1 Unobvious Reason Why We Fail

Why do we give up, why do we often feel like a “failure” when our expectations are not met? There’s one unobvious reason that I’m talking about in this video.
We all fail from time to time and we all need support and understanding, so I hope you’ll find at least a little bit of comfort and relief in this chat about mindful living and emotional health. I’m using my own real life experience as an example, so feel free to add and share anything you want in the comments 🌷
Thank you for watching and being here, dear friends. I’m forever thankful and never take your attention and time for granted.
Sending love and peace ❤️
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Yours,
Ana(stasia)

[@rhosymedra6628]

Ana I think you are one of the wisest people on the internet. Every time you say "hello my friends" it gives me a peaceful feeling. I hope you are doing well and safe these days. Best wishes!

[@debwefoxx9389]

This topic and your thoughts gave me a new door to peace today. For me, having (any) job with 8 hour shifts most days a week surrounded by people is hell for me. I am extraordinarily happy and productive following my own rhythms toward varying goals 24/7. I have whittled down expenses and can “earn” the money I need with very few hours in overwhelming places. (I think all the things I do are valuable so I get irritated by governments and others who only count employed work as “real.”) I have failed to meet the 40 hour/week expectation for decades, and felt worse and worse not fitting in. Today planting vegetable seeds, then studying what I truly find interesting, I feel successful. Not a failure at all. I know the new paid work I am creating fits my way of life, my responsibilities, and what I want to offer others. I am still learning to trust myself. I am going to listen again- I want to develop your compassion for my memories and current path. Thank you Ana

[@anagoldberg]

Thank you for sharing your story and for being here, my dear friend. Sending you love and good thoughts 🌿

[@tedallenwolff]

I had a therapist who told me I had a deep seated and profound anger, which, like your tai chi teacher saying you have a dark toxicity, is very unhelpful and perhaps a bit cruel. Unkind words like that hurt. I'm sorry that happened to you Ana.

[@grady4757]

I agree, Ted. It’s absolutely not helpful.

[@Lotusblume.8]

Interesting. I saw it as a mind opening diagnosis almost. I had that situation too during a retreat but I didn’t tell the retreat person anything. I just had to leave the room for a while. I really did have some toxicity in myself and tons of hurt and anger that needed to be worked on. It has taken years but I am much more healed now although the trauma has left me very introverted. Everyone’s situation is different but Ana’s story made me realize that I needed to get that out. I don’t think he meant it as it was something that is who she is but something that has taken over her like a cancer. That’s the way I interpreted it. Anyway, the story was helpful for me.

[@annamartinek7998]

We are all trying to find beauty in the hardness of life. Life is hard but we are equipped to learn how to deal with the difficulties. Sometimes we must ignore the outside world to keep our sanity. Sending you my open ❤️ stay safe.

[@tmdavidson1478]

I have experienced my share of failure, loss and deprivation. When I think about it, I have not minded deprivation so much. In fact, if I am honest, I enjoy the challenge of living with less money, living space and so on. The only thing that causes me to really suffer is the shame I feel when the judgment of others seeing my situation. I feel very alone during these times so I have learned to always keep a pet. They don't judge. They are often much better company.

[@anagoldberg]

Animals are best friends indeed... Your mindset is very inspiring to me as I also find living with less a challenging adventure.

[@tmdavidson1478]

@@anagoldberg there is a fairytale for girls called The Red Shoes. In it a little girl is growing up by herself in the forest. She gets her own food and makes her own clothing. But her most prized creation are the red shoes she made herself. One day a rich lady in a carriage finds her and offers to adopt her. The girl goes with the lady to her fabulous mansion. There the maids take her clothes and bathe her. They throw her red shoes in the fire and put a new, shiny pair of shoes on her feet. Over time, she finds she cannot get over the loss of those red shoes. One day she sees a pair of red shoes in the window of the cobbler's shop. She begs the old lady to buy them for her. But the lady says no, red shoes are not for nice girls. The little girl begs and begs. Finally the old lady buys them for her. She puts them on and dances with delight. But she didn't know that the shoes were enchanted. She found that she couldn't stop dancing--even when she became tired and very much wished to stop. She tried but could not take them off. She danced and danced her way through the town, into the countryside and on to the forest. There she met a wood cutter and pleaded with him to cut her feet off so the dancing would stop. It's about as brutal a fairytale as any. A Jungian analyst concluded that it was a moral lesson about addiction. I think that is possible but for me, it cautions against the trap that a woman can enter when she accepts a life that excludes her autonomy and creativity.

[@sweetgrasshopper]

I guess settling seems to be so much easier for everyone else. I thrive with change to such degree that I can never really be considered successful in the society I was brought up. I do appreciate the value it has to tend to the same day after day, year after year. But it's not for me. Whether the underlying reason is a fear of having it pulled away from me, or just my drive for changing and consequently updating. I don't know. But I do feel that I know myself. I am my own best friend. I will never leave me. And I can call myself my Home. Always.

