10 Ways to Keep Her Obsessed With You

[@RichCooperClips]

Join The 1% Community Here: bit.ly/3SQwT20 Join The Unplugged Alpha’s Guide to Divorce: bit.ly/3IjWjSC Comment Your Thoughts Below 👇🏻 GET ON MY EMAIL LIST TO RECEIVE A FREE CHAPTER FROM MY BOOK: entrepreneursincars.com/red-flags/ GET MY BOOK - "The Unplugged Alpha, The No Bullshit Guide To Winning With Women & Life:" amzn.to/3fIVW3J SUPPLEMENTS FOR MEN: theunpluggedalpha.com/collections/all-products MY WEBSITE: www.richcooper.ca/ TACTICAL SOAP: Use code "COOPER" at checkout and Get 10% off Tactical Soap mentioned here: bit.ly/2jQEZbz REQUEST A VIDEO TOPIC: entrepreneursincars.com/request SUB MY MAIN CHANNEL: kzbin.info SUB MY TUA PODCAST CHANNEL: kzbin.info

[@BigSlim48916]

Great video

[@periclescimon9954]

I appreciate it Rich! You have really helped me fill in the gaps and move myself forward! I was trying to grow but you gave me a clearer direction and that is all that mattered!

[@marriagepartnersministry5942]

I take exception with one point you made about being absent. Statistically we know that careers which take men away from home frequently have a substantially higher infidelity and divorce rate. Absence is a two edged sword. I suggest being present frequently is good but when your present be all the other things Rich Cooper mentions. When your present be in a state of meeting her emotional needs for conversation, affection (non-sexual signs and symbols of your care for her), a sounding board, understanding, entertaining/interesting, and the like. A person whos great to be around all the time is immensely valuable in her life. Its important for a man who is around all the time to fight his nature in terms of getting lazzy in the above areas of life that attracted her to you in the first place. A guy doesnt have to fight his lazy nature if he is around only once in a while becasue he will subconciously/naturally be on his best behavior for the relatively short amounts of time he is around her.

[@BigSlim48916]

Where you been all my life good man. Glad I found you sir. ❤ HAPPY HOLIDAYS to YOU good man

[@abhinandankashyap9521]

😊😊

[@princenotsocharming128]

1 - Be irreplaceable, be her best option, don't be boring. 2 - Be absent, don't smother her. Scarcity = value. 3 - Be strong, fit, and lethal. 4 - Be a gentleman and an asshole at the same time. Be kind but not a "nice guy". 5 - Be captivating, don't be insignificant, have things going on. 6 - Rock her world in the sack. 7 - Do not live together. Avoid becoming familiar and common. Maintain distance. 8 - Put a dent in the universe. Avoid making her the center of your universe. 9 - Be attractive, don't be unattractive. Be someone men want to be and women want to be with. 10 - Let her know that she is replaceable, have options in terms of women. Don't be desperate.

[@lanikinlywalker4596]

Too much work. Easier just to catch and release

[@cbxxb4841]

@@lanikinlywalker4596 I think any of these things you are doing either to get or to keep a woman, I agree - too much work (do these things for yourself or not at all). Men, don't live your lives FOR a woman!

[@2unknown]

In other words, chase excellence, then the women will come.

[@cbxxb4841]

@@2unknown Live for yourself. If women want to come along here and there, fine, but Live for yourself.

[@nikosfarma5643]

Please explain the lethal. I get it's a metaphor, but how does a guy lives up to it, I don't get.

[@benpena2832]

Wife shit tested me the other day; we both woke up one morning and I went to piss and I came back to the bedroom room and wife says in a judgmental tone “you didn’t even make us coffee” I said “nope, that’s your job.” I walked away and acted as if nothing happened. Nothing happened; she got up and went to make coffee and we had a normal happy day. In the past I would have gotten pissed leading to mutual silent treatment or go make the coffee for her with resentment. Read Rich’s book; all of this is in there; great stuff… I am finding my wife likes me more; I’m getting my respect back slowly but surely. Thanks Rich.

[@Ricky-G99]

You successfully passed the routinely check that she's still with the same guy she thought you was and there's no need to activate the hypergamy radar 🤣 you're still up there in her expectations horizon

[@benpena2832]

@@Ricky-G99 what I shouldn have told her was “woman! Make me a damn sammich… now”

[@benpena2832]

@@cartier13 yes me too brother, me too… but my frame has changed significantly and so has she because of it

[@skrillztheentourage]

​@@jim-se5xcno disrespect bro but what you wrote was super confusing lol

[@jim-se5xc]

@@skrillztheentourage I reread it, and it even confused me..

[@toadman5184]

"I'd be nothing without you". Yeah, NEVER say this to your girl. Like ever. You will kill her desire for you instantly.

[@Paintbyryan]

So is it better to say “I’d be something without you”?

[@leomcnamara8711]

Absolutely true...A sure-fire way to demonstrate low value.

[@kenlee-97]

​@@gezenewsplease elaborate- interesting comment actually...

[@nichollle732]

​@@gezenewsplease, elaborate more

[@KingLouisDaSaint]

Or “You’re my better half”, or “I’m the man I am because of you”… That’s all wuss talk and will dry that P up like the Sahara

[@Wolfdawg504]

My wife and i have been together for almost 20 years (we met in college) and have lived together for 15 years. We're still infatuated, have a lot of sex (3-4 times a week, she initiates most of the time), and have 2 elementary aged kids. The only secrets i can think of are: 1) She was an 18 year old virgin when we met, so ive imprinted on her 2) i didnt have a ton of partners myself. I had only been with 3 other girls when we met. 3) We both come from married families where marriage is the norm amongst all family members 4) We damn near grew up together, so we have a ton of shared experiences 5) We both go to the gym 4-5 times a week and take health and looking good for the other person very seriously 6) She's not a unicorn, because she can definitely be subject to female nature. But she's weirdly not into social media, not into constantly getting attention/validation from other people, isn't into drama (aside from reality shows), and she isnt a feminist either. Our relationship isn't perfect, and we've had our spats and disagreements and tough times, but we prioritize our marriage and work on it. We've changed and evolved as individuals and as a team, but we accept each others faults. And again, we have way more sex (that SHE usually initiates) than any of my friends who are married or living with a girl.

