12 Best Tips How To Handle A Breakup

[@NickNotas]

Focus on building yourself: your health, friendships, social lifestyle, career, and life skills. You'll feel stronger, attract others to you, and realize how many other romantic opportunities are out there.

[@Danielblixareed]

If the sole purpose of wanting to build yourself after a break up is to get a chance of a new relationship, then there’s no point in building yourself up, and you’re wasting your life, and women will spot that from a mile off, likely leading to an eternity of being single

[@kingdavid6435]

Eliminate all contact; then work on being the best you possible, part take in new experiences such as travel or productive social activities. Under no circumstances do you ever go back to an X and in time the relationship you ultimately desire will find you. You're the Prize!

[@TheStyleOG]

appreciate the input!

[@Doctorfilth42069]

This came just in time. I just got dumped last week after a year long relationship. Thankfully I'm over the emotional state and able to think more rationally. I realized I was being emotionally abused, and never even realized it. While it sucks, I still think this was a great learning experience as to what to look out for in my next relationship. Keep up the good work. Salute.

[@crossandres7]

Man, you are doing amazing. Always keeping your head up I wish you the Best

[@TheStyleOG]

You got this Richard!

[@mrspencer72]

This video came in time. My ex and I recently broke up and I find it hard letting her go. It's as if I'm addicted to her and I keep holding on to the good memories we shared. I really have to start implementing some of these tips and start my healing process. Thanks OG

[@TheStyleOG]

No problem!

[@Rashaadthegr8]

The toughest thing about rejection or break up is when you know you got your stuff together and still get rejected or let down.

[@ericrobinson1789]

I agree on the clean break up. That back and forth is not good for the emotional psyche.

[@TheStyleOG]

Not good at all!

[@ronnieracollins8709]

Brother I’m impressed, you look very sophisticated.

[@TheStyleOG]

Thanks Ronnie !

[@marcusa.fromthebay7514]

Jeff, This tutorial is so IMPORTANT! I see so many men, especially young men, deal with breakups in the most toxic and dangerous ways because they simply can't handle any form of rejection or because they have errantly learned that a failed relationship means that they themselves must be failures as well. They cut up, act out and devalue themselves and subsequently others because they validate themselves through the eyes of others. Frequent social media usage only succeeds in making bad situations worse and not-so-bad situations horrible. Your advice is sound, thoughtful and practical in an era that is all for the total abdication of accountability and one in which ratchet behavior is entertainment and, sadly, the new norm. From one O.G. to another, keep up the good work, my brother!✊🏾

[@3rdhalff]

Gold star for the OG on this one. All too often, as men we fail ourselves by not processing the internal issues that come along with bad experiences. Taking the time to do the work to heal and grow is something we tend to think we don’t need.

[@TheStyleOG]

Indeed!

[@xandervenable2412]

I love how your firm in masculine energy yet teach fellow men to listen to the heart and emotions, which is often confused with feminine energy. That’s REAL MAN quality right there. Real men listen to there heart and emotions. Real men inspire to connect with there feminine through emotional connection Ty for your wisdom!!! Keep moving forward! You’ll make it! Don’t give up on YOU AND YOUR DREAMS it’s all about you my friend This is life saying, you haven’t been focusing on your well-being half as much as you should. Imma break y’all up so you have more YOU time Spend this time working out the bugs in your vibrational energy and attract the love of your life!! You got this fellas!!

[@TheStyleOG]

appreciate the input!

[@wigwam3270]

I could’ve used this at 24 yo. 😂 I didn’t handle that first real breakup that well. But it’s e best thing that happened to me as a man. It made me realize so many things 👍🏽

[@TheStyleOG]

Live and learn!

[@skinfanjay]

💯

[@cliftonsledge962]

You never know when you might have to take that advice, life can sometimes have a dark side. Great video O.G. and salute

[@TheStyleOG]

Salute Clifton !

[@AndrewPalios]

Excellent advise. After practicing these lessons after a divorce I am a whole new and better version of myself two years later.

