20 Dating Secrets For Gay Men

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Chapters:
00:00:00 - Avoiding dating disasters
00:00:55 - FaceTime or Video Chat before the First Date
00:01:44 - Tips for Dating
00:02:37 - Building a Deep Connection on a First Date
00:03:30 - Boosting Confidence in Dating
00:04:26 - Focus on personal growth
00:05:18 - Approaching Someone You Find Attractive
00:06:08 - Embracing Your Identity and Having Fun in Dating
00:07:07 - The Importance of Communication in Relationships
00:08:01 - Stay in Peace
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[@StanChris]

I heard if you smash the like you will have good luck dating for the rest of the year!

[@GR8TDUCK]

Good advice, Chris. Especilly "Be attentive." Incrdible how many guys can't muster a few minutes to actually look at you and listen.

[@dianefurlong2911]

Great advice for everyone! Well Done! Thanks

[@philstoll1157]

most of these options didn't exist when I was younger. The ones that apply are really good advice!🥰

[@michaeljohndennis2231]

If I did not know you from this channel and know that you had a boyfriend, I’d probably flirt with you if I met you in real life, as I’m a sucker for a cute and handsome young man - even at age 53 “young free and single/slapper” I’m always on “hunk-watch” and I can never resist flirting with the nearest hottie, even if he is straight 🥰🥰🥰

[@Emin20232]

It's just a rumor they call it "like zike superstition"

[@TheMikester307]

"Date outside your type?" Well I accidentally did that meeting my future husband online before we ever saw each other. I wasn't looking for a bear but I found one with the sweetest smile! We had fifteen years before he passed! Wise advice, Chris!

[@MarkAHotop]

I would modify the "don't date closeted guys". I think that should be more of a conversation than a hard no; find out what his comfort level is. There is a bit of difference between a guy that won't acknowledge you in public, and a guy that just doesn't do PDAs. Some may stay closeted their whole life, some just need time to accept who they are. Some are simply more "out" that others. Can you accept his sexuality level? We do evolve, but maybe it's not as fast as some would like. Unfortunately there is still far too much hatred out there.

[@juanrivera3231]

Hard pass lol obviously

[@gerardoalvarado8425]

I wouldnt say pda is being considered staying in the closet. In some cases yeah it would be but people who are introvert just don't like showing PDA as well as being uncomfortable with other couples showing PDAs among people you don't know

[@Muhluri]

I agree. Even if I was dating a woman I wouldn't show pda in open spaces. Maybe in a park or a plane I might hold my partner's hand but I'm not going to show off​@@gerardoalvarado8425

[@Pat7629]

I'm 47 and literally all of my gay friends that I had in my 20s and 30s are now coupled, married and some with kids. Ironically I was the one who had my shit together at a young age way more so than any of my friends. Now I'm literally a multimillionaire - I own a house in PTown, 5 condos in Boston, have a great career, have a great family, workout 6 days/week, like to think I am kind to people. I have literally gone on hundreds if not thousands of dates over the past 20 years and nothing ever amounted to anything. I find most guys just want to hookup which I have zero interest in. It's hard to find guys who actually want to go on a normal date and have an actual conversation. If you are in a long term loving relationship, consider yourself extremely lucky and fortunate. Lonliness is one thing you can't get rid of with a credit card and it is very painful.

[@realdavebob]

I’ve also been pretty financially successful (not nearly as you @Pat7629 but in a Gen Z sort of way haha) but I completely agree. It is incredibly lonely, and on my dark days of solitude I just stare at the ceiling forgetting all of my expensive clothes and tech and makeup. They can never be dates or boyfriends or my future husband, those lovely things are all just recurrent credit card debts. And while I’m very happy for how far I’ve come at 26 it would be far far better just having more gay men in this county to get us up and out of our comfort zones.

