10 Behaviors that Destroy Relationships

Why do relationships fall apart? Relationships can be complicated and fragile. Small mistakes can destroy yours of love, passion, and trust. But you may not realize what you’re doing wrong until it's too late. So, to help you avoid these behaviors, here are a few common behaviors that can damage any relationship.
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[@Psych2go]

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[@Blackbutterflyt888]

Yes.

[@Aindrila07]

Ya

[@jennyneon]

I'll still sub :)

[@Psych2go]

@@jennyneon Hope the content won't disappoint!

[@jadenbanks7698]

I am here early

[@Gigglehoundz]

To anyone in a relationship Do NOT constantly bring up old relationships constantly. Don’t compare your partner to you ex ever, whether they were a good ex or a bad ex. Either way you’ll make them feel insecure and terrible. Don’t try and make them change some things about themself just because it reminds you of an ex. It’s damaging to the relationship.

[@nawaneetansriraman2030]

Omg...this is exactly what I went through!!!!🥺🥺🥺

[@cherylthompson2731]

Yep

[@washyourmouthoutwithpope1334]

This is really hard when your ex gave you massive amounts of trauma :(

[@i.8885]

At start I would tell him anything about my ex and what I've been through so he knows. My ex left me with a lot of trauma which is now a part of me. then I'd only mention my ex if I needed to and if I wanted to compare them in a good way (for example "you care about my feelings while he didn't and I appreciate this").

[@flowerpower4944]

Very true comment🤔👍👍

[@CoolSkeleton-zb9eu]

Me who is single AF: Interesting.

[@funplayer05.1]

Same

[@haneenasad]

Same XD

[@firstnamelastname8465]

It is better. Concentrate on developing yourself

[@JohannaInTheCorner]

Even when single AF you have relationships. Working relationships and family relationships can also be looked at through this video I feel.

[@tadiamondgaming7876]

Dude you so cool i just subscribed Edit:youtube unsubscribed me so i had to resubscribe

[@bumblebunny]

I went into this expecting that I did quite a few of these things, but really, I think I just get defensive, but that's been getting better. I think I did lie to my partner, but it wasn't malicious. I'm a people pleaser and was very scared of making my ex sad when he already seemed so sad and stressed, so I back peddled a lot. I can't tell if I expect too much. My ex stonewalled me about one particular issue and kept saying he tried really hard, but I never saw it. I brought it up so many times, and he just got angry that him listening wasn't enough. He stonewalled me, idealized his best friend, and would use his past as a point for why he can't handle conflict, or why he can't bring things up. I'm slowing knocking him off the pedestal I put him on after the breakup. I'm realizing we both messed up a lot and I think I tried my best. It's hard for me to say he tried his best too, but I'm hoping he did.

[@BrainsApplied]

*Always keep an open mind! That's the most important thing* 😊

[@faitharae2]

Realizing that your partner has been doing all of these things to you, walking away,yet missing them despite what they’ve done to you is the most frustrating situation. But keep pushing through because going back isn’t an option. 😮‍💨

[@GODFIRST-yi9hb]

The animations are so simple but great I loveeeeee these videos I've been watching since I discovered this page an hour ago straight ...ima artist as well and I'm looking for a platform to use my art and this is so motivational and it helps me in my own relationship but focusing on the bad I'm looking at the good in finding this page. AMENNNN!!! GOD BLESS THE CREATORS OF THIS PLATFORM

[@zeeshanquadri1]

Thanks for pointing out the common things & the important tips. 🙏❣️Gonna be useful someday.

[@chelseaa7516]

Needed this! I get distracted and at times idealize my SO. He on the other hand stonewalls me and might expect too much. We need help ahahah. Thank you for the video!

[@anthonygaff1303]

Thank You!

[@thelostdude2808]

Unfortunately it's too late in my case coz She already left me for having some of these bad behaviours and now I'm dying every moment since she left me 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭 I wish I could have found these things much earlier but now it's too late and I am totally fucked up like hell 😭😭😭

[@BriDoesEverything]

Didn’t realize how many toxic habits I had.. thank you for showing me what I can work on 💛

[@SoothingTrash]

Same 😭

[@Psych2go]

No worries! We hope this has helped you! How do you plan to change these habits?

[@Ziki0912]

Reality check😭

[@marinelaangon9072]

😭

[@nrlnadihah]

Yeah

[@danielchoate7452]

This is incredibly hard to watch when you have left the honeymoon phase, especially if you are practicing some of these habits. I can say that right now I am feeling my heart sink watching this and will remedy my actions because the person I love deserves better.

[@nicolebridges3366]

If they deserve better, are you going to DO better, or let them find better?

[@DeityCloud]

@@nicolebridges3366 he said he’s “gonna remedy his actions” so meaning he’s changing for the better coz his other half deserves it

[@wbearstella5977]

Could I ask how long did it take for you to get out of the honeymoon phase?

[@ElizabethMuellerNovelist]

@Daniel Chaote I’m glad you’re now self-aware…did you apply your newly found super powers? Here we are a year later-what happened?

[@banca7576]

^^

[@kassietheobald9165]

me and my partner both do many of the things on the list and we’re certainly in a rocky patch. the relationship could very well end. this is helping me pin point some of these behaviors and i thank you guys for that, hopefully this video can help us both keep from sabotaging our relationship down the road

[@Lillyrosechan]

perhaps share this video with your partner and talk about it see what you can find out about each other. Your partner might very well have some things to point out about you and you can both help each other

[@redlophix5670]

How did it go?