[@Ricky-G99]

Her virginity part is a big factor brother which we rarely see in our days. The vaginal hymen isn't there for no reason. Congrats on your marital life brother, wish y'all nothing but the best.

[@Wolfdawg504]

@Rickycharles812 I agree 100%. I brought that up to her and even she agrees.

[@Ricky-G99]

@@Wolfdawg504 it's solid facts in front of us brother, yet many girls today argues that we're insecure thinking about their past 1nd we can't forget about it 🤣🤣 like literally they're the ones who can't forget about it and the past decisions repercussions are still chasing them back even after years and years. It's a sad reality today as a man you can working your ass off and establishing a generational wealth sacrificing your mental health and risking many legal disputes with multiple sides, yet you can't get rewarded with a girl who just kept her legs closed we're not asking for nuclear achievements 🤣

[@wilhelmhesse1348]

Her not being into social media is 🥇👏

[@Bluntobject]

There's a lot to this. You've grown up together she knows you at a time in your life where you would act the way you act regardless of trying to hide anything. She might have been the same. You come from the same social background. If she secure things should be fine. If you are in the mindset of her being your hobby and you being hers, these things can work. Most men need hobbies outside of marriage and connection with other men to be happy. I don't know where you're at with this situation but it sounds like you're all in with your wife.

[@karenoyama8950]

I can truthfully say I am never lonely. I am content with my life. Don’t look for your happiness outside of yourself. Happiness is an inside job. Just my thoughts. ❤

[@richardmackintosh2921]

Hi l have trouble being on my own as l don't want to do stuff like going to the beach you sit there on your own thinking ok whats next,my g/f is 600k's away been like that nearly a year(family situation) we vlived together ten years,so many say no one is responsible for your fun but strewth its hard

[@Jack14432]

It correct! Chasing women is the most stupid thing a man can do. U gonna do or live that makes you happy!

[@TheFarCenter]

I agree. We are not robots or machines, we are healthy men with healthy feelings.

[@NeotericNegro]

I will never understand guys who don't go to the gym. It's not that expensive and you can get a great workout in 60 minutes. It literally will do wonders for the bedroom too.

[@lovewhitey4462]

You can work out at home 🏡 Your health is your wealth

[@risefromyourpain]

My worst nightmare is having a fat gut. Never.

[@lovewhitey4462]

@@risefromyourpain high risk for heart attack also 💔⚠️

[@scrimmy45]

I get a great work out in 30 minutes and do it 5 times a week.

[@williamhermann6635]

Ive worked 70+ hour weeks for the last decade and drive 90+ minutes to and from work each shift day. I also have a decent sized home on an acre of land that requires constant upkeep and repairs. Some people just dont have the time to consistantly focus on their fitness. Im strong as an ox but Im not what people would classify as fit.

[@RobbiJamesVogt]

I had to completely redo my life. I quit drinking a year ago. I started walking. I lost over 40 pounds. I’ve read over 80 books on self help, nutrition, etc. I started back into martial arts, I started taking care of myself and I outgrew my ex. I gave her all the space in the world and I hope she can find someone better than me. You’re right - never place a woman on a pedestal. Women will lose complete attraction.

[@Ricky-G99]

You hope she can find someone better than you ? Brother you're the center of the universe if you don't feel it with yourself and put in concrete work to be the centre of the universe even the next girl will dump. Specifically with women you should walk like you got the keys of all nukes. She wants that bro she needs this attitude to satisfy her hypergamy. Wish you all the best G

[@p.u.s.h.532]

Been married 28 years and love it. The youngest of 5 turns 18 next month. We are excited for the next phase of our lives.

[@johnanon658]

Good for you

[@Erick-di9gm]

Why are you here then?

[@p.u.s.h.532]

@@Erick-di9gmjust interested in the subject just like anyone else that clicked on the video. I was just noting there is success to be found out there if you stay away from the hoes.

[@MrFrank107]

'Never talk about yourself in any way that makes you look weak" especially your fuck'en feels.

[@ozonelayercake]

I did that once when I was feeling cowardly and didn't wanna break up with a girl I was dating (talked about myself in ways that made me look weak.) She broke up with me a week later. Worked like a charm lol

[@MrFrank107]

Just keep working on improving yourself. Your ideal partner will appear as a result. (And never talk about your feelings) @@ozonelayercake

[@coryleblanc]

i like proving how dumb women are when they cant tell im being sarcastic with self-depricating humor

[@dcr6389]

Amen

[@Jay-ef2ii]

Special: If the chemistry is good between you and her then everything is history. She will always be obsessed with you because she loves you, period. You don't need to do anything if she likes you a lot. Your game can be weak, but because she loves you then she will always be there. She will be obsessed with you. You can't keep her obsessed at all if you don't have any great chemistry to begin with, man. October 10, 2023. USA

[@Evangel-z7m]

Best comment👍

[@MansaMusa-v5q]

Good chemistry isn’t everything I had great chemistry with chicks and yes they still gave me the 🐱 even when they where in relationships But having chemistry didn’t make us be together, and having chemistry didn’t make them leave their husbands/boyfriends

[@stevepops4450]

