Ah ok, thanks for clarifying, that’s helpful, I appreciate it

Thanks so much Richard, really appreciate your support as ever. I’ll take a look at what you say about empathy on Substack, I saw your recent post on the cost of training on there which I thought was really helpful. I’m sure a lot of people will also be interested in that. Yes, ideas like you suggest about letting go of your own thoughts and feelings are the kind of things that I think would be useful for people to hear. Many of us don’t consciously notice what we’re doing in these situations I think and it can really get in the way of connecting Thanks again for what you say and I look forward to sharing the content with you over the next few months. Maybe we can collaborate again together at some point 😊 Hope things are going well with you

@@JohnPaulDaviesTTPthanks, JP. Would be great to collaborate on something in the near future.

@@richardcampbell9283 great, I have a couple of ideas based on things you’ve written about recently, but would love to hear your ideas too, so let’s speak soon

Hi there, you’re very welcome about the video, thanks for saying. Not at all too late in my view no, I think it’s a great age to come in to the profession. Genuinely never too late in my view! It’s an interesting point you raise though. Some people are concerned about being too young, others too old. Hopefully it’ll come up in conversations with other therapists on the channel, but thanks for raising it and I’ll definitely try to include it somewhere in future videos.

@@JohnPaulDaviesTTP Thank you very much for sharing your view. It’s very encouraging! I will be looking forward to more videos from you.

@@yuliyatkacheva2059 That’s great, thank you!

Thank you so much, glad you enjoyed it and I really appreciate you saying

You're so welcome and thanks so much for saying, I really appreciate it. Hope the training journey is going well! I’ll be speaking to another trainee therapist in the next month or so on the channel so that may be of interest as well

Hi there, thank so much for your comment and, yes, I completely agree with what you say. It’s just as relevant to someone who’s in a same sex relationship. The reason I did the straight relationship was purely because that was the piece I was asked to contribute focussed on. I wonder also whether that might be because statistically most bi people are in ‘opposite’ sex relationships. As I say though, I think it’s a great point you make and thank you for making it. I’d love to speak to someone on the channel who’s in a same sex relationship in this situation, and/or read their story out, so hopefully that happens and more of a range of experiences can be represented, John-Paul

I’m not familiar with Freud’s thoughts on this, it would be great if you could add some of his ideas here though, I’m sure people would find that really helpful and interesting. Thanks for your comment

@@JohnPaulDaviesTTP I think she means my dog Freud, he sometimes interrupts my livestreams looking for attention 🐕

Ah, thanks for clarifying, a very welcome guest I’m sure 😊

Love indeed 😊🙏

Thanks for your message, I hope you can figure it out soon too. From my own personal experience, training to be and becoming a therapist really gave me the sense of meaning, purpose and drive I was looking for in career and life. I’m not sure where you are, but I wonder if there are even free introductory courses to therapy or counselling available to you, so you can get more of an idea of what it would be like? Have to say though, sounds like you’ve been in therapy a lot and that’s what mostly made me go towards it as a career, so it sounds like you’ve had plenty of good experience already. As I say, I really hope you find what you’re looking for and if you want to message me again just to let me know how it’s all going, please don’t hesitate to. Also, if you’d like me to record a video on a particular subject, just let me know. Thanks again, John-Paul

You’re very welcome and thanks for saying, I appreciate it

I’m so glad you found the channel too and thanks for saying, what a lovely post, it was really touching. Really pleased for you at hopefully beginning your training, do let me know how it all goes if you feel like it. Also of course happy to record any videos about topics that might come up for you along the way 😊 Thanks again!

Thanks for what say, I really appreciate it, it’s a comment like this that makes me carry on producing videos. I’m glad so much resonated with you and yes, I think it’s so important that that part, along with any part of us, isn’t left alone. As to what happens to the romantic/sexual part in a monogamous ‘straight’ relationship, well, I’d love to hear people’s experiences, it’s an interesting one. Thanks again for your comments and if you’d like me to record a video on anything else on the subject, just let me know 😊

You’re welcome, I started when I was about 36

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Thanks so much for saying, I really appreciate it. Great to read at least some of your story and, yes, although the industries were different, it sounds like we’ve had quite a similar experience with the career. I’d really encourage to look into it all further, which it sounds like you’re drawn to doing anyway. Let me know if you have any questions you’d like me to answer on the channel and I wish you all the best with it generally. Would love to hear how it all goes too if you feel like it. Thanks again, John-Paul

Really glad it was helpful and thanks for commenting, I appreciate it. Best of luck with the course and feel free to let me know how it’s all going if you’d like to. Thanks again!

