10 Gay Misconceptions: Debunking Stereotypes (Real Talk)

[@kdlewis7355]

I agree with Jai, that people don’t want to put in the work. We have to get pass the physical and deal with the emotional

[@lifewithjaiandjoe]

@@kdlewis7355 exactly…. It all takes work

[@code25010]

There is also research that suggests queer people are less likely to have a secure attachment styles due to childhood trauma's, which certainly makes it more difficult to 'put in the work'.

[@timothyj1966]

It is so nice to see Confident, Honest, Smart Gay Black men!

[@lifewithjaiandjoe]

Thank you so much Timothy…. We appreciate you for watching and commenting!!!!

[@3x157]

Great video guys. I normally don't watch gay KZbinrs but this was nicely done. Straight to the point not trying to start controversy.

[@lifewithjaiandjoe]

@@3x157 hey hey you…. We thank you so much for this lovely comment. Thank you for spending a few minutes to watch and enjoy our video…. We like to keep things simple, respectful and straight to the point… but, entertaining! Hopefully you joined our family… we look forward to chatting with you more.

[@tonyrossbackinthedaymusicv3107]

I really enjoyed this.

[@lifewithjaiandjoe]

@@tonyrossbackinthedaymusicv3107 "Hey fam! Thanks so much for watching and commenting - we’re glad you enjoyed it! 🙏🏽 If you're into this kind of real talk, make sure to check out our other videos like 'Is Gay PDA Too Bold?' or 'Gay Question Roulette Challenge (Real Talk).' We look forward to chatting with you more in the future! Sending positive vibes only! We appreciate you!

[@RedRiverMan]

Happy to see as a Black Christian Gay Man that Jai loves Jesus! Never give up our faith no matter what other "christians?" might say.

[@RedRiverMan]

but that said-Jai, find a good church where you can gro in the spirit and be a part of the whole body of Christ even with the flaws that community inevitably brings. There are faith communities out there that can hold you, I am a Black Catholic and I have found a beautiful welcome in church. Don't believe the hype and groww in the faith as your ancestors did-in church. Christianity can't be a solo journey cause Jesus wants us to be together to grow in Him as a community moving towards His glory, spreading His kingdom of peace through works of service and being nourished in community. Praying with you, one same gender loving brother to another. Don't let the devil win in taking you out of Christ's body, WE NEED YOU!!!!

[@lifewithjaiandjoe]

We’ve been searching around. But, we both have had some bad experiences in the church that left us side eyeing things… from that we decided to walk our own patch…. We definitely believe and love the lord. It’s the “church” that stomps us!! Hopefully we can find a middle ground..

[@kdlewis7355]

To be an openly gay man, you have to be confident. People often take confidence for conceit. We can’t control their perception

[@lifewithjaiandjoe]

You got that right Uncle and I love the way you put it - people will always have their own perception and a lot of times will not change it no matter what you say 💛💛💛

[@kdlewis7355]

@@lifewithjaiandjoe that’s why I stopped trying a long time ago. Missed you guys last week.

[@lifewithjaiandjoe]

@kdlewis7355 we missed you guys too…. We needed a lil nap time… but, we’re good now!

[@darrylsmith-oy7vp]

Right! I'm a professional black man with High Confidence and Innovation...many ppl label me as White Acting or Boujee Attitude but usually once ppl interact with me...they apologize for their negative opinions....

[@happylung77]

This is so good, to get these hard questions answered directly. Would be interesting to see an interview between you 2 and someone who has a polar opposite view and get more misconceptions addressed in a respectful way

[@lifewithjaiandjoe]

Thank you - that is a good idea to get someone with polar opposite views - just have to find a person but it would make very good dialogue if like you said, it is respectful 💛💛💛❤️❤️

[@MyHeadspacePlace]

​@@lifewithjaiandjoe That part....