[@savageraven8924]

I've been out a relationship for about 3 months. I still feel sad .... not depressed but just sad. I try to keep busy I work 2 jobs and hit the gym regularly but the memories return. I just started stopping myself from crying.... I just let it out... always thought men are warriors ... tears are never suppose to fall... but sometimes you can't help it.... how long until I start to feel happy again... and not faking it In font of my family and friends

[@dwaneasley9119]

Nothing to be ashamed of homie. Not showing ur emotions is a sign of weakness. I've been there and still there. Just take it 1 day at a time...good luck💯✌🏾💪🏾

[@ForTheLoveOfSuits]

I'm 55. Now happily married with kids but I've been dumped and been the dumpee many times in my life. Recently a friend of mine got dumped by her boyfriend after 3 years. It was her first long term relationship and he left with no explanation and hasn't been in touch since, and she's devastated. The best advice I could give her is that it doesn't matter. It does't matter why he left, it doesn't matter why it no longer worked for him. No reason will make you feel any better. There is no closure, it's a myth. The Human heart is a mysterious beast. It wants what it wants. You're hurting because you've been dumped? It's bad I know but someday you're going to let someone go too. It's not cruel. Just move on with your life. It's the best way to heal.

[@TheStyleOG]

Great advice Michael!

[@BurntBurgerBuns]

you delivered just in time. Salute OG

[@TheStyleOG]

Salute Kel !

[@bsdtux]

Jeff, this is such great advice. I am going through a divorce right now and I have to say the biggest things you said that has helped is going outside. I make myself go to starbucks and work 2 days a week just so I am around people, even though I am not talking to any of them. The other was working out. It is helping me stay in a positive mindset. The last thing that has been helpful is taking responsibility for my part. Like you said it is easy to blame the other person but taking responsibility for my part has been helpful in identifying what I did wrong on my part and what I can do better next time.

[@TheStyleOG]

Well said John!

[@dwaneasley9119]

Word Jeff, u came through at the perfect time. Break ups are hard man. But it's more difficult especially when u love the woman so much. Good advice homie💯💪🏾#salute

[@TheStyleOG]

Salute Dwan!

[@Ednoxious1]

Empower yourself gentlemen!! 👊🏾 as always appreciate this OG!!

[@TheStyleOG]

Salute Edward!

[@Shawntraci]

Great topic! I have personally went through all the different emotions of break ups. Doing better for yourself is the one that comes to mind first. Staying away from bad mouthing, gossip, and finger pointing helps to keep you from falling into unwanted behaviors. Once again you have done an awesome job good Sir! Keep the great content coming...

[@TheStyleOG]

My man!

[@TheEquilibriumEffects]

Breaking for anyone who did actually love their partner is hard. Men feel the hit more.

[@ryanbales8116]

I think all of the tips you provided are very important. My most important one I stuck with, is that once the relationship ends, we go our own separate ways. This whole "being friends" thing doesn't work. One side will always have unreciporicated feelings. And it's usually the woman who suggests it to make herself feel less guilty.

[@TheStyleOG]

rarely works!

[@easylee4uify]

Don't build your life around these women, loosen your grip, if they leave, they leave. If you did your part press on with your head high.

[@jbthajugganaut793]

Despite taking myself off of the grid almost two years ago to focus on my personal growth, I still have days where I mourn since she was the one to initiate the breakup. Just a few months ago, a supposed mutual friend reached out to see if I wished her a Happy Birthday. Of course I did not but that right there reopen up the wound. I divested more in that relationship than my others because I had the financial means to do so. That why it hurts so bad. I am ashamed how much of an overly-doting and altruistic simp I was.

[@justinalexander2535]

I don't think you should feel ashamed for genuinely caring about someone. I had recently been dumped this past January and I was with my girl for 3 years. Going off the grid really does help and like you said, I have my days as well, it really isn't easy. You're already focusing on your personal growth and what you need to do for yourself. I think her friends reaching out is really just signals from her to see if she could still reach you/ may have feelings. I'm only 9 months into my break-up and I've already dealt with the "Hey how are you", "This made me think of you", "I still care about you" bs. Sometimes people don't realize what they have until it's gone. Keep moving forward in your purpose!