[@redlophix5670]

Just being interested over here :D

[@frickfrackin2138]

Hope you either figured it out or have been able to handle the break up !! Would be much better if you could work through that tough patch but honestly, whatever is healthiest is best !

[@KennethPermenter]

Hopefully my girlfriend and I will learn from this.

[@madelinevlogs5898]

The distraction one bothers me so much. With friendships too. If you’re gonna be texting someone else the whole time why bother hanging out?

[@nataliafrinak]

one of my biggest pet peeves too gf

[@derkatzenmensch220]

Yessss I invited 2 friend over to my birthday party once and they only talked to each other or were on their phones the WHOLE TIME. And now they wonder why I'm avoiding them 😐

[@madelinevlogs5898]

@@derkatzenmensch220 oh nooo I’m so sorry

[@aurorajane2009]

Honestly though

[@Yumi-co6bv]

Ugh I have that too 🥲🙃 like I have this one friend that does check up on me... but when I'm with her she only really talks about her toxic relationship and never really asks me how I am doing or what's currently going on in my life... and when I'm talking or telling something.. she's distracted by her phone or playing with cats. And really I don't know why but people keep doing this with me...

[@MindPalaceASMR]

Don't enter into relationships with emotionally unavailable people!!!

[@tenpo8847]

So true...I recently broke up due to it!!😣

[@pamelasarris8262]

Really hard though when you meet a narcissist. They don't tend to give red flags initially.

[@bread1055]

I was in a good friendship then they became emotionally unavailable and tried to be there but took a toll on me and she became another person

[@piyusarkar3065]

@@bread1055 same! My partner is stone walling me

[@alcibarjp]

Haha and how do you know they are emotionally unavailable??

[@nox_cadit]

I think you should add "not knowing when to apologise" to the list

[@svtcarat6235]

Indeed

[@khadijatoud6592]

THIS

[@nox_cadit]

I fit on this topic on both ends 😂

[@Emmawow12]

YES!

[@zeeshanquadri1]

Very True.

[@tobyisbetterthanmilo]

I had to end my relationship because we could never do anything without his “girl best friend” it put me in an uncomfortable spot, once I asked if I could bring my boy best friend to meet his “girl best friend” and straight up said “Are you cheating on me!?” I was confused.. I ended up finding out that they were secretly dating so ended that relationship.

[@dienebadjitte105]

Wow😕

[@usersnoone]

im so sorry you deserve someone better

[@tobyisbetterthanmilo]

@@usersnoone thank both of you

[@ongang2744]

I’m glad you got out of that. You deserve so much better

[@tobyisbetterthanmilo]

@@ongang2744 thank you 🙏 ☺️

[@ArsHaD-dg1gb]

Laziness also kills a relationship

[@leobeloved]

true

[@idkagoodname7278]

There are alot more things that kill a relationship

[@SierraFarted]

Slothfulness is admittedly my biggest weakness. I’m a great communicator, listener, I’m kind, I’m good at reassurance, but I struggle with finding anything that’ll keep me motivated 😓

[@jennyneon]

*Having a partner that doesn't love you but you love him hurts the most.*

[@animewisdom5220]

Agreed except In my case it's her.

[@drama7555]

Oh mate tell me about it, I just ended a relationship like that 😐

[@Spookybozo]

Or being told after the end of the relationship that they never actually loved you the way they’ve always said they have ..

[@drama7555]

@@jennyneon Nah don't worry I'm over it already, it only kinda hurts :3

[@Bobthebuilder886tok]

That can happen when you don't love yourself

[@datboi6954]

1. You stonewall your partner 0:44 2. You're too distracted 1:18 3. You get defensive 1:43 4. You criticize too often 2:22 5. You idealize your partner 2:45 6. You ignore your past 3:09 7. You mislead your partner 3:39 8. You create competition 4:13 9. You shame your partner 4:38 10. You expect too much 4:58 I hope I could help! :D

[@Psych2go]

Thank you for putting the timestamps.

[@-lakshya7288]

@@Idk-lm1gj lol

[@-lakshya7288]

@@andyseinfeld1954 thanks for clarifying

[@CritticalAngel]

My god, my boyfriend and I do all of them(he does some, I do others)

[@asc.k1865]

"You expect too much" such as....when they say they will do something, expecting them to actually do it?

[@kendallkhoward]

Not gonna lie, I exhibit some of these things, and I worry about losing my girlfriend over this. My girlfriend already tells me these things, but sometimes it’s hard for me to see them. I needed this today especially: thank you for sharing and helping me realize my faults so I may fix them and keep my relationship alive.

[@ladylightvybe4138]

I think the fact that you acknowledge your faults is a positive & shows that you truly wish to improve. Love & light.

[@kendallkhoward]

@@ladylightvybe4138 thank you for saying that. Sometimes I’m hard on myself and let my mistakes make me think less of myself. I’m trying to shake that off and be better

[@SonyaKhanOfficial]

You’re an inspiration to those of us who are too in a similar position as you, acknowledgement and a desire to improve our behaviour is so key!!

[@ladylightvybe4138]

@@kendallkhoward you are already on your way & give yourself credit that you self reflect & want to be better. Kudos to you.

[@renisheppard5914]

But if u do these things, how do u change and fix them if your so scared 🥺.