To add the advice from another top notch KZbinr (yourwingmam), there are a compilation of factors i have memorised which supplement Chemistry. CCA+VGBLT+TISMC. Chemistry/Connection/Attraction are not enough. Add= Values/long term Goals/Beliefs/Temperament/Lifestyle; Togetherness/Independance/Sex/Money/Children

[@Vuyccbvuj]

My nan and grandad was married for 70 years and got a card from the queen to congratulate them on there diamond wedding anniversary which is 60 years. They got together very young and my nan never worked much. She was a proper house wife and it worked. My granddad was a bricklayer

[@richardmackintosh2921]

Yep the good old days l think it would work better for me in those times,l'm a good provider non drinker,now with all the phyco games you need to be on top of it seems to go against my easy going nature

[@MansaMusa-v5q]

The old days was great but we have options they didn’t have an we must use it…..we just have to screen women better

[@debsday5445]

Fabulous ❤ my grandparents were together forever ❤ 😊 🇬🇧

[@davidr9589]

He was also a pipe layer

[@jimmanning4739]

"Treat them mean to keep them keen" Its true, I had one ex tell me I was too nice. I can`t be bothered at all any more lol Most of them are a pain. I like freedom. Good channel rich bang on. Jim

[@Shreadington]

Great points! Married 20yrs here and you're spot on. All those things you said to do I did/do them. It's kept our relationship healthy and strong.

[@9039josh]

how did you avoid becoming familiar and common when your married living together

[@Shreadington]

@@9039josh good question. We give each other space to do our own things. We've never smothered each other. She does things with her friends, I do things with mine, then we'll come together and do something. We've always had an environment where we're not dependent on each other for entertainment. However, when we are together we cherish that time. Hopefully that answers your question.

[@Shreadington]

@wordsmith4305 interesting question and thank you. On the physical, yes, but only because she doesn't go to the gym really any more. She's one of those women that never really had to- slim curvey petite. To address hypergamous, she's a Dr. We both went to college, make about the same income, live comfortably, nothing extravagant, and we're both frugal. She's a 7/8 on the crazy/hot matrix but what attracted me to her other than that was she could hold a sophisticated conversation and had similar values/beliefs. My ex was a high maintenance crazy/hot 9 lol. We're both first born so she does have a little alpha in her but is submissive with me. We're both independent in our own ways and that allows us to be ourselves in our relationship. I do my thing, she does hers, then we come together for each other. It's worked out quite well. Hope that answers your questions.

[@drecula25]

I'm happy to see this comment because I literally just commented, wondering were these tactics were sustainable in a marriage.. I understood duringbthe dating process but not during the marriage process..and you you just answered this for me. Thank you

[@AnthonyRodriguez-bc4xn]

I was a man and handled things by demanding. We had some arguments, but since then I've tried becoming more sensitive to her requests and trying to understand her. Our relationship has gone way down hill and she tried choking me. I called the cops instead of getting violent, and she now blames me for calling the cops. We go to therapy and talked about it and she doesn't understand what she did was an action that caused my action of calling the cops. We have 3 kids and a paid off house. Married men are screwed cause women can cheat, be violent, take half your shit. Then get a new dick and now that asshole is with my kids more then me.

[@GuillermoSanchez-fu2pu]

Here is the best advice I can give for everything in life. Obey God. Christ is Lord. Demons exist. So face them. The things of this world do not matter. I use to be like Rich just chasing my worldly desires. Money, women, businesses i got it all even a family and kids which i still have thankfully. I felt depressed nothing was ever enough. I found God and joined back into the catholic church. Now I'm at peace. Love you all hope this message reaches you ❤

[@thesonofalivinggod6782]

Follow only Jesus my brother Catholic is a man made religion follow the Bible only and find a Bible biliving church. God blessed

[@GuillermoSanchez-fu2pu]

@thesonofalivinggod6782 I love you, I was independent Christian until I read church history.

[@Jaydays818]

​@thesonofalivinggod6782 Catholics follow the teachings of Lord Jesus Christ, the apostles and the early church fathers as well. Mainstream Catholics, Protestants and Orthodox are all followers of Christ. You've been lied to unfortunately. I'd urge you to study scripture further as well as the didache, persiqta rabbati which has finally been translated into English as well as the earliest church history.

[@radseed9802]

You can't follow.Christ and go to a church, you missed the whole point. But again that's the delusion. Christ purpose wasn't to make gentiles and everyone religious because how did it work out for him and the Jews. Oh wait God was wrong us gentiles got it well show em... especially millenia and across the world, ya churches are what Christ intended sounds legit. How much cash do I bring?

[@jeffreyblanton9877]

People that down other peoples faith no matter how they find it are doing Satins work. If a man finds God and has faith in the atonement of Jesus Christ any true follower should rejoice. You shall know them by there fruits.

[@Asdfbedffhdsxe345]

I cancelled a wedding because of Rich…the most painful decision of my life!! But the right decision because I had a Beta mindset…church made me Beta lol… I’ve spent the last while dunking myself in freezing water, weight training, getting rid of unhelpful people in my life…taking my work underground, to stop falling into the wrong hands!!! Callusing my mind so I am never Mr nice guy again… I am friggin grateful to Rich.

[@bullfighter42]

How’s things going?

[@debsday5445]

Wow that's awesome 👌

[@Jeseyyy222]

Congrats on making the biggest mistake of your life

[@marguskiis7711]

are you happy now?. Ruined a woman`s life

[@Erick-di9gm]

Congrats man!

[@TheFarCenter]

Fantastic video Rich, I must take the time to read your book. Thank You.

[@FrauIndian]

I am a lady. He has stupendous advice. I also agree not to live with your significant other before marriage.