Hi there, thanks so much for your comment, I really don’t think that’s too old at all no. It’s a job that someone can do till they’re much older I think and there’s a life of experience that will be very helpful for clients I’m sure. You’ll have something unique to offer to clients that no one else can. I really wish you all the best with it if you do decide to go ahead.

Thanks for the question, I explain how I got to the numbers in detail in the video.

It is a long time yes, having done it though I think it’s definitely warranted for the role, I’m still learning even 10 years on

Thanks so much for what you say about the videos, I really appreciate it. It’s this kind of feedback that makes me carry on 😊 A garden office is a great idea and works well. I think there are two aspects to planning permission here, the size of the office itself and also the use of it. In terms of the size of the office, I’d just check the requirements locally to you and make sure it’s within them if you don’t want to have to get planning permission. In terms of the use of the office, I know lots of therapists who work in home offices and haven’t had any problems in terms of needing to get planning permission for use as a business. I wonder though if there are lots of clients coming and going and people parking in a way that affects others, that someone might get into problems with the local authority, who might insist on planning permission for change of use. It’s probably worth therefore checking with your local authority, but, in terms of the answer, whatever the theory, I don’t actually know anyone who’s got or had to get planning permission for change of use to run a therapy business from home. Maybe if anyone else reading this has any information or ideas, it would be great if they could add them too. Hope that’s helpful and thanks again for your comments.

@@JohnPaulDaviesTTP Amazing, thank you so much for all this info, exactly what I was trying to find out! I know you've got a few, but will you be making any more videos on setting up/running a private practice? I know a few people who'd be interested as well!

@@bunmum yes I’ve recorded videos on setting up a practice and growing it and a separate one on finding clients. I’d be really happy to record one on anything you might want to hear some more about though, just let me know what you’d be interested in and I’ll have a think about what I could say. Please do also share the videos with anyone else you think would find them helpful too, thanks again, John-Paul

Hi, thanks for your message and really glad to hear the video was helpful and thanks for watching. As for different courses, yes, there seem to be so many routes in. Certainly in the UK, the websites of BACP and particularly UKCP provide really helpful guides on the different routes in to qualification. Depending on what you want to do after qualification, I think it’s best to do an accredited course with one of the regulating bodies. Are you in the UK by the way? I got the sense from your message you may not be? If you’re outside, I only really know the system within the UK, but someone else reading may be able to comment more fully

Really glad you found it helpful, thank you for saying and for watching!

Hi there, great question in terms of time and financial commitment, thanks for asking it. From what I can remember, time in the foundation was one evening a week during ‘term times’ and maybe 4 weekends a year. There was an essay or two to write too, which would have taken some time with required reading. I guess the time spent on that depends on the person. You could have been in therapy too for an hour a week. Then time in the diploma, again an evening a week and six weekends a year. Also mandatory roughly hour a week (40 hours a year), plus a placement (from the third year I think) of 3 hours a week. On top of that of course essays and reading, with a dissertation in the fourth year too and a placement of maybe 30 hours in the final year in a psychiatric ward. Difficult to say exactly how much weekly commitment it is as some will reads loads and some (like me : )) not a huge amount. Re being able to do the above with a full time job, yes there were people managing big full time jobs with the course requirements. Re the financial commitment, unless I’m missing something, even £50k sounds like a lot in terms of spend. Fees are now around £5k a year maybe? So £20k for the four years, then there’s therapy (maybe £70? x 40 x 4 years), so 11,200. Then I guess travel to the training place, plus books, can’t be a huge amount more. To me, it seems £50k would be on the high side. Wondered where you got that figure from? Maybe fees significantly higher now?

