You have peace and love in the home that you have created with your wife and your kids, as you have described your parents I would not want them around my children or my spouse. You did not leave them high and dry, you offered to help pay for assisted living, protect your peace.

your siter is definitely the a hole.... not considering facts because she probably wants to overtake your home and kick you out.

Nta If I was you would talk to ur parents n sister n explain why then if they still don’t take it tell them if they continue they’ll be uninvited

Nta, even though it's natural to feel guilty don't, putting your brother in a care facility where they have staff 24/7, planned daily activities, and I'm sure your brother will make lots of friends. The care facility is better equipped to take care of him. And you can be the overseer of his care. Go and observe check it out, see how your brother is adjusting, you may be pleasantly surprised that he is where he should be. It's not like you can't take them out and bring them home to spend the night. You can go grab him for all family holidays. You are not just dropping him off and forgetting about him. Just give the Care facility a chance and you might find out it's a good thing for your brother.

Borrow something of hers and return it damaged, NTA

NTA kick her out lmao.

Nta

There are almost 100 days of summers. Unless you already sent out the invites, you can find a different date.

Yes but no at the same time. Yes because your friends and family can suck it up that you needed to change the date. And no because you didn’t know that was your cousins wedding, So I’m saying both.

Totally debends on who chose the date first

It’s a graduation party I mean it’s kind of a big deal because woo hoo you graduated but a wedding is 100 times bigger it’s for two partners bond them self. Your graduation party is just a party for getting out of school

you can easily change dates. she cannot. YTA

You have extended family? Tell them that if they are so concerned to do the job themselves if they are so concerned. You owe your parents nothing. BTW: I had a very similar experience growing up.

There is no asshole here either way someone will be drawing the short end and he chose that to be his cousin instead of his guests He didnt do it on purpose and his guests made plans for a graduation already

Ytah bc after u found out u should have changed the dates

Who had the date first?

NTA, she should learn about boundaries

You didn't know

Yes you should change the date

Tf you mean just yes My opinion is that they are not the a hole as they have budget issues and they do not know the person

Yes

asshole, its a wedding... that kinda takes priority over a pizza place graduation party at the last minute

I do think u are in the wronge not to be rude but i think u should maybe do it before or after

YTA imo

I don't think so? The only thing I'd say is lights, especially if they're multicolored or flashing. They can cause migraines and headaches. Just take them down if they ask you.

NTA, you don’t have to share anything

Yes

You are not the a hole you have to think about your own family

Aren’t cubicles usually separate apart from one wall?

Yes, YTA! Its not just YOUR workspace, there is such a thing as prefessional etiquette.

i think the lights are the real problem, no one cares about plants and the posters u can tolerate. but lights too??

Verry much so

Yes yes you are

This is your friend I know you should have made the effort to atleast come i think you were being a bit selfish

If social anxiety makes it so you can go to support a friend in their special day, you need therapy.

No ones really in the wrong here, OP can choose not to go and stress but the friend can recognize the lack of effort. It's all around a sucky situation.

If he's always in the same office as you and finds the decoration distracting you have to remove it bcz it's his work place as well if it was only you in the office you could do whatever you want

yeah he should put some effort, at least be there for a short time. it's not always about you.

Go and leave early

NTA

absolutely NTA meals are a time to talk to eachother and bond. unless you phrased it like an asshole

U are the ashoole

Well, not particularly. However it depends how you conveyed it

Yes.

I honestly feel like family recipes should be shared more out of the family. But you can always offer to make her rhe cake for a fee

Say that it's a family recipe,and that you are unable to share the recibe.

NTA

She doesn't sound like much of a friend. You need a new one.

So many recipes died with family members. They wouldn't even give them to younger generations. Eat dirt gramma!

NTA. Half wits dont understand that Family recipies are for Famiy Only, no matter how good a Friend your are, your still Just a Friend, and NOT FAMILY.