How to Get Your Spouse to Forgive You - and Heal the Resentment (2024) (ep. 11)

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Is your marriage falling apart because your husband or wife can't (or won't) forgive you for what has happened in the past? Here's how to get your spouse to forgive you.
One of the most destructive elements of a relationship is lack of forgiveness which builds into resentment. Listen in this episode to Liam Naden explaining why your spouse may be unable or unwilling to forgive you. You can help them heal their hurt and resentment - if you go about it the right way.

[@garrywells6079]

If you have cheated you simply do not deserve forgiveness. And certainly never reconciliation ever.

[@valsyed7536]

My husband needs all prayers as possible, he's non practice Muslim and since I gave my heart to Jesus our marriage went up and down, I asked for divorce few times due to miss treating me and even our son but I ended up giving an other try but he just won't sick God with me and some time says that he is the God I should worship only. That may God touch his heart transform and save him as well as me 🙏🏼

[@Legalactionworkshoplaw1]

Even though we are a law firm and do divorce, we always speak to our clients (before filing) about the prospect of saving their marriage. I think that you give some very good suggestions and I hope that people can find a way to repair, heal, and to avoid divorce!

[@The_Stubborn_Christian]

I'm fighting right now to stop my divorce. He's my heart mind body and soul.

[@pckeke9494]

Really need this right Now ✝🛐👍🏿

[@harrybobb9700]

Me too I really need this too

[@genasoriano559]

I really like your advice. I can resonate from it..I am struggling a lot how my husband could ever forgive me. He always have all these resentments towards me. I don't know what to do. When I listen to your message I agree of what you said. Thank you for sharing 👍👍

[@gking5584]

This is so true. My wife has resentment for the things I did and didnt do through our 17 years of marriage. She says she has forgiven me but shows resentment everyday. Divorce has started and she says even though I have been a model dad for 7 months it doesnt make up for 17 years. Lord I need prayed and intervention. I dont want the divorce even though I sent the papers. Prayer warriors help me to see a miracle. Amen

[@RandomDude45_X]

I'm going through a similar situation. My wife made me leave says a divorce is coming. I have been dealing with depression and chronic pain from three back surgeries. I got complacent and just came home locked myself in my room and shut myself off from the world. I will say a prayer for you and yours right now. Dear God please lend your healing hand to this Man and his family. Lord may your guidance and love take over and guide his family to the love they all want. I pray this in Jesus name amen. Hopefully you can say one for me and my family also.

[@ran110278]

G King Praying for you brother. I'm actually going through a similar situation

[@ryanr6607]

Update?

[@hendersonaustralia]

Just wanted to say thanks for sharing this info. It's a totally different perspective and one I'll be trying out. Who knows if my relationship is able to be saved but I'll give it my best shot.

[@johnsantos3392]

Your content is absolutely unbelievable. It'd healing me and I'm hoping it will heal my wife 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

[@ADOIRURBEAUTY]

Wonderful advise. I wrote down the 5 steps to use in my situation. I'm going to practice them. Thank u.

[@Allisgood825]

I pay all the bills in my home my wife helps me with some but it’s not enough. I’ve been trying to tell her this but she’s not open for it. She buys me expensive gifts which I think unnecessary. I’m in so much resentment. And I kept all this inside me and recently had a big argument but now she wants to leave. I don’t want her to leave

[@LiamNaden]

Time to change your approach.......

[@NUNGI_]

You want 50/50? Is that what you agreed on before you married her? Wow. Man is the provider. Let her do what she can. You take care of your fam finances

[@andressaltos633]

I'm trying to get my marriage back on track , I'm at fault I hurt her with my doubts and insecurities and over sensitivity, she claims she can't love me, and all she's been doing is binge watching Netflix I'm stuck I want her back

[@gem3530]

What if they say they have forgiven you? So they may have forgiven you but may still not want you back and want to separate and divorce. It’s wonderful the legal firm wants to try to help couples reconcile before filing. The funny part is that he actually did way worse stuff than wot I did to him. But yet he acts like I did way worse things because he’s the one who feels more hurt and heartbroken coz he can’t explain why after he still hurt me so much I still wanted to work at it because any strong woman would have told him I deserve better and that I don’t want him and he should take a walk. But just coz I didn’t tell him that doesn’t mean I don’t feel as hurt or more hurt and more pain - and as opposed to actually acting remorseful he didn’t actually sit and beg for my forgiveness because he didn’t want me back. So he just said sorry for leaving and that’s it - while I kept trying to own wot I did and apologized for my part and said I’m willing to work at things to help him get over his hurt and resentment towards me. But he didn’t want that. He just wants me to accept his decision to leave and that is what he claims will help him get over his resentment towards me. And still till now I’m trying to work at showing him how iv changed but not once is he interested in helping me to deal with the pain he caused to me! Or to show me he’s sorry or remorseful. But I guess once he’s left there is no motivation for him to care anymore. Right now we done so we should act broken up and heal ourselves through our own help or therapeutic process but he doesn’t need to be there for me anymore :(

[@jessecunard6544]

My wife has so much resentment towards me that she has ended our marriage last month and is filing for divorce. No cheating although she stopped talking to me and what she was feeling

[@yeseniamedellin7216]

Thank you so much for your words. i wrote them down and will be practicing them.