[@kasnarfburns210]

I just happened on your channel but very glad I found you guys. I truly appreciate your casual and seemingly authentic delivery of your opinions and viewpoints. I think the question about cheating is whether gay men tend to promiscuous. Cheating means there was an expectation of exclusivity within a relationship. Gay men who have more open relationships may not view their dalliances as cheating. Gay agenda is largely what bigoted people see as gay men wanting to be visible in the day light. No one accuses straight people pushing a straight agenda when condition All children to expect to have heteronormative futures. Gay men are attracted to their own form. So, I think there comes a certain amount of narcissism- hence the focus on appearance and how are bodies look. There's a reason there was Queer Eye for the Straight Guy.

[@lifewithjaiandjoe]

Hey Kasnarf we are super glad you decided to hang out with us… welcome to our family/channel…. We like to keep our conversations lite and enjoyable while still touching on important/serious subjects. If we’re being fair, most men are promiscuous. In fact, most women are too. They are just better at keeping locked up! Lol. What you said about open relationships is very true.. well done! We appreciate that view of the subject. About the gay agenda, it’s weird that the moment we as a community reach a point where we are unapologetically who we are, they call it “an agenda” nope! It’s no agenda.. we are simply living and being who we are! Thank you for the comment. We hope you stick around and don’t be a stranger!

[@ThaKentz]

Hey Bros!!! First off the editing👌🏾👌🏾👌🏾. Y’all really give it up on camera and it’s refreshing to watch. When Jai said you made the executive decision to wear that shirt 😂😂😂. Amazing video we are always amazed at how you guys come up with these topics. Congratulations on 2K🎉. It’s only up from here!!! Love you guys ❤. Mean it

[@lifewithjaiandjoe]

Whats going on bro’s. Thank you both so much…. Yall know we like talking and asking questions! And yes… that decision was a choice…. And who am i to stop you from choosing? Lol. We’re all adults.. lol right? A lot of times we are sitting and having random conversations… at some point a subject comes up and we’re like…. Hold up, let’s save this to discuss with our family! Yall already know we love yall the long way!

[@jamesquivey1538]

Hey guys, I enjoyed your video and your perceptions on the topic. What saddens me is that anyone feels that this topic is a thing that needs to be discussed in 2024. In my opinion, people who need to point out "stereotypes" in others do so because it makes them feel better about themselves. All black people are... All Asian people are... All Jewish people are...; it's all BS. I work in a company with 50 employees, where I am the token gay (I am a white male). New employees upon finding out try to challenge me with a comment or a question. I reply honestly without being offensive (sometimes I quality my response with a "are you sure you want to know the answer?") . They realize I'm a good guy and the comments stop. I love everybody and most everyone who know me love me. Congrats on 15 years together! That's amazing.

[@lifewithjaiandjoe]

Hey James…. We are so glad you enjoyed the video. Thank you for watching! We both agree… it’s 2024 and there are so many other pressing issues/topics/subjects we should and could be debating…. But, it is the world we live in! Lol @ you being the “token gay” is it safe to assume everyone asks you questions about fashion, makeup, and gossip? Lol. Thats usually the stereotype! It’s great to know you stand your ground and hold your own. As a part of the family, that is a MUST!!! Sometimes we have to make a point lol. Thanks again tor watching and we truly appreciate you sharing your thoughts and experiences… don’t be a stranger!

[@jamesquivey1538]

@@lifewithjaiandjoe The most common question is, "Who is the girl?", to which I reply, "Neither, if there is no penis, I'm out!"'. Another one is, "Do you have a vagina?", which is answered, "Women have vaginas, men have manginas!". Three of my coworkers are Jamaicans, who I love like brothers. They think me being an open gay is the greatest thing! They tell me I should date black men because they have the biggest tools. I tell them I'm a top, why should I care?, anything more than a mouthful is a waste! Thanks to my being open, they view all gay men with respect now. It's a beautiful thing!!!

[@lifewithjaiandjoe]

Good morning James.. Yup! We get that who’s the girl and who’s the bottom question too… a lot actually! Either than or they automatically assume I (Jai) is the bottom. We both usually correct very politely but firm by saying we are both men and neither one of are “the bottom” - we have never got the do you have a vagina question though. Not sure how we’d respond… - we would have loved nothing more but to see their expressions when you said mangina. Was it that of confusion? Lol!!! Too funny…. - We are shocked at your Jamaican friends/family. From what we gather they are usually not friendly to us… Did they really say that about black guys? Lol. I don’t think thats always true…. - OMG at anything more than a mouthful is a waste… were they confused? Or did they laugh?