[@dreamondreamer7884]

"You expect your partner to know what you want and what you're thinking all the time, but that's entirely unfair to them. It's your responsibility to vocalize the things you want. If you don't express yourself, your partner will never know anything is wrong. If you expect your partner to magically know all the answers, your relationship may slowly fall apart." this 🙌

[@CaveyMoth]

Friendships are like plants; if you don't water them, they die.

[@Silverswitch1]

And if you water them too much then they will die

[@cozyeng]

Friends are like snowflakes when you pee on them they dissapear

[@CaveyMoth]

@@cozyeng Ah, yes, as spoken by Confucius himself.

[@galena52761]

Retro sims vibes

[@Quetzalcoatl-Dragon_97]

@@cozyeng Unless they're into that.

[@sophiea831]

Behaviour that destroys relationships: not liking me back 😔🤚🏼

[@LilNaeNaetheBear]

I felt that

[@Psych2go]

We love you though. Does that count?

[@Pyrax0x]

same @psych2go awe

[@fvddvfs6905]

@@Psych2go aww l love youuuu!

[@sophiea831]

@@Psych2go I guess that’s something 😔🤚🏼

[@zen8407]

You can’t imagine how much you have helped me for the past years..

[@Psych2go]

So glad to hear.. hope we continue to help!

[@inconnu4961]

@@Psych2go We hope so too! Dont slack off on us! LOL

[@zen8407]

:)

[@danialmuhayat2661]

I made some of these mistakes ngl.. especially idealizing my partner and expecting too much. and she too made a few of these mistakes. Combined, it became our downfall. I was so ready for a relationship.. I was so ready to make it till the end. It broke me when we can't make it work. I know we love each other, but I don't think we have the same definition of love. Our language is different, and she wasn't open to make a change. And I wasn't open to accept things how it is. It hurts.

[@laurajames2308]

I got my help from someone, he was the only one who was able to help me bring back my ex husband back to me and he save and solve my relationship problem ❤️❤️❤️

[@laurajames2308]

Text me via what’s app for recommendation ❤️❤️❤️

[@laurajames2308]

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[@jessiecorn17]

My boyfriend have opposite love languages and everything but I communicated to him what I needed and I figured out what he needed. He’s uncomfortable with too much touch and stuff but he always tries to hold my hand for me or hug me. People think you need to be the same for it to work but I think you just need to even eachother out and strengthen where they are weak

[@tadmira127dreamuvtadmir2]

oh God, I think the same thing happens, our definition of love is not the same… I do not want to change him, I do not want him to feel that he is not himself when he is with me.😔

[@luisbenavidestorrelli5134]

My 3 years relationship ended just a few days ago and after watching this I just realized that we both killed our relationship without knowing it /:

[@tadmira127dreamuvtadmir2]

🤦🏾‍♀️😔

[@tadmira127dreamuvtadmir2]

Que rabia yo intento no dañar el mío, pero el chico no le gusta hablar… esta es mi primera relación y él ya ha tenido muchas, tal vez tenga algunos traumas con sus ex porque se la pasaban criticándolo a él y su forma de ser y yo no quiero que él se sienta de esa manera , quiero que se sienta seguro conmigo pero algo que he notado es que siempre me está buscando errores para decirme que sus ex le decían lo mismo, yo sólo quiero quererle, amarle y que estemos bien pero no ayuda, 😔, intento hablarle de algún comportamiento suyo, se pone a la defensiva, y me tengo que callar porque no quiero que ultime terminándome☹️, ya sé… me he pillado muchísimo 😔, él es mi primer todo y no le quiero perder. Si al final terminamos me dolerá muchísimo.

[@Lily-RoseBorgne]

@@tadmira127dreamuvtadmir2 I know it hurts but you cannot afford to lose yourself. If you feel you cannot be yourself, i mean be happy and not constantly focus on your behaviour and how it could make him resentful. Living in fear of losing someone because of anything, while stubbornly bearing their hurtful behaviour is not acceptable ! If he does not listen, just say it raw : you either love me and you are ready to change, or you lose me ... There is nothing to shame in setting boundaries, and loving someone should never imply destroying yourself. You are not "caught up" you are free to make your own choices and if this man does not deserve you, i promise, chosing your life over his hell will eventually get you to a much better place.

[@MrRespectMaths]

When someone loves you, the way they talk about you is different. You feel safe and comfortable.

[@Undesignedd]

@Saphyr S.Y

[@Monoiru]

How does that feel?🥺👉👈

[@primetimeourway]

Not always... I had a partner who talked about me in the most positive, Kind, and loving ways..... and to my face they we always mad at me, criticizing, and ignoring. I felt anxious and insecure because I never really knew how they felt. Or maybe I did and I was in denial. Idk.

[@mariaffpc3026]

but sometimes love means something different to them

[@chaoticneutral6282]

“You create competition” this one is so true everytime i got achievement for something i’ve done, they always criticize and degrade like its not something to be proud of. its like they’re not happy because of my success

[@Lymzy]

Been there. The one person you're most excited to share these things with somehow makes you feel bad about it. Constantly making things about them somehow and making you feel bad about succeeding. They aren't happy for you, but jealous. Super weird

[@RelaxCreatorMary]

Run...

[@iznaxs]

so sorry this is irrelevant but SCARAMOUCHE??? THE TASTE IS IMMACULATE

[@zuzu8345]

Wow, that's awful. Sounds like a toxic person. Maybe you should sit down with the person and talk to them about how they are making you feel.

