Hey Brian, I just stumble on this video while scrolling and honestly this is what I'm trying to do not only in menswear aspect but also all aspects in my life. Now unlike some refined gentlemen here who has grown thick skin to deal with haters, I'm a big guy with big feelings and highly sensitive person. When you say that it hurts, it truly hurts. It's also sucks because I want to better up my game and stay authentic as the way I am but on the other hand insults and bullies are everywhere and they often try to make me look bad. I just graduated college and about to enter workforce and honestly it can be terrifying for soft person like me to go because I've heard countless times that people in workforce are more evil and ferocious when it comes to bring people down. I just hope that by sharing this comment I can relate to some people here because I notice that HSS community is one of the best when it comes to support each other. Be nice and respectful and hopefully everyone can get along very well. Greetings from your not so new subscriber 😊
@hespokestyle4 жыл бұрын
Wow. Thank you so much for being brave enough to share that with me and everyone else here. You have a great mindset and I hope I can continue to inspire you to do your best. I am humbled by your comment and to have you as a subscriber.
@nukie4044 жыл бұрын
I would classify myself as a big guy with big feelings and being highly sensitive as well. Dealing with haters/complaints/negative comments really suck. I think with age, experience and practice, your skin does grow a little thicker (I'm assuming you're in your early~mid 20s from your comment on just graduating college). I just wanted to say that there will always be someone picking on your scabs until they break through, but on the other hand there are a lot of respectful and helpful people in the world just waiting to cheer you on. The former group, the bullies and haters, are people who don't know how to deal with their own negative emotions and would rather drag down others to their level instead of using that energy to better themselves. So it is difficult I know, but try not to let the pain deter too long, focus on those things that matter, and I'm sure you're going to do well! With that, I wish you the very best on your new professional journey and your journey through menswear! - Han
@arsarcanum11234 жыл бұрын
@@hespokestyle Thanks for your support, and wow this is the first time I got my comment pinned. Really shows that you do care to your viewers, glad to be here 😊
@arsarcanum11234 жыл бұрын
@@nukie404 Thank you for your support and wisdom, hope we can get through this together
@arthurcatalanotto11514 жыл бұрын
Hopefully they will raise their standards. Or if needed and possible, surround yourself with better people.
@MariaCruz-lp2ki4 жыл бұрын
" The higher we soar, the smaller we appear to those who cannot fly" Nietzsche
@hespokestyle4 жыл бұрын
Cheers.
@hlonirapatsa64752 жыл бұрын
Danmmm❤️🔥❤️🔥❤️🔥❤️🔥
@janwilkins50874 жыл бұрын
In a society filled with people who look like they just rolled out of bed it is refreshing to see men dressed with dignity and respect for others.
@hespokestyle4 жыл бұрын
Thanks for chiming in, Jan!
@jayhails3064 жыл бұрын
The vulnerability you show here is a) endearing and b) validating to the rest of us. Thanks for making this one, Brian.
@hespokestyle4 жыл бұрын
You're very welcome, Jay. This channel is about you guys!
@jaxtheripper96634 жыл бұрын
Them: “What, are you trying to show off or something?” Me: “No, I’m just trying to make you look bad.” 🔥🔥🔥
@hespokestyle4 жыл бұрын
Burn!
@ForTheLoveOfSuits4 жыл бұрын
Passive aggressive comments reveal so much about their insecurities rather than anything to do with you. When you realise that it makes criticism so much fun to deal with. How you deal with it depends on the person and the situation but if you don’t take it personally and just analyse their comment it so easy to see their weakness and deal with it. It really makes you bullet proof.
@hespokestyle4 жыл бұрын
Thanks for that, Michael!
@JR-ch3ez4 жыл бұрын
“Stay focused, stay motivated, and ignore the boos because those are coming from the cheap seats.” Say it again for the people in the back, Unc!!!👏👏👏
@hespokestyle4 жыл бұрын
Thanks, as always, for the comment.
@MrShinobi7974 жыл бұрын
Number 11 : Don’t give other people’s opinions of you, more value than your own opinions about yourself. Good content Brian!! 👌🏾
@hespokestyle4 жыл бұрын
💪🏻💪🏻💪🏻
@BrockMcGoff4 жыл бұрын
Nice pocket square, Brian. Where’d you get it...Italy? Whatdoya think you’re better than us or soMoeThiNg? Great video 😉
@hespokestyle4 жыл бұрын
Hahahaha! Cheers, Brock.
