Last comment do you want me to feature your podcast or would that be too stressful? Why I haven't done so for these yet. Different than leggo podcast and your comedy related shows.
@dominicacreates4 күн бұрын
I don't have a problem with you sharing it. I'd love to have more viewers engage with this content. I don't know how much your sharing leads to people viewing my KZbin videos, but I don't think it would hurt. If I had issues with people watching me having deep and vulnerable conversations with my friends, I wouldn't be doing this series. It's for anyone who wants to watch it and might get something out of it.
@reflectiveFrankC5 күн бұрын
She was doing it superficially at a head level. Jesse Green probably most feelings related. Institute of human development gave her mixed thinking. The guy that wrote Why does this keep happening to me seemed to help in she did something with him in U.S. before coming back to Australia. She commented she healed her arm nerve issue she was joyful about. It stirred something up because a few days later when she had her 50th birthday and then the diagnosis of cancer happened. Not sure enough about details. Just my perception. She seemed more alive and willing to take chances. She met you and Elyse to bungie jump, spielunking and balooning. Things that perhaps fit her childhood self. She had been a gymnast like Elyse did.
@dominicacreates4 күн бұрын
I think it was a raw food diet that had cured Mum's arthritis. Yeah I remember her diagnosis being shortly after her 50th birthday. Mum didn't bungie jump, only Elyse did that. We didn't do any ballooning either, unless Mum & Elyse did that before I got to New Zealand. We did rock climbing and spelunking though, and also went to a sulphur and mud bath place. It was a time I treasure and I'm glad I got to have that with her shortly before her diagnosis. I didn't know Mum had been a gymnast though.
@reflectiveFrankC4 күн бұрын
@dominicacreates yes one of the reasons she encouraged Elyse. She did it before her parents died. I think she was a much freer person before that happened. Our first meeting was at Viedavou(sp) known for rock climbing.
@reflectiveFrankC5 күн бұрын
Anothe C.S. Lewis book A problem of pain.
@reflectiveFrankC5 күн бұрын
Shared's struggle over predestination many struggle with. It is connected to the concept of free will. Deeper thinkers apply it too widely.
@reflectiveFrankC5 күн бұрын
I sometimes use universe something I think St Paul would do. Reference St Paul's letter to Romans I think. If I'm wrong it is in acts when he refers to the state of the unknown God.
@reflectiveFrankC5 күн бұрын
I think you are asking the right questions. Ask Christ to show you. Many have done that. Insights start happening.
@reflectiveFrankC5 күн бұрын
The guy pushed some unhealed buttons Mike. We generally react to others because our stuff is involved.Things we've dealt with tend not to push buttons and easier not to have fear reactions (fight, flight freeze or fawn)
@dominicacreates4 күн бұрын
Yeah, this makes sense. We're more likely to be triggered when it hits an unhealed button we haven't worked through.
@reflectiveFrankC5 күн бұрын
You know me, I appreciate that regarding my watching. I think you are courageous.
@dominicacreates4 күн бұрын
I'm not sure which part of the video this was in response to. Comments don't post with a timestamp from the video. Sometimes it would be useful if you provided a bit of extra context in your comments so I know what you're replying to (you could include the video timestamp if you don't what to type more words for the context).
@reflectiveFrankC4 күн бұрын
@dominicacreates courage was a general all over commentvfor even doing this.
@reflectiveFrankC4 күн бұрын
@@dominicacreates related to one of your times explaining your reasons for doing these shows.
@reflectiveFrankC5 күн бұрын
Good relationships are a a timing thing. Both have to be ready and good communication is present in some form. If one isn't ready acceptance is important in not trying to force something. The fears need to be understood and accepted.
@dominicacreates4 күн бұрын
I agree with this. We can also think we're ready at the beginning but over time learn we were not as ready as we thought. But sometimes healing comes within the relationship itself, not outside of it. In my last relationship, it had started out in helping me to heal parts of myself I could only heal inside of a relationship. I wanted to continue that journey with him, but there were times I found that difficult, and eventually it seemed like he was not capable of healing with me, or at least not ready for that part of the relationship process.
