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@midnight-in-tx Күн бұрын
Narcisist f up your life.
@chinwenduchinwe586 Күн бұрын
Many saying narcissist in this time, have actually had extensive spiritual battles with the demons the narc aligns with; pushing the repeat of horrific, wreckless and damaging behaviors. The evil spirit definitely shows of itself and this group of people discern the spirt's presence. Then, there are those who might use calling someone a narcissist, as an insist, only knows the surface definition of someone being self-absorbed, selfish...to include actual narcs calling their victims, targets and escaped targets narcissists. Before...most didn't know the depth of what a narcissist is but in today's society, it is the opposite.
@JourdanTravers 14 сағат бұрын
Thank you for your insight. You're absolutely right-narcissism goes far beyond mere self-centeredness.
@MultiJessy31 2 күн бұрын
The word narcissist is WAY too over used.
@Starburst514 3 күн бұрын
What is a good example of actual trauma bonding
@doloreshaze9538 3 күн бұрын
When someone you love acts in an abusive way towards you but turns around and showers you in affection and love and all the things you loved them for so you feel confused but comforted just for them to turn around and abuse you again. Then it’s never ends. That’s a trauma bond.
@Starburst514 3 күн бұрын
@doloreshaze9538 so it's when someone traumatized you while also bonding with you? So it's something that only happens in abusive relationship done by an abuser? Like in friendships too?
@JourdanTravers 14 сағат бұрын
A classic example of trauma bonding can be seen in a relationship where a person feels emotionally "stuck" with someone who repeatedly hurts them but occasionally shows affection, remorse, or love. This can happen in abusive relationships, where periods of kindness and connection are mixed with cycles of manipulation, control, or even aggression.
@JourdanTravers 14 сағат бұрын
Trauma bonding happens when someone creates a powerful, emotional connection with another person who also harms them, often through cycles of kindness mixed with harm or manipulation.
@Starburst514 13 сағат бұрын
@@JourdanTravers ohhhh I see. Thanks so much for answering! Follow up question, is there a word for what people mistakenly call trauma bonding then? Is there a word for when you do feel bonded to someone because of a shared hardship?
@taylorhumes7567 13 күн бұрын
She hasn't been through it.
@austinking9912 15 күн бұрын
You gotta just bounce
@harriettbanish5285 18 күн бұрын
you literally said nothing about how to actually heal
@marielynn3802 24 күн бұрын
55 years of therapy and work and I'm still fucked up...
@ClearandHealthyBoundaries 24 күн бұрын
It's done in friendship too. I've just ended a approximately 2 year friendship with someone who breadcrumbed me from the start. And Ibagree thatbif yountry to vulnerable and honest about hiw their behaviour affects you, they get defensive and make you pay for that.
@JourdanTravers 14 сағат бұрын
Thanks for sharing that-it sounds like a tough situation. Breadcrumbing in friendships can be so draining because it keeps you hoping for something real that never quite happens. And when you try to be open, only to have them turn it around on you, it can really hurt. Good for you for recognizing it and choosing to move on; you deserve friends who show up consistently and make you feel valued.
@geemail369 26 күн бұрын
Just bring it up and ask _"What's one thing you find annoying about me to the point where it _*_really_*_ gets under your skin?"_ ... 🤓
@cyrrender Ай бұрын
thank you
@JourdanTravers 14 сағат бұрын
You're welcome
@Fogarasi_Bálint Ай бұрын
Thank you!
@JourdanTravers 14 сағат бұрын
Welcome!
@amyapplegate4356 Ай бұрын
Terrible audio
@JourdanTravers 14 сағат бұрын
We have updated the equipment! Please check my latest videos. And thanks for watching!
@KotelettDevourer Ай бұрын
I dont think that i can heal from what happened all those years ago, getting sexually assaulted had made me very paranoid, gave me anxiety and made me very self conscious, im scared to wear something that shows my butt, if I had the option, i would rather just be invisible, it's hell. especially because nobody takes it serious because im a guy. i hate it.
@kevinjordan6242 Ай бұрын
.26 And that is not the exact thing women do to men? And you wonder why men walk away? You are a peach.
