10 Things You Should NEVER Do in the Netherlands | From an American Living in the Netherlands

[@BetterTogether-UnIr1]

⭐️ Note: Item #2 (Don’t call the country “Holland”) has sparked a lot of responses, so let me be clear: the Netherlands, as the country is officially called in English, consists of 12 provinces. Only two of them refer to “Holland”: Noord-Holland and Zuid-Holland. As evidenced by the comments, there are some Dutch people, especially those outside these two provinces, that dislike the country being called “Holland.” The primary point I am making in the video is simple: If you’re an English-speaking tourist, I recommend that you use the country’s official name. Please consider this my reply to all related comments.

[@dyslexicLLM]

I don't think it's a big deal. America isn't a country either. It's 2 continents, North and South America. Hardly anyone thinks I'm referring to 2 provinces or continents when I say Holland or America.

[@jsb7975]

@@BetterTogether-UnIr1 it's a kind of self-forfilling thing by meeting (mostly young ? )people who fit the narrativ by saying so. Outside the two provinces most people just say : I 'm from Holland OR the Netherlands. Sorry but period.

[@pa4tim]

@@dyslexicLLM As a Dutch I do not like it if you call my land Holland. But I will not be angry or hold it against you. Many Dutch do not really like the Holland provincies, or more correct, the 2 big cities there. When I was a kid we went often to stay a few days with my aunt who lived in the center of Amsterdam. She said that if we were lost we should ask the way not to white people because they mostly were tourists. (that was in the 70's) I prefer to speak English because that costs less time, because I do not have to guess what you are talking about and wait while you search for (the wrong) words. 😀 But I appreciate that you start in Dutch or first ask if I speak English. Dutch seems to be a hard to learn language. For most because by this time the difference between written and spoken are starting to become big. Our pronunciation is become very bad and combine that with accents/slang and you have a problem. Accents over here are not like accents in the USA, here there are regions where even Dutch have problems understanding. Like Limburg, Groningen, Zeeland, achterhoek and Friesland (Fries is an official language, not an accent according to the Fries 😁 But a "plat pratende" Brabander (talking with a very strong accent/slang) is also hard to understand if you are not Dutch.

[@dyslexicLLM]

@@pa4tim Voor de meeste Nederlanders boeit het niet. Iedereen zingt vrolijk "hup Holland hup" bij voetbal en enkel een kniesoor heeft er moeite mee.

[@alexiahykova]

Calling The Netherlands Holland, is like calling the United States Dakota.

[@yestedayssolutionstotodays816]

One more piece of advice for Americans specifically (that also applies to the rest of Europe). Try to lower your volume a notch, especially in public transport, and in restaurants and cafes. What seems a natural volume to you, is often perceived as too ‘loud’, and that is usually not appreciated as it interferes with the conversation of others or even their own ‘quiet space’.

[@BetterTogether-UnIr1]

Well said. It is important to be mindful of others. 😊

[@Rob-oi9mf]

The Dutch really are very loud in public though,they talk very loudly in restaurants etc so I really dont get your point here.I know Americans are loud too but the Dutch are on a par

[@annekathleen4498]

That applies to the Dutch too

[@SideWalkAstronomyNetherlands]

Number one of the list should be: Do not be LATE.

[@BetterTogether-UnIr1]

@@SideWalkAstronomyNetherlands Indeed, a couple people have mentioned this one, and it is certainly something I should have noted. It’s a big one. Thanks for the reminder. Volgende keer. 😃

[@IliaKemp]

Right! Very annoying!

[@RealButcher]

Also....not be too early... 😂 And also the same when boarding a bus. There is an entrance and an exit. And use your mobility pass.

[@BetterTogether-UnIr1]

@ Good points. Thanks for your comments. 👍

[@pa4tim]

Except if you are from 's-Hertogenbosch, they have what they call a "Bosch kwartiertje" (coming 15 minutes to late as a standard) I am born there.

[@MrSinsummer]

As a Dutchman i can relate to your observations. However i want to add 11# Don't talk about how much you make for a living . It is just not polite i think !

[@BetterTogether-UnIr1]

@@MrSinsummer That’s a good one. I’m with you. It’s distasteful, at best. 👍

[@Keyboardje]

Not polite, yes, but most of all... nobody here cares how much you make for a living! LOL

[@rodneydowney2561]

That is universally true, not just in The Netherlands.

[@agnesvanduffelen6738]

North Americans are very open how much money they earn / make etc whilst we never talk about Money and what you earn is a very private thing.

[@PaulaBean]

@@agnesvanduffelen6738 I think that's because for the Dutch, quality of life is more important than how much money you have in the bank.

[@AdvdW]

I really love the relaxed way you're explaining the don'ts about the Netherlands. In general it's all true. But if I speak for myself. If someone visiting me, it is not necessary to bring a gift. I actually wonder if it is common to bring a gift. Of course it is appreciated when it's the first time. And yes you are totally right about Amsterdam. It's a nice city, but the most for the tourist. Amsterdam is certainly not the example of truly Dutch. Have a nice day and a happy new year.

[@BetterTogether-UnIr1]

@@AdvdW Thank you so much. I appreciate your encouraging words. Thanks for watching and commenting. All the best to you and yours in 2025. 😊

[@sashalavell7876]

Amsterdam is not representative for The Netherlands like NY is not for the USA. I am an Amsterdamse more than I am Dutch.

[@BetterTogether-UnIr1]

@ Perfectly said, Sasha. 😊 I often say that NYC is its own planet. The same can be said for Amsterdam. 🪐

[@huuglaoh6516]

As an addition to this, it is not so uncommon to visit the Dutch unannounced as long as you know each other well. For a first or second visit, you're right. But when you are getting to know each other, it's OK to knock on the door unannounced. We like to make a good impression, so when we meet you for the first time we like our house being tidied up and not wearing old clothes.... Because a very bad habit of the Dutch is "talking behind your back (roddelen)"..... A nice video with good remarks!

[@BetterTogether-UnIr1]

@ Thank you so much for expanding on this topic. I appreciate you taking the time to leave a comment. 😊 Thanks, too, for the encouraging words. 👍

[@SideWalkAstronomyNetherlands]

Don't brag, don't show off, don't do drugs, don't be drunk on a street, or in a car. Don't be late. Never call the country "Holland". Don't lie out of politeness, that is actually very rude. So do not ask "how are you" if you do not want to know...etc..

[@BetterTogether-UnIr1]

@@SideWalkAstronomyNetherlands All good “do nots”. Definitely enough to warrant a follow-up video. Thank you for sharing them. 👍

[@cynthiamolenaar770]

Especially the “don’t lie to be polite”. We poke right through that and really don’t like it! Way more worse than walking in a bike lane!!! Our directness doesn’t mean being rude it means knowing what the other person really wants and really getting to know the other person. We don’t care about “fake”…

[@BetterTogether-UnIr1]

@ That’s right, Cynthia. 👍 Precisely the points I made in this video: kzbin.info/www/bejne/d4q1pnyYm62hsNUsi=0nVx-7q7VOvG9hSr

[@dittedatte8046]

I you do like that we are all happy 😂

[@chinchillatwitch7234]

"Dont be drunk on the street." This is illegal in the Netherlands for a fact. Even if you walking drunk through the street, you can be fined for public drunkness, or go to jail for participate in traffic while being drunk (yes walking and the bike makes you part of the traffic). Its rare for the police to enact on these laws, but it does sometimes happen.

[@dikkiedik53]

Hi Mike. Dutch grandpa here. I loved your remark about the connection between Dutch and English language. My granddaughter was 3 years young and in daycare she has a 3 yr older sister that is quite good at her iPad and she had learned English from KZbin kids channels and helped the younger one. On the daycare there came an English girl and my granddaughter started talking English. Our daughter was called to the daycare women and that woman requested our granddaughter would stop talking English. The little ones comment.. "She only says it a bit different, but she means the same." It's quite true Dutch and English are sibling languages I understood. There are complete sentences written and meaning the same. Making learning Dutch language a bit more simple ... know how Dutch notations are pronounced... you will be surprised with Dutch words sounding like English and meaning the same and the other way around. Both languages have influences from parts of other languages but are still close.

[@BetterTogether-UnIr1]

@@dikkiedik53 What a lovely story. Children can be so pure; it is really beautiful. What you say about the links between the two languages is certainly true. Further evidence of the fact that we have more in common than what separates us. Thank you for sharing such a sweet story. ❤️

[@frisianmouve]

My nieces and nephews even grow up with 3 languages as soon as they entered primary school

[@BetterTogether-UnIr1]

@@frisianmouve Really remarkable. Kids are a force to be reckoned with. 😊

[@Aviopic]

Both languages belong to the Germanic language family. Also both Dutch and English are since the Viking days heavily influenced by the Nordic language and many words the same or very similar.

[@BetterTogether-UnIr1]

@ So true. There are dozens of English words of Dutch origin: from Aardvark to Yankee! 👍

[@peterkeijsers489]

I'm from the southeast of the country, and I'm always amazed how FEW people in Amsterdam speak Dutch anymore! Finding someone who speaks Dutch there is truly a challenge these days!

