Great interview❤

Reading this book made me decide to never get married or have sex. This book makes having sex sound awful and extremely damaging.

To change anxiety worry and depression one must change the environment that one is in or a custom to change would you listen to what you see how you live begin to adapt and facilitate small steps within you the process is changing your environment to get rid of worry and stress

The key also is having a example as a man we’re not giving a lot of examples in our primary circle we see examples on video other places but very rare in art environment of culture we need to see more examples in culture to be able to change

The best form of sobriety or recovery whether it’s in a AA or church group is as you stated relationship it’s been around someone that is able to relate that has overcom similar or had had a similarity of experiences that can help you guide you with certain keys it’s about formulating a body a group of people with a similar background that can help one another that is the true form

The best form of sobriety or recovery whether it’s in a AA or church group is as you stated relationship it’s been around someone that is able to relate that has overcom similar or had had a similarity of experiences that can help you guide you with certain keys it’s about formulating a body a group of people with a similar background that can help one another that is the true form

that’s when you look at the seven deadly sins with the R last greed because gluttony is over consuming and over indulging any certain product

dealing with PTSD or any traumatic event in life just like in the beginning of Genesis God separated the light from the darkness he separated the waters from above in the waters from below we also have to learn how to separate things in our lives and in our memories so we can file them away and know how to deal with certain situations specially traumatic events

A traumatic events that a person experiences sometimes after it’s put in the past it is triggered by aromas triggered by events situation’s something that is similar and it triggers a person to backtrack and revert back to a certain state of mine or Bean

stress anxiety is actually more of a worry problematic situations that a person contemplates and thinks about the future things that happen prior in the past but only if I would’ve done this difference the product of anxiety is pondering the idea of what if and also of what will happen in the near future

stress anxiety is actually more of a worry problematic situations that a person contemplates and thinks about the future things that happen prior in the past but only if I would’ve done this difference the product of anxiety is pondering the idea of what if and also of what will happen in the near future

God seen that it is not good for man to be alone so he created Eve Adam man’s rib flesh of my flesh and bone of my bone is what scripture says that is codependency at its nature from the beginning

The Israelites were codependent on slavery they got a custom to a certain type of lifestyle of bondage they walked the desert for 40 years to break tradition to break the codependency of the need of being enslaved and entrap it wasn’t the parents but it was the next generation that broke free

It is not necessarily a craving but he desire of the way chemically imbalanced it makes you feel up whatever addictive drug or addictiveness or addiction can be from drugs to last it is a euphoria in a state of being in the moment

Addiction is not just self gratification some people use it as a cover-up a healing now for self but to hide emotions in pain

SEX STARVED ……THAT HAPPENS FROM MANY REASONS …..FIRST IS BECAUSE MEN NEED TO UNDERSTAND ONCE MARRIED THEY CAN NEVER LUST FOR SOMEONE ELSE ……EVER …..OTHERWISE THE WIFE WILL REFUSE SEXUAL ACTIVITY …..MONOGAMY …..MONOGAMY ……

He he, first I didn't push, but now after 15 yrs of rejection, I have started confronting. Anger is her answer. But the sex stops Then the intermacy stops Then any touching at all intiated by the sex dodging partner starts. Then prayng together and communicating stops.

Problem is when I bring, or try to bring the subject up, my wife gets angry " you got sex on the brain, we are to old for that" But zero times in 15 yrs????????

Getting married after aged 58, I do not give a fuck, love me anyway?

When I try to “listen and find out more” I find that people get very defensive and I can’t get to the bottom of the issue. It makes communication impossible.

10+ years and no matter what you do to help the situation, it just never changes. Take care of self.

This just sounds like another woman who wants to manipulate men. This is why men are pulling away. We are tired of the manipulation. We’re also realizing that women are not made of sugar and spice.

Sex is a waste of time

"dont wait to long, or else the marraige dies. it feels like I'm a lodger in my own home, we keep it going for the family." 42 years, (Im the bloke)😱

I quit initiating entirely several years ago. There's only so much rejection a person can take before they shut down. I no longer view my wife as a sexual person anymore. She is a non-gendered being that lives in the house with me.