@glorykwok9194 жыл бұрын
Brock dropping by😀!!!
@quietatse4 жыл бұрын
As the saying goes "when you start getting haters then you know you've arrived"
@hespokestyle4 жыл бұрын
Can’t please everyone.
@taylordottie58583 жыл бұрын
Your comments are SO valid! Ever since I lost weight, started dressing better, went vegan and working on my poetry, I've been encountering a lot of haters! Sometimes I want to curse them out, but like you said, it's better not to react. I've realized that when people hate on you you must be doing something right!
@thewiseguy67504 жыл бұрын
Laughed so hard with the thumbs down comment 😂
@hespokestyle4 жыл бұрын
It's funny because it's true.
@derosa19894 жыл бұрын
@@hespokestyle maybe he's Australian, it's a thumbs up from down under?
@hespokestyle4 жыл бұрын
@derosa1989 😂
@brentl.vaneaton69014 жыл бұрын
Funny, yeah I noticed that too...🤔 BTW, not me 😂
@hespokestyle4 жыл бұрын
Brent L. Van Eaton I’m positive it is NOT you!
@rlejano4 жыл бұрын
Dealing with haters as a real gentleman should. Thanks Brian, for sharing this.
@hespokestyle4 жыл бұрын
You're welcome, Raul. There's an approach for everyone in this video, I believe.
@Betheother4 жыл бұрын
One line i always loved” i never take criticisms from someone that i would not ask for there opinion or advice”
@hespokestyle4 жыл бұрын
Nice. I like that.
@robertschneider21894 жыл бұрын
I had one of those insults from a colleague once. I offered to take him shopping. He thought about it and said OK. Amother well dressed colleage and I changed his look, and his attitude. View the insult as an invitation. This is an excellent video, like all your videos. Thank you
@hespokestyle4 жыл бұрын
Yup, what usually happens is that you end up leading by example. I've seen that MANY times personally.
@ib43454 жыл бұрын
Thank you for this vid. I live in a very informal country, most of the time, men here dress in a shabby T, shorts, and flipflops. About a year ago, I decided to step up my game and started dressing with a lot more style. It felt true. It felt right. Needless to say, I got my share of haters... I have never let it discourage me and your channel has been an amazing source of inspiration and encouragement. Thank you, Brian.
@hespokestyle4 жыл бұрын
So glad to hear that! I appreciate your continued support!
@gabmano48774 жыл бұрын
"Confront your enemies, avoid them when you can, a gentleman will walk but never run".
@hespokestyle4 жыл бұрын
Good one!
@bryanholleran42754 жыл бұрын
That’s a quote for Sun Tsu
@HR-kf9sx Жыл бұрын
These are all great ideas. My personal hit back strategy is, "I'm sure that one day you'll find a man that dresses just the way you like". I dress well for me. What other people think is incidental meaningless. Please keep the videos coming. They're great!
@hespokestyle Жыл бұрын
LOL. Thanks for the support.
@francisheperi41803 ай бұрын
My mother's side of the family like to dress well and so do I. When my grandfather died, I inherited his cravats and walking sticks. I was not very good at handling hurtful criticisms about the conservative way I sometimes liked to dress but I did find a sort of outlet to sometimes wear or use these items, together with an overcoat, when I walked to attend mass on Sundays, in the winter months. Older and wiser now, I can cope with the odd disparaging remarks with humour, and wear attire from my select little wardrobe with confidence and pride. Watching from New Zealand, subscribed, like your material and reading the comments' section.
@derosa19894 жыл бұрын
I"m Canadian, we are well known for "tall poppy syndrome", tendency for some to criticize those who stand out. Take it as a compliment indeed!
@hespokestyle4 жыл бұрын
Ah, I wasn't aware that was a Canadian attribute!
@Retired_Gentleman4 жыл бұрын
@@hespokestyle As a Canadian myself I wasn't aware of this trait either.
@hespokestyle4 жыл бұрын
RPM like how I learned from Justus that Germans complained a lot!
@Retired_Gentleman4 жыл бұрын
@@hespokestyle Hmmmm...I'd not say I've known Germans to be complainers either but it may just be perspective. Canadians are known for being polite (unless it's a hockey game) and for apologizing often which I'm sorry about.
@hespokestyle4 жыл бұрын
@@Retired_Gentleman Hahahaha. I was surprised too. But Justus (and others) assure me that it is a real thing.