[@Lilygirl283]

That's typical Amsterdam. It doesn't count😂

[@BetterTogether-UnIr1]

@@peterkeijsers489 So true. Amsterdam is an anomaly.😃

[@joris-zuphert]

Welnee

[@peterkeijsers489]

@@joris-zuphert Meneer 'IK-weet-het-beter'....

[@joris-zuphert]

@@peterkeijsers489 ik woon er

[@silviavideler9894]

You did a great job with your 10 commenments. BUT I like to add an eleventh one, iin particalar for U.S. Citenzens. We as Dutch people are not deaf, at least 99% isn't it. So when you're visiting our country, you're very welcome but please, please, don't talk not so loud. Just talk normal and don't shout!!!!

[@BetterTogether-UnIr1]

@@silviavideler9894 Thank you, Silvia. There’s always room for an 11th Commandment. 😊

[@viev1054]

As an ADHD Dutchie... - chronically late for unknown reasons - I can confirm, my fellow Dutchies are 'not amused' with this behavior 🙄😅 Also, the person in the comments about, if you want to try weed, go to a coffeeshop and DO NOT EVER buy of the streets! Let the people behind the counter inform you and DO AS TOLD. So no drinking with smoking etc. One 'Dutch rule' I personally really dislike is the 'you get 1 cookie with a cup of coffee' and 'It is time for us to go eat😬' (meaning : you have to go now)

[@BetterTogether-UnIr1]

@@viev1054 Ah, yes, I forgot about the “koekje erbij” custom. Thanks for your comment. Now, hurry along…so you won’t be late. 😊

[@pa4tim]

Better not use drugs at all, but most Americans already know drug better than most Dutch, in 2023 50% of the population in the US used some kind of drugs and around 23% was addicted.

[@PaulaBean]

@@pa4tim ...and when I see the videos on KZbin, American cities are infested by hundreds of thousands of homeless, staggering around like zombies, high on the Chinese Fentanyl that is pouring into the States via Canada. Hopefully that'll change in 2025!

[@AbeIJnst]

Just a few weeks ago, a tourist asked me: "Kunt u mij de weg naar het station vertellen?" Clearly an English accent (Canadian as it turned out), but obviously very proud they were able to remember the sentence. As I do like joking around a bit, I told them: "Die kant uit, bij de tweede brug rechtsaf, alsmaar rechtdoor en u loopt er zo tegenaan." The utter confusion on their faces was priceless 😂 We all had a good laugh and they were indeed quite happy I was able to show them the way in English. I don't mind speaking English at all, but I do like it if people try to speak Dutch (and I'm always willing to help them to do it correctly). If you want to try some cannabis, by all means, please GO to a coffeeshop. There they can help you find what you want. Don't (I repeat: DO NOT) buy it on the street. And especially if you're not used to it, don't mix with alcohol. Be responsible. You don't want to end up in a canal.

[@BetterTogether-UnIr1]

@@AbeIJnst It’s irresistible, isn’t it? Teasing the tourists. 😂 Thanks for making the other point about buying cannabis. I should have added that to my DO NOT list. Buying drugs on the street is asking for trouble. And ending up in a canal is a distinct possibility. I understand that it happens a lot in Amsterdam.

[@Bert_96]

What a beautiful background..you live in that house?

[@BetterTogether-UnIr1]

@@Bert_96 Thank you, Bert. Indeed, I have lived in and loved this little benedenwoning (c. 1901) for 20+ years. I love old Dutch houses.

[@annekathleen4498]

How rude

[@meticulousgeek]

As for #6 - a gesture is nice but I think we even appreciate it more if you are punctual. I guess you could call it agenda-driven but I also wonder about how much it has to do with the fact that we don't really like surprises. Number #7 absolutely true. And for #8 - so glad you pointed this out. It's so silly how much people just don't think about this. It's not only about trains but when ever entering through a door: first let the people out before going in.

[@BetterTogether-UnIr1]

@@meticulousgeek Thanks for your comment. I should have mentioned the punctual part because that is absolutely true…more important than brining wine 🍷 or flowers. 💐 Thanks again for watching and commenting. 👍

[@obiwanjacobi]

Pretty good list. I always find it interesting how foreigners perceive our culture. Thanks.

[@BetterTogether-UnIr1]

@@obiwanjacobi Thank you. I appreciate your comment. 👍

[@chinchillatwitch7234]

The thing with rule 1 is that being in you native country and having to speak english is kinda weird. Its like your being forced to do something. There is no issue with speaking english to build bridges with english speakers, but sometimes it just feels off. Rule 2 is also very important, and it extent more then you think. I had americans say upon mentioning I am dutch, that "they love the danish.", which obvious is quite insulting, as denmark and the Netherlands are 2 different countries. I was polite in correcting them and then he was like :"well they are all nordic countries, so what does it mather?"... We are not a nordic country either. We are western european, the netherlands, nederlanders is how you should call it. dutch was actually a slur from the english, because they couldnt make a difference between germans aka deutsch, and the people in the lowlands, the english lost a bunch of wars to us and they started to call us german basicly. And it stuck somehow. Well rant over.

[@BetterTogether-UnIr1]

@@chinchillatwitch7234 Thanks for weighing in. I hear you. And regarding your unfortunate encounter with Americans, well, there’s no excuse for their ignorance. Embarrassing really. I appreciate the rant. 😊

[@chinchillatwitch7234]

​@@BetterTogether-UnIr1 I welcome anybody who wants to come to the Netherlands. Mather of fact, I had several american friends visiting me. While the history of the english speaking world isnt kind to the dutch, I would never hold that against a single person like you. For example, did you know that you had a dutch president in the US that could barely speak english (Van Buren)? Did you know that your declaration of indepedence is just a copy and paste of ours? There are allot of contributions the dutch made to the world that are kinda being erased, while bad stuff gets highlighted. That being said, you are not responsible for any of that. You seem like a good person, just wanting to make youtube video's. Thank you.❤

[@BetterTogether-UnIr1]

@@chinchillatwitch7234 The Dutch have made many contributions to the United States…and to the world at large. The list of inventions alone is extraordinary…not to mention the dozens, nay, hundreds of Dutch words that have made their way into the English language. Despite all the videos I make about the differences in the two cultures (which I find fascinating), I fundamentally believe that we are more alike than different. Thanks again for your comments.

[@mdeleeuw6272]

I very often call the Netherlands Holland, it has such a nice nostalgic vibe. And indeed: walking or standing in the bike-lane makes me furious. I see you are living in Haarlem, so do I.

[@BetterTogether-UnIr1]

@@mdeleeuw6272 We’re lucky ducks, aren’t we? Living in Haarlem like we do. 😊

[@mdeleeuw6272]

@@BetterTogether-UnIr1 Ducks, ducks ... people from Haarlem are called mosquitoes: Haarlemse Muggen. No idea why. It is a nickname, but a positive one.

[@BetterTogether-UnIr1]

@ That’s true. Well, then we’re lucky muggen. 😂 🦟 Some say the nickname is because of the swampy nature of Haarlem, which attracted a lot of mosquitos. Another explanation of the nickname 'mug' dates from 1573, during the Siege of Haarlem. The Dutch were then in revolt against the Duke of Alva of Spain. The Spanish army moved to Haarlem and wanted to conquer the city. One night, three Haarlem residents exploded a keg of gunpowder in the Spanish army camp. This caused the camp to fall into turmoil. The Haarlemmers managed to sneak away. The next day they talked about their deed in the pub, but some people said: 'It doesn't help; you don't scare the Spaniards away with it. The Spanish army is invincible. You're like mosquitoes trying to bite a giant.'

[@AmelieVeenstra]

Nice to listen to your insights. About planned social contact: in more rural regions it is usual to stop by spontaneously. Haarlem is not the 'norm' 🙂

[@BetterTogether-UnIr1]

@@AmelieVeenstra Thank you, Amelie. It’s good to get a broader perspective, so I appreciate your comment.

[@cirrus1964]

Je kunt ook Haarlem correct typen.

[@AmelieVeenstra]

@@cirrus1964 fair point, done

[@worfoz]

@@AmelieVeenstra I like old names like Harlemum and Haerlem, meaning "houses built on a sand hill". Because: bible. Matthew 7:24-27 tells you NOT to be "like a foolish man who built his house on sand", in other words: do not be a Haarlemmer! 😄

[@PaulaBean]

I grew up in a small village. We didn't even lock our back door, and the neightbours (and their kids) would come in spontaneously for a visit.

[@TheHighlander71]

I espcially enjoyed the "ting!" on the bikelane :) That was epic.

[@BetterTogether-UnIr1]

@@TheHighlander71 Those “tings” are epic! Haha. They scare the living daylights out of me! 🚲

[@TheHighlander71]

@@BetterTogether-UnIr1 As they should! Those bike lanes are bicycle highways. I remember riding to school on those through morning rush hour; it can be a struggle not much different from what happened on the A2. Well, before they installed trajectcontrole :)

[@BetterTogether-UnIr1]

@@TheHighlander71 I’ve witnessed the bike rush hour…gaggles of kids hell-bent on getting to school on time. It’s a sight to behold! 😮

[@TheHighlander71]

@@BetterTogether-UnIr1 I can imagine. These days they're all battery powered as well!