[@UrielCopy]

I see failing as a way to learn, and more and more I approach myself with the same care and kindness I would approach my best friend. Before I was harsh on myself, nowadays I'm harsh but in a different way that empowers me. When I see a challenge in front of me, ''I'' and ''me'', WE together solve the problem. It is a total other thing to treat yourself as a friend, and solve problems that way. And, seeing your other videos, it saddens me that such a nice person as yourself is vegan, especially in a place where you shouldnt be vegan. I was like you, a vegan, but I changed my life and became a normal omnivore again, eating meat, dairy, fish ect. It elevated my health and my mental wellbeing to where it should be. As humans, our thoughts and words can confuse us, and warp the reality that is in front of us. We need to accept reality for what it is, and accept that our thoughts, morals ect will not change that outside reality. No matter what we believe in, our digestive organs are what they are, we cant change that, the planet earth orbiting the sun is also a reality we cant change. Tackling problems with a clear mind can be extremely hard if we don't accept the obvious reality in which we exist. Please, re-consider your moral framework, your ethics and ideas. If those thoughts harm your overall health, maybe they are not such great ideas as you think they are. Be sceptic and please give animalistic foods a chance. It saved my life, it could save yours too.

[@dinekebarendrecht3654]

Dear Ana, honour your uniqueness.

[@tammyw.6181]

Thank you for your timely observation as usual. What you talk about resonates in my soul. Many blessings to you.

[@alessandrasweetman811]

Dear Ana, you are absolutely NOT alone!!! I m sure every single person watching this channel can identify with what you said. Regarding the darkness you experienced during meditation, I believe it is because as an HSP we tend to absorb so much of the suffering around us (and in particular because our past affects us so much and we can't let it go) But as I keep reminding you, the consequence of this is that your empathy , inspiring words and compassion reach millions of people around the world and you will never know how much good you are doing by opening up and sharing your struggles, which are also mine. I usually comment every one of your videos but because of the international situation I felt so down that I had no encouraging words to offer. And yet I see that this is your mission: no matter how bad things are, you take it upon yourself to always make others feel better and like they are not alone...what a wonderful mission!lots and love of love from Italy

[@alessandrasweetman811]

Regarding my struggles i can say that I never thought being self employed would be so hard. Although I can just get by, I find peace in knowing every day I do what I love (teaching English, Italian and French). The second struggle has been not being able to have children. And yet, I can't deny this has allowed me to devote a lot time and energy helping other people, which is what I absolutely love . An example of this would be making friends with a family of Afghan refugees (who are now like family to me) or befriending an 89 year old blind man...I feel so privileged and would t change this for the world!!

[@anagoldberg]

Dear Alessandra, thank you so much for these words of yours 🌿 They brightened up my heart.

[@anagoldberg]

What a beautiful sharing, my friend! I feel so much inspired now. Your story resonates with me so much.

[@aretethought7298]

❤️❤️❤️ thank you!!!

[@souadtounsi9738]

Realistic and sincere❤

[@bogusiasymonowicz7649]

I had to learn to keep failing. I was in a way brought up to be the best, just need to 'try hard' , just need to 'sit down and study'. I was painfully average. I was good, but not the best. It was not until I met my partner that he pointed out that I quit the moment I am not succeeding at first attempt. He thought me that failing is part of learning. Btw. I saw a movie last night 'Compartment 6' it was in Russian (Finnish production,) and the guy said paka paka!!! My blissful ignorance thought it was your unique way if saying bye,not the actual russian language 😅

[@anagoldberg]

Thank you so much for sharing, dear friend! 💚 Oh, and yes, paka-paka is a very common farewell phrase in Russian 😊

[@eHuK000]

👍

[@genevievemorin3299]

Thank you again Ana for this inspiring vid! I had rough times this winter because of an internship that turned out to be very difficult. This is helping me to not to take that difficulty personal but calmly try to find ways to improve my skills instead. (I don't know if this sentence makes sense in english by I am sure you understand what I mean!) With all of my friendship, Genevieve xx

[@anagoldberg]

I absolutely understand, Genevieve, and wishing you the best of luck 🌼

[@alberodonaalberodona5888]

👏👏👏😘

[@galebecker3487]

Hi Ana Goldberg, thank you for your video. I can relate to you in so many ways🙏so much of what you talk about is so real and true. Its good to have these conversations regularly to remind us, especially when we feel a little stuck. I always look forward to your videos and the content is always thought provoking. Stay strong and well, regards to Brian. Take care Gale x

[@anagoldberg]

Thank you so much for your support, dear Gale. Always ❤️

[@akankshaspeake9551]

It is difficult to share sorrows as we all have different situations.We deal with them all alone despite some well wishers around us.It is ok to make mistakes but they do haunt you or punish you from time to time.

[@anagoldberg]

It's true... But there are times when the best way to help someone is just listening to them talk about their sorrows. We don't need to be left alone with all of this. Thank you so much for watching, my friend 💚

[@nyella]

Thank you! Exactly what I need in the current phase of my life

[@anagoldberg]

I'm so glad you liked it, my friend ❤️ Sending love to you.

[@oneseeker2]

Easy time I see you have posted, I hope and hope and hope you've left, have found safe refuge. Yet, I believe you are working patiently to leave w/the right papers and so forth. So many Vlogs of yours are my favorite, yet, this one is at the Top. Its always lovely seeing you, a!ways a learning experience! Engaged souls.

[@anagoldberg]

Thank you for being here, my friend 💚

[@SimpleHealth83]

😀👋

[@ninatrabona4629]

I saw an advertisement video on you tube by Mandy Morris about something called manifesting. Briefly explained, it is like programming your thinking and minor habits in the service of a goal. Her program sounds like it would work. She has a book on Amazon. For an emergency, I would use it. As a way of life I think it might be a dangerous technique to employ.