@shaneharris7284 Ай бұрын
It's sad that so many people fall into toxic trends like gaslighting, bread crumbing, and all things of that nature because it's usually a sign of inflated ego self or even self-insecurity. People dispose others way too easily because they think they will find someone better or even out of boredom. People's actions will tell you everything you need to know. If a person gives me the slightest HINT of inconsistency, I will give myself a time limit assigned to them for how long I am willing to hold on to that connection before moving on. It can be anywhere from a week to a day based on my impression of them. If he doesn't improve after that time, I take myself out of the equation. And they never reach back out again, which always confirms I made the right choice. People are so terrified of vulnerability and commitment now. I don't have time for mind games or to figure out your intentions for you. Good luck finding whatever it is you are looking for, but I won't play your games and have too much respect for myself to give you the satisfaction.
@problemslayer3538 Ай бұрын
I broke up with my ex 3 months ago after 5 years. She went into what could be described as a rebound relationship. Not once have i reached out to her but she regularly texts or calls me which i respond to a couple days later. Today she rang which i didnt answer and she then text saying she was just ringing to say hi. I then rang her back but i cut the call short before she can answer. This shows im not ignoring her, which nobody likes but, i also avoid interacting with her. Let them it doesnt matter they are out of your life thankfully
@Joezsee Ай бұрын
And what if his exuses is about work and has health issues??? N he is gone… n appear again later
@JourdanTravers 14 сағат бұрын
If someone keeps disappearing with excuses about work or health and then pops back up, it might be a way of keeping you on the line without fully committing. Of course, work and health issues can be real, but if it's a repeated pattern with no real effort to stay connected, it might be bread crumbing.
@maryquinn6661 Ай бұрын
I don’t negotiate with breadcrumbers…I think you are opening yourself up to a person who is proving they are not capable or interested in genuine authentic connection communication with you…It’s low quality and fake! I deserve someone who can mutually share a 🥖 not think I’m there to crawl on the floor for their scraps and crumbs!!
@dogface7966 Ай бұрын
If you are being breadcrumbed, you are a simp and you will always be led on.
@anonymousandcool Ай бұрын
My breadcrumber literally broke my heart but once I finally gave up I was surprised how much better I felt within a matter of days . No more second-guessing every little thing I said wondering if I'm pushing him away more when his intent was always to push me away
@musicgirl999 Ай бұрын
Yes, I need a person that’s consistent and communicative! Not a person that’s in my life one day and gone the next!
@bfox138 Ай бұрын
Great video.
@dust17111 Ай бұрын
Breadcrumbing isn't just in romantic or potential relationships it's in already established relationships and non intimate ones , people unfortunately do this everywhere and it's a symptom of the age of aquarius imo
@carolnjeri1851 Ай бұрын
Thanks dear
@JB-su6tp 2 ай бұрын
Cant hear this on my phone unless I am connected to a speaker.
@anoopraju9639 2 ай бұрын
Mental masturbation is one of the things which spoiled my life... If i ignited with an idea (like a thread of a story or an idea to developing a new strategy of share trading)next second i will start the fu**ing imaginations of appreciations and fruits by the success of that idea.... 🧠😵💫
@JourdanTravers 14 сағат бұрын
The trick is learning to channel that excitement into small, real actions that get you closer to making those ideas a reality. Progress, even in tiny steps, can start to replace that urge to imagine and help you build momentum toward your goals.
@mishussy 2 ай бұрын
I feel like its my fault idk. He'd do it to me while i was asleep and id wake up. Then id fall asleep in tears (he never saw those tears) to not feel it. Ive never said anything about it and now im just trying to understand and not feel guilty
@KacyB1985 2 ай бұрын
Ok so i have a question... ive been sexually abused three times. I thought i had healed from it, but now im starting to think otherwise. When mu guy trys to get all sexual with me (like fast movements), i noticed i start breathing heavey and start feeling overwhelmed. I used to think it was simply bc i liked him so much, but now im starting to think its bc it reminds me of my past. I think in his mind he thinks ill think its sexy but in my mind i find it overwhelming and scary. Is this bc i feel like its about to happen again? When he has slow gently movemwnts, im fine, but when he moves fast and alittle dominate, i get scard and overwhelmed. Ive also noticed that when i try to talk about what happened in the past, i start to cry and someone told me if i cant talk about it without crying, i havent healed it, ive just supressed it. So my question is, is this what it is? Is it the sexual abuse im remembering that is causing me to get scard?
@J.M.. 2 ай бұрын
If you call them out they will gaslight you by saying that you are over reacting. This will only perpetuate your false sense of reality and self doubt. The best thing to do is to walk away.