[@jamesquivey1538]

@@lifewithjaiandjoe I've known these Jamaican men for 25 years. The 3 of them are VERY straight (1 is competing with Nick Cannon for who has the most kids!). We are always laughing when we are together. The mangina comment was met with a very loud scream, which was heard across the building. They know I had a black boyfriend when I was younger, and that I don't care what color the penis is, as long as it shoots white cream I'm good! I don't respond negatively to their statements because I know they using the stereotype card for comedic purpose. I have referred to black gay men as "a brother who's also a sister" in our conversations. It's all in fun and it's all good!

[@lifewithjaiandjoe]

They sound like amazing guys….. and you guys are lucky to have found each other… tell them hello for us!

[@andrerenaud8785]

WOW ! I can't Believe how GREAT your Video is ! And especially being from the USA & Black ! You must be older than you look , you are the 1st Gay Men who said , what is closest to the way I think , I am a 60yr.old (wite appearance) but very racially mixed Gay Man, I have been Out & Proud since I was 15yrs old . The amount of younger Gay Men online Sound Crazy to me, some advocate not knowing Queer history or Believe they Do , yet think that "Will&Grace" were the 1st Gay Representation in Media...as for Masc/Fem you don't have to look any further than Angelina Jolie & Brad Pitt for a straight example of people who exemplify having both at the same time. I have to ask if in the USA if there's a big Tax exemptive for getting Married ( as I see it as Heternormative , but a good asset to have a choice) ThankYou for restoring my faith in younger Queer Generations❗

[@lifewithjaiandjoe]

Hey Andre, Thank you so much for the kind words - we really appreciate it! We may be older than we look lol (Joe - 44, Jai - 40) - we've always done things out of love for each other. We're not entirely sure about the tax exemptions, but that wasn't our motivation. When I (Joe) was younger, I never imagined I could marry a man because it wasn't legal here. Once it became legal, it was something we knew we wanted to do. Marriage also ensures we have the rights that come with it, like being able to see each other in the hospital if one of us got sick. Without that legal bond, we wouldn't be recognized as family. We always strive to be open and share our true thoughts and feelings on this channel, staying transparent and real in every way. Very glad you found us over here and looking forward to connecting with you more - hope your day is going well 💛💛💛❤️❤️❤️ Best, Joe and Jai

[@CoreyGoldwaves]

It's so nice to see masculine black gay people....nothing wrong with feminine but a lot of times I just feel out of place.

[@lifewithjaiandjoe]

Hey Corey…. Thank you for this awesome comment. Welcome to our family! We hope you stick around!!! And we definitely understand what you mean…. There’s a way to fix that!

[@christopher12345_]

I'm glad I ran across u guy's channel because it's was very in lighting, especially coming from two black gay men from the LGBTQ community.

[@AlstonsWorldEnt]

Bottom shaming does happen in the gay community and that's because it's seen as a feminine act, akin to womanhood and because toxic masculinity is a thing, a lot of Top pretenders are out there

[@Vann20F]

I don't bottom shame I just deal with a masc dude so that would never Come up

[@lifewithjaiandjoe]

Bottom shaming definitely happens and is actually very prominent. We see it all the time and thats very unfortunate. We think a person should be who and or what he/she wants to be. And yea, that includes in the bedroom. Thats nobody’s business!

[@AlstonsWorldEnt]

@lifewithjaiandjoe also, sexual preferences does evolve and change like for me I started out strictly bottom but after a while I started getting curious about booty 😅 and years later I experienced it and now I'm verse

[@djsurreal305]

Great video guys! ❤

[@lifewithjaiandjoe]

Thank you…. We miss ya!!!

[@SharQweetaQweetJones]

Great video nephews…. I appreciate your thoughts and point of views on the topics… its interesting because i personally have noticed how LGBTQIA+ are treated in the AA community… it is definitely not exclusive to our community but since thats where we “belong” and where we spend most of our time, its where we notice it the most!!! Excellent job nephews… keep the amazing content coming!