[@anagoldberg]

I think manifesting is pretty controversial and has now become a money0making source for many... But the whole idea behind it - just knowing your own dreams and heading towards them - is absolutely beneficial.

[@sundancita]

Great video and thanks for your examples! It is unfortunate that your t'ai chi teacher gave you that answer re: your difficulty meditating. It might be that you need a different practice. As you said, the same techniques do not work for everyone. I do shamanic journey and have very visual journeys, but some people do not see images at all when they journey. They might have kinesthetic experiences where they are feeling different things or they might hear messages but not see images, etc. These are all different ways to get information and no one is the "right" way. Anyway, thanks as always for your insights.

[@liammcweeney1674]

Great video Ana have a good day 😊

[@anagoldberg]

Thank you, dear Liam 🌸

[@StudioTerrafemina]

💫💫💫💫💫 💫⭐⭐⭐💫 💫⭐🧡⭐💫 💫⭐⭐⭐💫 💫💫💫💫💫 Sending you love from Northern most BC Canada

[@peter5.056]

I think your Tai Chi instructor was almost right. Except in the following way. You are, in a sense, carrying toxic energy, but it is not yours. You are like a prism, which takes in the full intensity of the sometimes foul light of the world, and refracts its spectra through the medium of your mind.

[@anagoldberg]

Your explanation makes total sense to me... Thank you🌿

[@peter5.056]

@@anagoldberg I've been rather "prismatic" lately, in my improvisations. My music is scarcely ordered chaos, lately.

[@DMelli-xr9gc]

Wow Ana,this video was made for me. I didn’t realize about that, but now you make me understand that. Such a wonderful words,thanks my sweet friend. Be safe and take care. Send love and kisses to you and tell your husband that I saying hello to him. 🥰🌹🍀🪴

[@anagoldberg]

Oh, I'm so glad the video brought you some comfort, dear friend ❤️ Sending love to you.

[@debrahutcings1992]

The hardest for me is learning to live alone. I have never been alone. I married right after highschool, raised my kids alone for 15 years, and when they all left home I met a man and we were married 22 years. He passed away last October. This is my hardest time.

[@anagoldberg]

Oh, Debra... I'm so sorry for your loss 🙏 Sending lots of love and support. And I feel your pain ❤️

[@cucasocksandsandals]

Sending you lots of love.

[@karareynolds772]

Sending much love to you Debra ❤

[@Serendipity-gj2me]

Debra Hutcings. You took care of your children, raising them for 15 years. Shouldn't they be doing the same for you now that you are alone?

[@Instrukcija4]

@@Serendipity-gj2me Well, I think the point is not about "not caring". Debra struggles to live alone. Even if children come to her everyday, talk for hours it won't be the same. They have their own lives even if they care for Debra very much.

[@Machka0]

I feel like a failure recently because I can't find a 'right' job, for making wrong decisions in life, and for not having faith in myself to do what I really want to do (and finding all the excuses not to do what I want/should do)..most of it has to do with me being introverted and afraid of disappointing others and caring too much about their opinion of me.. But still, I'm not giving up and always trying to find a way forward

[@anagoldberg]

I understand you so well, my friend. You're the strongest because you're moving on 💛 Never stop being yourself.

[@BunsenHoneydew001]

Your Tai Chi instructed was very wrong. You are filled with light and peace. You are a joy to watch and listen to. I always feel calm after seeing your videos. Thank you for taking the time to share your insights, and for caring enough about strangers you may never meet to give words of encouragement. I pray that you are close to a resolution that brings you and your husband together again. ❤️🙏😊

[@anagoldberg]

It's so kind of you to say this, my friend. Thank you 💛

[@madalici9850]

I struggled all my life with my weight. I was bullied at school, shamed by doctors and sometimes judged even my relatives and friends. "Just eat less and move more". "Don't eat fat and eat lots of whole grains". I followed these things feeling bad that they don't work and beliving I am a weak person for not succeeding. I only discovered that I have a health condition about two years ago, and only after I started to search for more information by myself I discovered that these weight loss strategies and the general nutrition rules are not fit for my condition. I felt so relieved when I understood that all the failure I've been through was not my fault. Sometimes we simply cannot fit into the crowd and this is perfectly fine.

[@anagoldberg]

Oh, I feel for you so much, dear friend ❤️ I also heard similar stories from people that I know how losing weight is not just "eating healthy and exercising". It makes me so sad how people can be judged as "lazy" or "not doing enough"... Thank you so much for sharing your story. I'm sending you lots of love 🌷

[@ivyclara9782]

I can relate to this topic. Everyone said that downsizing my home would cause me less stress. In actuality, I caused me more stress than I have ever experienced. My new smaller home had a lot of deferred maintenance, not revealed on inspection. This smaller house is also more difficult and expensive to maintain than my larger home. On the other hand, I became vegan in one day. Very easy for me.

