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Amazing conversation! Our age is indeed ripe for the direct approach!

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New Harbinger: Question + Request: how many psychopaths and narcissists are there in the population today? Watching the news regarding Gisele Pelicot and similarly the 7 rapist psychopath husbands in Singapore... It occurs to me that perhaps 50% of humans are psychopaths or at a minimum narcissists. Perhaps you want to cover this topic - make a video re percentage!?!

You might also say strong externalizers are anti-social. On the strong end of that spectrum are people who think ONLY of their own needs. Society cannot function that way.

Can a family heal? Do you have methods to help heal the whole family, if they are interested. I don't see that chapter. How would you work with the whole family to construct a healing path? Do you believe the health of the family depends on the health of its members? What % of families experience this? Do you think this adds to mental illness of children or young adults?

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Im watching this because I don’t want to be an emotionally immature parent

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I hope this will be available as an ebook!

I have no doubt that her parents tell a completely different story that puts them in the victim role. That is what my parents did after they had so blatantly betrayed and abandoned me, ostracized me, took my abusers side against me, helping him destroy my life, and they maintain a relationship with him to this day making it very clear to me that there is no place for me or for love in this family. Even after years of betrayal and abuse I said I would be willing to talk through what happened with the help of a therapist and they could choose the therapist, and without hesitation my mother blurted out that they no longer trusted therapists. She was at that point trying to blame what they had done on following the bad advice of a therapist. Mind you they never apologized to me or admitted that anything wrong, happened to me.

51:47 Spousal Fantasy Fixing an EIP

51:00 DYSREGULATED EMOTIONAL PARENTS ARE UNSAFE- life feels like survival for the EIParent.

46:50 EMOTIONAL SAFETY - the children's nervous system is tuning into the caregiver for a secure attachment.

40:57 Adult Children Parenting Style... how can we do better than our EIP?

22:00 Inner Children left behind

My new Dr sent me this cuz im depressed 6.5 7 months out narcissistic relationship ty Dr Katz

Hello, I’m a therapist and use your book & workbook to help clients. Your purple workbook is unavailable. Can you please help so my clients and myself can purchase the summary & workbook

So many ads this is unwatchable

I found this to be traching on absolute division. I wish she taught me about building unity

Wow -such parents must have been truly terrible. Pure evil. This is one-sided, very biased & unpleasant

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I wanted to believe but realized i was pouring my very much needed energy into sand. Time to focus on myself. Too much to do and no more time or energy to focus on the past. Wishing him well.

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This was so illuminative. Thanks.

Gracias por compartir este video! Las enseñanzas de Michael Singer me ayudaron tanto a cambiar mi forma de vivir que me dedique a hacer una grabación de su libro "La liberación del alma" en español! Espero pueda ayudar a alguien tanto como me ayudó a mi: kzbin.info/www/bejne/eZvEfnpnf72pm7M

I really wanted to listen but to talk about this California stuff like climate change on an intro about personal happiness makes me doubtful on such a topic & his smile looks anxious

Steve Hayes does a great Donald Duck impersonation. Who knew?

All of that around the 51-12 minute mark is GOLDEN. 🎉 It hit me like a ton of bricks. YES. Yet get to a point where you STOP asking the other person to change and stop hurting you. You accept reality as it is and you STOP CARING about what THEY do and say. The nasty behavior is no longer your concern. You start shifting your energy back into yourself. It's such a beautiful moment once it finally arrives. You stop wrapping any sense of self worth in that person. You stop looking at them as a source of anything for your anymore. You stop caring how they feel, what they think, how they respond to you. At this point their behaviors have become so predictable that it's BORING ..old news. Like clockwork. 👏👏👏

The internaliser/externaliser dynamic reminds me a lot of the avoidant atatchment vs anxious atatchment. I prefer the latter though as the one Lindsay discribes seems unbalanced, clearly one is good and preferable and the other as bad and wrong...

interesting that in spite of the overwhelming number of positive reviews here and on Amazon, there are a lot of negative reviews for any number of reasons. Essentially, the gist of the criticisms is that the book is terribly repetitive and his notion of just "letting go" is very simplistic nonsense. Others accuse if of being a rip off of Eckhardt Tolle's "The Power of Now."