Thanks for your feedback, I really appreciate it and so glad you found the video useful. I shall definitely bear that in mind about speaking slower for future videos too, thanks again

What a lovely message and thanks for writing it. I enjoy talking about the topics, but it’s messages like these that motivate me carry on with the channel, so thanks for sending, I really appreciate it. So pleased for you that you’ve found your path, it’s an amazing feeling, and excited for you in the future with setting up your own practice. Would be great to hear how it all goes, so feel free to let me know again if you ever feel like it. Thanks again, John-Paul

Thanks for your comments, I agree with all of it. Whether it’s talked about in therapy or not, I think it’s great to have it there when working with all clients. Again, very grateful for your feedback and I hope it’s all going well generally for you

Thanks for much for saying, I really appreciate it. So glad you found it helpful and just let me know if there’s anything else you’d like me to talk about some more in any future videos

@@JohnPaulDaviesTTP I think it would be helpful to have some tips on how to internalize the behavioural/emotional change. For example, how can i work to improve #3? I would't know where to start and I think you can help me with a bit of your perspective.

That’s a great suggestion, I shall give it some thought for a future video, thanks! It may be that the third video on these red flags that I’m recording shortly will actually have some ideas too.

Hi there, thanks so much for the comments, I really appreciate it and glad you found it helpful. Great to hear too that it has brought into focus some things to work on. Just let me know if you’d like me to talk about these of any other issues in future videos. I’ve recorded the second video already and the guy who edits them will be working on it early next week I imagine. Planning the third video now! Thanks again for your feedback 😊

Hi Andrew, thanks for your comment, I appreciate it, always great to have feedback. Actually those captions are I think added automatically by KZbin. I had captions manually added to recent videos myself because they’re much better, but it did get quite laborious for the person adding them, as I tend to record quite long videos at times. I therefore didn’t have them manually added on my most recent video and just kept with the KZbin generated ones. Your comment has though made me revisit it and I think I’ll ask about what others think about captions in the community tab. Thanks again for taking the time to comment, I’m grateful and I hope you find some of the other videos helpful.

Thanks for saying, I appreciate it and glad you liked. Yes, I listened to it a few times and heard new things each time from Susan, really honest and open 😊

@@JohnPaulDaviesTTP she was! Very deep contemplation about spiritual aspects etc. one point that stuck out to me was how she described a warped experience of passing time during sessions. Fascinating. Thanks for sharing!!! 🩵❤️ hope you’re well:)

Yes, so true as well about going to a different place in the therapy room, clients often feel it too I think. thanks again for the comments and feedback, I’m well thank you and I hope you are too 😊

@@JohnPaulDaviesTTP awesome!:) I love it:) thank you so much:)

Thanks

Thanks for saying Rich, I appreciate it. There’s definitely so much wisdom in it all and I think Susan talked about it really engagingly and openly. I love the fact that as therapists we can bring whatever we believe is helpful into the therapeutic relationship, even if it’s just in how we see someone. Hopefully the subject of spirituality will come up again in future conversations 😊

I’ve recently been recommended author John Welwood; a therapist who integrated eastern spirituality into his work. Perhaps you might find his writing interesting. en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/John_Welwood

Thanks for the link. Will definitely have a look at this. 👍

@@leebus99 thanks for the recommendation, sounds really interesting, I shall take a look

You’re really welcome, so glad you liked it and thanks for saying, I appreciate it

Thanks Rich, really appreciate you saying, so glad it was helpful. I did actually have you in mind when I was talking about podcasts at the end 😊

@@JohnPaulDaviesTTP Thank you. I am hoping that our podcast kicks off again after the summer. It's a great way to learn new things

That’s good to hear about the podcast, look forward to seeing it

Hi there, thanks for your comment and sharing some of your story, I really appreciate it. As you say, I only really know about that the UK, but certainly in principle the idea of retraining and even running a practice whilst also working in HR I’m sure would work fine if that’s what you wanted to do, either for a period while you’re building a practice or even indefinitely if you enjoy both things. For me, one of the great things about retraining is that, subject of course to practical considerations, you can choose to set your life and tailor in a way that makes you happy now, your mix is up to you and it can change over time. Maybe someone else reading this can comment too and in the meantime I wish you all the best with it. If you want to let me know how it’s going on here too, please feel free to do that whenever you’d like 😊

@@JohnPaulDaviesTTP thank you so much for taking your time to reply!