[@user-bm5gx1qx6m]

Good luck with your future endeavors. I sound like you on a much poorer level, all the old friends/pals paired up, w me the 'singleton'...Oh, well, there are worse things than being alone. 🤨💙❤️‍🩹

[@WilliamLivergood-pu3zi]

Ant that the truth I feel the same way about it

[@kcr172]

Amen

[@naut_nigel]

Imagine being have to be told sex isn't everything and you need an emotional connection in a relationship 💀💀

[@ratmon19]

Completely normal 😮

[@michaeljohndennis2231]

This is so much similar to employment interviews in the modern age where you really do have sell yourself as a potential partner

[@user-nm6ls1cn1c]

I agree and is really disgusting because the other one takes a " get me" position and you must to fight for it, but I blame social media for idealise people so you must expect for a charming prince

[@WilliamLivergood-pu3zi]

I agree with you that what my life is about

[@Muhluri]

​@@user-nm6ls1cn1ceven in the days of arranged marriages it was basically an interview. I don't think there was ever a time where dating is 100% natural

[@thomassuartana9672]

I was closeted, even uncertain of what i wanted. Going back and forth on feelings. A hookup ended up leading to a date, and he questioned why i appeared 'incognito'. Today, well actually in 12 days, we will be married 10 years. I still prefer not to be out to anyone other than friends and family. Sometimes it does work out.

[@vino86ol1]

I dated a closeted guy for three years. After that He came out to his parents and step by step by others. Five years later he is still my partner thrue all the difficulties that we have gone and now we are planning to get married... What I want to say not All closeted guys want to be like that they just need someone to really trust in a time when everything seems not that structured anymore because of fear

[@flenif2247]

I wish u the best. Im so glad he came out. I never sleep with nor date a closet case. Specifically the "straight" ones. Because they most often go right back to their entitled straight presenting life. Leaving us behind and used. NO!!!!

[@bruhlickd]

Same here. Entering in a relationship with a closet one, but he has shown a lot of willingness to come out. Sometimes I'm scared, I'd like to know more about your relationship, how was it?

[@vino86ol1]

Still together. And part of his family as He is of mine

[@glorifiedgay]

I tried dating a straight guy in my class cuz he told me he has no problem in dating boys and it ended horribly. Thank u for giving the tip in the video. Never ever gonna do that.

[@Muhluri]

Did he actually agree to date you? Lol that's crazy

[@glorifiedgay]

​He actually did! But when i asked hom not to date or look up at girls then he just got angry over me and changed his mind over dating me.......that was kinda really really bad experience for me

[@eucalyptblaze]

Almost all of these are just as applicable to heterosexual men, it’s good common sense advice. I learned most of these lessons myself when I was single.

[@deanwilliam459]

i have so much self love, i dont even want sex with anybody else. i hit the right spot everytime on my own.

[@alistair4909]

My number one tip for people is to knock your limits and take breaks from dating as needed. Men can be exhausting and sometimes it’s good to let yourself breathe for a little bit

[@larrylackey9323]

Great tips. I wish we had an old stanchris to help the older set. Dating has changed ALOT! I hate texting and find it hard to communicate. Not looking into someone else’s eyes or reading body language and reading text is like listening without hearing.

[@brentbraniff]

Good video! Lots of great tips. I'm afraid that I have never been lucky in the dating department. In fact, as I look back on my life, I can't say that I've actually been on a real date. I don't think I've ever been good enough for anyone. Being gay is tough and it seems that you have to have the looks and the financial security to be successful as a gay man. Out of everything you said I really liked the "date outside your type" tip. I hope people hear that. I think that's where I went wrong. My "type" was never interested in me. It's probably too late for someone like me but hopefully other gay guys will take the suggestions in this video to heart and have less regrets in their love lives.

[@tjtroy762]

It's never too late. There is someone for everyone.

[@jays.4254]

WOW! That was fantastic! Great advice and thank you so much for sharing this. Thank you also for the dating web-sites.

[@philstoll1157]

A lot of these options weren't available back in my day! But I do agree with some of your suggestions!🥰👬

[@leonelcarita]

Meeting in person is better than face time. I look soooo much better in person.

[@leonelcarita]

I also planned a date with someone about 3 years in advance and let me tell you, the exitement did not go down at all.

[@marioarnerich]

​@@leonelcarita Are you in Auckland, New Zealand. Can we meet up.