[@anagoldberg]

Thank you for sharing, my friend! Yes, we're all so different, and need to remember that. I hope your new home still brings lots of joy ❤️

[@mounthoodsts]

Regarding darkness inside that was affecting your ability to successfully meditate: I find that as a HSP we soak up ALL the energies, the good and the bad. I purposely create an invisable bubble around myself, and I visualize that only the good energy can come in through the bubble. Just my experience, but it seems to help me. Much love to you Ana 🥰

[@anagoldberg]

This is such an interesting point, my friend! Thank you, I've never thought about it. I will try your visualizaton technique 🌸

[@suedesilva6968]

As time goes by I have understood that there are no ' experts' when it comes to connection to self or source. Each so called expert is just telling you their perceptions of what they have experienced along their journey, As you said , same mountain different trails. There is no sure or safe route to anywhere and nobody can 'parent ' you or guide you safely home. Being okay with that is how self awareness and self efficacy is developed alongside healthy boundaries and connections with others. I'm glad to see you are doing okay. Take care.

[@700moons]

It's interesting what you said about your experience with meditation. I have a friend who had the same experience with meditation the first time she tried it. Also I often can't do meditation in the most well known way. But I heard an interesting programme on the radio here in the UK , about pilgrimages. They were saying on the radio that pilgrimages don't have to be religious , they can have any kind of aim. And also that it's a kind of walking meditation. They were saying that the kind of eastern meditation that we are all taught nowadays is like a mass market meditation which doesn't suit everybody, it comes from one cultural source only and is not local. Walking meditation is the kind that was more home grown. And then I realised that I meditate all the time when I walk in the park near my house every day. And when I do other activities that help me to stay in the present moment.

[@darbyh.8255]

Thank you so much! I always felt like my failures defined me. There were successful people and then me. That was it. I’m still working on this. Fear is my biggest obstacle and I often get in my own way.

[@anagoldberg]

I absolutely know what you mean, my friend. We need to realize how strong we are to have all those fears and still to continue to live. Sometimes waking up every day is an act of bravery. Sending you love ❤️

[@danandlesliebulger2775]

HI,Ana! So good to see you this morning. Your videos are always so relatable. Stay safe! Sending hugs!!!❤

[@anagoldberg]

Thank you so much, my friend! ❤️

[@monikah.1731]

Ana, I agree with everything that you said. You are such a jewel!💖

[@anagoldberg]

Aww, thank you so much, Monika 🌼

[@janetclaireSays]

You quit smoking in one day?! Well, there is your niche! 💕 What you are doing with this video, and so many other videos you've put up, is providing space for people to realize that it is normal to have setbacks, doubts and self criticisms. That is a very important gift in this world of social media were most people are just sharing their good days, their successes, and their best photos, which can make others feel so inadequate and even depressed.

[@vanilla_vanancie]

I quit drinking alcohol for 12 years ago And I quit smoking 11 years ago. I just put the tobago on the kitchen table and asked my daughter if she would help me with her support. She said "OF COURSE, MA..!!" After 2 weeks I throw the tobago in the trash bin. Never felt that I want to smoke again... Well, nowadays I am Allergic to the smoke too 😁

[@joannwilson3300]

I don't have many voices except food. I began a new way of eating today, again, I have failed many times but I will conquer this addiction if it's the last thing I do! Congratulations on quitting smoking, I lost my mother, father, grandmother, and aunt to smoking and it's horrible. I've got a friend I'm losing as well to smoking. It's so hard to see what they go through.

[@SIC647]

"Life should come with a disclaimer". I love that! Both the way it is funny on the surface. But also the deeper meaning of it.

[@MandyvanGoeije]

My mind keeps drifting to your channel, hoping to find news. Don't worry, don't rush when there's none, but I'm so keeping my fingers crossed for you and just wanted to let you know that you're in my thoughts.

[@blitzsmom3331]

Thank you for this video. I needed to hear your kind voice today. Stay safe.❤

[@sherrid9571]

I find that many things that are supposed to be easy are very difficult for me. Sending encouragement your way Ana. ❤

[@IngerSk]

Always good to hear from you . I think we need to stop judging ourselves and be kinder to ourselves as well as to others.

[@cindygaribay4690]

Thank you, I love hearing your thoughts on life. 🌺🌸

[@icare6076]

Thank you, Ana. I appreciate your honest sharing here. You are making room for the authentic experience of the full range that is this life. ❤️

[@kathrynbythelake9638]

When I took T'ai Chi we were told to expect illness and discomfort at first as mental and physical toxins cleared from our bodies. I think sensitive souls often carry around more than their share because of their sensitivity. Perhaps your instructor was a bit of a clod and expressed himself poorly. You did not fail, you were doing it exactly right. 🌞

[@anagoldberg]

Oh, what you say change my perspective on this actually! Thank you 💚

[@HaywoodHomestead]

Great content. I’ve struggled with communication over the years. It worsened with covid when I became even more isolated.

[@anagoldberg]

Thank you so much for being here, my friend 💛 I can understand this struggle of yours too well...

[@jakrispy5918]

Isn’t it such a relief to realize we’re not alone? The feelings of failure make everyone else an insurmountable reminder of how we don’t measure up. Like people who can’t get pregnant; suddenly every other person on earth is either pregnant or has kids. The common theme is the endless comparison of ourselves to others. Seems kind of harmless at first but it’s a monster that gets out of control really fast. The past few years I’ve been focusing on breaking a 45 year habit. It feels incredible to allow people to be themselves alongside allowing me to simply concentrate on me. Love your channel. So glad you’re safe and able to use this as an outlet for your feelings, struggles and wonderful advice!