[@BetterTogether-UnIr1]

@@TheHighlander71 Indeed. Like bats out of hell on those battery-powered super bikes with fat tires. ⚡️

[@erikabee3498]

Yeah, you have a point. Not everybody in the Netherlands speaks English. I allmost failed on my exam on English, Frensch and German. In most basic schools English was even not English lessons any way. Not even learning Deutsch either, even they are our trading country. And even than France was the first new language we had to learn. And yes for me it is a privalige to learn to speak other languages. I can mostly come around with Dutch, English and German... but French, Spain, Italian, Swedish an Denmarkish... I don't know everything. But still the more languages I understand, the more I get it somehow. And if you guys (or dolls or anyone there in between) ... keep to yourselves. Never forget where you come from!

[@BetterTogether-UnIr1]

@@erikabee3498 Thanks for your comment. 😊 I am always so impressed by the ability of so many Dutch to speak multiple languages. You are clearly no exception. I do think it’s important to understand that not everyone here can - and perhaps more importantly - wants to speak English. Thank you again for you comment….and for watching my videos. 👍

[@Weener927]

Thank you for your great and insightful video. Everything you've stated is 100% correct!

[@BetterTogether-UnIr1]

@@Weener927 Thanks so much for saying so. 😃

[@kuldipguleria2615]

Thanks. Described so pleasantly.

[@BetterTogether-UnIr1]

@@kuldipguleria2615 Thank you very much. I really appreciate your encouraging comment. 😊

[@somedude5951]

Calling the country "Holland" isn't that much of a big thing. As a Dutchman, I also sometimes call it like that, but would agree some Dutch like to complain about it 😋 Netherlands was started in 1815, but Holland is already there for a thousand of years, 11th century. The Dutch republic was established in 1581, which became the actual country, and the Netherlands(1815) and Belgium(1830) didn't even exist back than. And if you are in the provinces of Holland, North or South, where cities like Amsterdam and Harlem are any ways, you have every right to say you are in Holland, and be correct. There are many other provinces in de Dutch speaking parts of Europe though, most being a part of the Netherlands, some are in Belgium. Holland became the name for the Dutch country, because most ships and their sailors came from there in the age of sail internationally.

[@BetterTogether-UnIr1]

@@somedude5951 Thank you for providing some background. My primary point is that the official name of the country, in English, is “the Netherlands”, and I think that’s how tourists should - correctly - refer to it. Just as the United States of America should - ideally - not be referred to as America. Just ask a Canadian. 😊

[@vereferreus5262]

@@BetterTogether-UnIr1 Come on, nobody says that. I have travelled half the world and actualy I heard only few people moan about it.

[@PieterBreda]

Nr 2: I hate it when they call our country Holland. Nr 3: Standing on the bike lane is a horrible sin.

[@BetterTogether-UnIr1]

@@PieterBreda Thank you, Pieter. The sin of standing in the bike lane is sometimes punishable by death! 😂

[@davidc.w.2908]

@ I agree with no. 3. I don’t agree with your no. 2: I call people who say they hate people who call it Holland, hypocrites. The fact that the government started a campaign in 2020, saying that we should start calling it the Netherlands, while most of the countries websites, yes - even government websites - still mentioned Holland, is just nuts.

[@cirrus1964]

Wel eens 'stilgestaan' hoe jij een geïmporteerde mens geboren in de VS, noemt, een "Amerikaan" zielig persoon. Waar maak je je druk om ? In mijn Moederland Engeland, it' still Holland here!

[@paultjonsiefat5971]

Yeah, but Dutch cyclists tend to hog the bike lane when they're in a group. It's normal to ride side by side and socialise without regard for oncoming traffic or other cyclists who want to overtake and it's also quite normal to not get onto the sidewalk with their bike when they happen upon someone they know and want to have a chat.

[@AmelieVeenstra]

Or be heavenly sweared at.... 🫣

[@Splinkies]

Finally a normal do and donts about the netherlands. Except, i personally always will choose terschelling or the other islands. But never texel.

[@BetterTogether-UnIr1]

@Splinkies Thank you. I have not (yet) been to Terschelling. Looking forward to a visit. 😊

[@vlinder0108]

Love Texel. My favorite island! 💚

[@BetterTogether-UnIr1]

@ Yes, Texel is lovely. My friend from London and I visited during the summer and have such wonderful memories of our time on the island. 😊

[@BabzV]

It's very Dutch of you Mike to mention that Amsterdam isn't the best representation of the entire country. 😉 I think the Netherlands is a country that is definitely worth a visit, but we don't have massive mountains or jungles or anything impressive like that. But I think it's more a combination of being able to cycle everywhere(which makes a lot of visitors feel like a kid again+the freedom) and us funny, tall, weird Dutchies(or that's what I just tell myself 😂) that makes it an interesting place to visit. Oh another don't is littering, I think most Dutch people find it important to keep the streets clean and livable. (I mean we even pick up our dogs sh*t 😂) Thanks for another good one Mike. 😊🌷

[@BetterTogether-UnIr1]

@@BabzV Thanks, Babs. “Do not litter” is an important don’t and worth mentioning, so I’m glad you brought it up. You are so right about the feeling of freedom and being a kid again when cycling. My friend from London insists that we go cycling every time he visits. I can still remember when we rented electric bikes (a first for both of us) in Texel, and we were laughing like giddy children. It felt like riding a magic carpet. Not that I’ve ever done that. Without a doubt, the Netherlands is an interesting place to visit (and live). It never ceases to delight and amaze me. 😃

[@reneevanesch9827]

Thank you !!!!! This grandma, born in Haarlem, love the way you discripe the way we are in the Netherlands 👍 You,re absolutely right 😉🤩

[@BetterTogether-UnIr1]

@reneevanesch9827 Thank you for your lovely comment. It warms my heart. ❤️ Thank you for watching my videos and thank you for your encouraging words. 😃 p.s. - You were born in a beautiful city, but I don’t have to tell you that, I’m sure.

[@wendydudok1520]

Id say the Dutch are one of the best English speaking ppl in Europe, and also willingly to speak English. Unlike France, Spain, French Belgium.

[@BetterTogether-UnIr1]

@@wendydudok1520 Thank you, Wendy. I agree. 😊

[@Claire-sj9mp]

True

[@Ralph_NL]

I believe The Netherlands has the highest % of people that speak English from any non English speaking country in the world even.

[@paultjonsiefat5971]

@@Ralph_NL They are however not necessarily the best foreign English speakers. It is a bit of a myth.

[@BetterTogether-UnIr1]

@ That’s right, Ralph. Following the Netherlands in the ranking are Norway, Singapore, Sweden and Croatia - the top five non-native English speaking populations in the world. ❤️

[@jaccovermeulen2762]

By the way, some Dutch people consider "Fries" as their native language.

[@BetterTogether-UnIr1]

@@jaccovermeulen2762 Not to mention “Friet” and “Patat”. Sorry, I couldn’t resist. 🤪

[@kiwidutch9778]

The 2nd official language in the Netherlands is 'Fries' (called Friesian in English), and is mainly spoken in Friesland, a province in the north of the Netherlands.

[@BetterTogether-UnIr1]

@@kiwidutch9778 Indeed. I love Friesland and have visited several times. So many lovely cities and towns there: Dokkum, Harlingen, Hindeloopen, Sloten, Sneek, Workum, among others. ❤️ 🌳 🐄 🐑 ⛵️

[@gertstolk]

Indeed Mike, don't go to Starbucks. The way they treat their staff and pull out all the stops to keep the unions out, horrible. By the way, you now have officially entered my personal top 3 of youtubers 🎉 The other two are automotive: Simon Fordman and Sarah 'n' Tuned. As always looking forward to your next video 🤠🚍

[@BetterTogether-UnIr1]

Thank you, as always, Gert for your unwavering support. It is much appreciated and gives me the boost I need to keep going. 😊

[@elsedutch4972]

Quiet bike lanes? They are most of the time very busy. And dangerous because of scooters and fat bikes using the bike lanes because its mandatory

[@BetterTogether-UnIr1]

@ Sure…sometimes the bike lanes can be quiet, luring unsuspecting tourists into them until…out of the blue…suddenly one of those fat bikes appears. Happy New Year. 🎈p.s. - I don’t live in Amsterdam. Here in Haarlem, the bike lanes are often empty…until…zoom!

[@mariusb5150]

I 've started not automatically speaking English anymore ... I am Dutch and I am very fond of the language. I like all languages, but Dutchone happens to be mine. And I come to the point that I get a sense of being disrespected when, in what I consider to be my territory, I have to express myself in a language other than that belonging to that territory only because a 'stranger' does not want to go through the same trouble of dealing with the world than I do. That's fine with me, but do that on your own turf. If you plan to stay in this part, be respectful and learn the language. When in Rome, act like the Romans and not like some provincial ... I know, very undutch, but I hope to have compensated this by being blunt.

[@BetterTogether-UnIr1]

Thanks, Marius. I hear you loud and clear, and I get where you’re coming from. It makes perfect sense to me. 👍

[@pa4tim]

Yep, the Dutch language and culture is slowly dying. Many people, I think for most outside N/Z Holland, feel they are forced a bit to much to be a multi-culture society.

