10 THINGS MY MISOGYNIST FAMILY MEMBER SAID TO ME

[@MTCr8zy]

Never allow a misogynistic person to diminish your power or worth. Your journey of resilience from childhood to now is a testament to your strength and perseverance. Hold onto that inner strength fiercely and never let anyone undermine it. You've come too far to let someone else dictate your value. Keep shining beautiful girl!!

[@UteGoldkuhle]

So well summarized!

[@montanadanna]

Thank you so so much for always being a source of strength and support 💖💖 Love you!

[@montanadanna]

Hello Friends. Thank you so much for watching. This is a new topic on this channel ... let's talk about it. Is anyone else experiencing this with someone close to them? Much love to you if you are and let's support each other. Men and women alike 💞

[@hopper345]

Thank you for sharing this 😊 I'm so glad your healing from this hope you have a great day danna and if nobody told you today that I love you 😊

[@TruthBeTold4ever-j1n]

Oh yes!!!! Have experienced increase over the last decade. Coming to a crescendo. Ugh 😑

[@HeathersHikesAndAdVANtures]

Sending you love and light. This was brave *and* is such an important topic to talk about & it isn't often 💚💚

[@jenny4444js]

I'm so proud of your strength being able to talk about this. I cannot believe that this person cannot see you for who you truly are. We only see a small part of your life and I think you are incredibly strong willed, hardworking, resilient, hilarious and so many other great qualities. How can they not see that? Are they stupid!?! It's absolutely disgraceful how poorly you have been treated your whole life and nobody should ever have to live like that. I am so sorry. I have so much love and respect for you Danna. You are so rare. Please keep being who you are. You are truly incredible. So creative. So full of awesome. Why would anyone want to take that away? You don't deserve that. You deserve the world. You deserve so much love. You deserve to be happy. I wish you all the best of everything you deserve. Love, Jenny Xx

[@Robert-fg3bk]

This is a huge topic to talk about in the comment section, you are right though. We are living in a weird time. I believe that in life the feminine help the masculine and the masculine help the feminine. In my religion it is a must! And it must remain as close to 50/50 as possible. As far as family goes if you were in mine l would be very proud to have you in it.

[@liz4581]

I'm ten minutes in and all that comes to my mind is NARCISSISTIC PERSONALITY DISORDER, which in fact, is NOT a disorder, but it is a CHOICE! People, right now, today, in this time in which we live, are becoming BOLD in their TRUE COLORS. You hit the nail on the head.. Okay, now I will continue watching the rest of your very relatable story.

[@montanadanna]

1000% correct!! And it’s the construct I was raised in and emulated and am absolutely changing within myself. It’s all I can control and it’s so harmful to self-worth. Thank you so much for your insight

[@BettyHorn]

I am seeing a narcissist. I'm sorry to see the sadness in your face. But I absolutely LOVE your sarcasm!

[@user56gghtf]

@liz4581 💯% a choice

[@Lookformiraclestoday]

It's incorrect to say Narcissistic Personality Disorder is a choice. Someone diagnosed with NPD did not choose to become a narcissist, a large number of those diagnosed with NPD have it as the result of trauma in their childhoods. HOWEVER, what is a choice is how they choose to act out their NPD in their lives and the lives of others. They know what they are doing and have the ability to choose to do differently.

[@user56gghtf]

@@Lookformiraclestoday You are contradicting yourself in your own comment. They choose the actions that make them a narcissist. If they didn't choose to act that way they wouldn't be a narcissist. Therefore it is 100% their choice. There are tons of children and adults that grew up with that same trauma or experienced it in adulthood yet they chose not to be manipulative, deceiving, sadistic, etc A large number of them don't even get diagnosed because that would mean admitting something is wrong with them. Which again is a choice they will not make.

[@pupdog4040]

My mother would say the nastiest things to me and encourage my narcissistic brother to be abusive. Then deny it all publicly and accuse me of lying. Honestly, I think it had profound affects on my autoimmune system. I hope this separation is mentally and physically healing for you.

[@blank157]

I’m going through the same thing with my mother. Replace misogynist with narcissist and it’s exactly the same.

[@liz4581]

Yes!!!! That's what I believe too.

[@mygypsyadventure3610]

Exactly because this person she speaks about no doubt acts the same with males in his life too. People who believe they are superior act that way with everyone in their life.

[@InvisibleVisible793]

That issue is not gender specific, I agree.

[@Scott-1966]

You've faced misogyny with strength, sharing your experiences bravely. Your insights reflect deep thought, showing steps to break toxic cycles. You're worthy of respect and love, deserving kindness always. Surround yourself with supportive people who uplift you. Keep speaking out and standing up; you're not alone.

[@Stephanie-mh4ee]

Danna, you are such a strong willed and smart woman. I look up to you. I felt your pain in your voice this whole video. You are doing the right thing for you right now. Keep healing girl ❤

[@ctoth2923]

Totally relate!!! I was 50 when I realized that I would no longer spend time with anyone who was unkind, unsupportive, or made me feel bad. Distancing myself from some family members was the best thing I ever did. So grateful for the growth, knowledge, and boundaries that helped me. I am happy and free to be ME. ❤️

[@0MissElizabeth0]

I did this at 33, I feel so ahead of the game! 😊

[@crawleyr4919]

That sounds like a healthy response… As long as you aren’t just hiding from people challenging you & disagreeing on specific issues. (Im referring to family)

[@montanadanna]

Yes, you totally deserve to feel loved and supported and sometimes that means distancing yourself. 💖💜💙 So happy you feel free to be you and so much love coming your way!