@valenciaorange2000 2 ай бұрын
I did that call them out and it didn’t do anything but gaslight. I just disappear and do them like done to me. Blocked
@nehai4830 2 күн бұрын
I clear my stance. And their reaction if sincere would be to step up or try to find a solution. In all other cases like ghosting/gaslighting/acting distant/defensive/offensive - means this man is not right. But, I like to give the last opportunity as this separates the cream from milk and keeps you guilt free. In most cases breadcrumber would be confused and might ghost or try to defend. Thats when you know that if you ever tell your genuine issues to him he won't solve it or won't work to find a solution to it.
@beyourself9162 2 ай бұрын
Cool Video but you need one of those BT microphones. For the topic, if someone breadcrumbs me I just stop taking action and concentrate on myself and on healthy people… in my experience. People who breadcrumb come from dysfunctional families. I had a breadcrumbing daddy. I need someone who is willingly to give me a big smile with a big YES. We meet up on Friday I am happy to see you again. BC behavior is FOMO… those women are incapable of healthy relationships….😮
@JourdanTravers 14 сағат бұрын
Thanks for the feedback! We have updated our equipment, you can check out the latest videos! Breadcrumbing often does come from unresolved dynamics, and it’s insightful that you’ve connected it to family patterns. Setting boundaries with those who can’t offer genuine commitment really clears the way for connections that feel uplifting and mutual.
@hannahboebanna 2 ай бұрын
Video starts 1:16
@shannonsmith8797 2 ай бұрын
When you have inattentive adhd ☹️
@CarlosAlberto-ii1li 2 ай бұрын
Yet another american here talking more rubbish with fake words.
@Happy_HealthyLife 2 ай бұрын
Glad that I came to know this technique is called bread-crumbing, one guy initially showed lots of interest and suddenly he stopped responding to my text and some time he would text just to know that he is still in touch. So decided not to say anything to him and not to block him or not to respond to him. And move on …
@JourdanTravers 14 сағат бұрын
Sounds like a smart choice!
@GREENxTARA 2 ай бұрын
i’m here for it. i love it, i need nothing from anyone so a crumb or two makes me over flow with abundance
@sqfanatic 2 ай бұрын
The one point she made that I really liked, sometimes things change, and bringing up the goals and desires in a kind and loving way for the expressed purpose to give the other person an opportunity to confess that they have changed their mind, or they lack confidence. Ask them, do you have concerns about me or the relationship's potential future? Ask them, do you still see me as a good fit as your long-term future husband? Ask them, can you tell me if there is something you would like to see change? Ask them, would you tell me if there were something that you would like me to apologize for? Ask them, do you have insecurities that may be purely emotional? Then try to put them at ease by talking about these things.
@averagejane09 2 ай бұрын
Breadcrumbing is not just present in romantic relationships. "Friends" do that as well. I had a person I had been friends with for many years. Then one day I realized that our friendship has turned into a series of breadcrumbs on his part. We haven't seen one another in two years and the crumbs are getting further and further apart. It hurts but people drift. I eventually needed to realized I should stop thinking of him as a friend at all. I deserve more than crumbs no matter what type of relationship it is. Now, I think of him as someone whom I USED to be friends with. I wish him the best. If he reaches out at some point I think I will just let the relationship go and decline with no hard feelings. He hasn't been a real friend to me in a long time. Sober realization. Life is short and we only have so much time for so many people. I don't want to save any of my time for breadcrumbers.
@mitchd949 2 ай бұрын
All bad advice. Call them out? Let them know how their communication is affecting you? Maybe that person will change and become more authentic? Nonsense! Simple reality: the breadcrumb person DOES NOT HAVE HIGH INTEREST IN YOU. You need to bottom line the other person's interest early on. Don't be swayed by your high interest in them - that will only make you do stupid things and it's what lead you to putting with the other person's behavior. If the other person digs you, they make it very easy to be with them. If you're getting anything but enthusiastic effort from the other person, MOVE ON. Don't waste your time, don't try to change them, just smile to yourself knowing that you saved yourself time, effort, money, and heartbreak.
@johnvillamil3138 2 ай бұрын
You have explained a situation I am experiencing but I have no emotional eggs in her basket to be hurt or even annoyed. LOL. It’s so interesting how someone does this thinking the other person doesn’t catch on. Too funny how this person is doing what you are explaining.. Not sure if she even knows she doing it. Probably thinks she’s being savvy.