[@montebont]

I disagree for very practical reasons. We benefit from learning English because it has become a "lingua franca". For a tourist it's not worth the effort of learning a language spoken by less than 20 million people

[@pghagen]

Hello Mike! just listened to your list of do's and Dont's. The reason for Dutch people not to speak immediately English, is that a lot of Dutch people are fed up when they are doing their shopping in a supermarket, the personnel is only speaking English. In many cases this personnel does not understand what we are looking for, and we don't know the English words for the products we are looking for. Indeed you should take care when walking on a bike stroke. Specially for the so-called Fatbikes, cause these are really dangerous. We are calling our country Nederland. That's because our country is surrounded with water and it's all low land. Only in the very south in the province of Limburg we have beautiful hills. Till 1830 the Netherlands was connected with Belgium. In that country people speak Flemish and French in the very south. Indeed Dutch people can be very out speaking. They say what they are thinking. When I visited the USA in the end of the seventies, we were driving though the state of New York and we came across many city's with Dutch names, like Amsterdam, Rotterdam, Frankfurt in Germany and even Siracuse in Italy. A lot of Dutch people emigrated to the US because our country is very densely populated with almost 18 million inhabitants. Hope my comments help you a little to understand the Dutch people. Brgds, Pieter from Amsterdam. We call Amsterdam sometimes : The republic of Amsterdam, because most people outside Amsterdam don't understand what happens in our city.😅

[@BetterTogether-UnIr1]

@@pghagen Greetings Pieter. Thank you so much for your detailed message, which does - indeed - give me more perspective on this wonderful country and its people. It is true what you say about the many Dutch place names in the U.S. The Dutch have had (and continue to have) a great deal of influence in the United States (and elsewhere). I had to laugh about the “Republic of Amsterdam”. In some ways, it’s another planet. I feel the same way about New York City. Thank you again for watching and for taking the time to comment in such a helpful way. 😊

[@Super8Fransje]

Hmm, Not call the country Holland? If you go to an international soccer game, nobody in the stadium will root for the Dutch National team and shout "The Netherlands, The Netherlands." They will all be shouting "Holland, Holland". So I guess, when it comes to soccer, we Dutch can call our country Holland!

[@BetterTogether-UnIr1]

That is certainly true. Still, the official name of the country in English is “The Netherlands”. I hope to have informed my American compatriots accordingly. Thanks for watching and thanks for your comment. 👍

[@AmelieVeenstra]

This can only mean that soccer is stupid 😇

[@tdenoudsten8526]

You mean FOOTBALL

[@tdenoudsten8526]

Only Americans saying soccer

[@Splinkies]

​@@tdenoudsten8526no, soccer my friend :)

[@vereferreus5262]

Only people not living in Holland make a point of it sometimes. Many people from the Netherlands say I'm from Holland even when they are not litorally.

[@mavadelo]

Tbf most of us really don't care about the use of Holland (I am Utrechter myself) but we appreciate it when people use the correct name.

[@BetterTogether-UnIr1]

@@mavadelo Yes, I suppose it is a forgivable offense. 😊 “Holland” could be considered a term of endearment. Certainly, there’s no harm intended by the well-meaning people who use the word. It’s akin to saying “America” instead of “United States…”. I have encountered Canadians who bristle at the use of “America” for “U.S.A.” I am reminded of a line of the poet John Lydgate, later adapted by Abraham Lincoln: “You can’t please all of the people all of the time”.

[@anouk6644]

Calling the Netherlands Holland is not such a big deal, at least to me. We just dropped the nickname in 2020, so it’s okay if people in other countries haven’t caught up yet. In fact, in some of those countries the only name for ours is usually a variation on Holland.

[@Rob-yj9ew]

I do not think we can blame tourists to name our country Holland, as our own gouvernement have sold our country as Holland for decades. It is only since this centrury the rest of the Netherland demanded to be included. And I know that most of America does not wants to be compared with NYC. I get rather annoyed with the "walking on the bike lane" comments by mainly Americans.... try to walk in the USA.... anywhere (you seldom find a sidewalk outside the citiescentres), you will be hooped at.... you just do not walk in the USA, you drive. What if we would all walk as tourists on the streets in the USA... as a bike lane is part of the street!! I have been to the USA and if you just show up at a door, you are NOT welcome.... you alsways have to call up first.... and then they also tell you if you are welcome. We just plan a lot more. MOst of the things you mention are so normal..... it has to do with respect for others!! ooh and Amsterdam is not the Netherlands... a lot of Americans think Amsterdam is a city in Sweden that is close to Spain, just shy of Greece.....

[@BetterTogether-UnIr1]

I think we are actually on the same page (maybe not). I certainly did not intend my video to be a criticism of the Dutch. On the contrary, my video is intended for tourists, including Americans, who may wish to visit the Netherlands so that they can do so in a respectful manner. If you watch my videos, I think you will find that I celebrate the country I have chosen to make my home for the past 22 years.

[@Rob-yj9ew]

@BetterTogether-UnIr1 l think in most we are on the same page, but l think it should not be necessary to tell people they should not walk on the streets. Bike lane like bus lane are part of the street. People are so selfish and stupid. That remark l made about Amsterdam being in Sweden and so on, was what l experienced in the US as a visiter from another world.....not for nothing we are called alien in the USA. Make me think of the movie Aliens.....we do not look alike...

[@piggyware]

I hear so many times that you shouldn't say holland and I even hear Dutch people agree with this, but Holland = Netherlands. There is no province called Holland. There are two provinces called Noord-Holland en Zuid-Holland, but if any Dutch person act as if they dont understand that you speak of the whole country then they are just being difficult :) Hup Holland Hup!

[@BetterTogether-UnIr1]

Thanks for weighing in on this issue. And thanks for watching the video. 👍

[@pa4tim]

Let me guess you live in North or south Holland 😁 For me, I do not like it if they say Holland but I will not object to it or correct you if you say Holland, I understand most do not know. I live in a very small village in Zeeland but I come from Brabant.

[@piggyware]

@@pa4tim I understand, some might not like the sound of it, but Holland has always been used for the whole country, so it is weird to me that foreigners are told that it is wrong. I'm from Gelderland :)

[@ItsCharlieVest]

Good video!

[@BetterTogether-UnIr1]

@@ItsCharlieVest Hey, Charlie…wow! I watch your videos all the time! I appreciate you taking the time to watch mine. I would be honored if you chose to review it. You’re awesome, man! 👍

[@AbeIJnst]

Lovely reaction to a lovely review of a lovely country 😄 Just watched Charlies video, love you both 😉

[@BetterTogether-UnIr1]

@ Yes, I just watched it, too. I love Charlie. He’s a legend, and I’m thrilled to be reviewed by him. Thanks for your encouraging words, my friend. 😊

[@ItsCharlieVest]

You guys are awesome

[@ItsCharlieVest]

@@BetterTogether-UnIr1 wow small world!

[@markderen5223]

I come from Holland, PA and I live in the real Holland now. I have a radio show called “Mark from Holland.”

[@BetterTogether-UnIr1]

@@markderen5223 Hey Mark. That is so cool! What a small world! 🌎 I would love to listen to your radio show. Where can I find it?

[@csnmedia]

Nice list, but number 6 is not quite right. When you live outside cities, or in the countryside, the front door is often not even in use but everyone just comes around the back. A well-known Dutch saying is therefore, ‘The sweet raid’ aka... come in. You really don't need to announce yourself or make an appointment.

[@BetterTogether-UnIr1]

@@csnmedia Gosh, that is nice. I grew up in the countryside, and that sounds so familiar. I miss that. Thanks for your comment. 🌳 🐄 🌳 🐑 🌳

[@hisxxx2]

I'll back that up, however a quick msg might save a embarrassing moment.

[@pa4tim]

The back door is correct, but without an appointment is not correct for all parts of the country and all Dutch. Personally I do absolutely not like it. But my father does not mind that at all.(but only If they are good friends) He lives in the outskirts of a big city, I live in the middle of nowhere on a boat. But before the boat I lived outside a very small town (about 600 people) my front door was not even in use.

[@oorebeek1]

Thank you Mike 🎉

[@forkless]

Quite a number of fellow countrymen do not know -- or are purposely ignorant, because some of the same people use the term all the same when cheering on Oranje with Hup, Holland, Hup -- that Holland is perfectly acceptable colloquial synonym for The Netherlands. Holland is what is known as a pars pro toto (a part for the whole). Ironically enough, inversely America is what is known as a totum pro parte (the whole for a part)

[@BabzV]

I totally agree.

[@BetterTogether-UnIr1]

@@forkless Absolutely. And I can tell you, Canadians don’t always take kindly to the term “America” when used as a synonym for the “United States…”. Thanks for your comment. 😃

[@mariadebake5483]

@@forkless I absolutely disagree

[@forkless]

​@@mariadebake5483 You're free to disagree with me, however the fact is that both pars pro toto and totum pro parte are linguistic styleforms -- used in either language.

[@davidc.w.2908]

@@mariadebake5483Why do you disagree? Because the Dutch government decided on January 1, 2020 that they should rebrand Holland to the Netherlands, mainly because Amsterdam is overcrowded by tourists? Does the government really believe that tourists will no longer flock to Amsterdam if they rebrand the name of what we should call the country?