[@spunkycat6144]

Same here, I just disappeared.

[@MannyWC]

OMG, my gut hurts with the amount of pain you have experienced. So thankful you are saying ‘farewell’. You will heal. Get the pliers out and find all of their hooks. Fly be free! I went no contact with my mom, 4 yrs ago- very abusive narc, mental, emotional and physical. Ugh. And no contact with one brother for years now! Shedding the skin/the defensive layer does take time. Your humor is the best medicine. I thank you for opening this can of worms. I was shamed by my sister to keep the can closed. Families can suck! I know this is tmi, but I have 2 very amazingly sweet and masculine sons. We can bury, burn the family curses. They ended with me. ❤

[@montanadanna]

I’m so sorry you’ve experienced that kind of pain. Proud of you for cutting that out of your life and allowing yourself peace and healing. I cut my mom out of my life 20 years ago for the same reason. It’s so painful, it’s like a death. But, my mental health had to take priority and so proud of you for doing the same ✨✨✨ it’s certainly tricky with siblings. I would love to go to family functions and be able to see my siblings. It’s just not worth it anymore. I also want my siblings to have the best relationship possible with my other family members. It’s a pretty lonely experience, but thank you for sharing and connecting with me on this. Sending you so much love.

[@liz4581]

AMEN!!!

[@MannyWC]

@@montanadannayes so true about the family functions. My dad turned 80. My sister had a surprise BD party for him (she and her husband and 2 kids built a house on my parents ranch). My sons and I flew there, celebrated my dad. I looked right through my mom (and her posee’ of relatives that think Im evil). My sons cordially spoke with my mom. But I be damned, I wasn’t going to let her stop me - and my dad was so proud to see his grandsons. I hope your write your story down for other teenage+ girls to know there is a way out. I started my story, let my sister read (20 years younger- perfect life) a few chapters. PHEW did I get the passive aggressive-don’t share this- nod. LOL my dad wants me to write a book about my life (travels etc). If he only knew how the real story would go. He never protected me. That is a story in itself. In other videos, sharing how dating is frightening (yeah the attraction of the same type person is real! I married my mother! Freaking scary-we are divorced of course. I pray with all of my heart, your knight in shining armor will ride up and sweep you off your feet. Not to rescue you, but to let your feminine out of the bottle, and give the ‘mask’uline a rest. Peace and love❤

[@MelissaCarterRealtor]

I am sending you lots of healing Love!! What I heard from this is you are taking your life back, Go Danna!!! ❤ It really does feels so good to release and let go of things and people that do not serve our lives or make our lives better. Thank you for sharing!

[@montanadanna]

Letting go is so hard, but feels so good. Thank you for the wise words, Melissa. I appreciate the support. 💖✨

[@MelissaCarterRealtor]

@@montanadanna Absolutely!! Thank you for being YOU!!! 🥰

[@Amyflo149]

I’m sorry for your loss. It’s harder to grieve this type of loss because it feels like giving up hope. I wish he could say, “Danna, I’m so proud of you.” I’m sorry Danna, and many of us are sending u healing vibes and we r proud of you.

[@kimberlyannmitchell]

Danna, thank you for sharing and being vulnerable: I am sure that many can relate. It sounds like you've done a lot of healing and inner child work. I'm sorry that you are going through this and that you had to experience what you have. I admire you and all the hard work you do and all the gifts and talents that you have. Keep on shining!

[@montanadanna]

I have a feeling it will be a lifelong journey, but it feels good to share and release some of the burden. It is pretty vulnerable. I just hope it helps someone. It’s something I needed to hear especially in my 20s. 💖✨

[@JessicaIulianella-d9h]

i really needed this burst of BURSting! today... nice to feel supported and not alone in this

[@myrastevens7098]

My dad was very much like what you are talking about. He was a complete bully. My relationship with him was a constant verbal fight because I took on a very masculine role in dealing with him. He has since passed, and I hope he is learning new ways that are healthier in dealing with others.

[@christinamoon5245]

24:24 my mother is the same way !!! when never I'm going through shit, she always has to one up me and tell me to get over g and stop being a victim... like damn but when she's going through shit... I help her through it... well, not anymore but i used to

[@minnesotavegangirl5055]

I feel like you are describing my father, who I also have cut out of my life. I have been no contact for over 7 months. Even though I am deeply sad about this some days, my life has become so much more peaceful and my self esteem has been growing immensely. I’m proud of you.

[@montanadanna]

Oh my gosh, I’m so sad to hear that. I can feel your pain. It is so sad and so much grief. But worth the self-esteem and worthiness. I’m proud of you too and if you ever want to chat, shoot me an Instagram message. 💖✨

[@joancraig-wood6136]

Wow, I’m so sorry that you’ve been through this. You have a very kind heart, and you deserve to be free from this person. I’ve had to cut people out of my life that I loved very much, but I could never be my best, strongest self, while having them in my life. I know you’re going to continue doing great things. ❤

[@kaqs8994]

The gentle way you convey this wisdom is the way people learn. You are a good teacher. You speak in a way others will listen. Excellent video, again, another one

[@Dropsofknowledge365]

Thank you for being brave, confident and beautiful for speaking up on this subject! You’re doing so many woman a huge favor shedding light on this daily subject. Everyone has one in their life!