[@Mankind-ik4ie]

Thank you brother and to the rest of you that have giving great advice, much appreciated.I'm going through a break up myself. I would NEVER put the breakup situation totally on her.. I had a lot to do with the ups downs also.We love each other but kept bumping heads. 😢Time for me to make some progress.God bless y'all!!! #BreakUps #SelfImprovement

[@TheStyleOG]

You got this!

[@carrolloutdoors4764]

Needed this right now man. Literally came at the perfect time

[@TheStyleOG]

Glad to help!

[@melvinmckinney9120]

Great video Jeff. Sound advice as always my friend.

[@TheStyleOG]

Thanks 👍

[@dholmesjr]

Thanks again for keeping the Style O.G. family on point. I'm going to take a mental note from this video... I can always learn from great advice . Thanks again Jeff. Salute...

[@TheStyleOG]

Salute Donny!

[@dmunz7015]

From experience, I agree 100% with everything you said, down to the last detail and I can't think of anything you overlooked. The one thing I would like to add though is you can't hate her because she wasn't who you thought she was or wanted her to be. Understanding that will save you a lot of misery.

[@TheStyleOG]

Agreed!

[@enanosiniestro]

Best video I’ve seen about the subject. Well done OG. Salute!

[@TheStyleOG]

Salute Jose!

[@Transformyourmind1]

Wise advise Jeff. I have experienced all the scenarios you brought up. I can tell your helping from experience. Good stuff! Glad I didn’t marry the wrong woman. I would add, do not stay too long trying to make a relationship work that is not a match. Thanks again👍

[@ernestcarter7073]

Great video Jeff! Some of the things you suggested I have done in the past. I have learned this the hard way in the past or growing pain. wish I heard the video 10 years ago. Great advice on moving on and getting yourself together.

[@TheStyleOG]

Thanks Ernest!

[@johnnyblaze2257]

@0:10 Talk about "A Crisp White Shirt"!

[@TheStyleOG]

Thanks!

[@leroyw3799]

Jef !! Mr: OG , you are so sooooooo ! Good , I so love watching you man . You always i spired me , no matter what topic it is . Thanks so much for this platform . Much Love !!👍🏾👍🏾

[@TheStyleOG]

Much love !

[@donnellhill75]

He covered all the bases. Nothing but facts

[@TheStyleOG]

Salute!

[@ronaldjacobi1788]

Perfect timing on this one, thanks for reinforcing what I instinctively know, but have trouble doing.

[@pauljaikaran9790]

True brother Jeff. Isolation kills. It creates depression and low self esteem. Must move out and turn away our focus because life is more precious than a broken, non- working relationship.....Salute my Brother 👍🏿👌🏿🙏🏿

[@TheStyleOG]

Salute Paul!

[@shawnjackson9240]

This really helped me get started with my breakup....thanks Style O.G.

[@wongpantai9710]

The last point is what makes me keep moving on, and never look back again. Even when my ex fiance parent tried to approach me again, i already saw the whole reasons why we broke up in the first place in crystal clear, and those are difficult to compromise in a good relationship.

[@Redhood813]

Men if you’re reading this keep your head up king Women if you’re reading this CHANGE

[@pierregeorge9050]

Style OG, A timeless topic with some great advice. I could have used this info 30 years ago. A breakup is so very hard. Single girls & guys listen and learn. As usual the blazer and pocket square is 🔥🔥🔥.

[@TheStyleOG]

Thanks Pierre!

[@iking317]

Going to the gym was key it allow me to get in great shape , get my mind right and meet new lady friends. 👍🏿💪🏿💪🏿

[@TheStyleOG]

Yes Sir!

[@Larry-qz3es]

One recommendation, never to go to places where you and your ex went when you are in a new relationship.

[@TheStyleOG]

Agreed Larry!