[@VlankeBla]

You're not wrong, good video!

[@BetterTogether-UnIr1]

@@VlankeBla Thanks so much for watching. And thanks for your comment. 😊

[@henkbakboord9418]

Add to nr3: Tourists (on rental bikes) should NOT cycle during the Amsterdam rush hour...

[@BetterTogether-UnIr1]

@@henkbakboord9418 Certainly at their own risk! 😂

[@pa4tim]

Better stay away from Amsterdam all together if you really want to experience the Netherlands. The heart of Amsterdam is beautiful for pictures but not much is left of real Dutch culture. There is a lot of crime, a lot related to drugs, many homeless people, prostitution, violence, do not park your bike without chaining it to something solid. They steal it or toss it in a gracht just for fun, a lot of (drug)tourists. Sadly most big cities are becoming like that. Visits little towns where people still look out for each other and help each other, but the people (In non-tourist towns) there can be a bit private (we call it stug).

[@BetterTogether-UnIr1]

@ I certainly prefer Haarlem over Amsterdam in terms of a place to live. It has many of the amenities of Amsterdam (shops, museums, restaurants, etc.) without the tourism, crime, homelessness, etc. that you mention. Nevertheless, there’s no place quite as beautiful as, for example, Limburg or Friesland. 🌳 🐄 🌳 🐑 🌳

[@oldebarneveldt5326]

I'm originally from the very south of the Netherlands, near Maastricht, which is not only geographically different from Holland, its history is also different: only after 1815, after the defeat of Napoleon Bonaparte its history coincides with Holland's, until then it was more the history of what we call today Belgium. So it would annoy me if someone would say I'm from Holland.

[@BetterTogether-UnIr1]

Thank you. I appreciate your comment, especially because a number of people have said that it makes no difference. I am fully aware of the fact that it DOES make a difference to some. p.s. - I love that region of the Netherlands. Maastricht, in fact, ranks as one of my favorite cities. I have visited several times.

[@oldebarneveldt5326]

@@BetterTogether-UnIr1 Thank you. Yes, Maastricht has a very different vibe as Amsterdam. The influence of the french occupation by Louis XIV is still noticable. Nowadays I live in Amersfoort another beautiful city.

[@BetterTogether-UnIr1]

@ Amersfoort! Another favorite. You certainly know how to pick beautiful places to live. 🏡

[@Marozw]

I hear a lot about not walking on bikelanes. That's true for a lot of cities, where there are sudewalks for pedestrians. In the countryside or in villages it is a quit different situation. As a pedestrian you have to walk on the bikelane.

[@BetterTogether-UnIr1]

@@Marozw That is surprising and good to know. Are there no sidewalks in the countryside or in villages? 😮

[@Marozw]

@@BetterTogether-UnIr1 in the countryside rarely, and don't be surprised to find none in smaller villages or hamlets. If there is a bikelane as a pedestrian you are obliged to walk on the bikelane and not on the road.

[@BetterTogether-UnIr1]

@ Thanks again. I learn something every day. 😊

[@jhjacobs81]

Never talk to me before coffee! Or covefe, if you’re an American.

[@BabzV]

😂Same.

[@BetterTogether-UnIr1]

@@jhjacobs81 Haha. Loud and clear. I’m with you on that one. ☕️

[@jhjacobs81]

@@BetterTogether-UnIr1 you should do bedtime stories. I fell asleep watching this video. Your voice is calm and soothing 🥰

[@BetterTogether-UnIr1]

@ I’ll take that as a compliment…haha. Several people have commented on my soothing voice. I never gave it much thought. But I suppose it’s an antidote to this sometimes frenzied world we live in. Glad to have eased you into sleep. Slaap lekker. 💤 😊

[@jooproos6559]

Hallo!There are also debet cards!!!Instead of the creditcard.Also usable in the public transport(bus/tram/train etc)

[@BetterTogether-UnIr1]

@@jooproos6559 True. I love that I can use my debit card in the bus/train/tram now. 🚌 🚆 🚊

[@Paranormallover19]

I really agree with your let people get off point first sadly it doesn't only happen on the train. I just bump in to people when I'm getting off and they want to get in or if they block the way. 🤷‍♀️

[@BetterTogether-UnIr1]

@@Paranormallover19 So true. It works both ways and in various scenarios, doesn’t it? It can be a jungle out there! 🐒 Thanks for your comment. 😊

[@Paranormallover19]

@BetterTogether-UnIr1 Yeah exactly, and it's getting worse. You're welcome :)

[@Jacob_._Roberts]

Thank you Mike.

[@BetterTogether-UnIr1]

@@Jacob_._Roberts Thank YOU, for watching and commenting. 👍

[@rodneydowney2561]

When speaking English, my Dutch friends often call their country "Holland." I've been in plenty of so-called "Silent" cars with sports fans or teen girls chattering away. Walking in the bike lane is not a sin, it's taking your life in your hands. During rush hour, getting on and off a train is always a struggle. My Dutch friends have accused me of being too blunt, which I wear as a badge of honor.

[@BetterTogether-UnIr1]

@@rodneydowney2561 Thank you, Rodney. I am glad to get your input. Thanks for watching and commenting. 👍

[@evanherk]

Spot on! You're a dear.

[@BetterTogether-UnIr1]

@@evanherk Thank you for watching, and thank you for the encouraging comment. ❤️

[@ceeskok2285]

Nice summary, welcome in the Netherlands

[@BetterTogether-UnIr1]

@@ceeskok2285 Thank you, Cees. 😊

[@PaulaBean]

Do they have herring in Holland, Michigan?

[@BetterTogether-UnIr1]

@@PaulaBean I’m sure they do. There are so many residents of Dutch descent there. I’m sure all the Dutch delicacies are on offer: stroopwafels, poffertjes, bitterballen, stamppot, oliebollen, erwtensoep, drop…just to name a few. 😉 In terms of fish, I read that “the beautiful blue water of Lake Michigan is known as one of the best freshwater fisheries in the world! Lake Michigan is well known for lake trout, brown trout, steelhead, king and coho salmon”. 🐟🐠 Thanks for watching and commenting. 👍

[@CarpeDiem-gi3yz]

Hilarious and so true! Thanks for making me laugh, Mike!

[@BetterTogether-UnIr1]

@@CarpeDiem-gi3yz My pleasure. I had fun with this one. 😊

[@dianesgardeninspiration]

Great tips! If I ever visit I will definitely have to rewatch this video. 🇳🇱❤️🇺🇸

[@BetterTogether-UnIr1]

@@dianesgardeninspiration Thanks, Diane. I do hope you’ll have an opportunity to visit. Mind you, I would love to visit California again. Such a beautiful state. Palm trees, sunshine, friendly people. What’s not to love? ❤️😃

[@tubularap]

Number6: Please do not bother to bring something, when you visit someone. Yes, some cookies or such would be appreciated, but it is not a requirement at all, and I would be sad if it becomes one.

[@BetterTogether-UnIr1]

@@tubularap It’s an appreciated gesture according to most etiquette guides: “Don’t assume you can stay for dinner, unless this was explicitly mentioned when you received the invitation. In this case, it’s polite to bring your host something small, like a box of chocolates, some flowers or a bottle of wine.” 🍫 💐 🍷 www.cursor.tue.nl/en/news/2023/augustus/week-4/new-in-the-netherlands-etiquette/#:~:text=Paying%20someone%20a%20visit&text=Don't%20assume%20you%20can,or%20a%20bottle%20of%20wine

[@tubularap]

@@BetterTogether-UnIr1 - Considering the invitation is for dinner I can see that bringing something is appropriate. When just popping in for a short casual visit, one can come empty-handed.

[@HSBlok-sw6hq]

Hello dear youngman, love your respectfull approach of us Dutchies. Permit me to rectify one statement. The biggest density of people living in the Netherlands is in the 2 provincies called North- and South-Holland indeed, as you stated. However, Leiden and Haarlem are minor cities and therefore not the reason of a dense population in these provinces. The main reason is the economic base of the country, which is in these 2 provinces: harbours of Rotterdam and Amsterdam, trade, administration of The Netherlands in The Hague, etcetera. The biggest cities Amsterdam, Rotterdam and The Hague are a result of the economical and administrative activities in these 2 provinces. Thus a clustering of people as a result in these parts of The Netherlands. Hope I could be of any assistence. Keep up the good work 😃!