[@southpaw8040]

A person's hobbies, man or woman will tell you a lot about them.

[@bobjames6622]

Why do so many need a "significant other"? I've been single for 23 years, and couldn't be happier. The very LAST thing I need is some woman underfoot and getting in the way of what I truly value in life.

[@CF.]

@@bobjames6622good for you. Not everyone wants the same thing.

[@Erick-di9gm]

Not after marriage either.

[@bobjames6622]

@@CF. I agree that not everybody wants the same thing, and it would be an odd world if they did. But why does everybody assume that marriage/partnership is so wonderful when vast numbers of them end up in breakups with all the financial/family mess that brings with it? I think a lot of people actually just go along with it becuase they think that's what family/society expects of them.

[@Mike_Daddy]

Confidence and wisdom. That's all you need.

[@shanea9613]

Rich, great advice. I seem to come back to you everytime I have a relationship breakdown. Exercise is key to life, lift heavy things and feel good, meet girls at the gym and be happy and healthy.

[@danbaldry1925]

don’t do any of these things for a woman ‘to keep her’.. do it for yourself. lead yourself and you’ll lead her. if she doesn’t fall into line or strays then check that behaviour - if that doesn’t work there are plenty more wanting to be with you.

[@AsifLicious]

Rich, I agree with 9/10 of your points wholeheartedly but not living together seems a bit excessive to me. I love having a good woman at home, it’s one of the best feelings for me personally

[@localvintageplug]

Agree! How do you live apart when you want to have family?

[@nicberardino1087]

A lot of love brothers. Bless you all.

[@Spanglish360]

Awesome clip. A must watch for any guy that just got into an ltr. Keeping frame is one of the hardest things in a relationship

[@tatsumakisempyukaku]

10:06. “Women hate or dislike predictability”. Predictability is what? It’s another word for stability, and having certainty, and knowledge. It’s having routine, and so one has peace. To oppose this is to then prefer chaos?? What’s the opposite to peace, stability, certainty and knowledge? To have chaos in one’s life is to then, passed a certain point, invite a deconstructive element? I don’t think women are absolutely chaotic, but from my perspective they do appear to trend in that way. That is to say, if chaos and order are always juxtaposed to one another so as to be in some connected relation, then what would the ratio or proportions be for men generally of order:chaos, and of women? To be clear, an extremist is one who takes a position and does not allow an ounce of its opposite into his/her thinking.

[@TG-cr6fb]

My man showed me many times that I am replaceable, tired of feeling that way, and left him. Guess what he wants now “to start it over”. No way

[@RJ12347]

Everyone is replaceable

[@ivanlebedinskiy4145]

Yes, as if he didn’t tell you that, you wouldn’t leave. You would leave anyway, just faster.

[@Ricky-G99]

You definitely felt he wasn't 1000% serious about the possibility of leaving you, and here we go he came back asking to start it over 🤣 girls are masters of sensing feelings if you truly he was razor sharp about his ability to leave you you would've stick to him for life 🤣

[@TG-cr6fb]

@@Ricky-G99 you are right, it was a game for him and he won. I was just tired to feel like a piece of crap next to such a "high valuable man". And yes, I would stick to him and serve him the rest of my life but something cracked inside of me.

[@Ricky-G99]

@@TG-cr6fb Absolutely right the fact that you knew he's not laser sharp about his claims on his ability to immediately having access to other hotter women and not acting upon his claims and just desperately using that as a defence mechanism that made a perception of him as a bum in your eyes, compared to him not threatening you with absolutely anything and going straight to ruthless immediate action and actually bringing other women to his life that in itself would've created a sense of respect in you towards him as a man because he's absolutely not joking and actually going all in for his words instead of just flying statements that holds absolutely no value in your eyes

[@bmsd6192]

Just stumbled on your video super interesting and informative 💯💯💯🔥🔥🔥🔥

[@Darth-shaman]

Man, Rich is like the big brother I never had. This dude's advice has meaningfully changed my direction in life. Thx bro.

[@anthonysanders4010]

Been with my wife for 18 years, since we were 16. Married for 10 years. We have not spent ONE DAY apart since she turned 18 and moved in. We're obsessed. 2 kids, 1 on the way. Otherwise, everything else is beautifully put and i love your channel! 🎉❤😊

[@mayameir1757]

How is this even possible ?! What's your recipe 🎉

[@tetleyteabagger-bi4ny]

You got married at 16? You sound like a plugged in beta lol

[@Krogtheclown]

Ya most overweight women that don't workout are happy in there relationships

[@anthonysanders4010]

@Krogtheclown Sounds like something an insecure person would say. Especially with no real context. Keep watching these videos and you too one day will get laid, and maybe learn to spell... Maybe....

[@JeffCahill-tp8ik]

@@anthonysanders4010 He's too busy saving up to go to a Jordan Peterson event.

[@jrhamilton4448]

The health part is seriously important. Being fat and out of shape not only looks bad but it affects your sex life just like Rich said. You can't be a complete beast in the bedroom with her if after ten minutes you're out of breath and sweating like an informant on the witness stand, she's not gonna want to stay with you.

[@lovewhitey4462]

Sweating like an informant on the witness stand ✍🏻GOLD 😂

[@jrhamilton4448]

@@lovewhitey4462 Feel free to steal it my dude 😎

[@bigneiltoo]

When you get in shape you'll have an indentation where your abs meet your penis. That's to make room for the erection. When you have fat there it pushes down and prevents as strong an erection.

[@laroycenazario5528]

@@lovewhitey4462 It was 😂

[@andyng5321]

I once saw a clip about a fat guy hiring 2 prostitutes for a threesome but ended up unable to have sex with both of them much because having sex with one was already tiring enough LOL. Wasted his money.