[@wickedfann]

I’m so sorry you’ve dealt with this Dana. It makes me so sad to hear this, but also extra thankful for my supportive husband who even during the times where I’m (admittedly) acting a little crazy, still supports me 😂 Good for you for standing up for yourself and changing the cycle. Sending so much love, girl. Never dull your shine for someone else and never stop being you 🩷

[@sueregenauer2933]

When I was 13 years old, my grandfather told me that I was fat, ugly, and nobody would ever love me. He also treated my father, mother, and all women in our family badly. It didn't matter age. When my grandfather was dying, I went to see him. I told him I loved him. He said, "How could I after I treated you so wrong? " I said, because you're my grandfather and I love you." He apologized to me and said that it probably doesn't matter now. I told him it did matter to me. He didn't apologize to my mom or grandma or anyone else. I was the only one. When I think of everything we missed out on...just sad.

[@montanadanna]

Thank you for being so vulnerable in sharing! That is so awful that anyone told you that! The love never leaves and so happy he could at least acknowledge how he treated you. Sending you so much love 💖💙💜 It is just so sad

[@agracefilledlife1397]

💞🙏🏻💞

[@spunkycat6144]

❤

[@christinamoon5245]

my papa did the same thing to me when I was 13 and made it on the cheerleading team!! he told me in front of Stater Brothers, and said ," Tina , you need to change and lose weight before you wear that outfit out in public "... he also taught me how to purge my body by making myself throw up at the age 10..... he always told me i was fat until I turned 18..... then i was diagnosed with precancerous cells on my cervix at 19 and he told me that's what i deserve for being a slut. this is a man who had guardianship of me since I was 2, and who adored me , until i turned 11ish....Then he totally changed up on me.... When he was on his death bed in 2011, Ivwas with him everyday in the hospital, he wasn't able to talk to me, but I told him i forgave him for everything and that I love him very much !! I was the last one to see him before he passed away in a hospice center ... brings me to tears every time I remember the state he was in before he passed .. knowing he would pass alone ruined me he was also very very harsh and rude to my mimi, but that would be a lot to write about .

[@PollyannasWorld]

Awesome Video! I recognized these misoggynistsin my life...much later in life (around 50) am now 73 . It is a grieving process to let go... but you heal and become stronger when you do let go. So glad you have identified those that are true supporters of you and those that use you to try and build themselves up. Yes, there are many Beautiful Men in this world. I am thankful for those men too! Some people get hurt and express their hurt through anger..... while others try to hide their hurt by pleasing everyone around them...which is impossible. You have rightly recognized that misoggynists are hurting people and they are not your problem to fix. Again....letting go is hard, it is a grieving process but You are doing great ~ continuing doing what you love and know that not everyone will approve..... but that doesn't matter..... As long as what you do doesn't hurt anyone ~ May God Bless You!

[@fransa6]

You are such a beautiful strong woman. What you say is so helpful for many women who cannot articulate the issue as you do. I admire you so much for all the work you have done in healing yourself you are a wonderful role model. Sending you love and hope that your relationship with the misogynist can repair in the future. Thank you.

[@montanadanna]

The only reason I shared is because a younger version of myself needed to hear this and I hope it can help others in this situation to hold on to their value and not internalize these things. I have zero hopes of the relationship in the future. If it happens, great. But not counting on it. 💖💙💜

[@wildbumbylee6731]

C'mon y'all let's help Danna get to 100k subs, so she quits eating crackers & peanut butter for meals. who ever this guy is he very jealous of you, SHOWS YOUR DOING AWESOME JOB DANNA, KEEP IT UP

[@liz4581]

yes!!! lets get her up to 100K and more!! She's doing so much harm to the DARKNESS that it does not want to relinquish its powers and keep her channel in the dark..... I hope this makes sense. 🙂

[@jenniferwolford4646]

Yep, it's time she shows her dad her worth!!

[@marykaren7542]

When SNL finally knocks on your door, then he'll be saying to anyone who'll listen 'THAT'S MY GIRLLLLLLL'......

[@InvisibleVisible793]

You are so right. All Danna's characters - I immediately thought of Gilda Radner.

[@spunkycat6144]

Omg, yesss, SNL.

[@kimproffer9456]

You are a beautiful soul Danna! Don’t let anyone ever abuse you in any way! 🙏💗❌⭕️

[@WendieQuinn]

So sorry!!! You are absolutely correct to cut that person out of your life! Good for you! I have had to do the same, it's hard but so worth it. I'm happier and healthier.

[@montanadanna]

It is very hard, and so proud of you for putting your happiness and health first 💖💜💙

[@lauramoor7730]

I’ve never clicked so fast on a video❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@sarashattuck4022]

Thank you so much for this. It really helped me put some perspective on my own life experience.