[@deondeon8760]

As always big bro, SALUTE!!!!!!! We all appreciate the game you provides👊🏾👊🏾 "THUMBS UP"🥊🔔

[@TheStyleOG]

Salute Deon !

[@burnias3]

- get new hairstyle -focus on goals - surround yourself with family friends. Spend time them - travel - work on career, - learn something new

[@TheStyleOG]

I like all of those Jaime!

[@leroy592]

Great video Jeff! ! I wish I would've known some of this stuff years ago.

[@TheStyleOG]

Thanks Will !

[@619Christian]

EXCELLENT advice Jeff ‼️❣

[@TheStyleOG]

Thanks !

[@darkotomicic5867]

What the hell! I am not to break up or anything similar, but I have watched this video seriously with full attention because you done it very interesting like all your video tips. Each is a little masterpiece. Keep up the great work, greetings from Croatia!

[@jamesmurray2876]

Only real men topics brought to the world by the one and only OG salute bro

[@TheStyleOG]

Salute James !

[@jamesmurray2876]

@@TheStyleOG salute OG

[@laurajones1211]

Great Tips!!! Very practical and helpful. Thanks so much!!!

[@TheStyleOG]

Glad you enjoyed it!

[@jmorgan0829]

Wow great advice. I definitely have a few ppl I no I'll be sharing your tips with. Great job bro❤💯

[@michaelcowan381]

You are right on it bro. I went through all your advice. Im good now. Thanks. Salute!

[@TheStyleOG]

Salute Michael!

[@DSupremeLounge]

Great advice. Thanks

[@TheStyleOG]

No problem!

[@adekunlefajana2037]

As usual, I enjoyed this

[@ktaylor669]

I'm going through a break up with my kids mother right now. This really helped..thanks O.G.

[@TheStyleOG]

Glad I could help!

[@CarltonYoung]

Sound advice, I wish I could have had the self-discipline to shut off any contact or left over feelings, and the perspective that the relationship just grew apart. I also would add to the list, get a passport and go travel by yourself.

[@dwaynesides187]

OG continuously droppin knowledge

[@TheStyleOG]

I try!

[@didocomeback]

Hey Style OG! I'm one of your female viewers! Hi!! Love your videos. Do you think you can make a video on how to survive the sombreness of Covid 19 (isolation, not getting see people, losses, feeling down generally) and also perhaps what men should wear for winter (what kind of shoes, do they need skivvies, how to look stylish too). I just moved to a very winter-y state and my husband likes to act like he's overconfident about feeling warm when winter comes. Only if you can! :D It's just some suggestions. Thank you! We love your videos . ❤💚❤

[@TheStyleOG]

appreciate the suggestions !

[@johnwilliams5680]

Having experience this recently I had to check myself for my faults and also remember that I was always putting women on a pedestal but she was just look down on me.

[@paulevers3538]

Wonderful video idea!!!! Salute Jeff!!!!!

[@TheStyleOG]

Thanks Paul !

[@kpwhiphop5775]

Always on point, Jeff. Salute!

[@TheStyleOG]

Salute!

[@chumanijezile6914]

This is a better time for me to watch this video. I broke up with a girl who i was seeing. It's been two weeks but she made contact with me today as my birthday is coming this Sunday. But thank you for helping me man up.

[@kevinmccauley4869]

How did you know she broke up with me for no reason. We were sorta together for 2 years, maybe a year and half, i mean things changed when lockdown and covid, we still talked mag everyday this year and dated when things were open. But one Thursday we were laughing and happy msging and monday i was told “i dont care leave me alone” when i sent a msg about me playing tennis. 🤷‍♂️

[@footballremix.8084]

She was cheating on you the whole time . When she was sure of the other person her instinct kicked in

[@kevinmccauley4869]

@@footballremix.8084 i would agree with that but shes a single mom from Philippines with a child here and there. And doesnt go anywhere because of lockdown and doesnt like to talk much with strangers. So it was probably me that accused her of being fake that drove her away.

[@kevinmccauley4869]

@@footballremix.8084 shes also done this atleast 4 or more times and came back to me.