[@BetterTogether-UnIr1]

@@HSBlok-sw6hq Thank you for your comment, encouragement and clarification. Indeed, I neglected to mention by name the biggest engines of administration and trade, Den Haag and Rotterdam. I should not have simply stated “and others” after mentioning Amsterdam, Haarlem and Leiden. My oversight. I’ll get it right next time, I promise. Thank you again for weighing in. I appreciate it. 👍

[@GrefTek]

Thanks for sharing your list. I thoroughly enjoyed it as a Dutch person. It's fun to see our own culture through the eyes of others, like looking in a laughing mirror. I would like to share some one Dutch perspective from someone who used to be married to an US citizen at one point: 1. My experience most Dutch have no issue switching to English. In fact, my ex-wife had trouble practicing Dutch as most would switch to English once they figured out she wasn't a native Dutch speaker. Frankly, quite a few of us would love to boast our foreign languages skill, how undeserving as it may be. ;) Having said that, it's always good to put your best foot forward and try to ask instead of assume. 2. This is totally on us. We've had extensive marketing campaigns as selling the Netherlands as Holland It's shorter, slides off the tongue easier. Also, unless you're dealing with a very anal person they most Dutch people I know should not be offended. (Then again, I live in South-Holland ;)) 3. Not walking in the Bike lane. Technically allowed (for example, when the pedestrian path is obstructed), but always walk facing traffic and stick to the sides. Also, I am venturing a guess you are located in Amsterdam and cyclist there have a god complex. They are almost as stereotypical as the New York pedestrians (I'm walking here!) 6. Confirmed. Most people I know (including myself to some degree) are very anal about planning our time for some reason, and mostly because a lot of us have pretty active lives; having someone just show up makes feel us uncomfortable and throws made plans into disarray, since we don't want to inconvenience you, especially friends. On the other hand, at least personally, if you give me a few minutes heads-up, I am more than willing to change plans if friends want to come by. Family & friends > the rest. 7. The famous Dutch directness. Personally I am not sure if it's just about openness or efficiency, but we do in fact like to get to the heart of the matter. Personally, I don't like wasting time on trivial niceties that are building up to the real subject at hand. Debate and "poldering" (finding mutual ground) is something that has brought us far as a country, which already takes a long time to achieve, so we tend to skip the pleasantries. This doesn't count for all topics, by the way. Asking how much someone earns is a bit of a faux pas depending who you ask. Besides being the merchant, we are also the calvinist and talking about your success is also not done. (part of "Doe normaal") 8. I don't see how this is different anywhere else though? It's quite logical, let people get out first, so they can make space, then enter. But Dutch consider it a public transport version of cutting in line... pretty rude. 9. This equates to being aware of your surroundings. It's similar (back in the day smoking was still a big thing) to smoke in non-smoking areas. It's also a great place to work while commuting, so most people appreciate when people adhere to this rule. 10. Amsterdam feels to me as a hyper overexaggerated version of the stereotype that would be the Netherlands. The country has a lot of diversity, each province its own subculture, each city its own history and beauty. People that only visit Amsterdam are missing out on what this country has to offer, beyond windmills, clogs, tulips, weed and the red light district.

[@BetterTogether-UnIr1]

@@GrefTek Thank you, Rogier, for your detailed response to my video. Much appreciated. I like that you have taken the time to share your insights. And what a gracious way of doing so, if I may add. Your comment strikes me as an excellent example of being direct and expressing one’s perspective without being abrasive or rude in the slightest. I know that I am in the presence of a Dutch gentleman. Thank you again for watching my video and taking the time to respond in such a considered fashion. 😊

[@anneken7202]

That is exactly what I tell people who want to visit the Netherlands. There are so many nice cities that have their own character. It is worthwhile to follow a guidetour, then the city comes to life. Quite a few of us do not feel that Amsterdam is our capital anymore.

[@herbertvanlynden6629]

Don't ask where the campus is when you want to have a look at the university premises. Most Dutch - and I think most European - universities don't have a campus.

[@BetterTogether-UnIr1]

@@herbertvanlynden6629 Hmm. 🤔 I did not know that. Thanks for your comment, Herbert. 👍

[@PaulaBean]

I love speaking Dutch with foreigners who want to exercise their Dutch.

[@gerhard6105]

Nice vid again. Don't park your bicycle in front of the neighbors window. Don't block the sidewalk ( rolstoelgebruikers en kinderwagens). Did you find the Rolstoelsteeg already, in Haarlem? When you walk into the Vomar (comes from Voordeel Markt) supermarket from the Paul Krugerkade side and look, after you passed the draaideur, to the right on the wall, you will see how the Nelson Mandelapark ( originally it was called Paul Krugerpark) area looked like when it still a scheepswerf from Stork/Holland Nautic. You also see the water around it ( Paul Krugerkade/ Werfstraat).

[@BetterTogether-UnIr1]

@@gerhard6105 Thanks, Gerhard. Those are some good “don’ts”. Maybe I will record another video at some point with some more “thou shall nots” 👍

[@HALLO63]

Goedemiddag Mike, I like this video and I agree with your 10 things you shouldn't do in our country 🇳🇱. Especially not to use Holland in stead of the Netherlands! I'm from Friesland (thanks for mentioning our beautiful province ❤) and always correct people who say Holland in stead of the Netherlands. Do you know we have our own language, Frisian? There are 2 official languages in the Netherlands, Dutch and Frisian! Yes, I'm very proud to be a Frisian 😁😉. I'm more a Frisian than I'm Dutch, ha, ha, ha.... Warm greetings from Leeuwarden 🍀

[@BetterTogether-UnIr1]

@@HALLO63 Thank you so much for your heartwarming comment. ❤️ How fortunate you are to be Frisian and to live in such a lovely region of this wonderful country. I have always enjoyed my visits to the smaller cities of Friesland: Dokkum, Harlingen, Hindeloopen, Sneek, Sloten, Wokum…just to name a few. I did know that Frisian is one of the official languages of the Netherlands. I understand that it is the language most closely related to English. That is fascinating. 😊 Thank you for watching my video(s), and thank you again for your comment. Groeten uit Haarlem. 👋

[@Sjiras]

I think the reason that most people of other countries know the Netherlands as Holland is because of our international trade history. Back in the voc days we had ships all over the world and they (and the people on board) came from our big harbors which are in N and S holland

[@Apollorion]

Holland was then still a single province.

[@BetterTogether-UnIr1]

That could well be the case. Thanks for providing a bit of background. 😊

[@fritsteusink4045]

When i used the train in 1988 the silent cars where already in use

[@fritsteusink4045]

Cabins not cars

[@BetterTogether-UnIr1]

@@fritsteusink4045 Thanks for the clarification. I stand corrected. 😊 www.msn.com/en-us/travel/news/the-silent-section-of-trains-in-netherlands-tourists-need-to-know-about-before-visiting/ar-AA1tdfid?recoid=traffic

[@Aviopic]

The "Holland" mistake is not only to blame on foreigners, the country itself used it till very recent in their tourist info. If i remember correctly the term Holland has been removed in 2008 or so.

[@UnusSedLeo-w5l]

I guess we had a campaign once, called 'Visit Holland', so yes, we are/were to blame for this.

[@annemieke186]

Totally agree. It was the government who without warning changed from Holland to the Netherlands... I do not mind if people say Holland, I do that myself for people it is sometimes confusing. As far as I am concerned it should be Netherland. America, America's, US, USA, US of A. Look at England, UK and G. Britain... I always have to think what country s are involved...

[@Aviopic]

@@annemieke186 The country is called Nederland(Netherlands) in one form or another since 1581 in which the "plakkaat van verlatinghe"(a declaration of independence) saw the light of day. So it's not like the government suddenly changed the name therefore "a warning" would've been quite out of place. For some reason, I guess commercial, the name Holland kept popping up in tourist info even though everybody knew or at least should have known it was wrong. Also I do not know whether or not the government was involved in this choice or just the tourist industry, I can't see the government telling the tourist industry "you shall use Holland" in all your documentation. The UK is similar to the "het Nederlandse Koningrijk"(The Dutch Kingdom) it is the complete Kingdom including overseas countries, Britain is British mainland which includes a country called England.

[@remcohoman1011]

9:16 out of politeness and valuing otherone's time. I schedulesd to meet up with YOU, so no one can or will interrupt that, I reserved time just for YOU, not interlopers

[@jtb357]

Don't ask how much money you make, don't take something out of the fridge just like that without asking and asking is considered rude.

[@BetterTogether-UnIr1]

@@jtb357 Good ones. 👍

[@anneken7202]

Don't start to do the dishes without asking. My experience with Canadian and American housewifes is that they are suddenly bossing around in my kitchen. I hate it. Offer to do the dishes if you want to and the Dutch housewife will say: "No, thank you, I'll do them myself".

[@BetterTogether-UnIr1]

@ That’s a good one. It reminds of the time I was in Mexico and started to wash the dishes only to be chased out of the kitchen by my mother-in-law. 😂 I was just trying to be helpful after they prepared such a splendid dinner. 🍽️ Live and learn. 😊

[@anneken7202]

@@BetterTogether-UnIr1 It is not helpful, that is what they think. Every housewife (or man) wants to be boss in her/his own kitchen. When you do the dishes it is like saying: "I do a better job than you", it is rude. But also Dutch housewifes have that stupid Pavlov-reaction like: "Dirty dishes, now I have to do something".

[@aquarius42]

Thank you very much. Greetings en groetjes. Uit Delft..

[@BetterTogether-UnIr1]

@@aquarius42 Thank you for watching and commenting. 😊 Groeten uit Haarlem. 👋

[@gaitn5670]

Amsterdam is indeed far from 'The Netherlands'!

