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no youre not :)

I think bro is just squeamish around blood

50/50, if you were working less, which if you make so much less, just go to school or pick up a skill. Then you can do those things

Well, a lot of these children in the comments aren't asking the right questions and are assuming, does OP stay up all night playing video games or does OP stay up all night working, there is a difference

NTA- turning on all the lights and demanding you cook is crazy, imo. Also, 6 hours is a dream. If you can sleep good for you, but I cannot imagine being so evil as to turn on all the lights and make noise to purposely wake someone up at 5AM or before. Either have her get ready somewhere else or she could have her stuff ready the night before and use another room. I mean, so many different wants to be more considerate of someone who is sleeping. Being more quiet or just not sleeping over, a bigger place, etc…

Come home making a bunch of noise, turn on all the lights, and ask her to make you dinner and sit with you. She'll figure it out

Ok she is rude but go to bed before midnight man

Men in these comments acting like paying more in rent means that they’re paying their girlfriend/spouse to clean. Lmao no. That’s a very cheap cleaner. Idc if you pay 100% because that’s a relationship and you BOTH live there. It’s BOTH of your responsibility. None of this 20% shit. You pay according to your ability. Everyone knows full well that there’s high income earners who do far less than lower earners. Men want their girlfriends to “earn their keep” and then wonder why women now don’t want them

How many hours of sleep do you need though? 6 hours is a healthy duration. Maybe try changing some habits instead.

So he needed more time after the years of discussion for a deposit? That ring is either way too much money to be feasible for a civilian or he aint trynna marry you

If he pays 80% and you 20% then let him have 20% of the household like like vacuum twice a month and clean a toilet sometimes. But i just hope this isnt one of those "im doing everything" type of situation because at home me and my gf both work and devide the chores. And i even help her on half off hers she can still throw the i do all and you nothing in my face. Even when i did everything while she was on 3 day business trip

If he pays around 80% then he doesn't have to help since that would make him litterally at a massive disadvantage but it it was like 60/40 maybe then its fair to ask. But since you said a lot more i am quite sure its 80/20 meaning he made a deal you took it and its a fair one at that so stop complaining or move out. My dad owns my parents house and my mom never had to work a single day and does all the cleaning it is a fair deal? No it favored my mom more but my dad liked that deal HE himself set up so in that case it works great. So all in all either add details or shut up (if you don't add details you are more than likely unreasonable and just want conformation from strangers after you didn't even ask the question with the proper context)

If you need a deposit for a ring the ring is not worth it. And in extension the person asking for that ring is not worth it, in other words you are the ahole for having way to high standards and you are a let down 😂

I get the not spending enough time together, if ur she leaves before ur up and u get back after she’s asleep, you’ll end up barely seeing each other. BUTTTTT waking him up in the morning is a dick move lol

Its really super vague, which makes me think he was in the wrong, and he knows it. She asked him to change, not the other way around. She might be jerking him around, but it could be he really messed up and she is trying to get back at him, maybe?

Ik this isn’t related to the video but how do I cut off my toxic friends I have known for half my life Ty to everyone who helped but I forgot to add a crucial bit I’m going on a school trip with them for 5 days and we r in the same room

Ok litsen like a lot of people are think it’s about the thought and others think he is wrong for his careless actions but neither is in the wrong making mistakes and having misunderstandings is what makes us human we make mistakes and we values stuff that may not matter to others but if we just try to be empathetic to both sides if possible to some people we can stop having the earth go round in loops and start making it go forward.

No Something's wrong with your mom

Haha, loosers who have never been in a relationship are the only ones commenting, I see. It's not about the ring, it's about the fact that he claims he had the funds and yet couldn't produce the ring she wanted. It seemed that the ring was a reasonable price, just needed some action to actually secure. And he couldn't do something so minor as to just do the bare minimum to make his partner happy. So a) either he is lying about having the money b) he is too lazy to do the bare minimum in a relationship to make the other person happy c) he doesn't want to get married and is delaying the engagement again d) gaslighting her into making her think it's not a big deal because it's 'just a material object' The ONLY way he isn't in the wronf is if he IMMEDIATELY went to make this dream happen for her because he was excited to make her happy, and still missed out. That is the ONLY way he is in the right, and she needs ro take a breather and figure out why this one hurt so much (like is this just a pattern of behavior...) ANYBODY would upset in this circumstance, and anyone saying otherwise clearly doesn't have any empathy or truly thinks it's about a rock....not the disrespect or possible lying.... it's about a dysfunction relationship........not a ring.

You said he had the money for a ring,, Do you even KNOW why he didn't either, A.Place a deposit, to secure the purchase. or B. discuss his reason for not talking things over with you? I'm so sorry, but I think it's possible that he DOES have the money for a ring, BUT it's for someone else! .

DUMP HIM

I feel like there's a middle ground somewhere, ur both right and wrong, ur not the asshole but I can understand where she's coming from. Maybe she can try to be do morning prep in the evening so she doesn't have to turn on all the lights and hopefully make less noise the once she's ready make u coffee and have ur morning time ( it will probably only get you an extra 30min but that morning time sounds important to her but u sleep is equally important,)

It depends on why OP left If he left because wife asked him to, then it makes sense that he waits for her to ask him to move back in If it was his own decision, then he’s not making any sense 😂

Jesus am I the only one who thinks that maybe they should sit down and have a conversation cuz she clearly wants to go out on dates and such but he can’t see that and only leaves the house for his friends and work

I could see why, he promised something that didn’t happen

NTA She is selfish and inconsiderate and she doesn't understand why what she's doing is wrong. Find someone who treats you the way you treat her, with respect.

He just needs a break works stressful and maybe his bros help him out more then you can nothing personal with you but maybe thats the only time he can be himself its nothing rude but im sure if you plan things and take it slow because remeber yelling ir crying about it wont help just take time with it great things come with patience

No but neither is she. Neither of you have actually done anything wrong, and you’re entitled to your feelings.

Noooooooope

NTA - while yes your mom is entitled to living her own life, it's really self centered to cut you out of her life to this extent, especially when you're in such a sensitive time. You need to share your feelings of hurt with her, and maybe she can make amends. If she's not interested in doing so, then you'll have to accept your baby has lost their grandma.

I know this is petty but reverse the situation. Do exactly the same when you get home. Say the same thing.

I’d say neither are the ah. You wanted to move away but your mom didn’t. And from the story, nobody was accusing you of being an ah, so no

You're too insecure! He just wants to spent time with his friends and he's tired so thats what he would rather go to do!

Ignore her and keep on sleeping.

I mean you're starting a new life and you want your mother with you but your mother also has a life she wants to start. Lowkey I'ma just say your mom probably wants to be a grandma but doesn't want you to depend on her. Heck she's trying to get a new husband and start a new chapter.

She's incredibly rude. Not adult enough for a grown up relationship.

I would recommend using your own voice and calming music in the background :)

Nooooooooooo

NTA why would you be responsible for “ruiningl her life? You broke up with her because there was no viable relationship between you two. She is an adult and is responsible for her own life.

Run!!!

Wait you pay for groceries internet and get discounted rent from your job but you have to do all the cooking and cleaning. Uhh no stand up for yourself.

Do not marry that man

Don't need to read the rest, just saying that he pays most of the bills, not all. So you should do most of the chores, not all.

Could have been several reasons why he couldn't get it but yeah you're the AH if you value the ring more than your relationship

Who the fuck gives a shit about a ring. Do something better with the money ffs

He doesn’t value you at all unless you’re having sex That’s all you’re there for clean the house make his food and have sex. The rest he gets elsewhere. Find someone who appreciates you