[@lifewithjaiandjoe]

Thank you so much auntie… we appreciate you and love you for watching and sharing your thoughts. Keep them coming!

[@legionnaireonyx3073]

I love the conversation, I think how we are socialized as a collective doesn't lend itself to supporting long lasting relationships.

[@lifewithjaiandjoe]

Thank you - so glad you enjoyed the conversation and you have a very valid point about how we are socialized - I think seeing more gay love will help break that and allow people to move on from that way of life 💛💛💛❤️❤️❤️

[@legionnaireonyx3073]

@@lifewithjaiandjoe THAT part!

[@lifewithjaiandjoe]

❤️❤️❤️

[@RaphealHardwick]

I agree with you Joe when you said that you don't go to church but you have your own relationship because it's the same way for me I have my own relationship with God because of what I've experienced when going to church and because of that I developed my own personal relationship with the most high

[@lifewithjaiandjoe]

Absolutely…. You can definitely not be physically in a church to have a relationship with god and be a Christian…. Some may not agree or understand… but, it’s not for them to understand!

[@RaphealHardwick]

@@lifewithjaiandjoe exactly it's not for anyone to understand and I don't expect anyone to understand but as long as I understand it that's all that matters

[@lifewithjaiandjoe]

And thats facts….. will always be!

[@boni_traxton9436]

Me an my baby, we going on 5 years hes 33 I’m almost 30, we both mature but like big kids 😂 he’s a real nigga he don’t want games and he found me actually, I remember our first phone call it was like instant I felt it, an then he came to see me an we cuddled 🥰 I hope to make more memories with him an one day buy a house together

[@lifewithjaiandjoe]

Hey Boni_traxton. It’s so awesome to meet you guys…. Congratulations on your 5 year mark! We definitely wish you guys more to come! From the sound of it, that phone call had you both feeling like middle school kids… that’s adorable! Buying a house and making memories is absolutely attainable… keep learning, living and loving each other and it will happen…. Hopefully you guys stick around and join the family… we’d love to keep in touch!

[@boni_traxton9436]

@@lifewithjaiandjoe he’s an amazing, emotional, incredible soul an we healed each other, I understand him an his name is Kevin but I call him kevy, and I’m Aaron but he calls me Aary, he’s the king I’m the prince

[@ErrolMiller-ey3lb]

THANKS FOR SHARING

[@lifewithjaiandjoe]

We thank you so much for watching… hope you enjoyed!

[@jamiejameskingofgames4648]

As a gay black Christian male who is building his following on TikTok I relate to this.

[@lifewithjaiandjoe]

@@jamiejameskingofgames4648 hey Jamie - thank you - we are glad you could relate to it - happy Saturday 💛❤️❤️

[@yeahthatguy810]

I think most relationships today don’t last a long time, gay or straight. If the gay relationship seems shorter it might be due to not having children together and feeling like you are tied there for the children. Also keep in mind. It hasn’t been very long since gay relationships and marriages were even acknowledged so there is going to be a huge lag time. I think a lot of gay men are more into their looks because men in general are visual. And we know we like what we see so we are aware of that. This was great context! My response was just my opinion. That meant to change anybody’s mind just my two cents.

[@lifewithjaiandjoe]

Hey there!!! We definitely agree that relationship issues are not specific to LGBTQIA…. It’s across the board! Interesting take on gay relationships and kids. Definitely something to think about. Thanks for pointing that out! You’re right about same sex relationships not being acknowledged until recently… but, they definitely existed! Yes… we (both of us included) are certainly into how we look (Jai a little more than Joe) but for us it’s a different reason… i don’t think that makes us conceited though… do you? However, we cant act like some (probably more than 1/2 of us are) Thank you for sharing your thoughts and insights. We truly appreciate it! 🤎🖤

[@T.Coffee--1.1.1.1]

Great video ❤❤❤❤

[@lifewithjaiandjoe]

@@T.Coffee--1.1.1.1 thanks T….. we appreciate you!!!