[@graziagiro130]

Thank you, Ana. It's important to hear both motivational and personal voices, otherwise we might end up believing that no evolution is possible for us, just because we cannot accept our unicity.

[@irisschram]

Thank you for this video, Ana. Like others have said, it's as if you verbalised what was going on inside me and you managed to shine a little light on it at the same time ☺️🌜 These past days it seems like many of my acquaintances are buying homes, having babies, getting married... And in some sort of a successful career, of course. I quit that marital dream of family-bearing some years ago 😅 but a safe home and a fitting career are things that still have to align. I have my eye on the horizon and I'm trying things out, but I do feel like a failure every now and again. For making mistakes, for not having everything sorted out yet. I know it's all going to happen just the way that's right for me. But I recognise the feeling. Thank you for allowing me to reflect ☺️❤️ Well wishes and wishes for you and Brian to have your gallop into that lovely sunset soon. 💕

[@anagoldberg]

Dear Iris, thank you so much for sharing your experience here. I know how hard it is - to be surrounded by endless stories of success. You're always doing your best and living a life that nobody else can live but you 💚

[@gingermcintosh6545]

Thank you Ana; I enjoyed this so much. I feel like a failure because of all my health issues. It seems no matter how I try, more bad stuff happens. I have 1 more week in this house, then my cousin and I are driving to my new home in AZ. I’m scared but excited too. I feel much more insecure now. But I need to get back to AZ to the good medical care. I am so eager each week to see your new posts. I love your insights! Big hugs Ana, and good luck.

[@anagoldberg]

Good luck to you too, dear Ginger 💚 You're doing your best and sometimes just nothing can be done but to rely on the good treatment and care. Sending you love and support as always 🌸 Thank you so much for spending this time with me.

[@Instrukcija4]

Thank you, Ana, this video was very supportive. 🙃 I really admire your sincerity and simplicity. Well, talking about the issues you've mentioned... You won't believe it but I struggle to make a telephone call (except those times when I phone to my family members). 😏 I always prefer messages or email letters.

[@anagoldberg]

OMG, I am the same! I always struggle to call and to respond calls 😊 Thank you so much for sharing this, it made me smile huge and also prompted a new video idea 💚

[@kimmyk3640]

I adore you and your channel. I can really relate to this topic, and I think the main thing is that failing feels lonely, yet we ALL fail! I have a sister who always seems to float through life and tackle everything successfully. I have spent years wanting to be more like her. I am 55 and finally accepting and loving myself enough to know that my path is mine, my failures and successes are mine also. This is life. Stay safe Ana! We love you! ❤️

[@anagoldberg]

Thank you so much Kimberley 💖

[@tinafranco338]

Such an insightful video. You have no idea how helpful your videos and thoughts are. Just knowing that I am not alone (as you eloquently pointed out) and hearing that you and many others have the same struggles. I often feel like I do not belong in this cruel world. As yourself I am a highly sensitive person as well, a vegan and animal activist. Your videos feed my soul. It's like an armor I need to survive to deal with this world (and people). Thank you again. I think I said that to you before, if you ever wondered why you were put on this earth (as we all do), now you know. You help people. It's such a small word but it has a huge impact. Wishing you all the best. I hope all your dreams come true (I have an idea what they are). I hope your husband is doing well and you will see each other soon.

[@anagoldberg]

Dear Tina, thank you so much for sharing this and for making feel not alone. I need this badly right now 🌸 Sending you love and support on your path in this world 💚

[@allthebest744]

This came at a perfect time. Thank you for the inspiration and I’ll see you at the top of the mountain!

[@anagoldberg]

See you there, my friend 🌿

[@tshidimokone6595]

It's good to hear that we are not alone struggling with fear. Thank you.

[@anagoldberg]

Thank you for being here, my friend 🌿 And no, we are never alone

[@carolinarios2994]

For me the biggest challenge was having a Child, I had such such wrong expectations about everything... But like it happened to you, it was very easy to stop smoking, I did it in one day. Of Course I had cravings for a long time, but I never gave in to them😊 I have been clean for 7 years now🙏

[@Seeking_Myself]

Hello Ana. I have been looking forward to your next video. I was so happy when the notification popped up today! You make my weekends special. I resonate with what you are saying today. It hit home for me personally as I'm feeling extremely exhausted and not feeling very productive. Stay safe 💜

[@anagoldberg]

Aww, I'm so glad to be the good part of your weekends😊 Thank you so much for watching. And try not to be too hard on yourself, you deserve to rest and wind down 🌸

[@DMelli-xr9gc]

Hi Ana I just finished listening to your old vlogs and thinking about you and how you are doing. Then I can back to the KZbin and the first video is your. I’m so happy to hear from you. Now I’m going to watch this video 🥰.

[@cucasocksandsandals]

Being a mother. It has been incredibly hard. I’m struggling. And failing almost daily. Thanks for your video.

[@amylangford9151]

Yes, I felt this too. I expected to love motherhood because I had always naturally enjoyed being around babies. Nothing can prepare you for the overwhelming emotions and weight of responsibility that comes from having your own children. You will get used to it in time though and it will get easier. I found it helps to let go of the little things and stop trying to force myself and my children to fit in with strict schedules and routines.

