So is this not narcissism cuz I see total the same when I look at those kinds of videos
@naturelover1284Күн бұрын
How does an older woman find a therapist that specializes in this cuz I was sent to a young girl that specialized in drug addiction and I don't have that I just can't anxiety from an eye disorder and I think this
@naturelover1284Күн бұрын
This is so helpful thank you I was gone for 20 years and it was the best of my life I came back because people said they changed it 89 and they haven't and I'm going to live near and it just feels like more of my life being taken up with thinking about how to repair myself and it's still about them and they'll tie up money and make problems afterlife is it best just to walk away 2000 miles away
@queeenpeechez3 күн бұрын
good grief. imagine living in a one stop light town filled with emotionally immature people smh!!!! they sound like narcissists according to what the doctor is saying
@MzShonuff1233 күн бұрын
This woman's books changed the entire trajectory of my life. I am forever in her debt
@debbiemckenna53 күн бұрын
Thank u for doing this video!!
@user-js4sb4qq2h3 күн бұрын
Its narcissism....
@debbiemckenna53 күн бұрын
What are and where do u purchase these items.
@debbiemckenna53 күн бұрын
Thank u for sharing your story!
@debbiemckenna53 күн бұрын
I am not being disrespectful I just want to see the sands and a demo!❤
@mentalfitness71024 күн бұрын
Spouses can be like this - ugh!! Its harder to make distance in a martiage 😢
@alisonkutchma17636 күн бұрын
"Being curious about another perspective is seen as extra talking that is annoying." I laughed out loud at that. That is so true!
@braininjurydiy9 күн бұрын
dah, I got involved with a guy I knew was emotionally immature, my reasoning was well it's just a physical thing and it's a chance for me to practice expressing myself and dealing with somone like that. But I found it makes me anxious just anticipating my behaviour might cause a mood change, and I don't like or need that so I'll end it, I cut out abusive mother and enabling sister, it's been the best thing ever I cannot keep putting my body through how it feels to be around those abusive people.
@holycat831210 күн бұрын
What a perverted subject it is- psychology is indeed good at making even innocent thing as abuse and often romanticising real bad things- like personality disorders
@MarleyLeMar10 күн бұрын
"How can we own all of it?" I've been moving around the Enneagram in the "Direction of Integration" based on the work of Riso and Hudson, "The Wisdom of the Enneagram." Each type has levels of health (from pathological to actualized) and directions of integration (growth) and disintegration (how we regress under stress). Moving around each of the types in the order of Integration is accomplished at the higher levels of each type's healthy aspects. The lines that connect the points inside the Enneagram symbol show the directions of integration and disintegration. Thank you for bringing up the spirituality of the Enneagram.
@bladerbane12 күн бұрын
It would be nice for Lindsay to offer more compassion towards people who are emotionally immature, it's not as though they are having the time of their lives..it's trauma, it's having been taught bad lessons that you have to then spend years reprogramming into healthier approaches to the self and relationships. Just kinda sounds like she's making a villain of emotionally immature people. This is one third of the way through the video so far for me, but it just seems weird given her wealth of knowledge.
@ramonalopez751612 күн бұрын
Thank you
@leeboriack805416 күн бұрын
The difference in treatment of boys and girls is very unfortunate and comes at a cost to our society.
@danjoyce10016 күн бұрын
Laura I am currently promoting my book, Have You Taken Your Meds? A two-part graphic novel ebook with music videos. Can you interview me on your show?
@Plasmafox17 күн бұрын
This video was in a related videos list right next to one about fear of abandonment and as an emotional neglect survivor that's so ironic. Always seems like there's two sides of Self-Help KZbin: "no, no, those voices are wrong, you're worth it, you deserve love" and "stay away from those first people they'll ruin your life"
@RugbyJackal18 күн бұрын
Why not try to help what she refers to as "these people" instead of "detaching" - it's a negative outlook for all.
@user-rz6dj3kb9l17 күн бұрын
Do you mean you think she should help immature people instead of helping people detach from them? The thing is that emotionally immature people don't see themselves as emotionally immature so they go in denial and don't want to change. Sometimes if they go through a big loss like a divorce, an emotionally immature person may be able to take a look at themselves and discover they're immature but it's not guaranteed to happen.
@RugbyJackal17 күн бұрын
@@user-rz6dj3kb9l I’m suggesting it shouldn’t be presented clinically as an “either/or”…because it need not be one or the other. Alienating those who appear to struggle with what you or the above have diagnosed as emotional immaturity as opposed to looking to find ways to assist them appears to me to be the less charitable and decent act of the two. As I say, not an either/or.
@user-rz6dj3kb9l17 күн бұрын
@@RugbyJackal oh, got it!
@ShyamKumar-zb2mw26 күн бұрын
Fantastic resource for parents who's children are headed out to college. All of it consists of you focusing on you and your emotions and if you do not know how to do that - it will likely get a lot more complicated than it needs to be. Thanks, Laura!!!