[@Lillyrosechan]

Those are people who are mentally at an unhappy place or situation. They only see the bad in all things. You might either point that out to them and have them realize what they're doing is wrong or find different people to hang out with instead.

[@Isaac-0.4]

It's hard to find someone who'll actually love you nowadays :-v

[@janwikashyap977]

It's very very hard

[@SPGEN95]

It's about letting the right people in and keeping the wrong one's out.

[@pine-solismylemonade5542]

@@SPGEN95 so true

[@lorainebejar2837]

Totally. So many distractions and everything. I still trust the Universe! 🙂🙏💞

[@sheboom2417]

So trueee

[@monaebreak561]

Nah I think I'll stay single. 😌

[@princ3ssrose996]

My ex did all ten of these.

[@HuntsmanStrong]

Focus on which ones you might have done

[@mylagemmagonzales5439]

in any relationships, open communications is very important.

[@inconnu4961]

In every relationship, good communication is the most difficult part! men & women communicate very differently. failure to appreciate this will mean endless amounts of confusion and frustration.

[@RideAcrossTheRiver]

Never met a woman who communicated openly. Too much power given away that way.

[@tadmira127dreamuvtadmir2]

My boy don’t like communication, he always say he don’t like drama 😪

[@megnicole4286]

When trying to share this video with them becomes a literal fight...😢

[@jonathandixon1305]

Best to talk separately like you’re the expert.

[@NOZH777]

I don't think sending them a video like this is the best way though. The better way to do it is to talk abt it like how the person above me said ^

[@Pleiadian618]

A big red flag 4 sure

[@idkagoodname7278]

Just do it, what could possibly go wrong? If they get mad and ask if theyre not good enough then simply juat say that you want to stable your relationship. Although until now its probably over but I hope not

[@ggamergyal]

Watching this made me realize how much I’ve grown, where I used to display a lot of these behaviours in response to being in a toxic relationship (which I left) but now I can happily say I do none of these things 🥺 thank you for this, I didn’t realize how far I’ve come over the past year

[@Crazyfrog12345]

The way I just read ✨communism✨ at 1:48

[@Benni777]

I feel like on this opposite side of ignoring the past, like worrying about the set too much and bringing it up way too often is also harmful to any kind of relationship. No one wants a new partner that constantly brings up their exes. ☺️🤷🏻‍♀️

[@JBILCO_ARTS]

Psyc2go: Hello psyc2goers Me and everyone els: HELLO 😃

[@SelfMadeWealth]

True love stories never have endings.

[@f.j.s8345]

Damn that hit...

[@Alpha125]

Yeah it did

[@Alpha125]

@Lotte there is always an end and it's always worth the pain

[@victors_sunkenship]

The death of the univirse will end all love stories.

[@LoveFitsAll]

Aww

[@mainoble1447]

I watched this about two months ago and realised I was doing two of these things, which I immediately addressed and now I have rewatched and smiled knowing I now do none, thank you for making me aware of my behaviours, because of this video me and my girlfriend were able to talk about this and change and now we are healthier than ever!

[@KennethPermenter]

Hell yeah !

[@AntonNotSchreli]

I made 10/10......to late found this video...aftermath....

[@rosie9651]

It warms my heart how supportive people are in the comment section

[@calvin9570]

yeah this comment are generally supportive people, its also warm my heart thx for video i wanna make our relation better

[@Talkinglife]

Taking every little thing personally. · frowning always Too much argument

[@kunty4580]

Yep, vocalize what you want instead of just breaking up, cause if you truly loved one another, not only will a break up suck ass, but you will realize sooner or later that you've done a mistake, and it might just be too late to say "sorry..." .

[@m.l.7558]

So trueeeee

[@thumbtap467]

No. 10 hit me, yes i expect too much and those expectations that I didn't meet hurts me. Now I'm realizing how bad too much expectation is. The more you expect, the more you hurt. As an advice for myself, limit expectations, my partner isn't a mind reader and she can only do what she can do. Don't get mad and be disappointed thus, accept and appreciate what my partner does. I love her so much ❤️

[@chaosdromanah8620]

Hello fellow Time Travelers

[@lotionbottle3746]

Hacker!!!!!

[@emmafiori6763]

:O

[@rotemsof]

WHAT HOW!?!?!??!?

[@galaxy_mira]

HUH?!!

[@nightsky9939]

What how could you do that wow

[@ArtofAmethystFable]

This will really helped me to pinpoint some behaviours i didnt realize i did. This is gonna help me figure out where to start on improving next. Thank you!

[@Psych2go]

Thanks for sharing. It's good to be self-aware! Glad this video has helped you in some way :)

[@PremKumar-de1qn]

"My head is on your chest and i can hear your heart race faster than mine. I find it beautiful how we both are equally vulnerable right now. I want to tell you tat I love you but the moment is too beautiful to spoil with words. "

[@stephaniephilip8995]

hello dear do you need any help I can help you out it worked for me WhatsApp me let's chat better.

[@stephaniephilip8995]

Message me on WhatsApp

[@stephaniephilip8995]

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[@matvei8368]

I’m pleased to say that I dont have any of these problems. However that doesn’t mean I was always like this. I used to be unknowingly manipulating. I didn’t like feeling bad for accidentally guilt tripping my partner into doing things I want. And I think that’s the most important thing in a relationship is that you care enough to be a better person for you, for your partner, and for your friends. The want to never hurt someone you love is a huge motivation. At least in my experience

[@riddhip7344]

Totally it is a pleasant and joyful motivation and would not let one ever feel unsatisfied in the hindsight whether present or future.