[@anagoldberg]

I'm not a mother but I've heard many stories from my friends and family about how challenging it is. That's why I always admire women with children, you endure so much, every day. And it's you who are really changing the world 💖

[@cucasocksandsandals]

@@amylangford9151 Thank you! With an 8 year old and a 2 year old...sometimes it is just so overwhelming. Especially for an HSP. But when my youngest saw me yesterday on a skirt and said: "Uau! You look like a princess"....It's all worth it. :)

[@cucasocksandsandals]

@@anagoldberg Thank you so much Ana! sending you much love.

[@nanetten6238]

Hello Ana - I can think of two personal examples. One is playing the ukelele. I kept reading over and over again how easy it is to play this instrument. I love music and feel a very strong connection to it, so I was excited to try to learn to play the ukelele during the pandemic. It did not work, I just can't coordinate my fingers correctly. I still feel like a failure over that one. Every once in a while I try again, but get the same results. The second is Hurricane Ian (September 2022). My house had to be gutted because of water damage caused by this storm. After that followed months of rehabbing the house and dealing with many incompetent workers (the house is still not finished). I still feel like I am "off my feet". Why can't I bounce back quicker from all this? After all, I did not get physically hurt or die during the hurricane, so what's the matter with me? I was lucky, right? Somehow the inability to get over this more quickly also makes me feel like a failure. Thanks again Ana for the interesting discussion points.

[@juanap132]

This message is corresponding so well with my thoughts and feelings today, thank you Ana, God bless you🙏💕

[@none2817]

philippine election is currently happening. last night i cried dealing with anxiety while the son of dictator is running for president with a high chance of winning. we don't want another corrupt regime! despite us youths not having a privilege to vote (yet), we'll fight for democracy! your videos help me manage my pessimism 🌷

[@anagoldberg]

Oh, my friend, I hope so much the election result will be the one that will allow you to have a free, beautiful country, with no dictators 💖

[@none2817]

thank you 💗 unfortunately, marcos(son of former dictator) and duterte(daughter of the previous president. and a proud rapist/misogynist/murderer) is leading the unofficial poll today together with his team in senate. to be realistic, even it's hard to accept, i and most filipinos(who aren't supporters) think they gonna win. luckily there are videos like yours to keep my sanity under this government

[@SIC647]

Thank you. This resonates deeply with me, as my sense of direction has been lost for a while. So simple but yet so profound: Maybe just start walking. And keep walking.

[@mimishimaineko1173]

Ana, nice to meet your channel again! I love that your channel name is just you, Ana. :)

[@anagoldberg]

Thank you, my friend 🌼

[@anxen]

The worst thing I was told and internalised and that I still struggle with is that any success that isn't effortless is meaningless. so opposite of the 'just work hard', instead I understood that having to work for something makes me stupid, talentless and worthless. And even though I now know these were toxic thoughts from broken minds that were fed to an impressionable child, I still can't shake it off. Being lazy is the only success allowed 😣

[@judithrussell9162]

Another wonderful artwork in your thumbnail Ana! And a very relatable subject too. I have been very worried and anxious lately but feeling like I shouldn’t be because I am fortunate in so many ways and many others have far greater problems. I realised listening to you that I feel like I am failing at being a positive and grateful person and consequently haven’t been talking about my feelings and asking for support. The mischief the mind gets up to! Thank you my dear.

[@anagoldberg]

Dear Judith, thank you so much for watching 💚I understand your feelings so well. Yes, many of us "should" feel grateful for having enough and being more fortunate than others, but depreciating our own struggles and moments of sadness are not doing any good to us or anyone else. Sending you love.

[@SIC647]

And I think our experiences with, and insight into it, is very typical of where you are from. Because of the history. Much of your litterature can be said to have the same theme. How the common people have continued to set one foot in front of the other despite everything; not in search of light, but simply because the meaning is in the perseverance.

[@langatu]

I'm really struggling with my biggest passion - learning languages. It's been years now that I am unable to stick to one language and learn it well. I always pick it up out of an impulse, study it during some time and then leave it because of another impulse. It's been a very frustrating journey and I discovered how I myself made it that way. I made myself belief that by the fact that I'm good at languages I can just learn them quickly. And as you just cannot learn a language in 3 months, I didn't see the results I was expacting, and I was givinig up on the language but without leaving my impulsive loop.

[@fdoguerrasanles]

Sometimes we don't notice that when we think we failed it really was a David vs. Goliath kind of situation

[@EmmaLemmon]

Hey Ana, I'm glad you found your own way to meditate. I used to teach meditation (as a yoga teacher) and I know it isn't easy for everyone for many reasons, for example physical discomfort, some disabilities, mental trauma. I wouldn't describe it as "toxicity", I imagine some students would find that term upsetting and unhelpful. I would say that meditation isn't for everyone or perhaps just not at a particular time. Classes aren't for everyone you might prefer to practice alone. You might prefer a different physical position. Meditation isn't a job or a task. It is not doing, not trying (very difficult for some people). As for stopping smoking, I found that very difficult 😄 but I have managed it at last. I think it's ok to fail too.

[@anagoldberg]

Oh, hearing this from a meditation teacher is absolutely helpful! Thank you so much, my friend ❤️ Yes, now I do find meditating in solitude, with my eyes open, much more effective. And congrats that you've managed to quit smoking :) Yep, failing is natural, I wish we'll be able to remove that "failure" stigma sometime soon...