[@tomnealeo]

"Treat them mean, Keep them keen"

[@TysonG11]

“act like ya been there before” as a great football coach once told me after scoring a touchdown

[@producermind9030]

I needed this man. More than you will ever know.

[@tkalaben]

Bro you are the shizz. Respect 🙏🏽 am 45 and picked up a lot.

[@theresedascoli3070]

EXCELLENT ADVICE - LOVE THIS GUY!

[@ErrorOptik]

The wife and I have been together for 12 years. We have sex most nights, we constantly dote over each other, we go out on dates once a month, I work full time 50-70 hrs a week, we met while I was in the Army. We have three kids now, live together. We’re both conservative minded. She is a trad wife, and we go to the gym together when I get home from work at decent hours. We watch a movie at night and drink wine after the kids go to bed. I’m not trying to brag, I’m just saying it is possible. I got lucky.

[@Erick-di9gm]

Yep got lucky is all.

[@PhotoLabMP]

This stuff is pretty much for the younger guys. There's no way that I'd meet a woman and act like i don't see her text message and not reply to her for a few hours later. I'm also not going to pretend like I'm an asshole just to keep a woman interested. If she likes guys that treat her like shit then that's her problem, not mine.

[@TheWitness10]

Simp.

[@2ndborn186]

No, it applies at all ages. I just turned 60 and I find that female nature is female nature. I have been told by female friends many times...if you want to keep a woman, treat her a little like shit. This is even more so as we get older. Good luck in your failed relationships. Just saying.

[@codylovelace2237]

Man you couldn't be more wrong.

[@VolatilityTradingStrategies]

I'm one of the rare happily married guys, and you're absolutely right, being absent and a little distant is key. A couple times a year I'll duck out for a couple months and go to another country by myself and work. And while I'm home with her, I'm so busy that there are several days a week where we may just have dinner and a few drinks, otherwise it's do my own thing. Honestly, men should be too busy anyway to hang out with their wife everyday in the house. You should have a life so busy that you simply don't have the time for her. Then when we do hang out, go golfing, go traveling, it's amazing. Most men just don't have much going on in their lives, and their wife ends up seeing him as a burden. She gets to the point like, why is this guy ALWAYS here? You have to actively create distance, and be so busy that she misses you. When she does get some of your time, she respects and enjoys it...

[@shanea9613]

I'm glad there are men like you in the world. I keep finding myself with a rotation of women but can't seem to find the one.

[@reddune6185]

I drive a semi so I’m not home three days a week. When I go home it’s 50 shades of 50 first dates and it’s fantastic. I also recommend a hidden Wi-Fi camera in the house and a tracker for her car, for her protection of course..

[@johntim3491]

​@@reddune6185sounds pretty toxic

[@johnanon658]

What im realizing is that this red pill content is important to a married man too.

[@mhaas281]

Same here, been married for 27 years. We've had our issues along the way but we are pretty good now.

[@NovaPrime77]

I'm downloading this! Thank you! 😎

[@judaspreece5318]

Rich… Just celebrated 20 years of marriage… We are still obsessed with eachother… After two decades sex is still pretty much nightly… I agree though… it is super rare.

[@Erick-di9gm]

Why are you here?

[@rahulsane8218]

Ohh dude!!😂 You made my day​@@Erick-di9gm

[@elsa_nyc]

Time apart is key. Both my husband and i travel for our work/business. Been successfully married for 20 years.

[@KJVII]

He gotta side piece

[@lovewhitey4462]

Like the movie 🎥 Up in the air ⚠️😉

[@michaelwhitman1247]

One of you or both are cheating

[@elsa_nyc]

@@michaelwhitman1247 you don't know either of us. Don't project your behavior on others.

[@anthonylogiudice9215]

@@KJVII So does she. HAHA

[@JudahForeverKingdom1727]

Everything you say works for me with 3 wives from the remote rural countries in Africa...living in my house in St 🇱🇨 Lucia the Caribbean Paradise. I am an indigenous King here.

[@BackwardshturT]

You in Africa or st Lucia

[@JudahForeverKingdom1727]

@@BackwardshturT ....where are YOU?

[@alphamale2641]

Great Video!!! This is the kind of advice and guidance that all men need to hear.

[@sluggo562]

Women don't just press you for more time together, their friends get in on speculating your motives and character as well. When I checked my ex's messages shortly before we split I saw she was having one conversation with one person where she was complaining she didn't see me enough and another conversation with someone else where she was complaining that I was over too often and it was overwhelming her. Same time same day, having both conversations. So that's first hand confirmation that when she's trying to check out she and her friends are always going to latch onto something and all they're trying to do is justify leaving. The reasons are usually not based in reality. It's better to get a coach with a more comprehensive perspective on where you can improve than to take you ex's perspectives and base your development on her feedback.

[@entrepreneursfinest]

You know there's some super good points and some real solid advice here. And I'd also say that some of it applies some of the time. Dynamics of a relationship change as you progress and have kids and have been happy together for ten years or so. That don't mean you can be complacent, but what a first year wife expects from her husband is wildly different ten years later. Expectation and the way it's fulfilled evolves. But this really isn't for folks that have solid families, it's for guys that haven't been able to find or sustain that so I get it.

[@michaelking4578]

Tell her, "you complete me" if you want her to break up with you.

[@mcorley9184]

You seem very objective and rational. Just so you are aware I am 48 and have been married for 17 years. I have 3 sons with my wife. I have what you say doesn’t exists. I am happy with my life all though happiness is an emotion and emotions are transient. I know it is rare, but it exists. I met my wife when I was 29 in my first year of residency and she was 23 year old dental assistant. I had a high level of success w females from the time I was 15 until I met my wife. I still get approached from time to time by women from their 20s into 40s. No one would ever guess I was a physician if they see me on the street. My wife and I have a sex life as active and fulfilling as when she was 23. I work a lot but live with my family.