@reflectiveFrankC5 күн бұрын
While sleep brought up my last live comment needed explanation. After saying it realised it may be taken as judgement when I was trying to share a personal insight. When I can't sleep my fears are in control. I find bring prayer or inviting God's presence seems to help sleep come. Years ago I used to have lots of nightmares sometimes waking feeling Satan standing over me. Hopefully this context clarifies.
@reflectiveFrankC5 күн бұрын
Christ's version of the Golden rule is Love God with your whole being, then love your neighbour as yourself. I was taught God first because God gives context. That context teaches I am loved by God. That leads to knowing how to love others. This involves truth, being real and risking because it leads back to relationship with God. See the later discussion on God.
@reflectiveFrankC5 күн бұрын
You and I are similar, not the same. Your path is yours and unique to you.
@reflectiveFrankC5 күн бұрын
I appreciate Shared's view of Peterson.
@reflectiveFrankC5 күн бұрын
My dad was the first black sheep for marrying my mom. He ended up giving up his faith. Before he died he had a resurgence of reading the book of Mormon. I suspect his illness a big factor.
@reflectiveFrankC5 күн бұрын
Good discussions aren't about winning or loosing but about learning from one another and hopefully helping somehow. That usually means more listening less talking. I have doorknocked as a Catholic. Listen seems to work best. Depending on how pressured I am I have let other door knockers in I have responded in various ways. In earlier times it was more about win or lose. Not my best times.
@dominicacreates5 күн бұрын
Some good points here. It is a good idea to let go of trying to win and just focus on trying to understand each other's perspectives better, and learn about how people have come to their conclusions.
@reflectiveFrankC5 күн бұрын
When you really care about someone you generally want the highest good for them. If it isn't you that's okay.
@dominicacreates5 күн бұрын
Sometimes I think this is one of the reasons Lee let me go, thinking I deserved better than he could provide for me, and he wanted that for me. I didn't agree, but like I've said, I wasn't going to fight for something when he'd already made his decision. He has his own journey and I have to trust that he'll find the path that is best for him because, yes, I still care about him and want what's best for him, even if it doesn't involve me.
@reflectiveFrankC4 күн бұрын
@@dominicacreates I think your thinking is on track in this situation.
@reflectiveFrankC5 күн бұрын
So far I let you know when I watch somehow.
@reflectiveFrankC4 күн бұрын
This was a response when you said you had 4 viewers. I only saw it in the review.
@reflectiveFrankC5 күн бұрын
One of the problems of romantic relationships is we make up stories about the other. That's why we need long getting to know one another situations before sex because sex creates artificial bonds to the fake story. Its all chemical hormones. The stats show couples that talk about the things these kinds of cards that we usually develop better relationships.
@dominicacreates5 күн бұрын
Yes, that's right. I've certainly made my fair share of mistakes in that area, and why I've decided to forgo any kind of bedroom activities until I've established that we're on the same page in terms of goals and values so I know we're right for each other.
@reflectiveFrankC4 күн бұрын
@@dominicacreates to me that is marriage given vows from both are real and not manipulated.
@reflectiveFrankC5 күн бұрын
Truth leaves one freer in the long run. Conscience is painful when attempting to hide from self.
@dominicacreates5 күн бұрын
I agree with this.
@reflectiveFrankC5 күн бұрын
In my early 20's I used to read tarot but was really using my intuition with some basic generalities the cards offered. It led me to not believe in them. Too easy to manipulate answers out of people. Gave them up.
@dominicacreates5 күн бұрын
I don't really believe in tarot either, I've just gotten addicted to watching the videos that got fed to me by the algorithm, so I keep watching them, which just gives me more. It's a vicious cycle. There have been times I've found comfort in what is said, but they can be all over the place and contradictory and then you don't really get any answers that way. It was just me looking for comfort from somewhere outside of myself when comfort was hard to find.
@reflectiveFrankC4 күн бұрын
@@dominicacreates treat them cautiously they are or can be manipulative.partly because they push our selfish side more than our with God's will side. It is subtle hard to explain.
@reflectiveFrankC13 күн бұрын
I came back to finish after class.
@reflectiveFrankC13 күн бұрын
If the world knows it all about you already, it is harder to be blackmailed.
@dominicacreates13 күн бұрын
Exactly.
@reflectiveFrankC13 күн бұрын
Old age has smells out of both ends. Young people seem to smell death..