[@karenann3841]

You got out of Montana right on time! I feel from my own experience, you are on your way to a better life, nothing will stop you now! There are great people out there you have not met just yet! You got this…❤

[@montanadanna]

Yes, only surrounding myself with people who feel safe and working on my own inner bull$&@*

[@LaurenInJersey]

The people that have a problem with you setting boundaries are the ones who benefitted from you not having any. My Dad was the exact same way. It was awful. I had the worst relationships because I dated my Father. You are loved and worthy of all your heart desires ❤

[@montanadanna]

Thank you so much for the love. Sorry you had that experience and hope you have found worthiness as well 💖✨ much love to you!

[@a.life.reimagined]

They cannot be fixed, ever. Narcissists are empty souls, we’ve all been through it, but they suck and our world has a lot of them….❤❤😢😢😢😢

[@montanadanna]

I’m so sorry you had such a difficult relationship with your mother. That sounds very painful. I think we all know what our threshold is and so important to honor that and listen to it. Proud of you for doing that for yourself and I hope you know you’re worth. 💖✨

[@sandiedrew4086]

Sending love and hugs to you Danna. You are not alone. We are all here with you. I have lived through many similar situations as you and I have suffered until I went no contact and then started to heal. I wish that I had known how to navigate the bs when I was a kid but I know now. You are an awesome, beautiful person and I have so much respect for you. The amount of people you are helping is amazing. Thank you my dear friend❤😊

[@montanadanna]

Thank you so much for the sweet words, Sandie 💖💜💙 So proud of you for putting yourself and your healing first. Much love to you!

[@mayam6678]

Girl, at least you are aware of it. It took me way longer to realize that. Now I am finally recognize it almost right away. Love you for who you are ❣

[@bobvanevery367]

Danna I love you. Keep being you always , your amazing and everything about you makes my day everytime you bless us with your presence.

[@montanadanna]

I appreciate the sweet words 💖💙💜 Thank you!

[@tkhodnett8443]

Keep being yourself. You are a strong woman. And brave! I’m not dealing with a misogynistic person but dealing with a narcissist…so so similar. The best thing to do with these people is run from them. I so relate to what you are saying. Narcissists put you down to make themselves feel better and blame you for all their problems.

[@vickyparker2791]

I needed to hear this! I’ve been married to a narcissist for 43 years! There is so much I can say but I’ll just say I am glad you are removing yourself from a toxic person even if he is family! Good for you! I just don’t share my thoughts anymore. I know I have a right to my opinion but I just keep it inside of me.

[@crawleyr4919]

43years?!!! Wow congratulations? (Why didnt ou leave him?) Did you have kids? How are they doing? Do they love their dad?

[@montanadanna]

That makes me sad you don't share your thoughts! I hope you have people around you who encourage you to be your authentic self 💖💙💜 Much love to you.

[@mimimims5842]

I just realized, why I connect with you on such a deep level. I kept my children away from the misogynist in my life, I do not have a relationship with him for many years. I had to grieve also, there were good memories but at the end of the day I will not allow anyone trample my self worth. I noticed since 2016 misogynists getting out of control and we as a society letting it slide. Years ago my misogynist said to me I should be grateful that he fed me. Really? I think staving your child is against the law, was that an option for him? He also accused me of leaving him. Hum interesting choice of words, because I was moving to a new city as an adult. Let me channel my inner Leslie Gore … 🎵 you don’t own me, I am not just one of your little toys. 🎵

[@liz4581]

I agree that the increase in the boldness within the misogynist or the narcissist began increasing around 2016 and to me, is NOW in full force. There is a line being drawn right now in the sand and we are all making our choices for either staying under the control of someone or allowing God to handle them and to give us freedom.

[@mimimims5842]

@@liz4581 You are correct, it is up to us, to project love and compassion into the world. I hope others are getting tired of this being the norm.

[@Meekavintage]

im sooooo PROUD of you ! LOVED THIS REAL & RAW DANA.. love this content i can see you really helping people as you go through your healing journey.. Love your comedy too of course ..

[@joleneharper9036]

I am pretty sure i know who your talking about and I remember him being like that when he was in school. However i think we all have if not one but more in our lives and even though it is hard cutting them out is the best for us personally. Way to go for vocalizing it!!!!

[@montanadanna]

He’s not the one I’m talking about, but yes. Has very similar traits too. I have emulated a lot of the traits as well. Just focusing on me, and what I can do to create a better future and not continue these cycles. ✨✨

[@crawleyr4919]

@@montanadanna when I’m feeling especially low and down, I find it more helpful to concentrate on others being there for others, doing some thing volunteer or what not. It saves my depression every time.

[@trishamaclachlan9758]

❤❤❤❤I can relate to this big time. It’s been a long road for me but I did distance myself from these people to who did not have good things to say or support me. I agree some where they got let down and that’s why they are that way. This is one of many things I like about your channel your honesty ❤your a strong woman and I am so proud of you of ❤. I too use humor to get through things it really does help ❤

[@montanadanna]

Thank you so much for this sweet comment. I hope you know you’re worth and sending you so much love and strength. ✨💖 I feel like it will be a life long journey, and it sure feels good to have some support. I support you too and wishing you a lot of strength. ✨

[@spunkycat6144]

Girl, you are nailing all true things❤.

[@lohrss]

YOu understand the wounding--the generational trauma--and that is the gift of all this pain (to now transmute). God bless you!!