[@T.Coffee--1.1.1.1]

@@lifewithjaiandjoe ❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@lifewithjaiandjoe]

💛💛😊😍😍❤️❤️

[@ronalddavis4108]

CORRECT!!

[@lifewithjaiandjoe]

You get it!!!!

[@real8551]

Joe the sinuster smile on your face when Jai as do all gay men cheat was priceless. I was like yeah ,he cheated lol

[@lifewithjaiandjoe]

@real8551 lmaooo…. Once upon a time i was that guy… i think a lot of us were!

[@real8551]

​@@lifewithjaiandjoefor sure and you both have always been transparent. Thiscwe appreciate. Love yall

[@lifewithjaiandjoe]

We appreciate and love you more…. Thank you!!! 🤎🖤🤎🖤🤎🖤

[@legionnaireonyx3073]

I love that approach but my question would be why would the perception of others have an affect on how you should see yourself?

[@lifewithjaiandjoe]

I am curious to know... How did you get that impression? Allow me to explain. The way I present myself to the public is not to seek attention or validation from anyone. Validation is neither desired nor required! It’s definitely a personal thing! A me thing if you will… I enjoy looking good and smelling good. I do it for self-satisfaction. The expression when you look good, you feel good lives rent free in my head! Other people's thoughts or perceptions have no effect on how I see myself. My perception and thoughts on how I see myself are what motivate me to present myself in this way.

[@legionnaireonyx3073]

@@lifewithjaiandjoe just an imoression. I appreciate the clarification

[@lifewithjaiandjoe]

We appreciate you as well 💛💛❤️❤️

[@legionnaireonyx3073]

@@lifewithjaiandjoe Thanks brothers! ❤

[@lifewithjaiandjoe]

@@legionnaireonyx3073 you’re welcome bro 💛💛❤️❤️

[@kdlewis7355]

“We’ve got to many people in our family, stay where y’all at” to funny

[@lifewithjaiandjoe]

Lol. They cant sit with us!!!!! No more room at the table…

[@kurisbizzle6406]

gay relationship is so complicated. they don’t want to put in the work they don’t want to be consistent. gay black love is very rare !

[@lifewithjaiandjoe]

You are so right…. We need to work towards changing that. Starting yesterday!

[@nicolletelangdon2694]

From what others have said, DO NOT open the door to anything... Stay monogamous It starts simple, but next thing you know, you're both on apps looking for hook-ups. My friends got married, then they opened to 3somes, then they went to open relationship, now they're basically friends with benefits and hook up with other men alone all the time. Stay away from pornography as well, it corrupts the mind to make it think what you see on screen is normal.

[@lifewithjaiandjoe]

The door is definitely staying closed! We are good on that…. We are so sorry to hear about what happened to your friends. Perhaps that got into that before they were “ready” we definitely wish them well!!! Thats true about adult film… most of the things they do is not practical in any sense of the word.

[@davidbelton1769]

I'm not sure about all man have feminine traits and every woman have masculine traits. I'm not sure about all top men thought about being a bottom. Love this vid. OOH and I 1000% disagree that gay men are not good role models.

[@lifewithjaiandjoe]

Hey there David….. we are just sharing our individual thoughts on things along with what and how we feel…. I think Jai is speaking from his family, friends and anybody else he’s come in contact with during his 40 years of living. That does not make it true for all or every man! On the thoughts about bottoming… I do believe that as well… but, again this is what and how we feel. That just makes them OUR truth instead of THE truth! We do agree on gay men being good role models. Despite how they portray us, we are great people, very loving, nurturing, caring, thoughtful, inspiring, intelligent and every other trait that makes a person be just that. Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts.. we do encourage open dialogue and definitely do not expect to always be on the same wavelength…

[@davidbelton1769]

@@lifewithjaiandjoe Thanks for that answer.

[@lifewithjaiandjoe]

Absolutely. Anytime!!! Dont be a stranger!