[@footballremix.8084]

@@kevinmccauley4869 You are defending her . Stop it. and value yourself more . It is what it is . Let her be . And stop running to your vomit . It's emotionally very difficult but you have to for your own health and well-being . You will keep getting traumatized if you let her come back and let me be clear to you , she's manipulating you and you mean nothing to her . So stop .

[@courtneycherry8384]

Bro how is that the timing is so right !

[@TheStyleOG]

Happy to help!

[@marklcov]

You the man, top video 👊🏻👊🏻👊🏻

[@tedwillis1686]

Great video OG! Currently go through a divorce now and following your steps. However, difficult to stay away due to joint child custody. Also., it will be difficult to know If she is dating someone else.

[@TheStyleOG]

You got this Ted!

[@tedwillis1686]

@@TheStyleOG Thanks!! I’m going through the situation where she is doing a smear campaign against me to mutual friends and the community. Not a good look.

[@nerdbamarich2063]

Always dropping gems og

[@TheStyleOG]

I try Rich!

[@glenngray6859]

What’s up my bro Og. Great helpful advice video for anyone going Thru a break up. Great job my G. Salute my friend.

[@TheStyleOG]

Salute Glenn!

[@masprob123]

Excellent advice regarding social media. I made that mistake.

[@TheStyleOG]

Glad it was helpful!

[@lamaridelbridge9601]

I needed that message thanks O.G

[@TheStyleOG]

No problem!

[@chrissimmonds4898]

Looking for advice to give my brother. I’m lost when it comes to these things. Appreciate the insight.

[@TheStyleOG]

No problem!

[@jayrelsmith321]

Appreciate this message sir , Thank you.

[@TheStyleOG]

No problem!

[@ManovSteelo]

Damn, such great advice -- totally slept on until today; and I definitely could have used it before now. About one month in to losing for good (what I thought was) my future Life Partner, after 3 years together.... Didn't understand why she didn't want to be friends or anything (tho left the door open for the possible future, which was weird), and that was tough -- because we were Right 'n Tight, as friends and lovers. Short story long, I wound up deciding to completely burn bridges with one deft Deathstroke (returning all of her gifts and photo memorabilia during our time, unannounced) -- and it's helped with the healing. Sometimes you have to be as Cold as ice in order to eventually experience the warmth of other suns elsewhere.

[@ralph4370]

Many great points. IF I may share a few more points. Never accept the friendzone. Go no contact, block on every level and change your number. Have someone else collect all of the exes mementos into one giant bag(s) or box(es) for donation. (which is similar strategy for when pets are gone. Insert female dog joke here?) Give someone whom you TRUST access to your social media and have them DELETE and SCRUB all of the old pictures of you to together from your time line. Then Delete account or change password and forget it for now. If you do it, you will hurt more. Go ghost online and take the time to rebuild yourself. Like OG states go through the emotions. Search the terms' No Contact" and "Dumpers Remorse" right now you maybe feeling like hell. But when you demonstrate with time that you healed. It will be the other person whom felt happy right now that they are free to regretting their decision. Your pain is temporary, it shows your feelings were genuine. But this pain will past and time will heal you but not the current suffering. All of it goes away. Also look up videos on "Narcissism" they are eye openers. Later you will come to the conclusion it was a blessing in disguise. If you really want to have the last laugh. Put all of your paper memories in an envelope and mail them to her. Put down the sender address from her job, parents home any address will do. Don't write no letter, only her stuff. It tells her many things but the main things is "I am done, don't want to remember you or keep your memory alive" Which is a fate worse than ......so I have heard. When they return which they will. Don't ever give them the time of day. PEOPLE that love ya, don't leave ya. She quit, abandon, left her post as your GF, Wife, Side chick etc. Focus on the people that want to be in your life. If it was easy for them to leave ya, they will do it again. We all deserve to be fool's once not twice.

[@davidbravestrong3368]

What If She Has A Chronic Illnesses Like Ms And Diabetes, I'm Saying That Is Because The Woman That Broke Up With Me Haves That And I Still Love Her.