[@montanadanna]

Yes ... and healing is quite the journey 😵‍💫😂 Much love to you 💖💙💜

[@lohrss]

@@montanadanna You deserve the world.. and it seems like it's all coming together for you now💝

[@nancyshogren3457]

You have some wonderful insights. You are a strong woman. I was in that type of relationship for 9 years until I gained some strength and confidence in myself. I also learned this: men are like buses; there's another one around the corner every 10 minutes. Some you need to let go by as they are not going your way. Join up with the ones that will take you farther towards your final destination. Bless you and keep strong. ❤

[@Blind_Bibliophilic_Life]

Danna, I’m so sorry that you’ve been told such horrendous things. This person is also projecting his own failures onto you. I’ve dealt with several misogynists in my life. I think my dad would be the biggest one. I absolutely love him and he’s never told me to leave and I think he might not know he’s doing it as my mom, brother and no think he may be an undiagnosed autistic. I used to write a lot of poetry and one day I’d written one and for the first time ever I thought I’d share it with him, he read it and said, “you know plagiarism is a crime right?” I was floored, but I told him, “yes, I know but I did write that”. He scoffed and said, “well okay then”. I never showed anyone anything ever again and I even stopped writing. Anytime I’ve ever wanted to try something new, “well, let’s see how long you stick with this, you stop everything you start”. 😐 I had to tell him one day, “because of you! That’s why I fail at whatever I try cause you get into my head and make me self doubt myself you never encourage me it’s always negativity”. Then when I call him out, he goes silent for days…weeks, sometimes even months. He always insists on doing things I’m trying to do cause he’ll “do it better and the right way”. 🙄 I live with my family, I’m disabled and living off $600 a month so moving out is not an option unfortunately. 🫤 Sending you hugs and love from Texas. 🫶🏻

[@crawleyr4919]

That does not look like misogyny to me whatsoever. It sounds like a dad whose trying to teach his daughter to be a strong, independent, ethical and moral person. I don’t think he would’ve taken the time to even talk to you about your stuff if he hated women, disliked and found the need to degrade them. If anything, that sounds like he was trying to lift you up and make you a better person.

[@Bindi111]

Thank you Danna ❤ for all your thoughts on this subject. Creating boundaries is hard but necessary to live a good life. I’ve had to do the same as you are doing with people in my family. You are an empath and unfortunately narcissist’s are drawn to empaths and vice versa.

[@CorinnePlaysPiano]

So sorry you’ve had to cut ties with him. It sounds like a tough situation, especially if they were good to you other ways. I’m glad you have many other people who support and love you unconditionally. (Also I’m happy we got two videos so close together!).

[@liz4581]

Oh my Gosh, YES!!!! Making me feel like I'm a SPOILED LITTLE BRAT!!! When have I NEVER experienced this??? WOW. Just WOW!!!! I'm relating, Danna. And I bawling out. And I thank you for this confession and for helping your sister today!

[@manie54321]

🌷Thank You for sharing your experiences and being vulnerable. You have a good head on your shoulder even if it doesn’t seem like it at times. Stay blessed ❤❤❤

[@montanadanna]

Thank you so much for the love. I appreciate it. It definitely feels vulnerable and healing as well. 💖✨

[@susandusenbury6352]

Your vulnerability is so beautiful to experience. ❤

[@montanadanna]

Thank you for seeing me, Susan 😊

[@angiehoffman7964]

May you find a great man to keep forever.

[@montanadanna]

What a sweet message. Thank you. 💖✨

[@KayakingCalifornia]

The key is to learn how to be your own self support system, instead of looking outside of your self for someone to give that support to you. Once you get clear about what you want and value, and what is, and is not acceptable, you will stop attracting abusive people into your life. It will feel uncomfortable at first, but in time you will begin to surround yourself with people who treat you the way you want to be treated. You are on the road to recovery. It is a process, which takes time, growth and forgiveness. You are on the right path. Just remember that he is like the way he is, because of the way his parents treated hiim. He is also terrified of being unlovable.

[@pamelarichmond9941]

Im sorry you had to go through any of this. You are on the right track. proud of you. I only know you from this channel. You are doing the right thing. You gave us a lot of good advice . I was married to that for 25 years, and yes, my children have some of the same tendencies. You are right. The job of a parent is to support your children through good bad and the ugly. Guide them with your knowledge Dana, I would be proud to have a daughter as kind, beautiful, and talented aa you are. Keep on doing what you do best, which is a genuine you. Thank you for sharing.

[@desireediaz5331]

In case no one has told you this, you are ENOUGH!❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@montanadanna]

Thanks for the love 💖💙💜

[@DesertAdventuresinArizona]

Thank you for sharing your experience. You opened my eyes and taught me (as a Man) what it’s like being on the receiving end. I’m 68 and am sitting here trying to remember if I behaved this way. I think I did. Thank you Dana.

[@montanadanna]

Wow! I’m impressed with your self reflection. I have too but never too late to change ✨💖Thank you for listening

[@viviangoff8214]

Watching you I wanted so badly to give you a hug. I’m so glad you are emotionally intelligent enough not to take what any misogynist says or does to you and have it define you. Every word you said made so much sense. I’ve encountered these awful traits in men my whole life. Presently not having to deal with that. My husband is wonderful (not perfect) but easy to be with. We both really respect each other. So anyway. Take good care of yourself Danna. 🙏🌼

[@susanczajka6327]

You have heard everything you said! You are talking about My mother and brothers. I finally broke free and After my Mom passed in Oct. I have disowned them! Feeling free. At 64.. I love my life!!