@rjgiddings4 жыл бұрын
Haters gonna hate. Not slowing me down even a bit. Thanks Brian for touching on this topic.
@hespokestyle4 жыл бұрын
Needed to be done.
@michaelmetler63154 жыл бұрын
My favorite answer to Why are you dressed like that? Is My Star fleet uniform is at the cleaners.
@hespokestyle4 жыл бұрын
Haha. That's funny. Thanks for the comment, Michael!
@martitalafantastica4 жыл бұрын
I am going to steal that one ....lol
@mankulo20484 жыл бұрын
He teaches me style. I rock the streets of Nairobi Kenya. Thanks to Brian sacawa
@hespokestyle4 жыл бұрын
Yes! Do it with confidence, Man. Regarding your email... The best advice I can give you is to continue to watch the videos here on the channel. You'll learn just about everything you're asking for!
@stuarthb89004 жыл бұрын
"Why are you wearing a suit? What's the occasion, have you got a court hearing?" " No, just a regular Thursday."
@hespokestyle4 жыл бұрын
Hahaha. Love it. Cheers, Stuart. However, this WAS filmed on a Monday night.... :)
@stuarthb89004 жыл бұрын
@@hespokestyle that's your fault for taking so long to release it for us all 😉
@hespokestyle4 жыл бұрын
@@stuarthb8900 Hey, man, we do our best! :) Next three are already in the can. Ian started hating on me for the quick turnaround asks! LOL
@villegas244 жыл бұрын
The worst thing is when the comments come from someone close to you
@hespokestyle4 жыл бұрын
If they're super negative and meant to hurt, for sure.
@altr.4 жыл бұрын
Yeah, I feel the same and it really sucks. I had to cut ties with all of my classmates from high school because of this. I honestly feel better and relieved to get that burden off my shoulders.
@villegas244 жыл бұрын
@@altr. yup, it definitely feels good when you get rid of those toxic "friends"
@altr.4 жыл бұрын
@@villegas24 totally, dude! I honestly became stronger by dealing with toxicity. Kind of weird now that I write it out like this, but kind of cool lol
@ThunderRazorYT4 жыл бұрын
Soberingly we are all truly alone. What that means about comments is yeah, it is really about the person making the comment, not the object of the comment. If someone calls another person ugly it means they are sensitive about their own appearance. When they hate on me dressing well I know it is them feeling insecure about their fashion, their style, their disposable income, etc. So it can hurt, but I feel their hurt too, which like you said can be an opportunity to connect. Awesome video. Thanks for the words and advice.
@hespokestyle4 жыл бұрын
You’re very welcome. And thanks to you for the very thoughtful comment.
@josuebatistta96464 жыл бұрын
I really needed this video, Brian. In high school, I had problems with bullying and dressing well it was the way I found to improve my confidence. I am very grateful for this video. Thank you for, with your content making us stronger, more elegant, educated and why not better human beings? thank you sir. Greetings from Brazil
@hespokestyle4 жыл бұрын
You're so welcome, Josué. I appreciate you taking the time to comment and am happy that you enjoy the content here. All of these things tie together so I thought this was an important video to make.
@andyjarvis14894 жыл бұрын
Hi Brian, Another great video. I have always been self conscious about how I look and what others think of what I am wearing. Your channel has given me the confidence to not care and to wear what makes me feel good about myself. Thanks.
@hespokestyle4 жыл бұрын
Many thanks, Andy. Appreciate your continued support. More to come!
@quadre20024 жыл бұрын
I’ve had a lot of people say to me throughout my style journey “Oh why are you so dressed up” and I simply say: I’m not dressed up. You are not.
@hespokestyle4 жыл бұрын
Nice. Like it.
@Agerskiold4 жыл бұрын
Great that you get around this very real side of the 'matter'. The first time I was wearing my new Allen Edmonds PA. And old friend walked by on the street. I smiled and said hello - He gave me the 'elevator' look - scanned me in a second and he actually froze, starring right out in the air. Precisely at that moment I knew I had 'done',.......something. 😉
@hespokestyle4 жыл бұрын
Haha, nice! Thanks for the comment, Hans!
@Agerskiold4 жыл бұрын
He Spoke Style You are welcome 🙏🏻
@e-rod82654 жыл бұрын
Brian you are the man bro another great video. There is nothing worse for a hater than just ignore them . Their comment dies right where it begins because there is no follow up from you.