[@tw4943]

😂😂😂😂😂 not by a long shot dear

[@handris99]

I just totally quit online dating. I hit on people in real life. The secret is..... Drumroll......... You need to GO OUT! Scary I know but it's worth it. That little millisecond eye contact you catch of each other is worth more than a 1000 online texts.

[@midashy97213]

Thank you so much Chris for this video. I am still fairly new to this gay dating thing, I came out late like this past June and I am in the 50+ age group. Some things are probably more true for younger guys but I took notes from everything you discussed so wish me luck!

[@chriskuthe4057]

Where are you from

[@chriskuthe4057]

I am in my early 50s as well

[@bateschildress]

I was a late bloomer and found my guy in a pretty small community. Go for it!

[@HabituallyHenry]

Love your videos! ❤Thank you for the content you share! 🙏

[@RobertSK931]

Hi Chris! Robert in Sweden here. Look forward to see your live video🙂👍 I’m happy for you who met such a perfect match as boyfriend. Have a great friday 🙂🇸🇪🇺🇸

[@flute5764]

This was a great video, and the point about closeted men makes me want to come out more so that I can not be as big of an issue towards someone else. It has been something that I have been wanting to do for a long time but haven't found the courage to do so yet.

[@Nebula0919]

Great video Chris, you have come such a long ways with your videos, this one definitely taught me some things! Keep it up and love your nose! LOL

[@JayM714]

Just watched you dating tips and as usual it was funny cute and spot on. Your almost like the gay shaman U R totally helping our younger gay brothers who don’t have someone wise to talk to about these things 💎

[@jeffreysalomone6354]

Outstanding video, Chris. Most of your tips are helpful for any type of dating ( straight, lesbian, etc). Your camera presence continues to grow!

[@daoistsaintmasterofthenasc6220]

yupp I'm straight and it's 1:40 am and curiosity hit me.

[@duane_f]

Thanks for thinking all of this through and coming up with your advice. You could post additions and refinements whenever they occur to you in the future! 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥👍😃

[@brandonwilliamson2106]

Thank you so much for this advice Chris im sure im not the only person who needed to hear that especially from someone that's around your age or younger who is new to the dating scene and this is definitely a video I will save for future reference.

[@dereknewbury163]

Wow Chris, you got so clever and so wise and so human. Your list is bang on. Well done!

[@ewaldbarrink2676]

Looking forward to it ☺

[@ericlittle703]

I was single and out for about 4 years, but am now happily married. Your comments are excellent and I am in full agreement with you.

[@stephenhunt4502]

This is one of the best and very useful videos you have made! You really did put yourself wholeheartedly into this with forethought and thoroughness. Have you ever given any consideration to being a psychologist or socioligist?

[@randyrios8298]

Thanks for the video Chris.😊

[@LenHealsU]

Excellently stated StanChris!

[@jeffwolfe5264]

Chris, you give excellent advice, speaking someone who is officiated many weddings I think what you have given them is a foundation for a relationship. You have a lot of experience your wise so keep doing what you’re doing. Ch Jeff

[@confessorsedai]

I have never had a boyfriend. I’m in my 30’s and while I’ve been with plenty of men hookup wise… I’ve never been in a boyfriend & boyfriend situation. Now that I was diagnosed with b-cell lymphoma stage 4 almost 2 years ago, and because of the harsh treatment, I am now blind in one eye and am more insecure than ever- I can’t work, I’m not ugly but having a blind/lazy eye is all I can think of what they’re looking at. Maybe one day I’ll find Mr. Right, but for now I have to learn be happy with being single and alone… most likely forever 😂

[@Ismah20]

Update? Did you find ur mr right ?