[@tonybarlow4291]

1. long term relationship exist people would rather complain about short term ones 2. Why do married gay couples always talk about having 3sums or open relationships 3. Gay men are always whining on SM only our community cheats or overly sexualized which is false 4.Why is being a sideman wrong, yet they will fight tooth and nail for bottom acceptance 5. When you talk about Accessibility, that becomes a generational issue... GAY LOVE is real are we really looking for it

[@lifewithjaiandjoe]

Complaining about short term? Hmm… i think we get what you mean. Tell us, why do you think that is? We think the topic in marriages are often to either keep things fun and exciting or spicy. The topic/conversation is bound to come up at one point. Why do you consider it whining instead of just either expressing themselves or perhaps have a desire for more? Interesting points of view..

[@celestesaunders6281]

The black community years ago, frowned upon the Gays . We’ve long since overcome that , and thats no longer the case today

[@lifewithjaiandjoe]

Hey Celeste. You think so? That maybe true for some people or in some cases. But, that is not a blanket statement. Unfortunately, it is still happening!

[@vanbryant4805]

Most relationships don't last because it's based on sex and sex only it will not last.And some times other attractive men can get there attention and want to experience something different.And tire of being with one person

[@lifewithjaiandjoe]

These are FACTS!!! Unfortunate but true…. Do you think there is a way to change that?

[@toreythomas9851]

❤❤

[@lifewithjaiandjoe]

💛💛❤️❤️

[@derrickharkless]

Its all the way you think also, if you go around saying the black community doesn't accept us because we're gay whatever you believe is true, whatever you put in the universe you get back, don't get me wrong the black community can be judgemental, I know, but what you focus on a lot expands, so focus more on the positive and you'll get more positive.

[@lifewithjaiandjoe]

Thank you for sharing your thoughts - you def make a good point - it’s not something we speak on a lot unless the conversation comes up but we def get what you mean - much appreciated fam 💛💛❤️❤️

[@MychaeltoddRH]

Gay men seem to be more opinionated than conceited.

[@lifewithjaiandjoe]

With/from our experiences we believe this is true… Gay men are very much so more opinionated and up front. We are also more aware and in-tuned with how we look, what we feel, and how we think.

[@MychaeltoddRH]

Jai & Joe, I love the topic, but for you two mature young men to think so close to stereotypes is not what I expected. You happen to men two black men in love with other, just like millions of other people living and paying bills in America. Are you renters? Do you pay a mortgage? Do you own your home, do you own your car(s) or do you make a monthly note? So, if any of this is your truth, it's normal behavior and it's what make you an average American, take the gay out of it, the Christian don't care who you are when it comes to putting money in their streams of revenue, and you shouldn't either when it comes to paying your bills. If you choose to support all black or all gay, be careful because both parties are known to over charge. Do things on your own, acquire friends of any race and work together. Most gay men have bottomed to know rather they like it or don't like it. I'm a 66 year old married Gay Man of 15+ years retired in AZ.

[@lifewithjaiandjoe]

Hey you! We truly appreciate all the comments and perspectives shared here. Thank you for your thoughtful message. It’s clear you have a lot of life experience and wisdom to share. However, we feel it's important to address a few points directly: We strive to share our authentic experiences and perspectives as a black gay married couple. This includes addressing stereotypes and challenging them, not reinforcing them. Yes, we do face the same day-to-day challenges like many Americans. We manage mortgages, bills, and car payments. These are universal experiences that don’t negate the unique aspects of our identity and experiences as a black gay couple. But, how does this relate to the topic at hand? Why does it even matter? As far as the Christian experience. We both grew up going to church… separately we’ve barred witness to and experienced how the church feels and what they think… this is not speculation or assumptions… these are facts! We believe in supporting our community and friends from all backgrounds. It’s important to us to build bridges and work together, valuing diversity. We believe in lifting up those around us, whether they are black, gay, or otherwise! Again, these are our experiences… We’re glad to hear from someone with such different life experiences. Thanks for sharing your journey with us. We always value open and respectful dialogue here. By the way, have you been to Florida? Have you been to Miami Florida? We welcome different viewpoints, but we will always stand firm in our commitment to authenticity, inclusivity, and honesty when expressing how we feel and what we think… Just because they are different from yours does not make them false, untrue or invalid. Thanks for sharing your thoughts. Jai & Joe

[@CoreyGoldwaves]

I just don't like black gay men that vote blue no matter who. Trump sucks as well. Vote the couch.