[@shanea9613]

That's awesome. Well done sir. People like you give people hope. 👍

[@arnaldo1124]

Congratulations!,. You belong to that small percentage,.. most of people do not have what you have...

[@mcorley9184]

Thank you. I know I am very blessed to have a wife I am attracted to, trust and respect who has those same feelings towards me. That being said it requires continuous discipline and hard work to continue to be the man deserving of my family’s respect and trust. That journey has no end, but there is nothing in the world more rewarding for me. Understanding it is a gamble, since I am only in control of 50% of the relationship. Would not be possible with out God’s help.

[@d.l4055]

Excellent counsel 20:27 that applies throughout a "Solid" relationship. Much like bragging rights, if You have to constantly reiterate Your position You don't have it.

[@jim-se5xc]

Why the inverted commas around, solid?

[@jamesmarchetti3286]

Most excellent Video this is !!! With simple and general overall information in a nutshell that I wish I knew to start with instead of eventually learning the hard and doing !!! And I liked and Subscribed !!!

[@78ULTRAMAR]

High value content 👌

[@gretchenburton7184]

Trust, loyalty, shared values, mutual interests, merging hearts and souls, spiritual union, mutual love and respect for animals, celebrate and respect each others talents and gifts, honor the wounds. The business aspects need to be able to be handled by each as if anyrhing happens the other partner needs to step in and carry on. The foundation. The paetnership becomes an entity.

[@majorprotx3363]

Why would you want another person "obsessed" with you? Some.of you must've never experienced that before. It's not a pleasant experience at all. It comes with extreme paranoia, sometimes violence, stalking, vandalism and borderline psychotic behavior. Be careful what you wish for, especially when it comes to playing with someone else's emotions. Especially a woman's. Just be a thorough man, be yourself and let the chips fall where they fall from there.

[@Mista_Paaarka]

#BPD / #NPD ... You tell 'em, bro-bro. They REALLY don't want that kinda 'crazy' in their lives ... 'Crazy coochie' ain't even worth the troubles 💯😎👌🏽 Trust.

[@angelrivera6915]

Great video thank you Rich

[@mrbabyhugh]

12:20 i said it earlier, so here it goes.... for the first 2-3yrs of that relationship there were zero issues. She pushed for us to live together, I was hesitant, I felt we weren't ready yet, maybe another year. Anyway, it happened, and within 6 months it all fell apart. So, if it is NOT MARRIAGE, do NOT live together.

[@dougshepherd319]

Appreciate you brother. God bless you my friend 🙏😎

[@reesejohnson2788]

10:36 Living with a women and her seeing your routine is the crux of most of this. You have to be somewhat monotonous and disciplined to get somewhere in life. 12:35 I see that you mentioned it here. Spot on Rich, spot on!

[@mrbabyhugh]

3:15 thing is, it is PRIMAL for women to desire male presence and they NEED to desire it. Go way back, men are providers & protectors and how did they do that? GO OUT TO HUNT AND/OR FIGHT WARS. This most times took days, weeks, months SOME EVEN YEARS. Women NEEEEED to yearn for male presence and if you just GIVE IT TO THEM they will fall out of their NATURAL STATE and reject you. So even when married, you NEED to create space between... go off on a business trip for at least a week. And yes, many are concerned she will go to another man, that will not happen once you keep your masculine frame, she submissive and when you do give her your time, MAKE SURE IT IS THE BEST TIME THAT SHE DOESN'T WANT TO JEOPARDIZE OF LOSING if she gets caught cheating. When a woman cheats, she literally doesn't care if she gets caught, so if she CARES she will NOT cheat.

[@steelstreet3765]

How did couples manage to Stay together from 40 or 50 years ago? It seems it's a different game and rules now

[@ZZTOPGUY1]

Morals. Sadly most people today have none.

[@shaneashby5890]

The way they stayed together and the reason marriages worked back then was because men were masculine and women were feminine. Women were traditional and both genders played their gender roles. If a woman was divorced society would shame her and no man would want her. And a woman literally couldn’t survive without a husband. That’s why marriages worked back then.

[@asdfdc1946]

women had morals back then, before feminism unleashed the "sexual liberation" movement onto the world. now 80% of women are 304's. religion & lack of social media kept women's hypergamy in check. now they have unlimited options & they make no effort to make a connection with anyone who isn't chad. women will replace any man who gives them "the ick" at the drop of a hat. since women are so fickle & leave marriages 80% of the time, divorce extort men, men simply don't get married anymore. everyone is indulged in hookup culture & dating has devolved into 1 night stand, ghost, rinse repeat. this is how women wanted it to be, so it is what it is.

[@Astuga]

You will hardly find this with todays generations and culture. My parents married being 23 and 19 years old. My father was a chad (like people today call it) but he was also faithful to my mother, he already had his "wild years" before marriage and that was that (and he took an advice to heart from my grandfather: Never hook up with a girl that would make you feel ashamed or embarassed if she gets pregnant). He was the first and only man of my mother. I was born one year after their marriage. They both had a rocky childhood (especially my father), both having lost their mother at a young age. They built up their family owned business together, working side by side for almost 50 years. Only interrupted when my mother stayed at home for 3 years after I was born. When my father did get sick in his early 70's my mother took care of him, even though not having the best health herself. Not saying they didn't had their issues over the years, but the only thing both regretted was spending too much time working even at their later years and deffering many things they had planned to do. Today I can try being the man my father was, but I don't expect also finding a high value woman. They were a rare breed even back then. But I believe, their story tells some basic truths about how such a relationship may work: Mary young (if ever) - but choose well, follow a common goal, be family oriented, be loyal, stay humble. Hold frame.

