makes us vulnerable to those who are willing to take us out for our vulnerability

He's so right. In business I've seen managers that share too much with employees and those employees will soon think that they're being vetted, being considered as advisors and will jump in feeling they have the right to weigh in on everything the manager does. The manager grew that sense of entitlement in the employee/s. Big mistake.

I find it very interesting that in modern movies where the man plays the role of having some special significant vocation that a common theme in the film is that he has a wife or girlfriend who constantly presses him to share the secrets surrounding that work with the woman. He resists for a time and they finally breaks down and shares things with her that he should not have. After he opens up to her she meddles in his business and ruins everything for him, often unwittingly. Perhaps the producers / writers want to create an additional tension in the film. It works, I feel it and I dislike it even though it's a real part of life. I wonder if the movie producers realize what they're revealing. It's true. A man is a fool when he shares too much and he ends up paying for it .

It sounds like, Doctor Jordan, that you have never opened your heart to anyone. You should learn to place reason before belief.

I have never heard anyone say you should be totally honest and reveal everything to your mate.