[@kayleyharding7512]

Love how you articulate this

[@kayleyharding7512]

Wow as I'm continuing the rest of the video I just admire you more and more. Thank you for sharing this. Sending the biggest most massive hug and loads of love.

[@montanadanna]

Thank you, it’s certainly something I needed to hear when I was younger. So happy it’s resonating. ✨💖 I’m feeling the love.

[@cclose8007]

Thank you for sharing and inspiring me ❤ sending you lots of love ❤

[@sandykquilts]

Proud of you. Stay strong

[@dkitayama12]

Danna, You are a great person. Take care of yourself. Do what is best for Danna.

[@sarahj54321]

Great words of wisdom we all need to live by. Thank you for being transparent. This video inspired me for many reasons, one of which was to subscribe! Carry on girl! Love your tiny brains 😉

[@montanadanna]

Haha 😂 thank you so much for the love, I appreciate it ✨💖 Hope you know your value and worth 💖

[@radgirl113]

YOU ARE LOVED!!!❤

[@danabinaz3173]

I’m so sorry you are hurting Danna. I know this feeling and it just sucks. It’s a wound that’ll always be there but I lift you up in I’m so proud of your accomplishments and all that you have survived because it was not easy. It should have been better. But here you are… you are here and we love you 🥰.

[@montanadanna]

Thank you so much, Dana. I appreciate the love and support as always. Looking forward to the future and so happy you’re coming along. 💖✨

[@LindaHichcliffe]

Wow wow wow Danna, i just want to say, well done for having the strength to cut this person out off your life(even though it hurt too do so). I just wish i had very long arms then i could give you a massive hug. Look after yourself Danna and always remember, you are a blooming gorgeous person inside and out.❤

[@roseandjoematz1286]

Wow! You opened my “tiny” brain! Well said, in so many ways…

[@popspops3795]

Hi, Danna! I'm glad you don't ignore the situation(s) that lead(s) you to feel that way and confront it. I grew up around and surrounded by strong men and women, and what I found was partnership, support, mutual growth, loyalty, friendship, and serenety. What I did not find was competition, controlling, and selfishness. We all go through difficult relationships, but it doesn't mean we need to accept them or disregard them as part of life. In order for you, or anyone, to live a healthy life, it's imperative to prioritize our safety (e.g. finacial; shelter; physical; emotional; mental; etc.), our health (e.g. physical; emotional; mental; etc.), and happiness (e.g. the journey to accomplishments and fulfillments; etc.). All else are consequences. Sorry for the long message. Stay safe, stay healthy, and stay happy! Pops

[@montanadanna]

Thank you so much for your love and heartfelt message. It’s actually very healing to hear that that type of partnership is possible. Something to look forward to, certainly. I appreciate your kind words and onward and upward. Hope you are well and thank you for your insight. 💖✨

[@lauriecailteux9451]

I sure hope this isn’t about a family member. I feel for you and pray for your continued healing. Love your vlogs.

[@montanadanna]

Thank you so much, Laurie 😊💖✨ I feel like healing, will be a lifelong process and grateful for the lessons along the way. I appreciate the love. New Vlog coming out each week.

[@colleenG.]

Although this vlog had to have been very hard on you to do, thank you for putting this out there. My daughter unfortunately went through 18 years of this kind of behavior on her. She tried to make it work but had to leave after 18 years and a death threat to my daughter. She lost her 2 children to this mans actions after a divorce and hasnt seen them for 3 years because of the ex husbands lies to try to get my daughter to come back to him. I pray for everyone who is going through life with a misogynistic type person. 💗

[@TheRealAngelGrace]

We love you, Danna ❤

[@NashvilleNikki]

Love you D. You inspire me to be better. All the love ❤️

[@lesakingsbury1612]

This resonates so much with me, started with my childhood growing up and continued with the few men I did have in my life and “stupidly” I married 2 of them and still didn’t recognise the signs and just thinking 🤔 it was all ME as that is what I had heard all my life. Thank you for sharing Dana, please know how much your “tribe/community “ think of you and care about you and I know DEFINITELY 💯 appreciate you and grateful for you, sending so much love 🥰 and thanks 🙏🏻 to you from Australia 🇦🇺 ❤❤❤❤

[@crawleyr4919]

I’m just curious what sorts of behaviors are exhibited in someone who is a misogynistic man that gets married?

[@montanadanna]

Thank you so much for the love. So happy you’ve recognized these patterns and sending you so much support in your healing journey 💖✨ you are loved, and you are worthy

[@gingerl2995]

Actually a theme in my life as an authentic empathic person. However I’m surrounded by narcissists in my family. Truly an epidemic of mass proportions… men and women. I’m going through same grieving with my mother who is still alive. Can’t do the put downs and drama anymore! I’m alone but dang it’s more peaceful… it’s great you have good men and friends. Hoping to step out of the darkness very soon. A lot of damage done to my kids and myself from multiple people including 2 husbands. It’s actually a 53 yr long horror movie I didn’t know I was in. Anyway all we can do is move forward while healing. Still convincing myself can ya tell lolol. You are an awesome lovely smart funny creative lady …don’t let anyone tell you different. Much love and hugs to you!