[@cbxxb4841]

Tragically most women today, the ones who embrace modern values (or lack thereof), are simply not worth the effort. In the past this was not so true so a guy felt motivated to make the effort. Each person appreciated the other and gladly did what they could for them (ie: cared for each other).

[@humano1196]

Thanks for the advice. I appreciate your straight shooting.

[@osuk1]

By postmodern woman's dating standards even billionaires are replaceable e.g Gates, Bezos,Elon etc It is easier to just go your own way.😊

[@cameronjohn604]

Might be true. Key word "easier." Men who seek an easy life are generally not men. Men are designed to fight, conquer, and do hard stuff. Has been that way for thousands of years. Pull up your socks bro and quit being a puss. And stop using smiley faces. Cheers.

[@gregj1241]

That just proves that money isn't everything

[@sidearmsalpha]

@@gregj1241 It is when they can walk away with half of it.

[@jtstachsag7564]

I told my girl to have fun when she TOLD me she was going out last night. That's it..."have fun". My phone has been blowing up all morning that I "insinuated" that she did something wrong. Lol. Up to 10 LONG texts now that I haven't answered. I really don't give a shit. I didn't take her drama bait and she is losing her shit. Crazy. But a good sheet burner. Let her freak out.

[@steelstreet3765]

I love positive videos on how to be a better man and how to keep her

[@BWater-yq3jx]

Notable that most of those points will make your life better, with or without a woman.

[@mrbabyhugh]

4:15 doing work from home is the WORST thing a man can do when living with a woman, even if she works outside the home. She KNOWS where you are, that does NOT work for them, they NEED to wonder. So even if you work from home, if you honestly dont have an outside project to work out, GO TO A CAFÉ & WORK FROM THERE. I learned this first hand, I am a work from home, started to live with a girl and listen, 6 months in it all started to go bad after 2-3 years straight of ZERO ISSUES.

[@mikeguardian9840]

Great video and appreciate the information.

[@popart7722]

Look Rich, my wife and I are together 24/7, we have 3 kids from our previous marriages and are super happy. What you say is true however. My wife never knows what we are doing when she wakes up. A car rally, or lunch/dinner out or a movie. I never tell her plans in advance,unless its a need to know thing so she can pack accordingly. I have never heard “No” in the bedroom and she is compliant in my wishes in that regard. That being said, I absolutely agree that there needs to be some “mystery”. We don’t share a bathroom and my wife has always been complimentary on my hygiene. I know these sound like little things but I am going on 10 years with her and we are very happy. Lastly, keep it interesting in the bedroom. Listen to her and figure out her buttons. Not only for her but for yourself. You will catch her staring at you and touching you all the time.

[@LadyJane222]

You’re a good man! Lucky wife!😊👏

[@Erick-di9gm]

Too bad your career took a dump!

[@defilerwolf]

You know, after hearing all of this, it just doesn't seem worth the time to even bother trying to get a nice GF.

[@Yahuahyahushuahruachhakodesh]

YOU NEED TO LOVE YOURSELF FIRST BEFORE SOMEONE ELSE CAN LOVE YOU. ENERGY IS EVERYTHING. ENERGY DOES NOT LIE.

[@ThePelos377]

Body and mind go together. Look good feel good. Thank you Rich 😊

[@mrbabyhugh]

2:40 exactly. just today a girl who been at me for a bit, last time she contact i took her hint and set up a meet up, that's 2 weeks ago, i am overseas. So she did a "hey, hope all is well". i gave her 2 RESPONSES, then stopped, i have not read her last message. THIS KEEPS HER WANTING MORE. Mistake men make is, OMG she messaged/called me and start texting/chatting to her none stop, NO, DO NOT DO THAT. She KNOWS you are busy once you made her know, she is making contact to you to let you know she is thinking about you, GREAT, now do NOT give her too much of you, especially in our situation, she gotta wait until I get there. What she did last contact was sent me a screenshot from her social profile about something we discussed last time we SAW each other. So I didnt even respond to it, I set up the date AND LEFT IT AT THAT.

[@bluestorm9651]

As far as absence goes, I don't think that absence makes the heart grow fonder. What's happening is is if the person is attracted to you they are going to miss you. If someone doesn't really give a crap about you they're not going to care of your absent or not. Absence is a way to find out if you're even liked at all.

[@darrellphy7128]

You have to give the girl a good experience and be absent. Because than she remembers how much fun she had with you and can’t wait for the next time. Because you’re not there is the reason why she’s thinking about you .

[@IAMBENNYBLANCO.]

Great content!

[@philjones4903]

I followed your book to the T. Found a lady about my age 78 she is 72. I was not really into Romance yet. We rode bikes together and went to dinner several times. On Sunday after a museum and lunch she noted how we would spend the week together. Hike on Monday, bike on Tuesday and Thursday and help her pick up an new bike. Grea😅😅t plan. Monday am text message. You are not my match for romance. Ok. I sent her a bill for the funds I had spent. 60 days down the drain. Getting dropped by text is not cool.

[@realman1349]

You need to get yourself a younger woman OG.

[@strangerdanger8462]

She did you a favor. Good riddance. Just goes to show that no matter the age, the software is still the same.😂

[@ernestagyemang-botchway108]

You are amazing ..thank you.

[@bbahunter6436]

Makes it sound like you have to fight to keep a woman. My take: She want's to leave, let her and you find a different kind of woman.

[@edwardjohnson1975]

Great video rich

[@PinkHydrangea]

I had a few men obsessed with me and I hated them for it. Obsession is for crazy people.

