So is this not narcissism cuz I see total the same when I look at those kinds of videos

How does an older woman find a therapist that specializes in this cuz I was sent to a young girl that specialized in drug addiction and I don't have that I just can't anxiety from an eye disorder and I think this

This is so helpful thank you I was gone for 20 years and it was the best of my life I came back because people said they changed it 89 and they haven't and I'm going to live near and it just feels like more of my life being taken up with thinking about how to repair myself and it's still about them and they'll tie up money and make problems afterlife is it best just to walk away 2000 miles away

good grief. imagine living in a one stop light town filled with emotionally immature people smh!!!! they sound like narcissists according to what the doctor is saying

This woman's books changed the entire trajectory of my life. I am forever in her debt

Thank u for doing this video!!

Its narcissism....

What are and where do u purchase these items.

Thank u for sharing your story!

I am not being disrespectful I just want to see the sands and a demo!❤

Spouses can be like this - ugh!! Its harder to make distance in a martiage 😢

"Being curious about another perspective is seen as extra talking that is annoying." I laughed out loud at that. That is so true!

dah, I got involved with a guy I knew was emotionally immature, my reasoning was well it's just a physical thing and it's a chance for me to practice expressing myself and dealing with somone like that. But I found it makes me anxious just anticipating my behaviour might cause a mood change, and I don't like or need that so I'll end it, I cut out abusive mother and enabling sister, it's been the best thing ever I cannot keep putting my body through how it feels to be around those abusive people.

What a perverted subject it is- psychology is indeed good at making even innocent thing as abuse and often romanticising real bad things- like personality disorders

"How can we own all of it?" I've been moving around the Enneagram in the "Direction of Integration" based on the work of Riso and Hudson, "The Wisdom of the Enneagram." Each type has levels of health (from pathological to actualized) and directions of integration (growth) and disintegration (how we regress under stress). Moving around each of the types in the order of Integration is accomplished at the higher levels of each type's healthy aspects. The lines that connect the points inside the Enneagram symbol show the directions of integration and disintegration. Thank you for bringing up the spirituality of the Enneagram.

It would be nice for Lindsay to offer more compassion towards people who are emotionally immature, it's not as though they are having the time of their lives..it's trauma, it's having been taught bad lessons that you have to then spend years reprogramming into healthier approaches to the self and relationships. Just kinda sounds like she's making a villain of emotionally immature people. This is one third of the way through the video so far for me, but it just seems weird given her wealth of knowledge.

Thank you

The difference in treatment of boys and girls is very unfortunate and comes at a cost to our society.

Laura I am currently promoting my book, Have You Taken Your Meds? A two-part graphic novel ebook with music videos. Can you interview me on your show?

This video was in a related videos list right next to one about fear of abandonment and as an emotional neglect survivor that's so ironic. Always seems like there's two sides of Self-Help KZbin: "no, no, those voices are wrong, you're worth it, you deserve love" and "stay away from those first people they'll ruin your life"

Why not try to help what she refers to as "these people" instead of "detaching" - it's a negative outlook for all.

Fantastic resource for parents who's children are headed out to college. All of it consists of you focusing on you and your emotions and if you do not know how to do that - it will likely get a lot more complicated than it needs to be. Thanks, Laura!!!

These are very marvelous lessons

I'm I'm going to Gaslight myself to make you realize that I'm trying to relate to you but when you can't relate with me and I'm trying so hard to relate to you maybe I should really become like a puppy and really be your friend and overly do the nice things I want to do for you and then you can reject me

Wow

My father told me that the whole thing is that having a child is you're too young to have them and my mother was too young to have me I was told in Psychotherapy that she was too young

Yes recently my mother told me I don't have to like you to love you I'm like well I don't know if I have to do this anymore

Fortifying these dealings

20:49 - Very good description of an identifier of someone with low reflective depth. This conversation is so powerful.

Thank you for such a wonderful interview! To respond to that last piece…I indeed feel that the PURPOSE of any kind of therapy or therapeutic practice, should be to help us connect more deeply to our own intuition. And a whole person approach that integrates body, mind, spirit and heart, can more easily allow our intuition to arise naturally inside of us. 🙏✨🙏

That was a great introduction to the topic. I've already bought the book before listening to this and now I'm going to start reading the book.

Excellent topic and the guest was rich with information. It is very important to prepare ahead of time for interviews with guests of this caliber.

I could not follow what you are talking about.

I dont know that estrangement is really the right word for this; yes, practicing on people that are not overtly destroying you constantly (or worse!) is absolutely necessary, to a point! But wasting your life repeating and practicing…when does that ever stop? (Particularly as you know that the person will never change, or has never shown a sign of doing so? ) “Giving up” as you call it - i’d call it saving one’s own life! Leaving a relationship that has no upside is essential and healthy. Say goodbye - take that space for yourself - and dont look back! (Estrangement, as i understand it, implies the possibility of renewal or continuing; an absolutely horrible idea in some situations.) Life is way too short to put up with people who dont seem very alive in the first place. Just my two cents worth…

33:40 issues setting boundaries

This video explains so many freaking “relationships” in my life😡 they never care for what I have to say.

6:35 “Emotionally immature people have a big problem recognizing the subjective experience of other people..They don’t have the imaginative experience of what it must be like for the other person”.

Don’t flog me my parents didn’t set a good example of what a marriage is. Parents like this make it hard too follow the golden rule like how do you expect kids to respect you when you don’t show anything to respect? Pretty bad when a child has to be the mature adult in there parents conflicts

Self reflection is key, hence why know yourself quote

Attachment is everything.

One of my subordinates is like that. Extremely frustrating... I'm trying to learn how to deal with this person. Honestly I don't want to have any contact with this person...😢 I know some who have autistic tendency but this subordinate is different from that. Rather closer to narcissist

My ex husband is a malignant narcissist. Never ever communicated with me during our 25 yr marriage. Heck, he didn't like talking much either. He would throw these 'surprise' birthday parties for me which were a standing joke in my family. When he threw himself this huge 50th birthday at which I was a guest like everyone else, he said to me, if I'd gotten you involved in the planning, it would have taken 6 months to execute it. Thats the kind of emotionally immature person that he was. He made me feel like an annoying mosquito and in time I quit buzzing, gave up on the relationship. But I stayed a long while later expecting thst he would change, would self reflect on the danage he was doing to the relationship. But instead he just moved on with new supply after trying to get me back into the box of supplies 😢

Traditions became traditions for a reason.

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I am reading the book now. Have been a yoga teacher 14 years and now am a massage therapist. I also have a BA in social work, and let me tell you, this is the missing link for me. And one reason yoga never really healed me after all these years…without this information I am just bringing my NS to the mat and it only changes a little bit for a short amount of time. I can’t believe how much trauma caused me to mask and create a normal with coping, but the NS always taking the brunt of it.

Thank you so much for this research and interview. ❤

This conversation is a real glimmer in my day! 🌟Beautiful, heart-based, interesting and engaging. Now heading off to Amazon to get the book. Thank you so much! 🙏💖

My mother....

Thank you ❤🙏 😊

I'm very glad that despite the emotional neglect, I never once thought it had anything to do with me. I don't seem to come across others that feel that way and I don't hear that perspective talked about either. I'd be curious to explore that.