[@liz4581]

YES! It's an epidemic for sure. Darkness and Light are clashing. I believe Light is being brought together and darkness is also being brought together. These are definitely interesting times.

[@gingerl2995]

@@liz4581 agree psychological warfare with dark and light coming to a head … they can’t hide anymore and we aren’t taking it anymore. Have a feeling the upcoming eclipse will be a turning point. You are correct the light is coming together…. However in my opinion the dark is falling…. They can’t keep their mask on anymore. What was done in the dark will come to light. Thank you for your comment it means a lot. We are in a battle no doubt. Much love and hugs!!!

[@mimimims5842]

I feel much the same, I would rather be alone where it is peaceful rather than, be with someone who diminishes my worth.

[@sharronchurch6740]

Is your store going to open up soon? I would like to purchase some of the patterns. I bought the beanie pattern several .months back, and I just love it!!!

[@montanadanna]

So happy to hear that!! I can’t afford to renew my store right now, but I do have some patterns on Etsy: crochetnomadic.etsy.com

[@lyons11siren]

Thank you for letting us know why you named your musical “Another Dumb Blonde”. May you feel all the love in the world.

[@montanadanna]

Thank you so much. I appreciate the love.😊😊

[@venessajunga6362]

I can relate to Everything you are talking about in this video!❤And the misogynist family member of yours sounds just like my father. I feel you❤❤ and I am so sorry you have a family member like that. No one deserves that! I am secretly wishing your family member sees this video and can take it in and make a change❤ but I understand that change is too much to expect. But I still wish it🥰😘 You are amaaazingg by the waaay!!!!

[@crawleyr4919]

So many people here have men in their fmily who “hate women?!” Really?? All women they don’t get along with or respect whatsoever??

[@montanadanna]

@@crawleyr4919 only ones that provide supply

[@montanadanna]

I’m so sad to hear this was your experience. Sending you so much love and healing. I hope you know how, and you deserve to be loved and supported by the people around you 💖✨

[@crawleyr4919]

@@montanadanna ?? Im not sure what that refers to… sorry im not certain if maybe you tagged me by mistake?

[@montanadanna]

@@crawleyr4919 I was responding to one of your comments. My replies have been linking in the wrong spot today. I’m not sure why lol. thank you for all of your questions and adding to the conversation. Great to have a lot of different perspectives.

[@pihla01]

So sorry you're going through this Danna. Hope your dad isn't the one you're talking about. My dad is super misogynistic (plus other "great" things) and I've had to cut ties with him for my own mental health. Stay strong and remember you're worthy.

[@montanadanna]

I’ll just say, I no longer talk to either of my parents experienced the same treatment. It is so confusing because there’s a lot of love along with the misogyny and abuse. All you can do is take care of and protect yourself. 💖✨ Thank you so much for being vulnerable. It is a pretty lonely experience and we are certainly not alone. ❤

[@pihla01]

@@montanadanna I so relate to your experiences. It has taken me years of therapy and all kinds of self-healing to feeling (somewhat 😅) healthy, strong and sane. It takes a lot of time and work but I'm so proud of you for having found your worth, boundaries and self-respect. The road is very painful, sad (and all other stages of greaf) but by demanding what you deserve in relationships (especially with men) you will get it eventually. 💖

[@InvisibleVisible793]

@@montanadanna If you grey-rock them, BRACE YOURSELF and prepare for a butt-load of gaslighting and if they are not successful with that, BRACE YOURSELF for triangulation. This is the process. Mother, brother and one sister - I hate to say it, but you cannot have contact and you must refuse to speak with anyone else about them - it just flares the flames, and they will drag you through the muck and back and destroy (if they can) any relationship you have. MALIGNANT NARCISSISTS.

[@kyliemcleod]

Danna I think you are amazing... this video will be so great for some people. I just wanted to give you a big hug when you were welling up. Lots of love from Australia!

[@montanadanna]

Thanks for the love.😊💖✨ I hope it helps just one person if nothing else. It’s something I certainly needed to hear a long time ago. ✨

[@dsinavich5141]

Hi ...I am so sorry you had to go through all that in your life...I experienced some of the same things myself. There is always something in life e that will set us back...we just have to perservere. Take care Deborah 🇨🇦🙏❤️

[@gedartcreations2869]

I hope you and your Dad can work things out🙏

[@montanadanna]

That was the energy. I was putting into the last 22 years. I am at peace and actually such a big relief that I don’t have to deal with that ever again. ✨✨

[@cathr08]

💔❤️‍🩹❤️ I’m so sorry-it’ so hard. Wishing you ALL the healing. You are an AMAZING human.

[@christinamoon5245]

25:24 it's convenience love as well

[@abigailh7715]

I always feel sorry for people like that. Like you said, he never received the love and guidance to develop his own self worth & self esteem let alone how to treat others well and consider their feelings

[@MannyWC]

Cut the reigns and run like hell! Growing up between 2 brothers and a narc mom, yeah, I get you girl! Mom was the worst! Misogynist! My dad always said to me, don’t marry a doctor, be a doctor. And I did🎉

[@bullpups]

I have two sisters that are doctors and they're completely unbearable narcissists.