Addiction is a secular term for bondage what the Bible cause bondage to sin. This is from someone who has had drug and alcohol addiction. Something that is being completely overlooked is the spiritual, demonic element also.

Very encouraging

Mercy / pity sex is the worst.

These frigid selfish people putting their spouse through hell. End the marriage.

Thank you for your service to help marriages!!

She is wonderful.

Looking at porn is not normal.

@21:23-23:25 hit hard!!

No, just no. He may be a Dr, but he doesn’t have a damn clue.

So you never had him back it seems to address this nutritional stuff and brain health, incl after brain injury?

5:55 Why I have my own bedroom.

I do all the little things, putting my wife first. Come home from 24 hour shifts as a firefighter and get my daughter up for school so she can sleep in. I take over evenings of dinners and do bedtime with my daughter so my wife can watch tv and relax. It’s endless. Getaways for herself as Mother’s Day gifts, airbnb trips as a family as surprises and constant words of affirmation and acts of service and trying my best at emotional connection. If it wasn’t for me coming in for hugs and kisses even I wouldn’t get Jack shit. I work 60+ hours/2 jobs so she can be the stay at home mom she wanted to be. I leave notes, give back rubs foot rubs, the list goes on. I take care of my health and fitness and image, and living depressed and get belittled for wanting more and wanting my wife and our romance and spark back. At the end of my ropes, not looking good.

In ten minutes I learnt more for free than thousands of dollars of counselling which ended in divorce anyway

I hate life. Life is flawed. I wish I was never born into this mess.

That apology at 7:00 is meaningless.

sorry, that is wrong and off base wow.

I too tried counselling for me She only heard my side She didn't give me choice of staying together only said he can't change you won't be happy that negative talk made me think ill prove you wrong last week husband wanted to split up after 22 years I was shocked he's now seen my vulnerable side and I am now being kind and working on myself and respect to him I regret how I treated him This book is amazing and I can relate completely

You can't just do it - when "we will never have sex ever again." is followed by "I don't see that it's that big of a deal." That is no starter. Perimenopause and completely intimacy withdrawal is impossible to consider. Will not discuss it - states she is happy to never have sex again.

Thanks to shiela I haven’t had sex in 6 months. My wife wants 100% perfection first. I paid her $106,000 student loan, she hasn’t had to work, visits friends and family whenever she wants. I took her mother in with Alzheimer’s when all her siblings refused and she died in my den which I set up as bedroom in her last 3 months of life. I am a doctor and she has full control of our finances, so she is not refused clothes, food, decorations, whatever… She is a control ing person. All I have ever wanted was her to stop criticizing me for things which is constant. I am very physically fit and quiet and listen. We talk 1-3 hours per day. Another 6 months and I am leaving.

11:11

Just dump her. Cut your losses because this issue is not going away.

Is this, word for for word, the same speech Bettina Arndt always gives??? Its even the same examples given! Are they twins, or the same person, in disguise?

Men, watch and listen to Bettina Arndt a psychologist on KZbin, she has a 20and 30-minut videos of women’s changing attitudes all too soon after marriage. They lose interest in sex leaving men wondering what did they do wrong. Women’s chemistry changes after marriage and the husband is out in the cold wondering what is going on because she is just not interested anymore. I did not know about Bettina Arndt until the age of 76. I am writing so men will know what to expect when they get married or live with someone.

This is something I am working on in my marriage. The big issue, is my partner is not willing to communicate on the issue. It is frustrating. When there was some discussion, it felt like a power game shift. I felt in some ways it would degrade respect me. I ended up pulling away, sleeping in another room. Drinking, reading, karaoke in the living room by myself, studying. Then any attempt by my partner to build bridges, it was civil sometimes warm, sometimes cold, and keep enough space. After several weeks, it starts to create tension. The loss of cuddling and other things also affects your partner. They will want to be cuddled as well. Now is a good time to discuss each other's emotional needs. Why those needs are important. This does open the doors a bit. Communication is very important. Sex that doesn't provide the emotional bond the marriage is over. It is just like having casual sex, it isn't something special for you to share together.

Thank you for sharing this.