@pamwatkins485527 күн бұрын
These are very marvelous lessons
@pamwatkins485527 күн бұрын
I'm I'm going to Gaslight myself to make you realize that I'm trying to relate to you but when you can't relate with me and I'm trying so hard to relate to you maybe I should really become like a puppy and really be your friend and overly do the nice things I want to do for you and then you can reject me
@pamwatkins485527 күн бұрын
Wow
@pamwatkins485527 күн бұрын
My father told me that the whole thing is that having a child is you're too young to have them and my mother was too young to have me I was told in Psychotherapy that she was too young
@pamwatkins485527 күн бұрын
Yes recently my mother told me I don't have to like you to love you I'm like well I don't know if I have to do this anymore
@pamwatkins485527 күн бұрын
Fortifying these dealings
@TwoBlackRings28 күн бұрын
20:49 - Very good description of an identifier of someone with low reflective depth. This conversation is so powerful.
@dani88light28 күн бұрын
Thank you for such a wonderful interview! To respond to that last piece…I indeed feel that the PURPOSE of any kind of therapy or therapeutic practice, should be to help us connect more deeply to our own intuition. And a whole person approach that integrates body, mind, spirit and heart, can more easily allow our intuition to arise naturally inside of us. 🙏✨🙏
@dzzzzzt29 күн бұрын
That was a great introduction to the topic. I've already bought the book before listening to this and now I'm going to start reading the book.
@leeboriack8054Ай бұрын
Excellent topic and the guest was rich with information. It is very important to prepare ahead of time for interviews with guests of this caliber.
@cindyedwards7605Ай бұрын
I could not follow what you are talking about.
@flynnzilla8796Ай бұрын
I dont know that estrangement is really the right word for this; yes, practicing on people that are not overtly destroying you constantly (or worse!) is absolutely necessary, to a point! But wasting your life repeating and practicing…when does that ever stop? (Particularly as you know that the person will never change, or has never shown a sign of doing so? ) “Giving up” as you call it - i’d call it saving one’s own life! Leaving a relationship that has no upside is essential and healthy. Say goodbye - take that space for yourself - and dont look back! (Estrangement, as i understand it, implies the possibility of renewal or continuing; an absolutely horrible idea in some situations.) Life is way too short to put up with people who dont seem very alive in the first place. Just my two cents worth…
@HybridParentSupportАй бұрын
33:40 issues setting boundaries
@HybridParentSupportАй бұрын
This video explains so many freaking “relationships” in my life😡 they never care for what I have to say.
@HybridParentSupportАй бұрын
6:35 “Emotionally immature people have a big problem recognizing the subjective experience of other people..They don’t have the imaginative experience of what it must be like for the other person”.
@kevindavis4709Ай бұрын
Don’t flog me my parents didn’t set a good example of what a marriage is. Parents like this make it hard too follow the golden rule like how do you expect kids to respect you when you don’t show anything to respect? Pretty bad when a child has to be the mature adult in there parents conflicts
@VikingssongsАй бұрын
Self reflection is key, hence why know yourself quote
@kimlec3592Ай бұрын
Attachment is everything.
@JJmikraАй бұрын
One of my subordinates is like that. Extremely frustrating... I'm trying to learn how to deal with this person. Honestly I don't want to have any contact with this person...😢 I know some who have autistic tendency but this subordinate is different from that. Rather closer to narcissist
@ArchAngel435Ай бұрын
My ex husband is a malignant narcissist. Never ever communicated with me during our 25 yr marriage. Heck, he didn't like talking much either. He would throw these 'surprise' birthday parties for me which were a standing joke in my family. When he threw himself this huge 50th birthday at which I was a guest like everyone else, he said to me, if I'd gotten you involved in the planning, it would have taken 6 months to execute it. Thats the kind of emotionally immature person that he was. He made me feel like an annoying mosquito and in time I quit buzzing, gave up on the relationship. But I stayed a long while later expecting thst he would change, would self reflect on the danage he was doing to the relationship. But instead he just moved on with new supply after trying to get me back into the box of supplies 😢
@phyllisluciaАй бұрын
Traditions became traditions for a reason.
@phemery1182Ай бұрын
❤💯👏👏
@stadinm1Ай бұрын
I am reading the book now. Have been a yoga teacher 14 years and now am a massage therapist. I also have a BA in social work, and let me tell you, this is the missing link for me. And one reason yoga never really healed me after all these years…without this information I am just bringing my NS to the mat and it only changes a little bit for a short amount of time. I can’t believe how much trauma caused me to mask and create a normal with coping, but the NS always taking the brunt of it.
@stadinm1Ай бұрын
Thank you so much for this research and interview. ❤
@inguceАй бұрын
This conversation is a real glimmer in my day! 🌟Beautiful, heart-based, interesting and engaging. Now heading off to Amazon to get the book. Thank you so much! 🙏💖
@lannaintajak80Ай бұрын
My mother....
@rturney6376Ай бұрын
Thank you ❤🙏 😊
@avonleamontague2469Ай бұрын
I'm very glad that despite the emotional neglect, I never once thought it had anything to do with me. I don't seem to come across others that feel that way and I don't hear that perspective talked about either. I'd be curious to explore that.