[@MannyWC]

@@bullpups I am sorry for that. You know you are not a narc if you are curious if you are. A narc would NEVER reveal their identity even to themselves.

[@Lilliebug01]

My brother was the misogynist in my life we don’t talk anymore he is not allowed in my house I feel so sorry for his wife = remember if he treats you that way he is treating other women that way you are helping others by voicing what others may be feeling but not know how to explain their feelings

[@montanadanna]

I’m sorry, it’s so painful!! Yes, he definitely treats other women this way too! Unacceptable. Proud of you for setting healthy boundaries. ✨💖

[@karenmays8889]

Hopefully, you have some good funny comeback lines to this person. That should piss them off.❤

[@Lilliebug01]

There is never a good comeback because they won't get it they will just say it's your monthly or your too sensitive or I told you I am right they just won't get it

[@crawleyr4919]

How does he treat his wife? She doesnt think he is “mysogenistic?”

[@montanadanna]

@@crawleyr4919 well, he has no wife, been divorced twice, and a restraining order from an ex-girlfriend.

[@sheilababb8216]

You are beautiful, worthy, and awesome. Thanks for this video.

[@zenstitch9972]

Wise one!

[@montanadanna]

💖✨

[@debbieb1320]

Will this person even realize you are talking about him. Probably not. Narcissists are to arrogant. You are a kind, smart person. I appreciate your insight! Wishing you peace! ✌🏼

[@montanadanna]

I don’t know if it even matters. I made it for me and for others who might benefit from hearing it. I know I needed to hear it long time ago. Just focusing on my healing and looking forward to the future. 💖✨

[@rosiefletcher7469]

I think you get this type of person male and female. I think the internet is a wonderful thing. However, it has made people think they can say whatever to whom ever they want. You do not need to say every thought you have. Especially if it can be hurtful to someone. Barefoot and pregnant reminds me of my grandfather. He could not understand why I needed to go to school. Good for you for stepping away. Love you!!!!!! ♥♥♥♥♥

[@montanadanna]

I totally agree, it’s not a male problem. They are plenty of women who are misogynists as well. Plenty of women who say degrading things. It’s not a gender war at all, just something I’ve experienced personally and growing rapidly online. I think it’s worth talking about. Times are changing and I think it’s hard on all of us in different ways. Thanks for your insight. 💖✨

[@bkm2797]

So much I want to say to you, but I need to think about how to phrase what I'm thinking. Some of what I do want to say is if this is about a parent, it's not necessarily just about misogyny, more about a narcissistic behavior pattern. Yes he needs healing, but he has to be a willing participant. I hope you find a place where you can breathe and use all the gifts you have so this pain can be set to the side giving it no more attention, just forgiveness that you thought what was isn't possible. Hang in there Danna, this too shall pass.❤️👍

[@spunkycat6144]

I have been taking it on all these years, so this is healing. But I vowed to never, if i had a kid, not bring it around him, so it wouldnt be beaten or cut down.

[@chelseajason]

You're so BRAVE!

[@dawnmarie4946]

OH MONTANA DANNA you amaze in such a good way. I wanted to know who it was. Well I caught a word that you said plus burning man.

[@russserage4323]

Thank you for shedding light on the misogynistic tendencies RESIDENT within MY character; sobering but unfortunately very true. Good news is, I’m NOT DEAD yet and because of Jesus, hope truly “springs eternal!!” Would to God I find the wherewithal to change! I have always found you funny, clever & entertaining so kinda being “blindsided” by your depth of feeling & intelligence on display today sadly speaks to MY “tiny little brain!” Dang! The truth does sting now & again now doesn’t it?! You GoGirl! Keep doing what you do & being who you are! You will be a great Mom in a coming day! #hopeofAmerica #motherhood💜

[@donanusca]

bless you 🥰 valued video today 🤗

[@MarlaSims-xj9jm]

This was my mother… narcissistic to the very end. It took me 64 years to cut her out. Stay strong and know your doing great things!♥️

[@montanadanna]

Ugh! I’m so sorry you had to deal with that! All we can do is change it within ourselves. I support you and sending you so much love 💖✨ I can be pretty lonely, thank you for sharing ✨

[@suitebabygurl1979]

this makes me so sad. A dad should always be there to comfort and reassure his children. I am surprised you were able to heal and stay there after your last break up, that must have been hard and met with no sympathy & love at all. I am sorry that you and him no longer have a relationship. The laundry thing, wow! Way to make a young woman (who is new to all this adulthood) feel even more insecure and unsafe!! I got mine at 11 and I was not prepared either! Im sorry. you had to deal with all the comments when it should have been love presented all this time. I wish you healing, peace & love from Canada

[@crawleyr4919]

Gosh, my daughter is 20 years old now and has a very good relationship with her dad… They’ve gone fishing together three times in the last week… But they both give each other such a hard time and some of the things he says to her so hilariously bad but she gives it right back to him and it’s hilarious. It’s sad to see a father daughter relationship so broken. 🥹

[@kristiewood5028]

They really ruin every experience. Its so gross.

[@karataylor7238]

Oh no, was this your dad bc he seemed so awesome!

[@montanadanna]

Things certainly aren't always what they seem!