[@danilotusflower]

I didn't know that I was manipulative until me and my partner got better at communicating. I started noticing how bad I was making him feel hoping it would make him want to cater to me more instead it made him anxious coming to me in fear of how I would take things or he'd simply shut down. I changed because I truly loved him and nobody deserves that. I'm so grateful he gave me a chance to address my issues, I could have lost a very special man the last thing I wanted was to hurt him any further

[@gijsdebruin2770]

We broke up a week ago because she stonewalled me, made me feel ignored and neglected, she was defensive, ignored our past, frequently lied, didn't compromise nor put in effort (neither in me nor the relationship)

[@stephaniephilip8995]

I was once in a similar situation, just thought maybe you needed, well I can help you Message me on WhatsApp

[@dawnemile7499]

Sounds like you didn't have a relationship, just a body in your life.

[@jasmine-fp1qg]

im going through this rn. my boyfriends like this and idk, its so difficult to deal with sometimes. but im sorry you went through that.

[@patriziaverrelli4657]

And, he really mislead me, which really broke my heart. Instead of taking the time to get to know me, apparently I was absolutely Perfect after a few weeks. He made so many future plans. Moving in, marriage, a child, sharing his vehicle.........If I was so amazing, perfect and the love of his life, Where is he now????

[@greimalkin]

Um, there are a lot more things than that that can destroy a relationship Mine-- not helping out, being selfish

[@Sonnar92Gaming]

I used to do a lot of these. I just recently got into a new relationship after taking a 4 year break from dating to just work on finding my true self and I can happily report, older, wiser me no longer does these things

[@suharubyniya4376]

Ok, I really have to say that, this video really made me realize one of my worst faults. The person who I used to love left me. Because I had all 10 of these bad habits in me. I can realize it now, but that person is gone forever. After losing that person I really realized how much I love that person. That person was right for me, but I couldn't realize it then. It's been more than six months since we're apart. But I still miss that person. I really wanna meet that person and say "SORRY" for all of my rude behaviors , but that person hates me so bad and doesn't wanna see my face anymore. And I know it's all my fault. But I still love that person, even more than before. So it's my request to everyone, please don't ever hurt someone you really love. Hurting your love means hurting yourself and only you will suffer for this in the long run. Please realize before it's too late. I know you are never coming back but I only want you to know, Everything which gone wrong was my fault, not yours. I'm really sorry if I gave you too much pain. Now you hate me and left me forever but I really don't know how to forget your face and how to hate you.

[@isuwayuhanna7004]

I know Mr ose who can actually fix your problems, he once helped me recover my relationship 🥰

[@isuwayuhanna7004]

Wh'atsap me...for he!p

[@SamElle]

I definitely have lost many friendships because of a couple of the reasons here, mainly the competition and the shaming bit. I had this one friend who liked to point out my flaws whenever we were with our friend group/ in public. She did it in a "joking" manner but it definitely still hurt

[@KennethPermenter]

:(

[@nostop69420]

When your recommendations are faster than your notifs-

[@Psych2go]

Yes?

[@sarahardila]

*These videos are why my friends come to me for relationship advice when I’ve never dated someone*

[@chrissy4301]

Isn't that the weirdest experience ever?

[@vartikaindora5906]

Omg I can't believe myself. I'm time travelling. 🤩🤩 That's so exciting !!! Anyway, dear future people take care of yourself and your mental health 🤍

[@neutralboi1984]

What the hell! 4 Weeks ago?

[@nightsky9939]

How just how how can you do this i don’t get it ???? Tell me your ways

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[@nightsky9939]

@@neutralboi1984 cool thxs bro have a lovely day 😁😁

[@ayanami9340]

Ohhhhhhhh this explain a lot, I feel enlightened thank you

[@mizzstizzie]

I always watch these videos and never comment. But I've really appreciated these videos over the years. It's helped me to become more self-aware and has helped me on my journey of self-work and growth. It's also helped me to create boundaries that were never there before. So thanks psych2go people! You guys are the real MVPs

[@heatherwestgate3439]

Me and my husband have been married for almost 4 years now, our anniversary is next month. Lately though, I've been feeling like he doesn't want to spend any time with me, he would much rather watch gaming videos on his phone than to spend time with me. But I guess I'm also guilty of feeling like I am expecting WAY too much from him. We've been back and forth with each other over the quality time issue for a good bit now. I've tried to talk to him about it, but he either stonewalls me or gets defensive.

[@mowgs8985]

Perhaps he has taking you for granted and doesnt appreciate you .,I'm really sorry you have experienced this but I'm afraid some people are selfish .He may not realise hes hurting you . You see men need to be told verbally and are crap at reading body language. I suggest tell him how you feel

[@sky8234]

try watching his favorite movie tonight or you can show him how interested you're on sharing with him his interests like watching gaming videos with him ;)

[@Candeekissez]

I've had this happen in my marriage. I even got on my knees, crying, begging him to spend more quality time with me. Didn't happen. Although, he said he loved me. Some people don't show love the way you do or need them to, some people aren't capable I guess. It got worse, other deal breakers happened, so I left.

[@heatherwestgate3439]

@@Candeekissez we talked it out and it was just a lot of stress because we both work such odd hours. Thank you for sharing, I feel better knowing that I'm not alone.