[@zurichgnome6073]

Sales bro guys like Rich Cooper only know how to talk in superlatives. They have no idea how tedious they actually are, and never will since they all self-select into an affluent homegenized circle jerk.

[@railwayman2274]

Some excellent observations of women.

[@brendanalfo411]

If you don't live together does that translate in paying her rent after a while?

[@s.g.3737]

exceptional message

[@vladlozanovski5498]

Listened 7 min of this video and would be a subscriber for life! The value you packed in this short video is pure gold! 👏

[@conroy1969]

You always nail it

[@xWinnersCirclex]

This is why relationships were so much more “solid” back in the day… in the early 90s and also the years leading up to that, men were always away at work, out hunting, out doing manly shit. They’d sometimes go days or weeks without seeing their wives or significant other. Today, men are spending way to much time at home or with their girlfriends, back then men didn’t have time to spend time with their wives cause they were out at sea traveling and conquering or hunting or hustling, these days men “work from home” and are infront of their girls 24/7. This makes complete sense to me as to why things have changed so much in modern relationships and why they fail so often.

[@jahlonreid2789]

All facts big bro!!! 💯

[@rolandmueller7218]

Absence makes the heart grow fonder. That’s the good part of being in an LDR.

[@gsp1634]

Yeah you are getting cheated on too best believe

[@rolandmueller7218]

@@gsp1634 No, I don’t think so. Some women and men can and do cheat, but not in this case. At least, definitely not in the past 2 years.

[@gsp1634]

@@rolandmueller7218 sure keep telling yourself that buddy

[@rolandmueller7218]

@@gsp1634LOL! You’re either jealous or believe all women are evil.

[@ahmedfarms-zq7cg]

Every man is an Alpha round a woman he doesn’t want and a beata around a woman he loves…every once in a while

[@codylovelace2237]

Your very wrong. Quit being a simp

[@swoodc]

Thankyou so much for this

[@percy_albuquerque]

Great tips 🎉

[@almaghnatees]

Maybe what I will say may not be applicable since I’m Muslim. But seriously guys you need to set firm boundaries. You get what you tolerate. And by firm boundaries it involves ultimatums. And btw you have to be direct transparent and serious from the get go (1st meeting) before you sink into some sort of commitment. If she is a good person she will VERY respect you. If she’s a boss girl etc mumbojumbo stuff, then good riddance. Don’t give into her own cravings and temptations because it’s a trap. Women change their minds faster than you change your socks. Training wise I would train like a goalkeeper. Being a goalkeeper myself I can tell you our training combines the best of agility explosivity endurance and strength and it’s hella tough. And the good thing about it is that you can easily move into any combat sport of your choice because if the fitness you have gained. I prefer wrestling because it has some of the agility based movements I used to do as a goalkeeper.

[@almaghnatees]

@@mattthx50 absolutely not 😂

[@almaghnatees]

@featherfashion8065 well I don’t think the problem is them more than it is you. At least they don’t undervalue themselves and rightly so. You overvalue yourselves all the time and no one is telling you not to. Tbf they dodged a bullet. Plus we have different rules and a way of thinking than western secularists. Hence why I said that because of my background it might not necessarily apply because we have a different way of defining relationships in general.

[@nelsongoncalves5379]

Excellent point

[@Prometeus34]

She may be obsessed with you for a while, and still cheats eventually, way too many options for these women not to cheat nowadays.

[@michaelwhitman1247]

💯

[@pathforwardcreatives]

If you aren't doing anything to improve yourself and your overall status in the world then this is true. If you are just going to stay the same and remain average then her getting bored with you and leaving is inevitable.

[@Prometeus34]

@@pathforwardcreatives you are right, the point i am trying to make is regardless of whether she is obsessed or not. The goal is to be the best version of yourself at any point of your life. Do not go out of your way to make her obsessed. Live your life whether she stays or leave.

[@shaymalchione809]

Choose wisely

[@cameronjohn604]

Just don't pick trash women. Done.

[@robertvantassel102]

Good video .. Thankbyou

[@sleepytimeshecomes]

after not dating for a long time I found someone to spend time with, ended up doing everything wrong 100%. Talk about a complete and utter embarrassment for me. Eventually I came to my senses and sent her on her way. Either way I'm so much more aware now about how to deal with women, which is better late than never. Never again!

[@oldman9154]

47 years.still great together .

[@rambojohnj.6117]

The biggest issue: women are estrogen=emotion that changes minute-to minute. The grass is always greener on the other side. If Giselle left Tom Brady, what chances do a normal guy have? The key: Be indifferent to women… If they want to stay, cool. If they want to leave, cool. Even if your world would come crashing down if she left, don’t ever let her know that. Voila.

[@HanktheTank221]

Does not matter what you do, long term they will get bored with you and chisel away at you until they have friend zoned you and no longer want you.

[@kastaway2]

wow.

[@malcolmhayward4431]

Correct

[@realman1349]

I would not be with a woman who is so controlling and uncaring that she would try to prevent me from taking a nap. A high level former pro athlete tolerates this?

[@risefromyourpain]

Any woman that doesn’t understand the benefits of a nap is plain ignorant.

[@josephwk8757]

In Germany it's normal to move in together and live together for several years until they get married. Almost all my friends and relatives have done that and lived 5 years it more together before getting married.

[@thomasmulhall4873]

The best relationships that I have ever been part of were ones where I almost never saw her. It was lovely.

[@jaytan915]

If you are a man who is responsible and competent, you will tend to be capable, dependable and taken for granted. You may be passionate, dangerous and a firebrand but you also understand the compounding benefit of doing small things for a long time. That runs the hazard of being viewed as predictable and boring but I tend to think that is in a good way.