@reflectiveFrankC18 күн бұрын
I was doing portraits and caricatures for a fete when you were on. I actually charged $2.00 for small quick sketches. A breakthrough for me. I sold three, rather than giving them away. A long time coming to get to that point. There is a multi millionaire who started by buy a pair of pants for $ 10.oo, vwore them some place a shop owner liked them and offered $ 20.00 for them. He went back to the original store. Bought out the $10.00 pants and sold them on for a profit. From that small step he became rich selling. He was living on the street when he got the pants.
@reflectiveFrankC18 күн бұрын
Bad date. My first date a blind date. Two friends needed a third guy for three girlfriends. The girl I was put with was a smoker. I had never kissed. My friends idea of a date was to park and kiss. It went downhill from there with a visit from police waking me up in middle of night. Much better told in front of crowd.
@reflectiveFrankC18 күн бұрын
Advise for making a feature film. The biggest problem with college educated people is we are taught to recognise the problems and don't get started. Most famous entrepreneurs came out with just just getting started and going for it. The learning happens as you are doing. It is the risk taken that seems the motivation comes from. Lack of trust in self often prevents starting. Think back to your first short movie at family school Snow white was mostly improve on a known story that taught a lot of the children, some basic movie making. Those and family experiments teaches skills. Each project you have done always brought people into it. Trust your intuition and improv skills. When old silent films started they experimented and played at it. Same for early television.
@dominicacreates18 күн бұрын
I'm not as motivated to go after making a feature film nowadays. I have other things I'm more focused on that are easier to get started and find people to collaborate with, like this livestream project. It's like you describe - I'm just going for it. I don't have a set outcome I'm looking for.
@reflectiveFrankC18 күн бұрын
Yes, I have been an energy vampire, but learned it chases people away. I like you try to do it myself more. I use U tube to research now.
@reflectiveFrankC18 күн бұрын
Look up avoidant relationships. They like the idea of relationship but any sign of it becoming a relationship scares them because they have abandonment issues. I am great at picking women not interested in me since your mom. It feels safe.
@dominicacreates18 күн бұрын
I have spent a lot of time learning about that sort of thing, and attachment styles in relationships. One of the reasons I'm so interested in psychology is to understand why my relationships haven't worked out, what has influenced my behaviour, and what I can do better. That sort of the thing is the bulk of what I watch on KZbin.
@reflectiveFrankC17 күн бұрын
@dominicacreates that is the core of my life seeking. Only reason I didn't go into psychology is inability to memorialise dates and such which is the reason I failed basic psychology. The theories and concepts always stuck. In interest tests I always get put in the company of top psychichiatrists at social parties. Interests verses aptitude, yet of all the jobs I had my favourite was working in the mental health field applying my art background. It is more spiritual work where the real shifts are happening without medication. Most medications mask and cover symptoms. It is more about confronting fears voluntarily that seem to show change.
@reflectiveFrankC18 күн бұрын
When I was younger, I'd wake with a hard on for years.. back then I had sex on the brain but for various reasons had to hold back. It caused a lot of inner tension. We had a week every month it was safe. We used what was known as the Billings method. You children we knew because we chose.
@reflectiveFrankC18 күн бұрын
Same reason I struggle with leaders. Your the oldest child. Parents put more responsibility on oldest children. You just answered it yourself. Responsibility for others is heavy.
@reflectiveFrankC18 күн бұрын
Rocky Mountain Oysters aren't real oysters or jackalope is like Australian drop bears. One myth I invented was the Yanchep yeti where with the park rangers we are a short documentary of its existence in the National park.
@reflectiveFrankC18 күн бұрын
Making terrain and pieces to create games more my line. Inventing rules. At the moment been experimenting with some hot wheel wheel chairs. More a brainstorming activity at moment.
@reflectiveFrankC27 күн бұрын
I came in after you stopped.
@reflectiveFrankC27 күн бұрын
It sounds like their focus will be people with convictions for safety of public reasons.
@dominicacreates27 күн бұрын
If this is about deporting undocumented people in the US, that's not true, not with the numbers they've quoted at wanting to get rid of. The vast majority of undocumented people in the US are just trying to live their lives like everyone else, and pay taxes like everyone else, but don't get the benefits afforded to people who are here legally. The incoming administration considers them criminals just because they're not here legally and want to get rid of them.