[@ChanaRules]

@@Candeekissez Same here. Just asked for divorce a couple of weeks ago, and this was one of the reasons as well....

[@aparna12242]

1:20 Yeah...this is not easy for someone who is struggling with ADHD. For a lot of neurodivergent people living with neurotypical partners, it is also equally important for the partner to understand the condition and practice patience. Understand and be mindful that our inattention is not always intentional and isn't a measure of how much we care and love the other.

[@Am-ug9np]

The most important thing is each persons experience. Regardless of your reason for being distracted, the other person is experiencing neglect and shouldn’t be obligated to tolerate it just because you have a condition.

[@aparna12242]

I agree that they are not obligated to tolerate it and they can choose to leave the relationship but staying in a relationship and BLAMING the neurodivergent person and making them feel bad about the things that aren't in their control is messed up. The neurodivergent folks are n't obligated to stick around and get blamed every day for it either. I have been in a relationship for 14 years, married for 4 years and have ADHD. My partner has always been mindful about my distractibility. He repeats himself a few times if he realises my brain isn't registering what he is saying without getting annoyed. He makes sure things are always kept in place to make things a bit more easier for me. It's these small things someone can do to keep the relationship afloat. If someone feels they are not "obligated" then they should not have gotten into a relationship in the first place with a neurodivergent person and then blame them for it. If they knew their partner was neurodivergent and knew what they were getting into, then is it really fair to take their frustration out later on them and blame them for everything especially when distractibility for ADHD folks is not in our control but we do everything we can to cope? Some folks simply lack patience and empathy and leave relationships because they are just entitled and don't want to put in any effort in relationships.🤷‍♀ @@Am-ug9np​

[@waziharahman24]

2:12 their breath stinks so much they don't even wanna LISTEN- 💀💀

[@Layless]

TIME TRAVELERS DON'T BUY CHEAP TIME TRAVEL MACHINES YOU'LL REGRET IT IT TOOK ME 4 MONTHS TO GET BACK TO WHAT YEAR I WAS IN

[@nightsky9939]

🤣🤣 hope that was fun travelling in time

[@inconnu4961]

Are there any brands you recommend? i may be in the market. decided i need to escape 2020!

[@keithwan4792]

I found this video only after coming out from a 2 year relationship. What’s sad is a lot of things in this video were things I’ve done. By the time I realized these issues and started to change, it was too late-she was fed up. Thank you for making this video.

[@clarawood4982]

Hello dear ... Do you need any help I can . Out it worked for me add me up let's chat better....

[@clarawood4982]

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[@khaltour]

DUDE ME TOO

[@shrikrishnauthirasamy7680]

Me too... :(

[@sweetbeep]

Did she tell you what bothered her? Or she bottled it up and then just left?

[@lucascortes5615]

No. 10 I expect my girlfriend to read my mind and understand how I’m feeling. This is a very damaging habit and she always tells me it unfair. When I’m not heard emotionally then I’ll just stop talking to her

[@thingsanikdoes2366]

My ex wanted me to know things like how she felt, what she wanted, what she was thinking without even communicating them to me and that's one of the main reason we fell apart. I kept telling her to tell me those things but her argument was if I really loved her and if we were soulmates then I would be able to tell

[@jonathandixon1305]

You’re right. Verbal communication is good for the head and heart. You’re brain can help subconsciously mimic you’re partners’ actions to make them more compatible, but that’s it. It can’t translate needs and wants, but it can help you read a person’s body language that they “want” something.

[@tadmira127dreamuvtadmir2]

what an irony when I want my boy to listen to me and he refuses to listen to what I have to say because then he gets angry.😪

[@KraziAnnRKissed]

Sure, you can talk about your past but I've found a lot of the time it's been used as a weapon against me.

[@user_28373]

This is perfect timing, im gonna send this to him. Wish me luck😕

[@idk-vb4hy]

How is everyone so fast- also your videos makes me comfortable and has been helping my mental health

[@mukajinkya]

Didn’t realize how many toxic habits I had... I will definitely improve! Thank you!💝

[@matcello6717]

“You have teached so much im gonna try to keep those in mind when i get a friend!”

[@bunnyboo6295]

@Krishna Patel Why not you too became friends seems like most people are looking how about someone just take the risk and reach out sure theres a chance of getting burn but you never succeed if you don't put yourself out there the best things take action and work. Remember to keep boundaries and stay safe.

[@sneakyema]

About communication, both partners should talk from time to time about stuff they're feeling. If one of them don't talk about something that he/she is noticing from the other partner and start bottling up feelings, there will be a moment when that person will explode, and that is a recipe for disaster in most relationships. Speak without fear and choose carefully your words.

[@krishnagurung3565]

I thought i was responsible for fall of our relationship but i was wrong. Seeing this video made me realize that I actually never had any problems. My ex was the one with lots of issues. I was really scared to watch this video as I thought i will be the one with all the destructive behavior. Thank god i never walked on wrong path 🙏❤️

[@mezzo8481]

That doesn‘t seem like the message thy are trying to convey

[@amberd.883]

I've only ever dated men with at least one sometimes more of all of these traits. The last guy I dated, I even told him how bad it felt getting criticized by him all the time and he said that if I can't handle getting criticized, I can't handle a relationship because everyone's always judging you all the time.. that may be but he refused to acknowledge that you can't just say everything you're thinking to the person you're thinking it about all the time.