@hespokestyle4 жыл бұрын
Thank yuh so much. Appreciate the support!
@zefdin1012 жыл бұрын
Great video Brian, thanks. About 2-3years ago I went to buy new pair of shoes and I really got into the weeds of it as far as quality, style, price, etc and the mix of them all and this led me on an incredible (life changing) journey and I made a dedication to myself to up my shoe game and the nice shoes (of course) warrant a better wardrobe.. lol.. At the start, I received many of the comments you mentioned and it is a blow to your psyche when friends & co-workers say those things.. yes. You need to put them in perspective and a couple years later here I am and people take it for granted that I always dress well.
@plappin4 жыл бұрын
Brian, I also think it's important to recognize that things are tough for a lot of folks right now and, as you can see in the media, people are upset and prone to lashing out. As you mention, the criticism usually has nothing at all to do with you. Keep up the great work!
@hespokestyle4 жыл бұрын
Thanks for chiming in, Peter! And wilco!
@plappin4 жыл бұрын
@@hespokestyle I just learned a new acronym! ;)
@hespokestyle4 жыл бұрын
@@plappin One of my favorite Army terms. Here's another: ack. Love sending that as a reply. Means acknowledged.
@unknowninfinium43534 жыл бұрын
Brian, when you mentioned jiu Jitsu. I remembered Martial Arts and world of UFC which bought me to Connor McGregor. He used to were suits and dress sharp. Oftentimes wearing bright bold outlandish colors. In an interview he said that it's all part of the mental warfare. He dresses up so everyone he faces agaisnt feels like they are facing a guy who has everything set in life, both in the cage and outside. His level of dressing was so sharp off stage too that naturally it opened him a lot of opportunities. No one can deny the importance of dressing up and it goes well with your points. Now because of him every other UFC fighter is dressing up.
@hespokestyle4 жыл бұрын
Indeed, Akshay. That's what it's all about.
@lordrandal904 жыл бұрын
Living well is the best revenge.
@hespokestyle4 жыл бұрын
Thanks for chiming in!
@SartorialStyles4 жыл бұрын
A great video about a very important topic! I never really faced a lot of hate from people about me dressing up, but the few hate I indeed faced was pretty hard to deal with because I do not have anyone in my peer group with the same passion. That's actually something social media helped me with - even though it mostly does the exact opposite by showing us perfection that can never be achieved in reality to that point. But being part of a community with likeminded people (may it be Facebook Style Groups, Instagram, this comment section or at this point even real friends in other countries I was able to make) really boosted my confidence and kept me going on this journey.
@hespokestyle4 жыл бұрын
So awesome to hear. And appreciate you sharing that. Your point about social media is interesting. Personally, I feel like Instagram is the devil when it comes to confidence and feeling good about yourself. I honestly do not like the platform for those reasons. I don't follow the people you might "think" I would follow because I would sometimes be measuring myself up and that was 1) unhealthy and 2) not a productive use of time. Focus on yourself and you'll be better off.
@SartorialStyles4 жыл бұрын
@@hespokestyle I could not agree more! On the other hand, I started creating content on Instagram a couple of months ago and some people seem to like it. Same applies to you in a much bigger scale. That boosts confidence again!
@hespokestyle4 жыл бұрын
@@SartorialStyles Awesome!
@farshidrahmani62624 жыл бұрын
Great advices! My respond to why you dress up during SIP? “ you never know who you’re going to FaceTime today” Cheers 🥂
@hespokestyle4 жыл бұрын
Nice! Thanks, as always, for the comment, Farshid.
@Angell_Lee11 ай бұрын
You look AMAZING and thank you for sharing xo
@carlossa2414 жыл бұрын
Muchas gracias por tus consejos!!
@hespokestyle4 жыл бұрын
You're very welcome, Carlos. Thanks for the comment!
@noneofyourbusiness92304 жыл бұрын
An easy response is just to ask them if they feel better about themselves now. It makes them look bad without making you look bad
@hespokestyle4 жыл бұрын
Don't you feel like that is a bit passive aggressive? Usually doesn't play so well, in my experience.
@noneofyourbusiness92304 жыл бұрын
@@hespokestyle I honestly never thought about it coming across as passive aggressive. I just thought about it as pointing out the obvious reasons for their comment without getting into a altercation. It's always been a quick situation ender for me at least.
@hespokestyle4 жыл бұрын
@@noneofyourbusiness9230 Hey, stick with what works!