[@EmmaLemmon]

@@anagoldberg oh that's interesting meditating with eyes open! I'm glad you found my comment helpful ❤ Your videos are a wonderful help to so many of us, I forgot to say thank you for that too.

[@MIOLAZARUS]

Always so relatable. I feel like all of life is a lot harder than anyone told me. And way more complex than I could ever have thought. I wish someone had said to me that failure is the only way to learn. It's how we grow. It's not a bad thing to have things go wrong - whatever that means even. Learning what is good for me, what kind of life and values takes time when we live in a society where everything is so arbitrary. I too want to earn a living as freelancer and I will be happy just to write and sing my songs. That is what gives me meaning, joy, purpose. And it's also hard because I have to turn myself inside out and that feels.. scary. I hope that everyone find something that does this for them - challenging but rewarding in itself. Life is so strange. I never thought I would look into a screen and hear someone form my own thoughts and emotions in front of me, so that I feel less alone. And that other people have carried the same darkness. The magic of the internet. I also want to quit smoking, I have only smoked for 5 years so my lungs will hopefully bounce back quickly and my body can heal itself. All in due time :) Anastasia Goldberg - a golden mountain

[@anagoldberg]

Oh, I know what you mean. Internet makes us so much less lonely. I feel like all my life now (and long time before this moment) has been online mostly. And in my head:) I hope so much you'll have a chance to earn a living by making your beautiful music ❤️ And as per smoking, you're absolutely right - all in its due time:) Sending love to you, my dear friend. As always 🌷

[@animeninja4]

This video was like one of those good hugs from a friend. Thank you

[@anagoldberg]

Oh, thank you so much for watching, Hannah 🌿

[@annelarsson6152]

Thank you so much for sharing these messages 🙏❤️ I can definitely relate in so many ways. About weight loss, if you really want to do something you’ll succeed etc. And I failed, and began feeling quilt and not Enough! For example The Law of Attraction; a failure as I didn’t believe strong enough etc. I also have a health condition that makes it hard for me to loose weight. I just want to say: We all Are Enough and we need to do what we believe is the right job, art etc for just us. Our own thing and not comparing. You are so clever, warm and loving Ana, and I always look so much forward to your peaceful wisdom. Warmest hugs and love 💗

[@anagoldberg]

Anne, I 100% agree with what you've said here. And I do think that the law of attraction is problematic... Keep being yourself and following YOUR own path 💛 Sending love

[@nicholathomas4168]

Thanks Anna for another thought provoking video. 100% agree that others experiences are not going to be the same for us. The best experiences of my life have always been the ones I had the very little expectations of.

[@mikipappas4326]

Thank you for sharing.

[@hanakeitarizmanova6889]

Ana, you bring the sunshine to (not only) my life. THANK YOU. Thank you fór being who you are and for sharing with us. Love from Hana

[@anagoldberg]

Thank you so much for these words, dear friend ♥️

[@josephvolgyi3382]

Dearest Ana. Your pretty face, your smile and your soothing, calming voice gives me hope and strength. If you can still function each day with all the present situations, and I don’t mean move mountains, maybe some days only read and learn, then I should also be able to move and function and not stay in bed all day under the burden of my loneliness and despair. Since my daughter and I are estranged, she has convinced her 3 adult sons not to associate with me either. I find no purpose in life any more, no goals, nothing. I am 76 and alone. Yes I am in the USA with all our freedoms, but how can I enjoy freedom with no family to share the good times and the bad. Try to remember that you are still young, maybe the present is not ideal but things never stay the same. Life will change as it always does. There is always hope. God is with you, his chosen people. There have been many miracles and more will be forthcoming. “The sun will come out tomorrow.” Love to you always…❤️❤️❤️

[@anagoldberg]

My dear friend, thank you so much for your kind words of love and support 💚 I'm sending love to you too. I feel for you and hope there will be good things happening. Loneliness is hard to bear but you're doing your best, I know. I wish I could do more to help and support🌸

[@lilidonna]

I've been in a dark place for the majority of this year and I think I'm slowly coming back to myself... at least I hope I am. This video spoke to me in so many meaningful ways. Thanks Ana xx

[@anagoldberg]

I'm so glad the video was helpful, my friend 💚 Sending you much love and support 🤗

[@BettyHorn]

You could be telling my story. MSM, freelance, meditation.... Failing at all of them. But I have been successful at other things I didn't see the worth in at the time because I thought if I could do it, anyone can. Like writing and singing music and poetry. Like teaching something I'm passionate about. I didn't see them as gifts, but just as a part of me. It took me coming down with mononucleosis to quit smoking. That was many years ago. Grateful I did. Thank you for your gifts... The lessons you teach. And your kind spirit. Still praying for you and your husband.

[@anagoldberg]

Thank you for being here and sharing your inspiring story, dear friend ❤️ Sending love to you.

[@BettyHorn]

@@anagoldberg ❤

[@m.f.7319]

You are beautiful ❤

[@sharonneth4231]

thank you, thank you, I needed this video right now! feeling low at the moment and to be honest I am pissed off at life a little too. thanks for all that you do!

[@anagoldberg]

Oh, I'm so glad the video was helpful, Sharon 💖 Thank you for being here!