[@bosedeolorunfemi1543]

Hello, I can refer you to someone who helped me out in getting back with my ex lover. He's the best when it come to recovery of broken relationships.

[@bosedeolorunfemi1543]

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[@amberd.883]

@@ShinjiInui91 of course. His ego was the width of a dime

[@jessitabonita]

Speaking SIGN Language will do it: -Shame -Insults -Guilt -[the] Need to be right -Lecturing/[having the] Last word

[@art.of.verser]

One-sided romantic or platonic relationships are pretty low and very little benefit is found.

[@LimeLivesMatter]

1) You stonewall your partner 2) You're too distracted 3) You get defensive 4) You criticize too often 5) You idealize your partner 6) You ignore your past 7) You mislead your partner 8) You create competition 9) You shame your partner 10) You expect too much

[@radhikagupta9789]

Lol hey future mates

[@madhubalasharma2625]

Yar ye tum krte kse ho hacker ho kya?? Lmaooo i mean its kinda funny to me...I also wanna know how the Hell!!! You do this shit

[@radhikagupta9789]

@@madhubalasharma2625 just do their playlists and look for unlisted videos.😂🤭

[@franciadiesta]

Can you also explain. Men when courtship status they give you yhis and that, they are sweet and attentive to you, and when you finally say yes, they become so confident and suddenly they stop those things they did before. In short their behavior is changing, like oh she is my girlfriend now i dont have to do lots of effort now. 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄

[@merbeeduck9256]

I sadly have not been able to time travel

[@madhubalasharma2625]

Lmao

[@tranquil3436]

10 behaviours that destroy your relationships 1)you stonewall your partner. 2)you are too distracted. 3)you get defensive. 4)you criticize too often. 5)you idealize your partner 6)you ignore your past. 7)you mislead your partner. 8)you create competition. 9)you shame your partner. 10)you expect too much. Thankyou:)

[@Rima27ify]

My ex was exactly these things he was manipulative and controlling and jealous and toxic but im glad im a lot more happier with my boyfriend now he treats me a lot better 💗

[@erinmetcalf4043]

Aww hope your OK and I'm happy you found someone better

[@daletydoodles3389]

Lies and manipulation DESTROY trust. Thus destroying the relationship.

[@kaikart123]

She did: - stonewall me at first, but gradually open up more after we talk about it - phone distraction, it's not that bad but sometimes I feel ignored but currently I still tolerate it I did: - criticize too often, I do not know if this is too often but she almost never criticize me but I criticize her if I thought she did something wrong. Never being criticized feel so wrong, I am not a perfect man I should be criticized more often - Idealize my partner, I did this before I learned about her situation more, I no longer do this - expect too much, I did this but we've talked about it and I no longer do this The key is to talk about it and solve it together, communication is REALLY important.

[@Khadija5732]

My bestfriend of 3 years just threw our friendship out of the window as of it was nothing to her......it hurts

[@tkmccoywv]

@Dr Bath WTF? Spam!

[@BubbleIsSoCool]

I need to stop watching Psych2go, each video i watch the more i feel like im the big bad guy

[@cynthx]

i used to do this a lot in my teens and early 20s LOL. as i got older, my perspective changed as my confidence grew. yeah all this stuff is outgrown once you learn to accept and love yourself xD

[@princesschelsea1558]

I know this video is from a year ago, but I wanted to add that these and other toxic traits CAN be improved upon and changed as long as you both work together. My boyfriend and I have been together a little more than 6 years, but when we first started dating, we had some toxic defense mechanisms as we both had been in abusive relationships previously. For me, I got yelled at a lot when I was with my abusive ex so whenever I got into a disagreement, I would clam up. This made it difficult for me to talk about my feelings when I got into a new relationship but we broke down that barrier and now our communication is amazing. My boyfriend was bullied a lot by everyone including his abusive ex and his own mother, so he had a very hard time being vulnerable with me at first because he had learned to put up a tough and very independent exterior. We worked through that barrier, too. As long as you two are genuinely trying to work through these issues, things can work out and you can push through the rocky parts.

[@dougdugart9505]

Im in your first position rn, we just start dating about 5 months we do have same past that having abusive partners (her ex always yelled at her and doing physical attack to her, while my ex manipulating me then yelled at me whenever she's feeling down and end up having affair 3 times ) then now we facing something that i never experienced before my gf always constantly doing silent treatment to me whenever we argue, i know I'm annoying like too excited about something that's makes me throwing many questions after that she's mad and giving me silent treatment, I don't how to react and approach her even i always apologize to her bout what im doing that i know im wrong. She's always stonewalling after we argue i feel like walking on thin ice that can break anytime (she has moodswing and anger issues + she's mom with 1 baby) i love her and always appreciate her can through hard times alone from the past until now but when i try to talk about our relationship she's got defensive too :). pls i just wanted some advice so i can talk to her and keeping this relationship more healty

[@princesschelsea1558]

@@dougdugart9505 I think it would be really beneficial to sit down with her and tell her how you feel when she does these things. It also helps to make this a habit where you set aside time maybe once a week or once a month where you can discuss how the other person has made you feel. Keeping open communication is so important because we’re not mind readers. Just make sure to express your feelings and not criticize her so much as that can be very easy to accidentally do.