[@BetterTogether-UnIr1]

@@gaitn5670 Yes. The same could be said for New York City, which does not represent the U.S. NYC and Amsterdam are planets unto themselves. 🪐 🌕

[@frans7338]

Nummer 6 is helemaal waar , alles volgens afspraak 😂

[@eva-xv2jk]

I don't think a lot of dutch people mind. Actually, twhen asked 'where you are from" most of them would reply " from Holland"...I don't know where this myth comes from really. I could only imagine that perhaps people from the southern provinces (Limburg e.g.) may feel a bit offended, but other than that it really is not an issue

[@BetterTogether-UnIr1]

@eva-xv2jk So, your point is that - other than the 11 million+ people that live in the other 10 provinces (which by the way is the vast majority of the total population) - it’s not an issue. It’s statements like that that make me realize exactly why they DO mind. 😮

[@ErikNowhere]

I did enjoy your video. Just a few thoughts: you forgot in the city list: Den Haag (government, International Criminal Court, geat beaches but do not expect b;lue waters, etc) and Rotterdam (biggest port in Europe, second in the world after Singapore I believe). P.s. there is a small town in the south ot The Netherlands that is called America... last makes me think.... "Holland" is as wrong as "America" because America is not a place nor a country, the closes you come to is The America's. Last, Amsterdam has a lot to offer for toutists who are willing to walk 30 min, take a 10 min bike ride outside the touristy areas. Go to a local "brown" cafe that is NOT in a guidebook.

[@BetterTogether-UnIr1]

@@ErikNowhere Thank you, Erik. Excellent tips. I agree with what you say about “Holland” and “America”. Once when crossing the border into Canada, a group of us American tourists were asked where we were coming from. Some responded, “America”. We were sharply told: “That is not an acceptable response to that question”. Ouch! But, hey, it’s true. You’re the second person who has mentioned the small town of “America”. I am intrigued and look forward to checking it out. 😊

[@broshuisalbert2413]

Sometimes I meet Americans who know better how the Dutch people are than I know. That gives me goose-bubbles on my arm(s). I will turn around, lift my shoulders and walk away.

[@BetterTogether-UnIr1]

Thanks for your comment, Albert. Thanks, too, for watching my videos. 😊

[@ronaldderooij1774]

I remember having an American guest who stayed for a longer period of time. She was unable to use her phone in Europe. She had to buy a new SIM card. At the time that was possible to do anonymously. Nowadays I think you need a Dutch address. Not sure. So, I wonder how Americans can use their phone in Europe nowadays.

[@BetterTogether-UnIr1]

@@ronaldderooij1774 You got me there. I have a friend visiting from the States in April who is expecting to use his phone while he’s here. Hmmm. 🤔 I’ll have to look into it.

[@BabzV]

Really? Hmmz my American ex gf was able to use her phone just fine. She was from Georgia, maybe it depends on which State their from, a different provider maybe?

[@margaritalambregts8928]

Bring something with you if you go visite somebody is not neccesary but it will be appreciated.🎉

[@hvb9123]

Even as a native I don't give a rats ass how people call our country, or if they did or didn't make an appointment to show up at my house, with or without some kind of gift other than hopefully their pleasant company, or in what language they like to make conversation because I speak 4 languages fluently. There's one thing about the Americans I met I didn't like at all, the hugging bit. (haha). I met a lovely American lady one time in Dublin, she started hugging after a short conversation, while I have known people for decades without ever hugging them once. But I didn't say anything of course not to embarrass her naturally. I don't have that somewhat obsession of other Dutch people with having to expres their opinions all the time, wherther it's appropriate or not appropriate. Liked your video and I wish a lovely life in our cultivated swamp. 😉

[@BetterTogether-UnIr1]

@@hvb9123 Thanks for your comment and sharing your perspective. 😉 I’m glad you liked the video. If we ever meet, I promise not to hug. 👍

[@geekuyl6942]

Don't say "Holland" to someone from Friesland. And certainly not in the city of Dokkum. Someone has lost their life there before by disrespecting the Frisians.

[@BetterTogether-UnIr1]

@@geekuyl6942 Love Dokkum, by the way. ❤️

[@Treinbouwer]

Bonifatius had ook gewoon een gebrek aan tact, om het zo maar te noemen.😂

[@mariadebake5483]

@@Treinbouwer lichtelijk! 🤣

[@Splinkies]

Hahahaha, heel erg grappig :) Deze fries laat je gewoon leven. Hahaha.

[@denvertrucker906]

Yeah people generally don't care if someone speaks English, most, at least that i know, don't care about The Netherlands being called Holland as well, hell we even have it in our own songs, Walking in the bike lane? yeah, that one is true, 4 is good info as well, The Credit card thing, well starting Jan 1st you can in most places since Europe is switching over Visa and Master card, instead of V-Pay and maestro, 6- Absolutely do not show up unannounced, that one is so true!, Train, is true as well on both 6 en 7, Amsterdam, yeah that's true as well

[@BetterTogether-UnIr1]

@@denvertrucker906 Thanks for watching, and thank you for your comment. In terms of the Netherlands/Holland debate, you will see from the comments that there are many who do not like the use of “Holland” when referring to the whole country. The primary point that I wish to make is that, in English, the official name of the country is “the Netherlands“. Thank you again for your comment. I really appreciate your perspective. 😃

[@denvertrucker906]

@@BetterTogether-UnIr1 Oh i get the point you are making, but, and i'm guessing you figured this out already as well, we Dutch people like to argue about stuff lol. But then again, Americans love to do that as well hahahaha

[@BetterTogether-UnIr1]

@ Absolutely, I get it. 😊 It’s human nature I suppose to express our opinions. I am always open to differing opinions. Makes the world go round. 🌎 Thanks for your comments. 👍

[@adriaanwijkhuijs9908]

Hi Mike How are your memories of your remarks Holland US

[@BetterTogether-UnIr1]

@@adriaanwijkhuijs9908 Hi Adriaan 😉 (I noticed your image of Haarlem’s iconic windmill). I have good memories of Holland, Michigan. I went there on a class trip when I was a kid. I still can’t believe we rode 11 hours in a school bus from Maryland to Michigan! Our teacher was named Mr. Slenk and was of Dutch descent. 🇳🇱 🇺🇸

[@montebont]

IMHO you'll be forgiven to confuse "Nederland" and "Holland". We use "Holland" ourselves when communicating in other languages:-) At the Olympic games we always have a "Holland House" and nobody complains about that. Let's just say Holland is global slang for Nederland (The Netherlands) or the even more formal name "Het Konin(g)krijk der Nederlanden". The funny thing about Nederland (literally: Low Country or "below sea level") is that it excludes the Eastern and Southern parts of Nederland :-) So don't bother too much about comments. Even for us Dutch it is complicated....

[@BetterTogether-UnIr1]

@@montebont Thank you for your comment. 👍

[@HALLO63]

Then I'm nobody 😂, because I do complain about "Holland House". I don't like it, because our country is named Nederland/the Netherlands. English friends always used "Holland", but I "forbid" them to use it and now it's the Netherlands 👍😁. When they want to tease me, they use "Holland" 😆. I think that residents outside the Randstad have more difficulty with Holland, especially Frisians......

[@1aapmens]

I have just coined the term "accursed vehicle of imperialism" for English. Rather proud of that. Now we'll switch to Nederlands.

[@BetterTogether-UnIr1]

@@1aapmens Ah, so you’re switching from “the accursed vehicle of imperialism” to “the tongue of corporate colonialism”. Nice. 👍

[@1aapmens]

@@BetterTogether-UnIr1 no right answers. That’s life. Any suggestions? Klingon?

[@BetterTogether-UnIr1]

@@1aapmens Klingon sounds good: NuqDaq ‘oH tach’e’ (Where's the bar?) 🍺

[@slhwijnands]

I live in The Netherlands (literally: The Lowlands). I would never say I live in Holland but always in The Netherlands because Holland, as you mentioned, are originally 2 provinces in our country: Nord en South Holland! The word Holland derives from the 10th century word Houtland or Woodland in English. Whenever I have to fill out a form and they ask for my country, I will always have to fill in the Netherlands and never Holland! That's forbidden! My nationality is "Nederlandse", "Dutch" in English.....Why this word Dutch??? English borrowed the word Dutch from Duitsch, or Dietsch at a time when we still referred to our language as German or Dietsch - probably in the late Middle Ages. Even your English word "Knight" derives from the Dutch word "Knecht" which means "noble soldier" from the Middle Ages. School in English is the the same in Dutch...School, with a different pronounciation. Street is Straat in Dutch. So we have much in common in our languages!

[@BetterTogether-UnIr1]

@@slhwijnands Thank you, Sandy. 👍 I’m with you 100%. 💯 There are many English words of Dutch origin. And there are - at last count - more than 2100 English words in Dutch. No matter how you slice it, the official name of this wonderful country - in English - is the Netherlands, and I don’t think it’s too much to ask of a tourist to refer to the country by its official name, especially considering that there are more than 11 million people (a majority of the Dutch population) living in provinces outside of Noord- and Zuid-Holland, and some (many) of those citizens are offended by the use of “Holland”, so why risk offending anyone when “the Netherlands” is acceptable to all? Anyway, I know I’m preaching to the choir. 😆 Thanks again for your comment. ❤️

[@petervanderwoude6316]

As far as I know the official name "the Netherlands" has been changed to just "Netherlands" in 2024.

[@BabzV]

Dat dacht ik dus ook, De Lage Landen, The Netherlands.