@RS-yr6im4 жыл бұрын
The key is being calm with confidence. As long as you are not hurting anyone, have the freedom to be what you are and what makes you happy.
@hespokestyle4 жыл бұрын
Amen
@christiangovig58994 жыл бұрын
Luckily I don't get hate as often as I get compliments but it does happen occasionally. I have developed some answers since people tend to say the same things like "Why do you wear a suit and tie?" or "Why are you always so dressed up?" and I typically just say things like "Why don't you wear a suit? Why don't you dress up?" It also seems that older people really like my style since I'm a teenager and I am keeping this tradition alive. I just dress the way I like and I'm not going to change that for anyone. Wear what you like y'all.
@hespokestyle4 жыл бұрын
Keep it up, Christian!
@andreleverettejr37472 жыл бұрын
Had a friend one time ask me to dress down because his wife was going to be where we were going. I did so but still presentable and even asked for his approval of the outfit by sending him a picture to be a good gentleman (he approved).Later on he came up to me and said his wife was still talking about how well dressed I was and why he couldn't look like me, lmfao he still doesn't want to hang out with me but I actually have felt flattered this entire time I told him hey just ask for some advice and improve your wardrobe. He hasn't done so yet even though he knows what she likes, yeah he's been demoted to associate solely based on that, can't respect a man that can't bend just a tiny bit to his wife's obtainable and easy to change wish.
@1MAAD13 жыл бұрын
My new favourite KZbin channel. Thankes.
@hespokestyle3 жыл бұрын
Thanks! Welcome.
@laurentcosson33604 жыл бұрын
Great content, well thought. It is true for dressing well, but can actually apply to many occasions where you are facing criticism overall. Well put, cher Brian. Thank you.
@hespokestyle4 жыл бұрын
Yes, exactly. Thank you so much for the comment, Laurent. As always.
@kenneth78264 жыл бұрын
Brian...you are making good points..
@colinsmith52184 жыл бұрын
The best advice I have had for any kind of leadership
@hespokestyle4 жыл бұрын
💪🏻
@rayflores47794 жыл бұрын
Muchas gracias por tus buenos consejos me ayudan mucho HE SPOKE STYLE 💪👌👍
@hespokestyle4 жыл бұрын
You're very welcome!
@azizquadri58244 жыл бұрын
As an 18 year old, my aunt always criticised me for wearing tailored clothing as she wanted me to dress casually in jeans and t-shirts. But, I kept making my wardrobe more smart casual without having to retreat to jeans, and instead used elements like a suede jacket to add a casual sophistication to my look. Now, she barely makes a comment on my look, and if she does, it's usually a complement. Her criticism was valid and apart from her criticism, I absolutely don't have any "haters". My one and only friend is also interested in classic menswear, so he is very supportive of my style choices as we both follow a similar style (the style inspired by the legendary Brian Sacawa). As for strangers, I don't get any comments from them, although I get frequent stares whenever I go out being well dressed. I also don't like socializing a lot as I am a heavy introvert, and hence I have a very small social circle (my family and one friend), which reduces the chances of me having any "haters" drastically P.S: Loved the intro!
@hespokestyle4 жыл бұрын
Nice, Aziz! You know I always appreciate your thoughtful comments.
@azizquadri58244 жыл бұрын
@@hespokestyle And I always appreciate your replies. You still reply to my comments even though I am a bit of a late commenter.
@hookamazooks4 жыл бұрын
Unexpected topic, but an excellent video once again. I appreciate the empathy and consideration of others' situations.
@hespokestyle4 жыл бұрын
Sure thing! This channel is about you guys, not me!
@countalma98004 жыл бұрын
What happened to our society when one is almost forced to feel uncomfortable and apologize for dressing up?! It's like feeling uncomfortable and apologizing for being polite and using refined, proper, and polite language.
@hespokestyle4 жыл бұрын
Many people choose the path of least resistance.
@Keysala794 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much . We need those advices sometimes
@hespokestyle4 жыл бұрын
You got it!
@SuperNeo0053 жыл бұрын
Hello Brian. Will do a Summer 2021 wardrobe capsule for sasual wear???
@jaimezamudiomendez94263 жыл бұрын
Muy buenas estrategias para lidiar. Lo veré muchas veces para aprender lo que expones. Muchas gracias.
@garybilbaophotography9094 жыл бұрын
Great advice! I ignore small-minded people in all aspects of my life.
