hey harry the 17 year old reached out but it was in conjunction with our mutual friend. no conversations were held - she and the friend made silly videos and sent them to me, with a tiny bit of messaging on the side but not enough to count as a convo. i declined an invitation by the both of them to facetime citing that i didnt feel like it. either way, im astonished she still wants to talk to me after i came across to her as a desperate 12 year old. is it over or not? i dont even really care about getting girls anymore so im a bit out of practice but i wouldnt pass up any opportunities w this chick if i had any. what do you think is going on?

Another thing I've noticed is that women these days have a lot of mental health issues, especially ones on dating apps. It's possible she's dealing with some shit and just not ready to date. Which is fine because you don't really want to date those women anyways.

I’m somebody who has been dealing with chronic pain for 20 years. It’s definitely affected my dating.

It’s ok not to kiss on the very first date but definitely between the 2nd or 3rd

I had a single mother i was dating try to say im still living with my grandmother ..thats not a man..but yet im single no kids but you got a car a crib i never been too and kids and struggling and me helping you benefits you so i wouldn't try to talk down on me when thats the only reason o can help you..cuz if i had kids and a crib you wouldn't get a dime..u never be a priority

She’s for the streets

Was told I was too nice by a girl so…

Follow your intuition most of the time it’s looking for your best interest

I think they're flakey. I always had to set-up dates.

Yea, in these time of #metoo and #believeallwomen you have to be real careful of getting physical. The friend zone or moving on his much better that a SA charge. The issue is women will act real interested and all about you as long as your doing all the work. Pursuing, asking out, making plans, and of course paying for everything. But when she feels you think it's time to reciprocate. That's when the issues start. Most aren't there for a relationship. They are bored, want free food, attention, and validation from a man. You aren't her first choice for sure. She gives her best sexually to another Alpha Chad Bad Boy. This guy hits it after you've taken her home. He gives her nothing substantial in her life. She will continue this behavior till her late twenties and early thirties. Then she will lock down Beta Male simp to start a family with. The sex with the new beta male will only be transactional to keep him providing. He will never see any true genuine desire from her. She gave that to another man or men in her past when she was trying to lock them down. Typically she will keep in contact with those men in the past just in case this marriage doesn't work. Six to seven years later when the kids are older. She will divorce him, and use the kids as manipulation tools while she drains him financially. It starts with girls night out with her friends. If a couple of the friends are divorced they encourage her to do the same and tell her how great single life is. If another higher value Beta male doesn't come along. She will then look to religion to atone for her bad behavior. Join a church and then use the church to acquire yet another Beta Male provider under the thought that she has changed and all that dick she rode doesn't matter anymore.

Girl I'm seeing told me that our first date was one of 3 she had set up the same weekend. She told me she chose me because I was the only one who extended the date and went for the kiss

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If she pulls away i dont care how long she doesnt talk..DO NOT REACH oUT! Women dont care what you look like or how much money you have but if you can create emotional tension you have her mind!

Women can't handle when you do to them what they do to men...so.do it!

learning body language and study their behavior......tells you a lot more then the words coming out of their mouths

Pulling away is a cowardly way of breaking up. If this happens to you, assume you have been dumped. Be cool, say nothing... Leave her alone, permanenetly.

Match her behavior... Be prepared to fade away and perhaps disappear... Never react to a women's silly games...

We were friends first. First kiss took a year and it was perfect. Married 12 years now and both of Us couldn’t imagine being with anyone else :)

Kissing on the first date? What are you people? Teenagers? 😂 Adults take their time.

OMG... is this for real? If you haven't engaged in any meaningful physical contact by the 2nd or 3rd date jump ship. She's not interested. Why wait weeks or months to figure that out.

Sometimes as a man i dont want to kiss the woman ive just met.

Ben is a recovering addict. He has his own trauma history as well and his own cheating and other messes .

Women will initiate if they like you, you lead from there. Nature

be quiet more often than not just shows you don't put in much effort even if the girl throws signs at you and you bite on it. You gotta show up a lil more now. Can't be all cool and quiet anymore.