[@BetterTogether-UnIr1]

@@petervanderwoude6316 I’m not so sure. I am by no means an authority on the subject, but I read this (from August 2024): “Dropping the ‘the’ and using just ‘Netherlands’ is grammatically incomplete…. Using ‘the Netherlands’ properly ensures clear and respectful communication, honoring both the geographical and historical identity of the nation”. Yet another great debate. 😂

[@petervanderwoude6316]

@BetterTogether-UnIr1 it's a bit odd. I recall that the "the" is dropped in government documents.

[@manuell3505]

There's also a Dutch town called America. kzbin.info/www/bejne/mXmXhGytjseebJY

[@BetterTogether-UnIr1]

@@manuell3505 How did I not know that? I love the video, by the way. Can’t get that damn song out of my head…haha. What have you done? 😂 🎶

[@manuell3505]

@@BetterTogether-UnIr1 It's sort of silly satire. Dutch America is in the south, while the language of the song is flat north-east. They are comparing Limburg with a far foreign culture but it's 200 km away.

[@BetterTogether-UnIr1]

@ Yes, yes…but that tune! It’s infectious. After a couple minutes of it, it’s etched in my brain. Good fun! Thanks again for sharing it. 😃

[@reinier34]

Lived in Gainesville Florida

[@BetterTogether-UnIr1]

@@reinier34 Ah, OK. I’ve been to Florida (St. Augustine and Tampa) but never Gainesville. Quite a contrast in climate compared to the Netherlands. Personally, I prefer the milder weather here, although the grey days of winter can test the sunniest of personalities. 😃

[@reinier34]

Winter in Florida perfect, but summer in Holland ( see there we go again..)

[@BetterTogether-UnIr1]

@ Now, if we could just combine those two, we’d be in weather heaven.

[@KelgeriaGames]

Euhh... cities in Holland, Amsterdam, Haarlem en Leiden and not Rotterdam? You don't make friends. 11th thing you should never do is forgetting Rotterdam. LOL

[@BetterTogether-UnIr1]

@@KelgeriaGames Haha. In my defense, I did say “and others”. I didn’t intend to list every city and town in the two Holland provinces, but I promise to do better next time. 😞

[@itsdaan3022]

In bike lanes? On bike lanes, i am not inside of them.

[@BetterTogether-UnIr1]

@@itsdaan3022 Ah, thank you for your input, but no-it’s actually “in” in this context. 😊 Think of how we say we sleep “in” the bed, even though we’re not literally “inside” the bed. The preposition "in" is used when referring to being within the boundaries of a defined space-in this case, the bike lane. A bike lane is a clearly demarcated area on the road, so when someone is standing within its boundaries, they are "in" the bike lane. By contrast, "on" is typically used when referring to a surface, like standing on a road or on a sidewalk. However, because a bike lane is a specific, contained part of the road, and because I am talking about being in the way, i.e. obstructing the path, "in" is more appropriate to emphasize that the person is within that designated space. In short: "In the bike lane" focuses on being inside the lane's boundaries, as in “Don’t stand in the way”. "On the bike lane" could technically work but feels less precise and isn’t idiomatic in this context. I do appreciate your effort to correct my English, though-it’s always nice to have a thoughtful exchange about language! 😊

[@gertvanderstraaten6352]

We have a town here called America (normally we spell it Amerika).

[@BetterTogether-UnIr1]

@@gertvanderstraaten6352 Thank you, Gert. So I’ve been told. It was the first I’ve heard. I really must visit one day. 😀

[@gertvanderstraaten6352]

@@BetterTogether-UnIr1 It may have been called that because it was a 'colony' in the newly drained marshes.

[@suzannekoopman6976]

I will react in Dutch. Niet onverwacht welkom is niet overal zo. Hier is de deur altijd open, ook rond etenstijd. Er is altijd voldoende om mee te eten. Kopje koffie kun je altijd krijgen. En een bed staat altijd klaar, mocht je daar gebruik van willen maken. In mijn familie is dit heel gewoon.

[@BetterTogether-UnIr1]

Thank you, Suzanne. I’ll be right over. 😉

[@dittedatte8046]

English with an Accent: That is what most Dutch People speak...☺️💬

[@BetterTogether-UnIr1]

@@dittedatte8046 Even I speak English with an accent, according to some Americans, who detect a slight Southern twang. 🤔

[@dittedatte8046]

@@BetterTogether-UnIr1: Yes that is the same here in this little Country. From North to South there are many different Accents, but not in Friesland, that is a real Language...😄

[@BetterTogether-UnIr1]

@ It really is remarkable how much diversity there is here. ❤️

[@Ralph_NL]

The "calling The Netherlands Holland, thing is always so overrated. In Dutch most people would say, I live in Nederland, which of course is The Netherlands. We wouldn't say, I live in Holland. But for any tourist or someone from another country, I really don't care if they call it The Netherlands or Holland. Both fine. And NO I am not from North or South Holland LOL. I do however think The Netherlands sounds a lot more fancy 😂😂 Like this magical "Neverland"

[@ageoflove1980]

I would like to add: Be aware of the vibe in the place you are, and if its rather quiet and tranquil, keep your voice down. I dont what it is with Americans, maybe they are not used to public transportation or other shared spaces. But man... you guys can be loud... And its not that you guys just dont care, I dont believe that. Most Americans I meet, especially in the US itself are very friendly and warm people. Its more like that Americans tend to be less aware of their immediate social surroundings? The other day I was in a museum in Amsterdam and these three women were practically shouting at each other.... I mean, like I said, I think they clearly were not aware at all how obnoxious that is. Maybe its also a cultural thing, that Americans are trying much harder to sound confident or whatever, I dont know, but it really is a thing unfortunately. Now The Netherlands is absolutely nothing like Japan where making any noise at all in public transporation is a complete faux pas, it more depends on the situation. But at some point you got to wonder if half the people on the train really want to hear every word of your conversation ;-) . And sure, Dutch people do it too sometimes, especially when its a couple of young lads going in to town and clearly had a few beers already, but that sort of fits the vibe of a weekend night, so then its somehow not as annoying. So, pretty hard to explain correctly. Its not being loud per se, its just more about being loud in the wrong place at the wrong time.

[@BetterTogether-UnIr1]

@@ageoflove1980 Thanks for raising this point. I guess it’s a matter of being less oblivious and more aware of the situation and surroundings. 👍

[@reinier34]

see my response to @tuby1502

[@LiselotteterPoorten]

Nice video and you seem a nice man. It is maybe too much to tell the historical background of 'Holland' vs 'The Netherlands'. I doubt if many Dutch people even know. Anyway, it goes back to when we were a Republic and the main contenders were the two provinces Holland. When the country became a kingdom and united it was referred to as the Netherlands. The provinces Holland were the richest. I guess it stuck.

[@BetterTogether-UnIr1]

@@LiselotteterPoorten Thank you for your kind words and comment. 😊

[@thewhitewitch7691]

,, LEER. NEDERLANDS..??!!! IN. NEDERLAND, I SPEAK. NOT. ENGELS IN HOLLAND…❤😂🎉😮Greatings. From a Dutch old Lady🌂🕶️🧳🧢🌎🌏☔️💦💨🌚🌕💐🧙‍♀️from. The. Veluwe. Gelderland.👼🦅🐗🐺🦇🕸️🕷️. Succes.!❤a,m. Born. Im. Amsterdam…😂

[@BetterTogether-UnIr1]

@@thewhitewitch7691 😂 Groeten uit Haarlem. The Veluwe is lovely! 🌳 🐄 🐑 🦅 Thank you for watching and commenting. Bedankt voor je reactie. ❤️

[@donaldtick8432]

correct compliments

[@BetterTogether-UnIr1]

@@donaldtick8432 Thank you, Donald. 😊

[@paulusbexkens4392]

One of the don’ts is also: no intro’s beyond 20 seconds.

[@BetterTogether-UnIr1]

@@paulusbexkens4392 Rules are meant to be broken, but you should know that…you’re Dutch. 😉

[@reinier34]

@@BetterTogether-UnIr1 better; beating around the bush is not so appreciated, just get to the point without much delay..

[@UnusSedLeo-w5l]

Don't come unnanounced and when you have an appointment, be on time! 5 minutes earlier is accepted too. And re: Holland vs the Netherlands. I guess where they say 'patat'= Holland and where 'friet' is on the menu, it is the Netherlands.

[@BetterTogether-UnIr1]

@@UnusSedLeo-w5l Punctuality is super important. Thank you for mentioning it. 😊

[@derecxs]

Still sounds good to me, I come from Holland. No offence at all. Come on, no issue at all.

[@BetterTogether-UnIr1]

It seems that opinions are divided, so it’s better - in my opinion - to err on the side of caution and call the country by its chosen name. Not too much to ask, methinks. 😊

[@charlesvanderhoog7056]

Absolutely spot-on. It's mainly American right-wing Republicans that walk on bike lanes in Amsterdam as they assume that they are the best, smartest, richest people in the world and own and know everything, so everyone should make way for these superhumans.

[@BetterTogether-UnIr1]

@@charlesvanderhoog7056 Ouch! Haha. Thanks for weighing in, Charles. 👍

[@aandezwier]

Jep, Yes, Ja

[@remcohoman1011]

2:36 the so called tourist traps..