[@dougdugart9505]

@@princesschelsea1558 thanks i appreciate that really really appreciate that hopefully we can going through this even in hard times

[@soniyapaul3025]

Reply of no. 10 - Expectations are like by default but one should know that the opposition is a human being not God all the time! 😑

[@Orophile_303]

I don't tell my boyfriend cause he has anger problems and so do i, but he does way worse than I do. He gets angry over the smallest inconvenience, but he uses my anger problems as a way to deflect from his so, I avoid everything because he's so defensive and switches on me.

[@svtcarat6235]

That's how my boyfriend is like ... He leashes it all on me that's why most of the time i try to keep things shut instead of discussing with him Which i find so wrong...that idek what to do

[@PirvuCatalin]

Hey Psych2go and everybody. By the way, nice work on your creations so far. They're short enough so as not to overwhelm, but full of insight enough to really feel you got something consistent out of the 5-7 minutes you invested. And the graphic style ... I like how expressive it is but also how sensitive. We need more sensitive art and content out there. It's a sorely needed balm in this rushed and often domineering culture we have. Anyways, I want to give my contribution of another 10 destructive behaviors on top of the 10 you already highlighted. 11. You assume (the worst) instead of asking questions. 12. You don't make the effort to grow beyond your current preferences to engage in things that are important to your partner 13. You're either overly proactive or overly receptive, but you don't play the other role 14. You only show support or approval for your partner when they are making you feel good and bending over backwards to satisfy your desires. 15. You are simply intolerant and you defend that attitude by calling it "high standards", "self respect", or "what I'm asking for is just normal" 16. You constantly erode your partner's confidence, pride and self esteem because actually admitting they're worth looking up to might bring up unresolved feelings of shame and inadequacy 17. You're projecting your unconscious fears and insecurities on your partner instead of actually doing the work of healing them, possibly sharing them openly and asking for their assistance in dealing with them. 18. You try to be "The Perfect Partner" for your significant other, and exhaust yourself trying to be someone you're not. 19. You don't take it upon yourself to be Generous in every possible sense of the word, yet you get mad when your partner doesn't give you what you want. 20. You don't really ask questions and listen to your partner's heart, you just fake interest and listening hoping your partner won't notice or mind. Keep on doing great work and making psychology and mental health accessible to the world. You are doing a great service! Thank you for that.

[@Aindrila07]

Vdo uploaded 1minute ago.. Comments- 2days ago Me- what?!, ,

[@nightsky9939]

Same 🤣 we all confused 😅🤔

[@leafyy_head]

they have patreon

[@Aindrila07]

@@leafyy_head patreon means?

[@leafyy_head]

@@Aindrila07 it's basically this thing were u pay phych2go to help them out ig, and you get to see videos sometimes months before it actually gets uploaded for everyone to see.

[@Aindrila07]

@@leafyy_head oooh 😅

[@pastaboiman06]

I’ve been in one relationship in my life. When she would come over, she sometimes would pop her earbuds in and watch something on her phone right next to me on my bed. I would glance at her sometimes and feel lonely like she wasn’t even there. It hurt a lot.

[@yujibell]

so used to blaming myself i thought i would watch this for educational purposes, but ended up relating only with 1-2 things while my ex hits like 6 of these o_o

[@chipsahoy6289]

Right?

[@orthodoxy6470]

My tongue destroyed my friendship after this i never trusted anyone and i think its irreversible

[@aqsamj8861]

I feel you. And it sucks

[@PetteriWar]

You gotta accept it and move on. Ylu have faults which you can learn from

[@aqsamj8861]

My friendship hasn't been destroyed yet but i can feel her drifting away from me......

[@PetteriWar]

@@aqsamj8861 have you told her about it? If not she might not know

[@aqsamj8861]

@@PetteriWar i havent. Im scared to hear it from her. Her accepting me to b toxic

[@grapetape9753]

dude i love this channel so much, been following for a long time now and its amazing to see how fast it grows. hey psych2go team! you guys are doing an amazing job!

[@shadowgirl4275]

Watching this...honestly I have been in my first relationship that has lasted for a few years now and watching this, I do all of those. I want to change those habits because it is damaging but I struggle with finding how to change or work on improving the effort for me to become better. Any advice? (Struggle with anxiety/depression but idk if that affects with this or if I am just using it as an excuse to avoid the problem, I feel like its kinda both but I am completely unsure.)

[@princessheart9495]

Never really thought I would find a similar person who has the same problem as mine I would say I’m here watching this video for exactly the same reason. Find the reason of your anxiety and depression write what you feel if that’s how you can clearly express or be aware about your self. for me it was because my partner cheated on me. He was already in a relationship when I came in the picture as a side girl. But The other girl cheated on him with his best friend after knowing so he felt dumb and wanted to go back but she didn’t want him so he tried to come back to me but he slowly realized what I was worth in his life. It’s been 2 1/2 year and I still struggle with trust issues in fear of losing him and he won’t be able to fix it... it’s going to be your responsibility he will support you for sure, love you make sure that you’re feeling loved secure, but for all other stuff you have to fix it yourself by building great bonding and communication between both of you try to talk it out.learn how to say what’s in your heart to your partner before it’s too late, that way they know how you feel and can even help you if they really want to be with you. Hope this helps

[@Phoenix_9902]

Something I realize is that I can’t be vulnerable in a relationship. Which is why I’ve never wanted to take anything further than the talking stage. I’ve wanted to, but have never brought myself to actually do so. Understanding your past and the reasons for why that affects you now is really really important.

[@adashofentropy359]

So she does one half, and I do the other. It’s not so much a relationship as a tragedy.