@hespokestyle4 жыл бұрын
Yes, to quote a famous modern sage: ain't nobody got time for that.
@yashyadav_294 жыл бұрын
We are with you brian 🤘❤️😎
@hespokestyle4 жыл бұрын
I feel it! Thanks, Yash. Always appreciate the comment.
@yourtypicalcupoftea Жыл бұрын
Gotta try this with people one the Internet with no chill
@FuryKingW4 жыл бұрын
Let Them Hate!! THEY have the issues and its"NON OF MY BUSINESS!!"
@hespokestyle4 жыл бұрын
Appreciate you chiming in!
@m5asj13 жыл бұрын
Great stuff Brian...looking good is about respecting others as much as ourselves in my opinion.
@colinsmith52184 жыл бұрын
1. Avoid. 2.Ignore. 3. Forget.
@hespokestyle4 жыл бұрын
Nice. Thanks for chiming in, Colin.
@igeolasoji35134 жыл бұрын
I'll be honest, i didn't expect this. Thanks
@hespokestyle4 жыл бұрын
You're very welcome. Hope it is helpful.
@TheEldarGuy4 жыл бұрын
I have no problem with people and how they dress; I worked with an IT company that had a free dress policy. Totally cool with all that. I didn't care if they wore jean's and t-shirts with comic/cartoon motifs. My role was a customer facing role. Of course, I wore a suit and tie - something I'm most comfortable with. So I got told that I was upsetting others in the office and making them feel uncomfortable. I'm a big Strategy 4 kind of response. Come back with smiles and niceties. Thanks for the video.
@hespokestyle4 жыл бұрын
You're welcome, David! Yes, I really feel like anything that is consumer-facing requires a level of dress that telegraphs confidence, competence, and professionalism.
@aimansaleemchannel Жыл бұрын
Thank you.
@vidushichauhan97253 жыл бұрын
I personally love kpop and there are many people who don't so whenever they say "that band sucks!" or something like that i just tell them to grab a straw cuz they suck too, And that jealousy is a disease, get well soon.
@erwinmoreno234 жыл бұрын
Your light is a little high. If you put it a little to the side of you it would reflect on your eyes and look nicer. LIke this, your eyes look dead because of the shadow. Also, I find it hard to believe you have haters lol You seem really nice and genuine so I didnt expect a video like this from you. You're like the nice part of youtube, thanks!
@hespokestyle4 жыл бұрын
Appreciate that, Erwin. Oh, yeah, there are haters here! I was serious about the few thumbs downs that always appear rather quickly...
@christianespino33924 жыл бұрын
With you all the way mate! Got your back. Love your content 👊
@hespokestyle4 жыл бұрын
Thanks, as always, Christian.
@YoniBonzi4 жыл бұрын
Day after day? I like the new schedule :) I think that those strategies have to correlate with who is the "hater". A good friend or a close family member should make you reflect before you react, while a colleague or a stranger might deserve a good comeback - and you might not like to hit a good friend back or reflect on a true hater. Also, if you do you and you are proud of who you are, I believe you can pull off mostly anything. You could be a peacock for all that matters, if you do it with confidence. This may shut down haters before they even hate. On a totally unrelated note - I really like your jacket, is it from the HSS x MAB line? Looks great. Cheers.
@hespokestyle4 жыл бұрын
Thanks for the comment, Yoni. Yes, I agree with you. As you can tell, this video is geared primarily towards those who are just starting to change how they dress. Re the jacket...yes! Fingers crossed we will launch after Labor Day.
@YoniBonzi4 жыл бұрын
@@hespokestyle Can't wait. They look great. Would international shipping be available?
@hespokestyle4 жыл бұрын
YoniBonzi yes, indeed
@josephpace88164 жыл бұрын
I always get comments about how well I dress. I even was asked why i always dress up. I told them thank you. I eventually told him when you have a professional job, I feel you should dress like a professional.
@josephpace88164 жыл бұрын
I wear a size 14 shoe and I can't tell you how many guys ask me where I get my shoes. Everyone one from laborers to professionals. The best compliment that i am proud of is when a gentleman walked by and said nice shoes. I had on Allen Edmond tan wingtips with blue replacement laces. Those places with get you some attention.
@hespokestyle4 жыл бұрын
Yes, indeed!
@Vincent_Napolitano4 жыл бұрын
Excellent advise Brian! 👍
@hespokestyle4 жыл бұрын
Thanks for watching!