@lu_lubeauty 2 ай бұрын
Painting together has helped learn colors and bond.
@hannanhub1717 2 ай бұрын
thanks
@JourdanTravers 14 сағат бұрын
Thankyou!
@ivoryrosem 2 ай бұрын
I'm only here to say.. I read the title as "Three ways to beat a cucumber"... And I was so confused
@joshuaafcutler7348 2 ай бұрын
Don't listen to this foolishness. If someone doesn't have the decency to conduct themselves appropriately, you have no obligation to explain your feelings to them.
@龍謠 2 ай бұрын
thx
@ericmangels4917 2 ай бұрын
Thre is a light at the end of the tunnel, I didn't think I was ever going to get thre,but I did,and all the support that I hve gotten here was and still is the huge difference maker ! Unfortunately there still are times when it catches up to me again,but I'm thriving,if it gets out of hand again I will seek counseling,I hope that it doesn't. I will post what happened to me once again hre soon. Just remember.. the light at the end of the tunnel does exist .
@ericmangels4917 2 ай бұрын
I just wanted to let everybody know that I hve fallen off the bandwagon again ! What happened to me even though it wss a long time ago has once again resurfaced,for I too was molested a long time ago,the difference is it happened to me as an adult,a boy did it to me many yrs ago,I'll explain as in post my whole story soon.I hve alot of stress going on in my life,and unfortunately this once again is a part of it. Look for my story soon. I will probably seek counseling this time.
@JourdanTravers 14 сағат бұрын
Thank you for sharing this with us-it takes a lot of courage to speak up about such painful experiences, and I'm so sorry you’re going through this. Old wounds can resurface, especially during times of stress, and it's entirely normal to feel the weight of them even years later. Seeking counseling sounds like a really positive step; having support can make all the difference in processing these memories and finding a path forward. Wishing you strength as you share your story and start this next step toward healing.
@ericmangels4917 13 сағат бұрын
@JourdanTravers thank you and thank you for your kind words of encouragement too.
@elenaschlenk672 2 ай бұрын
beautiful. thank you! <3
@PiaRajpurohit-qg3hz 2 ай бұрын
Guys, don't get consumed by feeling of Revenge, till a day before yesterday, this is something i was doing..... That in the process, I was the one getting problems because I wanted those people to go through the same i went through, my thoughts became really negative..... It affected my health, my daily routine, my work ...... like every aspect of my life..... Now Im fine, i dont want anything, just to be healthy and happy..... Now that ive let go of that feeling, I am at peace......
@jessicarechichi3706 2 ай бұрын
What if you don’t remember any memories consciously ? How do you remember the memories ?
@DaughterofKings22 2 ай бұрын
My memories came back to me on their own when i was 21 and 26 at two specific times when i felt absolutely safe. Like my mind let down the guard and Bam. Clear as day memories. Counseling and Jesus are the only reasons im still here. ❤
@jessicarechichi3706 2 ай бұрын
@@DaughterofKings22 oh wow thats very interesting. Jesus told me to seperate from my mum and to move to another city. It took me while to obey but perhaps the reason also was for me to start to feel safe and as ive been in another city he has been revealing some things and I also didnt know I was sexually abused. Ive had some emotions come up and what I sense as a younger part of myself feeling in exhile and locked away and I didnt know why I was feeling that way either.
@DaughterofKings22 2 ай бұрын
@@jessicarechichi3706 yeah i always felt something was wrong but i had zero idea what had happened to me until the memories came back. It destroyed my identity and took years of counseling and healing. Jesus really had to bring me through it. I hope that u feel safe in ur new place. Honestly if the memories come, they will come when it's time for you to deal woth them. But if i had my way, i wouldn't have wanted to remember. I was fully functioning and happy before i remembered. Obviously God knew he would pull me through it but, i personally wouldn't go searching for them. I would just move on and go live your life. Your identity is in Jesus and what he has done for you, not whats been done to you. You are a child of God and it doesnt matter what you can or cant remember, nothing changes ur identity in him. I had to learn that and it was gruling work. If the Lord decides its time for ur memories to be dealt with, itll happened, but if you are functioning, happy and healthy, dont try to dig it up. At least thats my opinion. Idk if its right, but if i had a choice i wouldnt have wanted to remember. Sorry for all the rambling lol
@codyshepp7432 3 ай бұрын
this is not good advice at all.