[@serpentinit9119]

Dear Ana You speak to my heart with every word. Thank you for saying once again what I often lack the words for. In the end we don't fail at all. Right? 💚🤗

[@anagoldberg]

Absolutely true, my friend! Thank you so much for being here 💚

[@Lotusblume.8]

You hair looks so cute 🥰, by the way. I have mine short like you but I can’t get it to look like that. Oh well! Failed again! Lol! But seriously, the hardest thing for me was to move back to the country I considered home. After my divorce, I went back home and it wasn’t at all like I remembered or thought it would be for a teacher, as I had been told of the shortage. I guess I was too uncomfortable in my skin at the time to accept the process and moved back a few months later after having sold everything. I feel like I’m much more ready but now the time isn’t right. I worry I will never do it and don’t feel happy where I am. It plagues my mind constantly. I will have to wait until then but feel like I’m not living right now. Just waiting for when it happens and yet I’m so scared of it happening too. It’s a mess.

[@anagoldberg]

Oh, my friend, you can't even imagine how well understand your struggle. I have to remind myself every day that everything happens for the better even if I can't see it at the moment. I hope you'll find peace in your mind and that the situation will resolve in the best way possible 💛 Sending you love. Thank you for the hair compliment, it made me smile 😊

[@Lotusblume.8]

@@anagoldberg thank you for your kind words. You are so right. I hope things will also work out the way you wish them to, my friend. Sending you love as well. 🌸

[@deliciousfailure2590]

This was so touching to me....ive gotten so used to blocking feelings...(I gave previous comment about feeling I'd lost my heart....) and I feel a safe space in my time with you...even via video. Maybe thats part of it, the lack of fear of getting picked apart, since you are here to build up...when you wished your viewers an open heart, i actually felt a bit of ache in the chest area...i feel that little ache was subtle shift. A shift towards breathing easy again one day. I hope this does not sound silly...I just want to say...thanks for this uplifting video today.

[@anagoldberg]

It doesn't sound silly at all, my friend. It's beautiful. And I'm sending you my love 💖 Thank you

[@SimoneWhipp]

I have terrible teeth from eating sugary treats as a child to bad dentistry over the years. I have visited the dentist regularly all my life. I have my teeth professionally cleaned every 3 months and despite following all the advice from the current dentist I am always being told that my teeth have plaque build up. I have developed lichen planus and have sore and swollen gums. Despite following all the advice for a healthy mouth and teeth mine is terribly unhealthy. I don't know what more I can do. I definitely feel a failure and as though I am being judged when it comes to my oral hygiene and appearance. I hope you are well Ana. Your hair is looking particularly lovely today - so shiny! x

[@anagoldberg]

Oh, I'm so sorry for your challenging situation, my friend... I too have teeth that are far from being healthy and it's actually genetic, inherited from my father's side. There are situations, esp related to our health, that we can't control, unfortunately. Sending you love and support ❤️ Thank you so much for sharing and being here🌿

[@prairiecherie5743]

Ana, this video is very insightful. Sharing your vulnerabilities is courageous. Stay safe and I hope all your dreams come true very soon. ❤️❤️❤️

[@anagoldberg]

Thank you for your kindness and support, dear friend ❤️

[@richardhughey6610]

When life seems unfair we have to just suck it up and keep going. We have to always keep the thought that things will get better.

[@anagoldberg]

It's the best strategy, I agree 🌿

[@claireberry1564]

Thank you Ana. It's only by failing that we often find our true strengths. Also, with reference to your giving up smoking, we have a saying 'fail to prepare, prepare to fail'. Sometimes failure can be avoided with a bit of advance thinking. Hope all is well with you. Stay safe x

[@anagoldberg]

So well said about failing and finding true strengths, I completely agree 🌸 Thank you, my friend

[@melekkorel2314]

Thank you Anna ❤️

[@Anita-rq9ev]

Thank you for sharing this important message Ana. Take care 🙏

[@anagoldberg]

Thank you so much for watching, Anita 💖

[@TheMidlifeGallivanters]

Ana, I love the new name of your channel. It seems so much more you xo

[@anagoldberg]

Aww, thank you!💖

[@marianne8280]

Just what I needed today, your wise words. Thank you Ana.

[@anagoldberg]

Thank you so much for being here, Marianne ❤️

[@e.karolina5572]

🧡💚💜❤

[@msship8234]

Thank you! This helps me a lot!

[@anagoldberg]

I'm so happy to kno that, my friend 🌷 Thank you!

[@cmst6408]

Thanks for the pep talk Ana had a hard week. Know isn't as hard as many, but I've been feeling very frustrated and self-loafing, like you say. and went to KZbin for escapism. and look @ what showed up, Am SO grateful for your videos and openness. I feel bit better and working on the comparison of everyone else's not having same struggle. And see all as failure and even if I am, try again, look at things differently. Much love and best thoughts your way

[@anagoldberg]

Oh, I'm soo glad the video was helpful for you today, my friend ❤️Stay to true to yourself and be confident. Thank you so much for being here. Sending you my love 🌸

[@cmst6408]

PS Ana Beautiful said we all are climbing just on different trails. May I please ask what you say at the end? Is it good bye, see you soon, etc in Russian? Thank you

[@anagoldberg]

@@cmst6408 It's bye-bye in Russian, pronounced like "paka-paka" :)

[@cmst6408]

@@anagoldberg спасибо Ana!! (Hopefuly the translations I found of thank you in Russian are correct). Wish you the same and more