@Vincent_Napolitano4 жыл бұрын
Always my friend! I love He spoke style!
@hespokestyle4 жыл бұрын
Also, it’s Brian. :)
@Vincent_Napolitano4 жыл бұрын
Please excuse me Brian, and thanks for being a gentleman!
@brandoncrouse74104 жыл бұрын
Love your channel. Always have. Great video B!
@hespokestyle4 жыл бұрын
Thanks so much, Brandon! Appreciate the support very much.
@luvspaiste4 жыл бұрын
Off. James 'Jimmy' McNulty : You know what they call a guy who pays that much attention to his clothes, don't you? Det. William 'Bunk' Moreland : Mm-hmm. A grown-up.
@hespokestyle4 жыл бұрын
You are the man for pulling that quote! The Wire is one of the best shows ever.
@luvspaiste4 жыл бұрын
He Spoke Style extra points for a show about Baltimore.
@hespokestyle4 жыл бұрын
💪🏻💪🏻
@brentl.vaneaton69014 жыл бұрын
Rafeal at GG had a good answer for ‘Why are you so dressed up? ‘It’s called adulthood’ never used that but it’s a great response....maybe sometime we can talk about the history of menswear and how it flipped from children wanting to dress like adults and how we got to adults wanting to dress like children....Cheers.
@hespokestyle4 жыл бұрын
Interesting topic!
@adamkun55244 жыл бұрын
While it is a great reply to throw at your peers and juniors, you cannot make that come-back to someone who is 10-20 years your superior and you also look up to them in other respects.
@brentl.vaneaton69014 жыл бұрын
Ádám Kun Pretty sure though people 10 to 20 years older than you are going to ask why you’re dressed up they’re probably going to like the fact that you are....
@adamkun55244 жыл бұрын
@@brentl.vaneaton6901 I still had the honor of meeting that generation that appreaciated classical clothing and manners, they are fading away and 30-40 or more years older than me (so well into their 70s and older). I work in academia and nearly no one dresses up. :(
@brentl.vaneaton69014 жыл бұрын
Ádám Kun indeed they are, cheers....
@Retired_Gentleman4 жыл бұрын
While most people are either complementary or at least accepting of a man dressing well there are a few and often vocal naysayers. A simple but polite "no" and then declining further engagement with those who ask negative questions about why you dress nicely usually suffices.
@hespokestyle4 жыл бұрын
Thanks so much for chiming in!
@dvm76294 жыл бұрын
Good Topic! As always great video!
@hespokestyle4 жыл бұрын
Many thanks. Appreciate the comment and support.
@q-storm7674 жыл бұрын
Great Video, Bri 2 Fly!!. This video was on point and on time. It seems like when you are aspiring to go up, our so-called friends reveal their true colors through words and you discovered "Wow, I thought they supported me and my goals." I love the pointers you gave in this. My only suggestion is to re-title your video: "10 Ways to SHUT DOWN Haters...and the "SHADERS!" Hehe
@hespokestyle4 жыл бұрын
It’s a crab pot mentality.
@ConkreteMan4 жыл бұрын
Well said, sir! Also, I know this isn't a "look book" video, but I admire your look today.
@hespokestyle4 жыл бұрын
Why, thank you! Look out for next week...two lookbooks coming up!
@willtothewong4 жыл бұрын
Thanks for the video!
@hespokestyle4 жыл бұрын
You’re very welcome, William!
@hugomota36964 жыл бұрын
Great channel! Cheers from Portugal!
@hespokestyle4 жыл бұрын
Many thanks, Hugo. Appreciate the support.
@SgtKillmorez4 жыл бұрын
This is such a great and encouraging video! Really glad you made it into a video as well rather than writing since in this situation, I think it's better to hear this message rather than reading it. Now we can rewatch as needed lol...yea I'll be back most likely soon hahaha.
@hespokestyle4 жыл бұрын
So glad to hear you enjoyed this one, Justin!
@riozaki36814 жыл бұрын
The most important watch your self and don't be one of them if you see someone succeeded
@hespokestyle4 жыл бұрын
Yes.
@riozaki36814 жыл бұрын
@@hespokestyle ♥♥♥
@hespokestyle4 жыл бұрын
@@riozaki3681 Cheers.
@gregorymanzi67044 жыл бұрын
My come back is : I'm adding some class to this place ( in a humorous tone ).
@hespokestyle4 жыл бұрын
Ahahaha! I love that.