[@jthebinoadvocate5205]

Preciate you brother Jeff

[@TheStyleOG]

Right back at ya !

[@i.b.i.c.s7778]

Spot on O.G you are absolutely right 100%. SALUTE 👍🇬🇧🇳🇬😎

[@TheStyleOG]

Salute!

[@alansjf33]

Great tips. Going through a divorce. Very useful information.

[@TheStyleOG]

Happy to help!

[@threwthelookingglass2904]

This video was definitely needed for me thank you!

[@TheStyleOG]

No worries!

[@drekewright1817]

Focusing on yourself mental health life skills social lifestyle and career women come and go just focusing on yourself to be more well valued man break up makes you a man or it breaks u dont get stuck on one chick just move on and take time for yourself 🥶💯

[@stefanodigenova3179]

Great video, I would love yo to see a bloopers video someday, that should be funny, Keep up the good videos man!

[@TheStyleOG]

Thanks for the idea!

[@zurplerain]

Real facts O.G.

[@TheStyleOG]

Appreciate the feedback!

[@j.anthonymorgan3025]

Great info my brother. Needed this

[@TheStyleOG]

Glad it was helpful!

[@ClayHales]

Not a video I need right now, but commenting for the algorithm.

[@TheStyleOG]

Thanks Clay!

[@ravipeiris4388]

Talking about your feelings with your pastor or a therapist is beneficial as well 🤗

[@TheStyleOG]

Indeed!

[@nileswilliams7127]

Perfect timing. Just ended a 1.5 year relationship which some would have called toxic....

[@TheStyleOG]

Hope this helps!

[@briancolet2535]

thanks man i really needed this

[@TheStyleOG]

No problem!

[@johnmooresr2318]

Thanks OG 💪🏿👍🏾

[@alfacentauri3686]

If you have children you need to take special care of them if you break up. You will still need to celebrate special occasions of your common children together, e.g. when you get grand children. You will have different opinions on how to raise your children and about finances. Still you and your ex need to treat each other with respect, for the sake of your children, although it might not be easy.

[@tarrySubstance]

Thanks for the video.

[@TheStyleOG]

You are welcome!

[@Tigerfied67]

Damn being friends....just friends. I already have friends. We can be friendLY if we bump into each other, but for me it's always a CLEAN break. Not taking calls nor responding to texts. Life goes on and it ain't leaving me behind. I can show yall how to Do DONE 😊

[@drekewright1817]

Great video my g salute 🥶💯

[@TheStyleOG]

💯

[@DTownNash]

#13 play Return Of The Mack

[@TheStyleOG]

Ha !

[@kizi_music]

Sometimes, you could be heartbroken even without dating. You just have to break off from the person. How do you handle that?

[@billybobmontana8277]

This is all great advice. I could’ve used this when I was 16 😂

[@gordonarnold7465]

BROTHER 💪 😎 ALWAYS ON POINT 👏 PEACE ✌️ STAY WELL 🙏

[@TheStyleOG]

Thanks, you too!

[@Ldeuce]

Excellent Video

[@TheStyleOG]

Thanks!

[@dAntony1]

Alright, let’s do this. About to be a hell of a night, but it’s been a long time coming.

[@CHRISJRDN]

Great tips my man! 💯

[@TheStyleOG]

Appreciate it!

[@stumpmonkey7068]

Shit, I needed this. My wife left me like 2 weeks ago.

[@TheStyleOG]

Hope it helps!

[@stumpmonkey7068]

@@TheStyleOG yeah, I've been binge-watching your content ever since, trying to rebuild myself. Thanks for what you do.

[@bigrelly2001]

Mines too brother. Stay strong bro we got this

[@essentialeugene]

Hello in 1995 I dated a girl named Sarah Jones in high school. That was 27 years ago. When we broke up, I made the decision to not date, marry, or have kids. I am now a filmmaker, musician, author, etc. Right now I am working on two new documentaries. They will be called,``The Harlem Globetrotters: Second Edition'' and ``The NBA Series: The Story Of Wilt Chamberlain.''