[@confessorsedai]

@@Ismah20 lol no. Haven’t even been on a date or have hooked up with anyone in years. I honestly don’t think it’s in the cards for me. If it happens it happens, but I won’t go looking for it. It’s kind of difficult when, if you’re a top like me, and having to undergo chemo and dialysis, it can make getting an erection extremely difficult. I haven’t had a release, even by my own hand, in probably 4 months. It’s pathetic really 😂

[@confessorsedai]

@@Ismah20 thank you for asking though, lol ♥️

[@patrickdefa]

Thanks Chris nice tips

[@tjtroy762]

I told my husband to watch this video and see just how adorable you are. He agreed you are adorable, but that I shouldn't pay any attention to your list. 😗

[@ifsaica]

Thanks for sharing Chris. Hey,what lighting are you using? Your color looks good. Like you got a nice summer tan? Please share. Be well. Alex from LA

[@ScottRedstone]

You have learned a great deal in a short time. The advice is solid. My current relationship is over 40 yrs.

[@tjtroy762]

Agreed

[@animejr2900]

Great video love🥰

[@alienpromax3511]

Love you Christ💜 you’re such a great content creator! Oh and I love your 2 vampire teeth’s 🐽🦭

[@tylerjamesbint3860]

Thanks Chris you made a really good points I am still single a have been for a long time. And you have really good mindset on this thank you 🌈

[@philstoll1157]

I like some of the answers a lot!

[@robschrader7587]

Great video, Chris. ❤

[@gospelofthomas77thpearl22]

Great information & insight 🫶

[@musicmoviesandmorewithbrian]

I completely agree with you on this!

[@dougslaback3459]

Very sage advice for a young man.

[@kaylheecarroll3186]

Great video 😊

[@marktaylor1801]

What a nice presentation. Bravo !

[@ryanlittle4882]

This is great advice @stanchris, let's get lunch. Not specifically gay advice, man to man advice . With a man or woman.

[@anuarvonen]

Lovely One!!!! Always!!!!

[@jonathanhazel6777]

I've enjoyed the video thanks 😊.

[@GalacticSuperNova5]

That’s something I struggle with accepting who I am and loving myself for who I am or I also sometimes lack love about my physical appearance. But that depends on how confident I feel.

[@wehojm7320]

Well done Chris👍🙏❤️😘❤️

[@101alan1]

4:35 Is this a reupload? Chappy has been shutdown since 2020 lol. Lots of good tips Chris, a few that are a little off, but overall great information... However, I have to STRONGLY disagree with not dating closeted guys. I know it can be difficult for some people to "deal with", but as you said, date outside your comfort zone. If any of my exes or my husband wouldn't have given my a chance when I was closeted then I would never have had built up the confidence and strength to come out to my family and friends and engage in the community.... I was with my husband for over a year and a half before I came out. I've had friends who went through similar situations. Most closeted guys are that way for a reason and are great guys outside of that one hangup. They just need someone to love and support them when their families won't and help them grow comfortable with themselves........❤

[@bobsykes]

All this advice is shcokingly good and informed. 🙏

[@streamsofconsciousness8651]

I tried tip one and dated outside my type. Together for 14 years now, married for 7. Fabulous.

[@drewed1781]

Lol my dad is closeted for the most part but he gets hella dates

[@dixiechatty958]

One thing. While it is certainly better to date men who are out, there are plenty of really nice closeted men who perhaps need some confidence in taking the next step.

[@damikey85]

Nice video 😘

[@bluebloxbang6105]

Yes I love these type of videos

[@rcoppock44]

Hi Chris, I swear the older you get the better looking you are...just an observation from your old friend☺😎

[@robertdj4909]

You are a Pro, my man. 💪

[@davidhorwitz3293]

These tips should apply just as much to male-female dating!

[@moshemordechaivanzuiden]

When one is crazy about the other but it's not mutual, such a relationship will end up not great for either.

[@821Moshii]

3:25 "moments of self doubt" erm.. my whole life is a moment.

[@arkboi2145]

NGL, wise beyond your years. Points I wish all young gay men knew and understood. Thanks for the great video!

[@johnrichardpagan8898]

Where did you gain such wisdom? Wow!

[@RicardoEnriqueDager]

Hi , Chris !

[@Kyle_is_nowhere]

Everything Chris said is correct but the fact Chris had to say these things reminds me of the old saying "common sense isn't common." 🥺 Good job Chris I'm sure you just helped a lot of guys out there that needed to hear these tips. 👍🙂

[@diaet]

Thanks for the tips, Chris - since when do you have this slight scottish accent?