Thanks! Helpful

My father is a 65 year old 11 year old. He used to slam his own face against walls and cry like a baby. He also slapped and pushed me around, lied to cops, had my sister side with him and decide my punishment. Inflict punishments, etc. then he would 100% neglect us...well, me. My sister grew up hating me and telling me to kll myself while being spoiled. My father would bring home food for her & him only, eating it infront of me and mocking me. When i bring up his abuse, he completely denies it and even calls me a liar. I am now an adult suffering from CPTSD among many mental and emotional dys regulated

The interviewer is great, she poses so many interesting and deep questions!

We can’t handle reality, so true!

Nunca habia visto esta entrevista! Las enseñanzas de Michael Singer me ayudaron tanto a cambiar mi forma de vivir que me dedique a hacer una grabación de su libro "La liberación del alma" en español! Espero les pueda ayudar tanto como me ayudó a mi: kzbin.info/www/bejne/eZvEfnpnf72pm7M

41:28 👏👏👏THANK YOU. Children are deserving of dignity and respect. Otherwise, how do children learn how to be respectful? Who is modeling that for them?

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The older generation should be there to show what is the better way to rear a child. But even then it's hard to see that it actually happens

Congratulations to Lindsay and New Harbinger on this major achievement ❤ This book is a colossal game changer, it explained everything I had been through over the first 40+ years of my life in such a validating way. Dr Gibson's humanity shines brightly from every page. The book should be prescribed reading for all prospective parents. Thank you so much ⚡️🙏🏼

The weight of the family...the sense of duty...thank you for naming this...

So helpful. Exactly my experience. Wow. Thank you.

Wow ❤ Awesome conversation!

Why ‘categories’ or ‘types’??? These parents were children too. You better talk about style or behaviour. The DSM is not a psychlogical bible..

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About to turn 40, late diagnosed this year and my life has become so small. I don't have a shred of self confidence left, I don't feel worthy of having a birthday party, I don't feel like I can accomplish anything... so of course I feel depressed. Just a really awful feeling, I would love to want to socialise but I just want to be alone.

Thank you for the vid , good information for sure. I had an experience once when I took an antihistamine. I had a bad reaction and it ratched up any pain I had to astronomical levels . As someone who has lived with chronic pain for years , that experience has always interested me . Pain that was not caused by thought but by a biological reaction. This experience to me always complicates the topic of pain and my interpretation of my own pain.What is pain and what is sensation. In my opinion there is a dark side to CBT as there is with anything.That is the way it is used sometimes ,to simplify ,to the point of invalidation that place where medication maybe need . (I acknowledge that you stated clearly that was not your position ) . In Australia right now paracetomol and CBT are a blanket treatment for chronic pain . In my opinion CBT has been somewhat hijacked by the Architects of that opiate ban, as a one size cure all . They have not understood that sometimes sensation crosses a threshold into pain even with the most sensitive and practical intervetions .So, pain and it's treatment modalities are also really importantly, intensely political bedfellows.

i didn’t hear any advice for disentangling just more description of problems and answers behind a paywall

If your father says to you. You better not come home crying to me that you got beat up. Cause if you do I’m whoop your ass then I’m find the one who beat you up and beat him too. It’s like this man and the woman didn’t want me to ask them anything about being or becoming human. I feel like I got treated badly. I got beat with the woman’s hands when she was “teaching” me how to tie my shoes. And of course I couldn’t do it. And she would slap me. Till I could. It didn’t me make me “loved” or liked or it wasn’t it good feeling. Well better yet I KNEW within my little self it won’t RIGHT. I should have took courage like when Cesar(from rise of planet of the apes I think) learns to talk. But you’re little at the time. Them in second grade I meet a friend who I say tie a shoe differently and I asked him if he could show me how to do that. And he did. I thought to myself gee he didn’t get mad or curse me. And I learned how to do it. Then when I was In the 3rd grade the woman(“my mom”) would tell me. “Look and see when your dad is in a good mood so YOU can ask him why does he treat me so badly like his whore slave” And I was thinking to myself should you be doing that. She wanted me to intervene first her. Me little 3rd grade kid.