@reflectiveFrankC26 күн бұрын
@dominicacreates i am saying their first priority, not the overall goal..to go in and start mas deporting everyone would be counter productive. The overall argument is the country like parents needs functional boundaries in order to operate. Too strong and it represses the people like North Korea. Too weak on boundaries the people feel insecure. Mental health starts to affect those struggling to find order.when people can't cope they co out. Drug taking, for some. You are learning you need boundaries regarding sex for example. Getting hurt because you engage in it too soon in relationships.. you are now seeing it hurts at break up time because the relationship itself was faulty.. boundaries in the form of rules existed but choosing to break them have brought consequences you are now having to sort through.. the country is dealing with the consequences of ignoring guidelines, boundaries. To me the election was about too much disorder and people want balance. I understand California is now starting to lose population. The state is close to bankruptcy. That is perhaps the bigger picture behind your unemployment. The news here last night was talking about the state is loosing employers because they are over taxed. I don't know if you remember the game Simcity. The principles of that are being played out in real life. The successful places have the right balance. Sadly the ways to right balance are ignored and we have to pay the consequences. Your about the age when I started to wake up to this.. your mother's death was my biggest wakeup call that made me return to faith. I was age 55. I have faith in you. You are thinking through things more deeply. Sadly we seem to have to hurt ourselves before we learn. Your biggest plus is your willing to confront your uncomfortable like this program your hosting. It sheds bits of light on the dark. I am not perfect either. That seekinglove affects me too. Leone and I have only ever been friends no sex, just art and a means to take my mind off things. Recently we reconnected and a tantasy started developing in my head. Luckily she saw it and shot it down early.. just saying me at 75 am still prone to wanting someone in my life, even though I have no visible means to support anyone. Keep trusting your honest self. Short cuts don't work. I read the suffering of older women who took the sugar daddy path. You intuition is more on track then you know.
@reflectiveFrankC27 күн бұрын
The weather would keep me from travelling that time of year. We used to travel from Laramie to Utah a lot , that time of year. Some years the snowstorms were hairy.
@dominicacreates27 күн бұрын
Yeah I also don't like travelling in that kind of weather.
@reflectiveFrankC27 күн бұрын
Thanksgiving here, I had a hamburger.
@reflectiveFrankC27 күн бұрын
Tom Hanks and Sally Field made a movie called Punchline about becoming Standup comedians.
@dominicacreates27 күн бұрын
I'm not sure what part of the conversation this was in response to, but I have seen that movie.
@reflectiveFrankC26 күн бұрын
@dominicacreates more to do with my mind going divergent for a moment. You all were talking about starting in comedy. Nothing of importance. Me just diverging for a moment with a meaningful movie I liked.
@reflectiveFrankC27 күн бұрын
Zac's eyes remind me of your mum when she wanted to show her dislike.
@reflectiveFrankC27 күн бұрын
The original Gladiator story was in 1964 with same story but different title. I think it was "the Fall of the Roman Empire".
@reflectiveFrankCАй бұрын
My apologies for leaving after I posted. It took me most of the time from start to post to write that.. I was late for my art group and was about 30 minutes late.. I've comeback to finish. Your friends and you all delt well with my comment. Far better than my fears predicted. That's usually the case. Fears tend to push worst case scenarios. The original sin term was in Jesus's own tongue of Aramaic. Archery skills were life and death important. So mistakes could cost lives. Hence if God is the target and missing the target can have graver consequences than simpler mistakes the difference between venial and mortal sins. New topic, the friend that ghosted you is related to trauma your wanting healed. Life lessons keep coming up.that way. Silent treatment something your mother and I would do a lot to one another when we wouldn't confront our issues. Your mom's eye rolling was part off it. My part I can't pick out and describe. Because I haven't been on the receiving end of my flight freeze responses to fear. I do know that our inner fears project outward and affects those close to us. Intentionally I never tried to punish you with silence. Unconsciously I could have been silent because I didn't have a better way of dealing with things. My apologies for being weak. Masturbation, sex and relating it back to church influences, cultures, guilt, shame. Everyone sounded pretty normal. My generation pretty much the same. A couple of points worth considering. Church teaches youth as God used the 10 commandments in Moses time. Rules are there to keep one following the safest path. Much like teaching