[@ThomasLongJr]

Sounds basic, but good advice that we all need to be reminded of

[@zbigniewzibi8592]

Number 13, yes this is very important 🥺

[@TexFedboi]

Great Video.. I stopped dating about 15 years ago.. I am happy being single... Soon I will be a grumpy old man!!

[@chriswood1210]

Chris my man, we gay men have been dating long before you were a sparkle in your daddy's eye. We had no social media, gay sights with filters to make us better looking then we really are. We actually had to make an effort, like courting and sparking.

[@charlesmento5968]

And look how well that went

[@spaRKLES88604]

Some guys like me rarely leave the house everybody knows I’m gay in my life. But if I dated a closeted guy not much would happen as I don’t feel the need to go out with him I’m happy if we stayed in. dating a closeted guy actually wouldn’t be a big deal to me tbh

[@rubiitoxic]

I'm a bi female in a relationship 😅 thanks anyway

[@joshuabalboa1713]

Who cares

[@rubiitoxic]

@@joshuabalboa1713 8 people, do you feel better now?

[@joshuabalboa1713]

@@rubiitoxic Yup!!!!

[@rubiitoxic]

@@joshuabalboa1713 good for you bud

[@stevenhook85]

These still can apply to you.

[@johnrichardpagan8898]

Not corny at all! It is about the journey. You never know where it might lead.

[@damianbobrowski2129]

Number 12 and 13 are so hard for me to do. I just writing and speaking so much, I can't get ballance.

[@davidhorwitz3293]

These tips are just as applicable to opposite sex dating.

[@bateschildress]

Spot on! Great advice.

[@user-fu9sq9hi4j]

Thanks

[@markremillard]

Hi Chris. How are you doing buddy. You look good. I love you buddy❤😂 from mark remillard👍😎🥰

[@janerainsford8996]

I’ve been watching you for a long time. I love watching you become a man. You’re kind and intelligent. Carry on Chris. Good things will continue to find you. ☯️☮️💟

[@HolgerJakobs]

The fact that you use a certain brand name for the recommended video call, which is only available for a single brand of smartphones, tells a lot.

[@michaelmichalski1818]

So wise for one so young

[@IH8COMERCIALRNB]

I let it come to me rather than searching and it seems to work.

[@Tbjbu2]

thanks

[@andrewgonzales1359]

I planned a date like a month in advance. It’s still going to be exciting. Lmao

[@anthonycontreras3777]

Hey Chris, how are you? 😛😛

[@kunalahuja5073]

I def like the date out of your type. I feel that with all these labels we have in the community, I personally dont know where I fit in within the community. And I think gay men focus too much on the sexual preferences and because of that many end up being single still later in life. Look past the sexual preferences and I guarantee you will find the love of your life

[@renatsxz]

You are awesome

[@frankglorioso1464]

Good advice from a young man.

[@GalacticSuperNova5]

Its hard to explain since its such a wide conversation which can be debated hours on end.

[@chriskuthe4057]

I live in such a small town in the country here in kentucky I cant find people to date I am bi and want to at least date people any ideas

[@DrUrlf]

Also goes the other way around, if you pretend to be someone else, they might have actually liked your true self more than the one you played for them.

[@fitybux4664]

5:40 This one is easy. Just go to Palm Springs, then you can assume everyone is gay, and like 50% of the time, you'll be right. 😀

[@omarangulo2689]

The best part at 0:11

[@user-by7yc1fw5s]

Hi

[@prameshrchannel9282]

Awesome

[@josephsf2452]

You seem to think the only places to find a date is through Apps. How about just trust that the Universe knows what you want and where he is, and go about your business. Meeting on Apps is not always the best advice. Meeting someone in a grocery store or on the street or even in a bar, is sooooo much better than meeting someone online.

[@balldalt]

Yeah because that's realistic in a non-gay city/area. Maybe that works in New York, West Hollywood, San Francisco, etc. But not in most cities across the United States. I would say a gay bar is better.