@@kavs714 you’re very welcome

You’re really welcome and thanks for saying, I appreciate it

Thanks for the comment, yes lots of emphasis put on feeling in the training for example, but it’s definitely the combination of the two that’s the most helpful I think

You’re really welcome and thanks for saying, I appreciate it. You’re an investigator? I think there’s definitely something very helpful with clients about being able to draw links, see patterns and think about the detail of people’s stories, yes.

@JohnPaulDaviesTTP Yes currently an investigator and trying to decide between training to become a therapist or a life coach. I have signed up to do the level 2 counselling course later this year, I think it will help me to decide 🙂 Do you know anyone that has re-trained from one to the other?

Sounds good, yes, do the courses and see how it all feels. I know people combine the two as well, so it’s possible to have a practice doing both coaching and therapy. I did actually recently speak to someone planning to change from being a detective sergeant to a therapist 😊

It’s interesting to hear some your story and experience, thank you

Hi there, thanks for the question, I’m just not sure what you mean by is it possible?

Sorry but meant if I'm a bsc nursing graduate and what to switch careers to become a psychotherapist at 24 is that practical

@@merry26752 so is it the age that you’re concerned about? Maybe thinking it’s too young? As it’ll take a few years to qualify anyway I don’t think being younger is a disadvantage. Do what makes you happy whatever age you are I’d say.

You’re really welcome about the video, thanks for saying and glad you found it helpful. Thanks for sharing some of your story too, always good to hear how someone is doing and how they’re finding the process of training and becoming a therapist. Really appreciate the ideas for a future video, I think they’re great and have started to think about them already. I think what makes for the best progress in therapy and how goals and progress are kept in mind and evaluated are so important, as is knowing when to end as you mention. Thanks again for the comments and feedback and I’ll post the video as soon as I’ve recorded it. In the meantime, hope it all continues to go well with the training and feel free to let me know how it’s going along the way, John-Paul

Excellent, so glad you found it helpful and thanks for saying, I really appreciate it

Hi there, thanks for the comment/suggestion, I appreciate it. Can you say a bit more about what you’re thinking about here? In the UK you fill out a form and go for an interview and I imagine they’re usually just looking at your motivation etc for doing the course. Sounds like something a bit different where you are?

Hi, thanks for your comments and for what you say about the video, so glad you found it helpful. Thanks for letting me know how it’s going for you too, sounds amazing, I’m really pleased for you and it’s a great plan as a way to transition into private practice. Thanks also for posting it here because it gives others an idea of the various paths too. I hope it’s all going well for you and do feel free to give more updates along the way 😊

Hi there, thanks for what you say about the videos, I really appreciate it. Yes, I can definitely mention what I know about working in other countries in upcoming videos where relevant. Just on that, the main thing seems to be that your professional indemnity insurance provider is ok with it. In my experience they most often ok it as long as your contract with the client says it’s governed by English law. Highly unlikely anything will ever get to Court of course, but the insurance companies want to know that if it does they have control of it here I think. Thanks again for the comments, I appreciate it, John-Paul

Hi there, yes I would have thought so, but it’s best to check I think with the organisation you’re thinking of training at. Thanks for your question

@@JohnPaulDaviesTTP so is possible? Is there any area called nurse psychotherapist I have heard about this area bt i am not sure about it

@@anamikasudheesh7427 thanks for your message, I haven’t heard of a nurse psychotherapist role specifically in the UK. I’m sure there are probably nurses who are also psychotherapists. In terms of what’s possible as far as doing a psychotherapy diploma at a UK college, as I say, I think the best idea is to contact the college or organisation you want to study with and they’ll be able to let you know what their requirements are. I really wish you all the best with it.

@@JohnPaulDaviesTTP tanku

Thanks for the book recommendation, really appreciate it, I shall have a look at it now