children not to reach for hot pans on stove, or play in the street. The rules keep one safe in those situations. As your discussion points out some rule breaking may have less consequences than others and situations, motives and intention add to how serious is the breaking of the rule. Same rule a child breaks it has less concerns to the parent than perhaps and adult child breaking it with a history of how it can hurt does. Veniel verses mortal sin concept. Jesus on the cross dying still asks the Father to forgive them. Why, because they know not what they do. God is willing to forgive sins. It takes a lot of humility to get out of pride and ask for forgiveness. This was my lesson returning to church that started at your mother's funeral. Yes I listen because I learn. You got that right. I appreciate others views to help me understand by seeing others responses. The biggest lesson I learned is you are a lot more like me than I thought. I think your right that most men may act like not thinking lots of sex with others doesn't matter but it does even at the imagination level. It dehumanises others.that is why it bothers. The lots of sex for men pattern stimulates can be found also in men practising tantric sex with one partner. I highly recommend John Gray's Beyond Mars and Venus book and podcast where he goes into hormones and hoe they affect men and women. I suspect this knowledge useful for future episodes. I hope I haven't made you too uncomfortable. I hope I'm not like Leonard's mother. One of my insights since returning to church is recognise God is always present, watching and offering love but honours our free will, knowing our mistakes carry consequences. Physics every action has an equal and opposite response. My apologies to your co contributors. It was no longer live when they said bye. It it had been, I probably would have acknowledged with a thumbs up or something. Anyhow now almost 8 at night. Need to make something to eat. May God bless you for your openness. You do have a good heart seeking truth in your own way.
@dominicacreatesАй бұрын
I know we don't always see eye to eye, but I do appreciate your thoughtfulness and desire to connect on these vulnerable topics, and that you continue to support me. For the record, I have no memory of you giving me any kind of silent treatment. You're not the person I was referring to when I talked about being on the receiving end of that. I'm not discounting the possibility that it happened from you - maybe that's why I fell in line and reacted the way I did to it as an adult, because of patterns I developed in childhood. After all, our survival responses and attachment styles generally are developed in childhood. It might be worth having a private conversation with you about how you and mum dealt with that silence between each other though because I may have unconsciously picked up on that, and that may be more of what impacted me. I think it would give me some insights I could share with my therapist next time I talk to her.
@reflectiveFrankCАй бұрын
@dominicacreates i appreciate your response here. I know how hard working on self is with a therapist. My own work on me is challenging too. It is hard for me to share your mom's side because so much happened that surprised me especially the end. I will offer what I think I have pieced together from little clues I have received. As for me I try to be an open book. I do find these days it energy draining. I sleep a lot just recovering after sharing. Today or should I say yesterday was particularly deep for me. I fell asleep immediately after my chicken breast in tortia and only just managed to get moving again. I will write more in messenger. It helps responding to specific questions or thoughts. That's why so much came up today with the podcast. I would draw you to Cousin Stephen 's post on his cats post regarding shame and my responsevthere. It is relateable at a family level and not being able to share feelings openly. Catch ya later.
@joshualastАй бұрын
Throw a glizzy on the barbie
@dominicacreatesАй бұрын
I had to Google glizzy. I'd never heard that one and I'm not 100% sure I found the right explanation. 😆
@donaldbailey8483Ай бұрын
Not 1 comment at....🤔 hey. The views are not being counted. I'll give her credit. 🤜
@reflectiveFrankC2 ай бұрын
You are sharing bits of wisdom learned from life. People want to be better so they are attracted to truth when they recognise it.Truth at its highest level is universal
@reflectiveFrankC2 ай бұрын
Keep the laugh it is contagious.
@reflectiveFrankC2 ай бұрын
Very real, I get this. Autistic individuals can easily tell the truth. I get that in my facebook posts. I wish you well because the truth does set us free.
@legotimmy183 ай бұрын
This was a amazing steam
@dominicacreates3 ай бұрын
@@legotimmy18 Thank you for helping me build my audience with this one, too!
@legotimmy183 ай бұрын
@@dominicacreates np love your livestreams
@legotimmy185 ай бұрын
I enjoyed the stream last night❤❤❤
@legotimmy187 ай бұрын
I’m rewatching what I missed Thanks for making good livestreams
@legotimmy189 ай бұрын
Heyy Im going live tonight at 7pm if you want to come a join