@ziarlyden4 жыл бұрын
hey brain! love to see a video "How to dress JLC reverso" and as always 💗 awesome video.
@hespokestyle4 жыл бұрын
Check it: kzbin.info/www/bejne/Zl7Ml6mda72NbNk
@daisybluegroff2 жыл бұрын
#7 should be #1.
@eastcoastclimbers4 жыл бұрын
Hey Andy! A big hello from Ireland. I really like your informative videos. I look forward to receiving notification when you have a new video. If I didn't have something nice, or positive, I think it's best to keep my mouth shut. But, that's just me. Keep the great videos coming.
@hespokestyle4 жыл бұрын
That's a great mantra to live by. Just like my mother used to say! Thanks, Chris!
@hespokestyle4 жыл бұрын
Wait...... who's Andy?
@gabevalle26594 жыл бұрын
Great video, and great advice!
@hespokestyle4 жыл бұрын
Thanks, Gabe! No thumbnail feedback???! LOL
@gabevalle26594 жыл бұрын
He Spoke Style hahah not a chance! Keep up the great work man, love this channel.
@oskartheme52334 жыл бұрын
3:01 Great tactic! They won't see it coming 'cuz they don't know what it looks like.
@Larry-qz3es4 жыл бұрын
If you are happy the way you are currently dressing, so be it. If you are interested (or currently )in improving your outlook, you are ahead of the curve and focused on your goals.
@hespokestyle4 жыл бұрын
Thanks for dropping in here, Larry! Appreciate the comment.
@Larry-qz3es4 жыл бұрын
@@hespokestyle You are welcome Brian, from one NY'er to another NY'er
@hespokestyle4 жыл бұрын
Larry Lacy cheers!
@elsenorpalomo68504 жыл бұрын
Oh again my big brother, thanks for be here. You’re the best
@hespokestyle4 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much. Cheers.
@arccway3 жыл бұрын
Great video, I definitely needed to hear this as my channel is getting that response from miserable people!
@gebbigibson04 жыл бұрын
Thanks for the video lots of love from germany. we love you here.
@hespokestyle4 жыл бұрын
Thanks so much, Gebbi!
@PACMan-do3yr4 жыл бұрын
@he spoke style. What brand of shirt is that?
@hespokestyle4 жыл бұрын
Our collection with Michael Andrews. Launching after Labor Day.
@eugene20763 жыл бұрын
AMEN!!
@elihollingsworth68522 жыл бұрын
Remember that jealousy and insecurity is why people act like this.
@expose.13704 жыл бұрын
Thx... He spoke style
@hespokestyle4 жыл бұрын
Any time! Thanks for the comment, David!
@AhmedHassan-qt5uu4 жыл бұрын
Very correct 💜💜
@hespokestyle4 жыл бұрын
Cheers, Ahmed.
@jbeav39022 жыл бұрын
The problem is the haters hate behind your back. They criticize you to others behind your back. They have a team of one eye monsters who don't trust you.
@abdullahalduaij42834 жыл бұрын
Great and classy channel, salute from Kuwait
@hespokestyle4 жыл бұрын
Thank you and hello!
@OTbase4 жыл бұрын
In 2020, you don't dress up for others, but for yourself.
@hespokestyle4 жыл бұрын
Definitely the case!
@SMCESBatch4 жыл бұрын
Dressing up is probably a lot easier in the West. Here in Asia (Specifically here in the Philippines), people are more likely to judge you because your outfits are more well-put-together than theirs. For example, just last week, when I was travelling to visit a friend who was having a baby, someone just went up to me and told me that I looked like a retard because I was wearing a summer sport coat combination. It's always annoying when people judge you, let alone call you a retard.
@hespokestyle4 жыл бұрын
That's not very nice at all.
@moishysmith23104 жыл бұрын
Thank you for the great insight provided in your video's. I am I new viewer and noticed you mentioned having lived in Baltimore. Is there a tailor you could recommend in Pikeville? Thanks!
@hespokestyle4 жыл бұрын
You’re very welcome! Thanks for your support and hope you’ve subbed. I’ve had many requests for my tailor and I’ve spoken to him about the business but unfortunately he is not taking any new clients. I have used QG in the past but with mixed results and theirs turnaround was quite slow.
@moishysmith23104 жыл бұрын
@@hespokestyle Thanks, I'll look into QG. Like you have said - word of mouth is the best way to find a good tailor. The search continues!