@@lgroves336 Lol yes the "V" word is like kryptonite to avoidantly attached people, or at least they have been conditioned to believe it is and so they avoid their own and others vulnerability like the plague. You're doing a fantastic job creating a safe space for your partner; you are helping her heal in ways you may not even understand. I hope things continue to work well for you both

@@user-xn7uu9jt9q hmmm 🤔 I know the almost overwhelming urge I get to share relevant videos, reels, memes and all of that to the people whom I think needs to see them the most. Sometimes it works and a seed is planted, other times it blows up in my face and a fight is started and sometimes its ignored. The important thing is to remember that people have a right to refuse our own points of view regardless of whether we think we're right. So now when I share relevant stuff, I send it without any expectations of the people I'm sending it to, to have the reaction I'd like them to have. It's just information that they can do with as they please. Hope this helps

@@TheAIMnetwork. Exactly 💯% True, Boss Lady!

@@user-xn7uu9jt9q I am so sorry you weren't allowed to feel emotionally safe in the one place where you should have unconditional love and safety. No child deserves that. You shouldn't regret being who you are because there's nothing wrong with you. You not having any interest in sports didn't (and still doesn't) make you any less valuable as a man and importantly as a person. God made each of us unique and well and I hope you find healing for every wound you sustained from your childhood. 💛

@@_Bwcs_YT This means the world to me. Thank you 💛

@@xxseexxyourxxsoulxx No you didn't fail, you didn't fail. Please don't think that. You did the very best you could. I hope you find healing from the wounds that relationship caused you and you meet someone who can love you as you give love. You didn't fail.

I'm sorry if you have experienced extremely critical people in your life.

@@TheAIMnetwork. Yes.

We're glad to have you here.

So glad you find the information useful. I'm sending you good wishes

I appreciate that very much. Thank you for being a part of our growing community!

@@adepeju9123 Oh thank you so much Adepeju, and thank you for being here. I hope the discussions we share on this show are beneficial to you and others 💛

@@cillia.o8633 I hear that! Nothing is valuable enough to take the place of your self-esteem. Anyone who requires you to lay your self-esteem down in order to pick them up and keep them in your life, has no business being in your life

@@TheAIMnetwork. thank you.

@@cillia.o8633 Hi Cillia. So if I understand you correctly, you're asking how to apply the knowledge you've learned about trauma and how it affects the way you show up in life and stay soft and emotionally regulated if you keep meeting emotionally unavailable people who trigger your trauma wounds and that makes you go back into survival mode. So how do you stay emotionally stable and regulated (soft) around emotionally unstable and dysregulated people. Is this what you're asking?

@TheAIMnetwork. exactly, because most times our past traumas are just being triggered.

@@cillia.o8633 So here's my honest thoughts about people who trigger us. They get to be themselves; whether that's the healthy versions of themselves or the poisonous version of themselves. Whoever toxic people choose to be is their right and we shouldn't try to change them. The real thing we should focus on is why we're choosing to be the version of ourselves who drinks the poison. You can't control who you attract, but you absolutely can control who you keep in your life and who you throw back into the water. That all depends on how healed you yourself are because if you're also unhealthy, the unhealthy people will come into your life and find a home that resonates with them and they'll stay.

@@TheAIMnetwork. thank you

@@cillia.o8633 🫂 You deserve to be loved, please keep people in your life who remind you of that

@@edikaneti101 Yaaaaas. Let's build a community of besties who take care of each other and help each other have way better relationships 💗

Hey Edikan! I've linked the full video to this short. Enjoy and let me know your thoughts in the comments.

I'm so glad you're here 🙏🏽

Thanks so much. Knowledge illuminates and we can have better relationships if we learn better ways to show

We're in this together 🫂

@@iyeshabarrie It's a very difficult relationship to navigate because the deeper in you want to go, the more you see how tightly shut that emotional door is. It's a painful experience for the non-avoidant partner. I'm sorry you went through this

I'm so glad the discussions we have here resonate with you Sumeiya! Thank you for being a part of our growing family.

Thank you for being here

So many women! Before we even get to 30, this song is drummed into our ears and psyches, and it's destructive. Women are so much more than viable baby-making machines. We are whole and complete, period. A partner should be a companion that you enjoy life with, not a requirement or proof that we are worthy

Hi Phillip. First of all, it's great that you have the self-awareness to truly see your patterns, and the courage to admit that there's something there to work on. Have you considered talking to a counsellor or therapist to help you dig into the part of your mind that makes you default to this coping mechanism?

Thank you for being here. We love you!

If this is you, you're going to be alright. You can overcome the pain and get your happy life back. I hope you do 🤗

Oh thank you so much for being here! Welcome to our little family 💛

There's just so much more we can do with one another than turn ourselves into just tools for sexual gratification. I'm glad you stopped by, and even more so that you'll be back again.

I'm so glad you stopped by and found the video useful. Thank you 🙏🏽

@@TheAIMnetwork. veeery useful. Thank you too🙏

Unfortunately it is, and I hope more people realise that they can absolutely pick their lives up after the pain of heartbreak

I'm sayingggg😅

I am so glad that it worked out for both of you. We love a happy ending in this community

I'm glad you're here☺️

Thank you for joining me on this journey 🙏🏽

Thank you so much. February 1st, here we come!