[@lifewithjaiandjoe]

Hey Corey… sooo, if you don’t like blue and you don’t like Trump… Would you prefer your person to not vote at all? Hmmmm lol

[@CoreyGoldwaves]

@@lifewithjaiandjoe Yes. We opt out of the system until they learn to come to black people with tangibles such as reparations and an anti-black hate crime bill. You see, we have spoiled them into thinking that they can get our vote for nothing or they give us the lift all boats, trickle down economics speech and nothing ends up reaching us but everybody else is fed. We (black Americans who I assume you are) are owed a debt for the blood sweat and tears of our ancestors building this country. They wouldn't dare try that with any other people. They can give so much to immigrants and Ukrainians...if they want our support...cough up the tangibles. You agree?

[@MychaeltoddRH]

Have you actually checked out how conservative Anglo-Saxon Christians are towards gay people? To say black Christians are worst is wrong. I'm sure you are giving answers based on old antiquated, generational ignorance. The black Christian's I have fellowship with and my professional relationships with are not bias and hateful. If we start moving around and get out of our comfort zones we will see that we are more alike than not. Having a baby don't force couples to be bonded, it in most cases makes your more responsible..... especially when millions of people don't take responsibility. People cheat, it's not a gay or straight thing, we again are more alike than not.

[@lifewithjaiandjoe]

Again, we are speaking based on OUR OWN personal experiences.. what we’ve been through, gone through and seen happen… we both grew up with Christianity so this is what we’ve chosen to relate it to! It has ZERO connections with historical beliefs, myths, or old stories… for you to suggest that and combine it with the word ignorance is wild! It’s great that you’ve had different experiences. You’re also in a different state and from a different city. We don’t expect our experiences to be the same.. did you? Also, about the baby…. Yes, it definitely does make a person more responsible. However, from a women’s perspective and from what we’ve been told, having a baby is enough to make a person endure or accept things they would have left for if there were not a child involved.. this is not us talking nonsense…. Again, our thoughts and opinions are based on what we’ve seen and been told! Yes we are more alike than different. Which is why we said cheating is not a man or woman thing.. it’s not a gay or straight thing…. Thanks again for commenting and sharing your thoughts!

[@mack8883]

Saucy is a horrible representation😂😂

[@lifewithjaiandjoe]

@@mack8883 lmaooo….. He’s not a representative for all LGBTQIA+ But, in the situation we were on (acceptance) he was the most recent!…. Lol.

[@mack8883]

@@lifewithjaiandjoe he sure is....on the flip side I do love how he holds his own on that show with him, Carlos the comedian and them other people

[@EnthusiasticOwl-re3bg]

There are guys who don't want to admit that they have bottomed before, but don't want nobody to know it.

[@lifewithjaiandjoe]

Hey Enthusiastic… this is very true… for some being the bottom or “bottoming” is frowned upon for some strange reason. We think it’s one of those toxic masculine traits… but, why put a box on what or who you like? Its kinda insane!!

[@MychaeltoddRH]

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[@lifewithjaiandjoe]

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[@J_Starr007]

I don't know how this ended up in my suggestions but I'm happy I found it considering I'm a black gay man in America... it's a shame how toxic ppl are but it's due to the world we live in. Bttm shaming is disgusting, shaming someone based on their masculinity/femininity is also fucked up. We need to continue to inform the uninformed, break down the barriers and stereotypes that we're forced to live with. You guys are a beautiful couple btw. DEFINITELY relationship goals.

[@lifewithjaiandjoe]

Hey J_Star… well, we are glad you found us and happy that you’re here! Toxicity in any form is something thats is unfortunately going to be around for years to come. Unless we as a people do something about it now! It’s definitely time… We do agree. Bottom shaming is wild, lame and late! We are not all the same and that means we will all like and enjoy different things with different people! We live that saying…live and let live! Yes, we should definitely be inspiring, educating and informing those who just don’t care or simply do not know! Thank you so much for the compliment. We appreciate you very much and hope you don’t be a stranger!

[@OneDimple7588]

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[@lifewithjaiandjoe]

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