[@Selkian]

Thanks Liam. I think this one has thrown some light on my situation. Everything you said lines up with the way my partner is behaving. I never realized that it could be that she is struggling with forgiveness. She knows I love her and want to make things work. I think it is harder to see what the cause is when it is little subtle things that cause hurt as opposed to one big obvious mistake. She says, I deserve better than her, but she can't or won't give me what I need. I now feel this could be a build up of resentment and inability to forgive. I remain ever hopeful and willing to learn and grow.

[@mariesaddle7211]

Hi Liam, thank you for this My marriage is going through similar things and I would like to contact your directly for help. How can I contact you please?

[@smeelim]

Thank you so much. Powerful advice.

[@floridabrit9572]

Thank you so much. I am listening to this and and it resonates and gives such clarity hands 🙌

[@retropee229]

Personality disorder true story they hurt u intentionally

[@mandraxfilostein]

I think you just saved my marriage

[@victorious_love8881]

I understand in really like this video very helpful but would if he already left in i have no way of contacting him in he has not contacted me in a week and a half our daughters birthday is sunday 28th hes done this before in came back but this has been a pattern him leaving because we argued over small things in i take responsibility of my actions because i didn't help by keeping on throwing the bad things hes done in his face in i regret doing that but its very hard to hold back how i feel when i no i should let it go

[@ateshiacampbell6950]

Really need to hear this right now.

[@ShonShon-ed5dd]

I really needed to hear this!

[@jennys6087]

thank you. I see we could even influence others to get out and Dance with each other. Forgiveness is moving forward.

[@harrybobb9700]

I really need this for to save the relationship between myself and my gf really bad that I really really hope we get back together really really soon and have her forgive me for the things I've done that im not proud of that I want to have the things the way it was when we first got together that if she reads the comments and hopefully she will realize that I really really do love her of the 6 years we been together please forgive me baby I love you and I miss u very very much

[@jimf4754]

These guidelines are very easy to follow if your partner is willing to communicate before it is too late.

[@iAmCLPN]

Doing my best just trying to make it enough 🙏

[@The_Stubborn_Christian]

What do I do when he changes his number😭😭😭

[@carle5538]

These things hurt a lot for life.

[@mrsardmparsons6092]

Absolutely wonderful!!! Thankyou!!

[@Bporte]

Liam, this accurately describes my situation and your advice is basically saying stop making the mistakes you made, apologize and be the bigger person. The self destructive behavior is true. Thanks.

[@mhegski0412]

What if he's heard all of this from me, yet it seemed nothing. I gave it all.

[@LiamNaden]

Don't give up. You just need to find the right way to do it. All the best.

[@Sopuru4real]

Watching this now. It seems like a relived to me. Thank you so much. I will try this and leave everything to God

[@LiamNaden]

You're most welcome. All the best.

[@Sopuru4real]

@@LiamNaden for 3 weeks now, I have been the one trying and doing everything for I and my husband to be back the way we used to be. Just three days ago, I listen to this podcast, I went to and told him as u said here and never bothered him again. Do u know yesterday he came and hug me so tight. Thank you for the teaching and also saving my marriage. Yes it worked for me😍😍😍

[@joannestucker7905]

I’m sorry

[@hunneylipps]

amen

[@dirtydog33]

thank you Liam

[@tfneich]

Thank you

[@ENIGMAXII2112]

Oh I wish I had this good information back in early 2017.. Or even a little later for that matter.. Things would have been very different... I wish, I wish.....

[@mahathirmohamed6628]

Should i practice this or show this video to her?

[@LiamNaden]

Try the ideas first and see how she responds differently to you.

[@cherylschumaker1366]

He says everything is my fault.He says I am negative and all his friends hate me. He doesn' t want to talk or are any of my family. He is constantly on his phone. He is very detached. I am so hurt and he doesn' t act hurt whatsoever. He says everything is in my head .

[@salimcherkaoui2210]

Thanks a lot that’s really helped me and made me think of what the situation is ❤️