Coach Harry Wilmingtons New album Title : The Dutch Ayeee lol

This is so true…. Frequent texting equals friend zone…

Not at least try for a kiss on first date won’t be solely the reason she turns down 2nd date but it often is the nail in coffin if you didn’t do enough to show confidence in your romantic interest. There’s less risk if you at least try to kiss her, even if she politely tells you she’s not ready bc at least she’s not going home wondering if you even want her romantically. So yes it’s perfectly acceptable to assess the situation, but there’s more risk if you don’t at least try bc then you have to find other clear ways to let her know your romantic desire.

No way this guy is giving dating advice 💀

My situation is also long distance and in the past I've gotten the "I'm depressed" excuse. Though she currently isn't claiming her "depression" is a problem now. Funny how she has time to suddenly go to a gym for 3-4 hours, plan girls trips to other countries with her friends (meanwhile telling me she was busy at the same time), watching movies and cartoons, but no time for me. Also, she never tells me her work schedule and won't suggest a time for when she's free, so I can't even make plans with her. Mind you, we've been close/best friends for over a decade. Unofficially dating since 2019 and officially started around last June. She used to respond to texts within minutes to no more than an hour, now she takes 2-3+ hours to respond. However, if she texts something and I take hours to respond, then she gets upset.

My opinion. Being quiet is not always the biggest problem, Its just people that lack a bit of confidence or are a little bit shy tend to be more quiet. Women hate lack of confidence. Some blokes who are quiet are super confident but you can kind of sense it from them. Also man when you're a quiet person you often miss out on opportunities that you could have grabbed if you were more talkative and inquisitive

Hey Coach, I asked the question again about the autism. I found this and really paid attention to what you said, which is true. I remember I used to be a player type, which i didn't have to do much "which is kinda some of the traits that i can implement now" like the badboy traits you know? But yes, now understanding how to date like a Man... actually is going to take work lol... but I'm here for it. Like you said, I feel i need to follow a blue print instead of half assing everything about a relationship... which I usually do for everything else in my life. I'll check out the academy

They are "flakey" because they are juggling too many dix.

My gf isn't even remotely as busy as the women mentioned in the video. Mine lives with her parents and works at a charity shop for 8 hours per day, 4 days a week. She has no other responsibilities. Yet, she wants me to believe she couldn't spend a hour of time with me for 5 weeks straight.

90-95% of first dates an experienced dude should get a kiss on the first date. If she rejects a kiss that is good info.

Reason 18 - They have poor life skills and decision making ability that’s why they are SM - do you want to deal with this handicap and through genes pass this onto your kids you have with her

Reason 17 - The years of effort you put into raising, teaching and caring for her kids receives one or two brownie points and that’s it, you are not truly appreciated

Reason 16 - once her kids become independent your usefulness suddenly evaporates and you will more than likely face divorce grape

Reason 15 - teenage daughters of SM can and do accuse you of inappropriate behaviour and put you in jail and ruin your life

Reason 14 - other people including her and your family will look down on you as a beta man who could only manage to attract and hold a woman with low options

Reason 12 - statistically their kids have a bio dad with poor genes - this will be a problem when her kids become teenagers

Reason 11 - statistically they are lower IQ

Very aligned with teachings of Corey Wayne, its nice that the directions don’t contradict each other.

Absolutely u should. Harry is the King of Friendzone. Also try to do the kiss well before the date end. Unless ur game is garbage don’t offer a 2nd date without a kiss.

so from what i've seen, a lot of times when we try to learn things, we end up chasing varius specific pieces of knowledge for every possible situation, and we can neglect the principles that form the reasoning behind the things that are being taught to us we have a LOT of specific instructions on this program, and a lot of basic dating principles too, but the basic principles like be confident be indifferent etc seem to be scattered throughout the channel i was wondering if u could do a show sometime where u could highlight the basic things to remember that guide our actions in dating, where these principles can be outlined in one place for us id really appreciate it and so would everyone else too, i believe!

thank you !! i swear id never ask u to take it down lol

What if your an attratcive guy and you cant get a date... 1 girl gave me her number i didnt ask for it... i texted her just 1 time and i only responded to her... now she wont even reply ive sent 2 messages in 4 weeks... not being needy or anything just hello and nothing... i already moved on but i just dont understand why give me your number if you dont want to talk to me... its not like i asked for it or harssed her

What number is high ?

Loved this episode. I listened to it on the way to my band’s gig. You have amazing insight and are very wise!

I have that exact same shirt bro!

One of the single best videos on this topic.